Is my work pace making coworkers feel bad?

This topic was created in the Workplace & Career forum by ezzy on Friday, July 21, 2023 and has 19 replies.

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@ezzy
5 Years

Has anyone else had this feeling before? Where it seems like others are tired of you being type A.

How best do I manage this as this matters to me

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5 Years

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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3 Years

Posted by ezzy

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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Ok read this now. Are you hanging on this one statement or is there more? Cause who cares what she thinks. 4 hours are totally fine.

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5 Years

Posted by RouxXx

Posted by ezzy

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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Ok read this now. Are you hanging on this one statement or is there more? Cause who cares what she thinks. 4 hours are totally fine.

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Just this, i try not to get too involved with others but i appreciate a genial work environment

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3 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by ezzy

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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Not sure what field you work in, your position within the company, or how urgent your question was, but 4 hours is not very much time. It’s not unusual to be in a meeting for a few hours at a time. Some people are working on other things and don’t have time to check email multiple times throughout the day. It can sometimes take me several days to get back to someone, if it’s a low priority or I’m unsure of its priority. Everyone has things they are working on in different departments, and not everyone sees you as the most important priority. In fact, no on probably does if you’re not at the very top of the food chain, which I am guessing is not the case based on the email receivers response. To me, I would find that irksome, as a fellow type A, at work. Again, this is without having any context though.

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now that i'm pregnant, i get away with doing almost next to nothing at work. but then again, i think i'm a type B so i've always done my best to exert as little effort as possible.

only people i found i can't stand at work are the ones who has been there in a shorter span than me and memorizes everyone's name, title/position and takes offense at not being greeted every single time. i'd be exhausted if i were her.

it's not her fault that i find that trait of hers annoying tho coz i'm sure it wins her a lot of friends.

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Posted by ezzy

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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4 hours is too short of a time to send a reminder email unless it's really really urgent. If you keep doing that I would be pissed too. I would think you have too much time in your hands. Sometimes you get a lot of mails and need to attend to a lot of other urgent things or are in a meeting so you can't expect to get a reply immediately.

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Do you lack trust that your coworkers will drop the ball

Cuz that is the message you may be sending

But maybe your just the anxious type that needs things now

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5 Years

in hindsight i think i was being pushy. that was the last task for the day on my desk and i needed information from her to close out an enquiry from a client; whereas she's in the finance and has many other things to attend to.

I appreciate all opinions and responses as I've been able to put the situation in perspective.

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15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by ezzy

Posted by nanochip
You’re going to have to elaborate on “others are tired of you being type A”

That can mean a lot of things

Type A could mean competitive, impatient, high achiever and the list goes on

What brought about this is i needed information from someone in a different department and i send a reminder mail after the initial one about 4 hours apart.

she told me today ive been doing that a lot so it makes me wonder her state of mind concerning how I work.

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So funny almost everyone asked what I asked.

In your first email, did you give a due date?

Also, most people do not know how to write an email. I would take an online course if your company is email heavy.

That could be the issue. Not personality as you’re claiming.

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Posted by virgoOPPP
now that i'm pregnant, i get away with doing almost next to nothing at work. but then again, i think i'm a type B so i've always done my best to exert as little effort as possible.

only people i found i can't stand at work are the ones who has been there in a shorter span than me and memorizes everyone's name, title/position and takes offense at not being greeted every single time. i'd be exhausted if i were her.

it's not her fault that i find that trait of hers annoying tho coz i'm sure it wins her a lot of friends.

I’m glad you admitted that in the first sentence.

Because parents and soon to be parents be pretending like they’re not given special treatment

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3 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by ezzy
in hindsight i think i was being pushy. that was the last task for the day on my desk and i needed information from her to close out an enquiry from a client; whereas she's in the finance and has many other things to attend to.

I appreciate all opinions and responses as I've been able to put the situation in perspective.

They're in finance, so what your role?

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7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by DMV

Posted by virgoOPPP
now that i'm pregnant, i get away with doing almost next to nothing at work. but then again, i think i'm a type B so i've always done my best to exert as little effort as possible.

only people i found i can't stand at work are the ones who has been there in a shorter span than me and memorizes everyone's name, title/position and takes offense at not being greeted every single time. i'd be exhausted if i were her.

it's not her fault that i find that trait of hers annoying tho coz i'm sure it wins her a lot of friends.

I’m glad you admitted that in the first sentence.

Because parents and soon to be parents be pretending like they’re not given special treatment

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happens to other people too?

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3 Years

Posted by ezzy
Has anyone else had this feeling before? Where it seems like others are tired of you being type A.

How best do I manage this as this matters to me

Lol yes.

Or it's a friendly competition between us,which I like. I like those who work!

There's always one busy bee and others with zero work ethic. Let them admire you.

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5 Years

Posted by Walk_on_by

Posted by ezzy
in hindsight i think i was being pushy. that was the last task for the day on my desk and i needed information from her to close out an enquiry from a client; whereas she's in the finance and has many other things to attend to.

I appreciate all opinions and responses as I've been able to put the situation in perspective.

They're in finance, so what your role?

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