I appreciate the help everyone. He doesn't have a whole lot of people in his life that he trusts so I'm glad he can express himself with me. It makes me wonder if some of this has been building because he didnt feel like he could open up to anyone. We haven't really been seeing each other long but I've made it to the inner circle quickly. I'm going to continue to listen and be the shoulder and encourage the exercise.
I agree he needs to talk to someone but he has his reasons and I wont be able to change his mind on that. He did say he was going to exercise more and thought about some yoga. I'm going to suggest some herbal supplements. I've been helping with the personal issues as much as possible but what is going on can only be resolved with time currently. The issues have made him feel like he has no control over his own life at the moment and I think that's making things worse for him.
I've been seeing a cap (unofficially)for about 8 months. During this time he has been having stressful personal issues that have been affecting him. He has broke down into tears 3 times in front of me in the past few days. I was shocked at the level of emotion as I've never seen that from him. I tried my best to be comforting and let him know it was ok to express himself. Honestly it broke my heart to see his pain. I spoke to him out of concern that he may be depressed and he agreed. He does not want to speak to a professional or take meds. Is there anything more I can do other than just be there and be supportive?
I agree with everyone who is speaking about boundaries. I should never have gotten into this situation. But here I am, that being said I'm not upset or angry at him. I'm just trying to read his back and forth behavior.
Oh I'm definitely not trying to pressure him into anything. I've let him know I'm interested in more, but only after he's asked. I just wasn't understanding why he was almost pressuring me with these conversations, then going vague and acting weird.