Question marks abt Cap guy 28?

Hi all!

So he is Cap sun, Taurus moon and Sagg Venus (its not 100% because I dont know his time of birth),

I am Virgo Sun, Aries moon and Cancer venus.

Is it normal for caps to want to spend the entire day with you at the very first meeting. Like hanging out in the parc, going to his house to eat dinner , listen to music, drink wine, let me shave his hair off, inviting me to stay the night and telling me that next time I can park free in front of his house after 7pm?

I had fun and we got along great, but the moment he invited me to sleep over I got weirded out. The afternoon he said to me he wants to get to know someone really well before starting a love relationship. He told me that with his last ex who he has been with for 4 years he always felt like he didn't know her well.

Obviously I am looking for the real thing, but I am soon to graduate so not in the mood for rushing, which I thought cappys don't want either?

Also the next day he texted me asking if i got home okay and i said yes, he replied great.

I haven't heard from him since, no im not worrying because of that. But I did tell him I don't like texting back and forth, I dont like texting at all it tires me.

So will he now be scared to text and think twice umh 8 times before shooting a text? Hahaha..

We made really vague plans about me bleaching his hair, he wants some blonde strands and I told him I can do babylights. I guess im waiting for him to ask me to hang out.

Should I initiate contact? Should I wait? its bin only 3 days though. And I wouldn't even know what to text. Also should I just leave this situation because he asked me to spend the night? He obviously wanted something, I just dont know what.

My Cap spent the entire day with me at the second meeting 😉

Now I miss him so much, I can't sleep 😛

just initiate text already

he sounds sweet 😍

Yes when a cap likes you, we want to be around you a lot and still

Will disappear for a few days to get on with our lives without any contact. Caps are ponderous creatures, you will have to initiate contact often to keep things going.

Updates?

Posted by bad_at_usernames

Updates?

He asked me to hang out a few days after we met, so we did last thursday.

But, when I arrived at his place he got on his computer and looked for motorcycle parts, after that he said he needed to call someone. He had a phone convo with a friend for 20 minutes about nothing important......

Then he also continuously talked down on everything I mentioned I liked and to put the cherry on top he repeatedly asked me to spend the night up to the point where I asked him why I should. Is is bcs you want sex? He said no I'm not ready for that.

He called me out saying I was old enough to spend the night and text my mom that I won't sleep at home. He said you're a big girl.......

I had to repeatedly ask him to get up (we were cuddling because he tickled me into it) and to bring me home, I'm sure I asked him 20 times.

He wouldn't so I left to catch the last nightbus, he went after me all dramatic saying come we're gonna go back to mine and I will bring you to the station.

I feel he disrespects me and is very selfish, don't think its because of his sign though lol. Just a shit person with shit manners and shit personality.

Just tell him your feelings and reservations. If he's a good guy, he'll respect them. Soinds like he's excited to find someone he can relate to too.

Posted by HearttofTopazz

“I haven't heard from him since”

“But I did tell him I don't like texting back and forth, I dont like texting at all it tires me.”

“Should I initiate contact? Should I wait? its bin only 3 days though”



U trippin

lol I was not tripping, I am just not one to initiate before I know someone will accept it. But I suggest you keep your opinions to yourself as this was weeks ago and your comment is irrelevant

Posted by RollergirlOrc

Just tell him your feelings and reservations. If he's a good guy, he'll respect them. Soinds like he's excited to find someone he can relate to too.

Relate in what way, everything I like or stand for he talks down, makes vague plans and then doesn't let me know if it will go through or not. Expecting me to understand that by him not letting me know if he can make it I automatically understand that it's not gonna happen errrr

Posted by 1996Virgo21

Posted by RollergirlOrc

Just tell him your feelings and reservations. If he's a good guy, he'll respect them. Soinds like he's excited to find someone he can relate to too.

Relate in what way, everything I like or stand for he talks down, makes vague plans and then doesn't let me know if it will go through or not. Expecting me to understand that by him not letting me know if he can make it I automatically understand that it's not gonna happen errrr

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Sorry I just read your update. Sounds like your intuition was right about him in every way.

But then again, you are interpreting his signals as malicious as per your Cancer venus. Once you are suspicious of him and think he's out to get you, it might be all that you're seeing. :/

Posted by Arielle83

He’s casual and you make meaning out of everything and have expectations, yet you aren’t clear on what those are.

You felt weird about staying over, but did.

You ask him why you should stay over, but you are prompting him to say “sex”, but he doesn’t so you stay and get passive aggressive. Then run for the nightbus.

You want him to act more like a bf when it’s clear he’s just feeling you out to see if you’re compatible.

Your boundaries aren’t clear and you’re mix messaging and playing “show up”, but all coy like “why you want me to come over ? Hmmm?”

Cap is just going about his day with the casual company of you, but then you tell us he isn’t treating you like the centre of his world because you think he’s phone convo isn’t important. It’s not to you. Red flag right there. You want to push aside for you.

All of these were him seeing your gf experience, and you seem like you want all this attention and praise without even working for it by investing in the time it takes to get there.

He doesn’t need to agree on everything you like. If you want someone to like everything you like then just date yourself.

You saying you have to go home, like 20 times, but staying looks like you don’t really want to go.

Almost like you want him to jump you for sex, so you can have that night and then be mad he isn’t calling you all hot for more.

Basically you aren’t clear and saying you don’t “text back in forth”, means he’s saying it’s all in your court.

You made those rules.

I didn't stayed over, but yea I asked him why should I? I just wanted to get to know him not his body.

So I wanted to go to catch the bus and he would not get up after asking him multiple times to bring me to the busstop (which is about 6 minutes drive). Instead he just said on and on about how I should just stay over instead and how I'm a big girl and can text my mom, it made me feel really uncomfortable so I then said right, I'm gonna go now so I can make it on time to catch the bus.

Definitely is/was not my intention to get all his attention on me and for him to make me feel 'special'. As I said in my first post, I am graduating and have to sort some things out. I just wanted to get to know him, just to see if we would have things in common. I just don't think we do.

Mean first time we met we talked about food and I told him I eat vegetarian he asked about it and that next day we met he swears he doesn't remember anything? Uh I don't know I feel like it's already obvious we're not compatible not even for friends

Posted by RollergirlOrc

But then again, you are interpreting his signals as malicious as per your Cancer venus. Once you are suspicious of him and think he's out to get you, it might be all that you're seeing. :/

Yea that's true, once I have a weird vibe I can't let go of that. But I am confident that in this case my feelings and thoughts were right