Are some cancers emotionally manipulative?

I thought they were all nice and nurturing, but apparently not I learned the hard way

Yeah

Cancer women are known to overexert themselves in relationships, then hold their generosity over your head. Theyre known to revenge-cheat, a lot like Pisces women but more selfish. They treat other women poorly and are territorial. They love playas. Cancer men are often violent toward their partners, like Aqua but more knee-jerk and they don't maintain lifelong friendships. Both the type to threaten suicide when dumped.

lol

is water wet?

you’re an aries so you’re gonna have a hard time understanding them. cancer and aries square each another.

the ones i know are nurturing if they wanna be but they also expect to be nurtured in return and will resort to some sulking if they feel their energy isn’t reciprocated.

they’ll bring up the past like they get paid to lol they’ll be like, “i did xyz for you, i sacrificed xyz for you, why am i the only one who feels xyz?”

so you better be ready to reciprocate or be prepared to deal with some passive aggressive sulking/crab hiding under a rock.

also you gotta be nostalgic alongside them too lol they love being nostalgic 😂 lol you gotta nod along and validate their sentimental memories. don’t kill the vibe by chiming in with some facts and saying shit like, “i don’t think that’s how it went though.” 😂

source: i have cancer friends (a few males) and a libra sun/cancer moon friend who also oddly exhibits this behavior.

cancer energy isn’t forthcoming when hurt but they’ll drop signs and your ass better take notice or they’ll be mad 😂

my slow aries ass always notices too late and i have paid dearly for it 😂

to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.


water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.


but anyways,


all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.


i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

Lol I have a cancer sun and Aries rising, my Aries energy enjoys detaching asap if it's something tedious

Posted by bricklemark
I thought they were all nice and nurturing, but apparently not I learned the hard way

Judy remember (,indirect). It can and is absolutely annoying at times. Especially when you need direct communication.

This can look like manipulation because the level they operate on. Not always aware of the effect they have or what they are doing at times. When they are secure and trust you, they are total sweet hearts. Cancer sun and mercury, subtexts a lot.

I've seen the sweetest most loving cancer woman turn to some shit that is absolutely manipulation out of survival.

Posted by serenidad
you’re an aries so you’re gonna have a hard time understanding them. cancer and aries square each another.


the ones i know are nurturing if they wanna be but they also expect to be nurtured in return and will resort to some sulking if they feel their energy isn’t reciprocated.


they’ll bring up the past like they get paid to lol they’ll be like, “i did xyz for you, i sacrificed xyz for you, why am i the only one who feels xyz?”


so you better be ready to reciprocate or be prepared to deal with some passive aggressive sulking/crab hiding under a rock.


also you gotta be nostalgic alongside them too lol they love being nostalgic 😂 lol you gotta nod along and validate their sentimental memories. don’t kill the vibe by chiming in with some facts and saying shit like, “i don’t think that’s how it went though.” 😂


source: i have cancer friends (a few males) and a libra sun/cancer moon friend who also oddly exhibits this behavior.


cancer energy isn’t forthcoming when hurt but they’ll drop signs and your ass better take notice or they’ll be mad 😂


my slow aries ass always notices too late and i have paid dearly for it 😂

Her son is exactly on my rising though, but it doesn’t sit well with my Capricorn moon probably

Plus, I have her Jupiter trine my moon, which should be good, but her Jupiter is in Taurus and she seems quite glutinous and mean, she has a big strange body, and she eats a lot! This doesn’t sit well with my disciplined Capricorn moon.

She’s also a Scorpio moon and rising… maybe that’s why she was mean to me

Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.


water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.


but anyways,


all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.


i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.

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she seems quite glutinous and mean, she has a big strange body, and she eats a lot! This doesn’t sit well with my disciplined Capricorn moon.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Cancers eat their feelings a lot, and/or do a lot of cooking/baking. Cancer=moon=round

Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.


water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.


but anyways,


all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.


i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

thats so aries energy, but you will be action orientated and talk with no filter-offending everyone around u guys absolutely ruthless (my experience with aries) then say aw but i didnt mean it that way, u are all fun ppl to be around tho.

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Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

Lol I have a cancer sun and Aries rising, my Aries energy enjoys detaching asap if it's something tedious

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“if something is tedious”

😂 that part.

aries energy is often bored when something is too complicated or tedious cuz aries energy hates feeling stagnant lol

my virgo sun/aries moon best friend doesn’t remember anything he uttered 5 minutes ago and if you ask him questions like “what are you gonna do tomorrow?” he’ll say “i don’t know anything about tomorrow. ask me tomorrow.” cuz his mood changes constantly lol 😂 true definition of a guy who lives in the moment. yet he still manages to be pretty accomplished/successful in life cuz he goes after what he wants fearlessly 😅👍lol

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but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

Even with Taurus Mercury and Cancer Rising, I struggle in this. 😅 I do sometimes pickup subtle signs...but I don't know what it means unless you tell me! 😅

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i’m pretty sure i’ve walked away from many conversations not knowing i was insulted too lmaoo 😂 that’s how much i just don’t catch subtle nuances and shade 😂 ppl be like “read between the lines. 🤡” naw, how about you just save both of our time and tell me?? 😂

the way i see it is, if something is that important to you (important enough that you’re sulking about it), come say it to me directly 😅 like, what are you scared of? i’m not gonna be mad. in fact, i’ll respect you for being upfront and honest with me. how tf am i gonna improve something if you don’t tell me?

Posted by serenidad
you’re an aries so you’re gonna have a hard time understanding them. cancer and aries square each another.


the ones i know are nurturing if they wanna be but they also expect to be nurtured in return and will resort to some sulking if they feel their energy isn’t reciprocated.


they’ll bring up the past like they get paid to lol they’ll be like, “i did xyz for you, i sacrificed xyz for you, why am i the only one who feels xyz?”


so you better be ready to reciprocate or be prepared to deal with some passive aggressive sulking/crab hiding under a rock.


also you gotta be nostalgic alongside them too lol they love being nostalgic 😂 lol you gotta nod along and validate their sentimental memories. don’t kill the vibe by chiming in with some facts and saying shit like, “i don’t think that’s how it went though.” 😂


source: i have cancer friends (a few males) and a libra sun/cancer moon friend who also oddly exhibits this behavior.


cancer energy isn’t forthcoming when hurt but they’ll drop signs and your ass better take notice or they’ll be mad 😂


my slow aries ass always notices too late and i have paid dearly for it 😂

She didn’t sulk at all she abused me mentally she subtly let me know she hated me…😓

Maybe it’s because of her Scorpio moon and rising

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Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.

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i feel like your cancer rising and jupiter might help you relate to her cancer sun quite a bit.

your capricorn moon might help ground her probably. you can be like her steady anchor. her water energy may soften you in a good way too. i feel like cap moons might benefit from having someone that’s water dominant and emotionally expressive around them. cuz cap moons tend to repress emotions.

scorpio energy in her chart might make her needlessly paranoid and suspicious so just show her that you’re an open book and have nothing to hide (within reason). everyone is entitled to some privacy. after all, being paranoid is her problem, not yours. if you’re not doing anything to provoke her or anyone, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells either.

but yeah like i said, cancers are big on reciprocity.

for example, if a cancer slaved in the kitchen for you, you better do the same or they’re gonna hit you with a “you know what, i bust my ass for you all the time and this is what i get!” one seemingly peaceful afternoon on a random tuesday 😂

not speaking from any personal experience. just observations of cancers in my life and the things they might possibly say/do 😂 they’re actually sweet people when they’re happy/secure.

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Posted by serenidad
you’re an aries so you’re gonna have a hard time understanding them. cancer and aries square each another.

the ones i know are nurturing if they wanna be but they also expect to be nurtured in return and will resort to some sulking if they feel their energy isn’t reciprocated.

they’ll bring up the past like they get paid to lol they’ll be like, “i did xyz for you, i sacrificed xyz for you, why am i the only one who feels xyz?”

so you better be ready to reciprocate or be prepared to deal with some passive aggressive sulking/crab hiding under a rock.

also you gotta be nostalgic alongside them too lol they love being nostalgic 😂 lol you gotta nod along and validate their sentimental memories. don’t kill the vibe by chiming in with some facts and saying shit like, “i don’t think that’s how it went though.” 😂

source: i have cancer friends (a few males) and a libra sun/cancer moon friend who also oddly exhibits this behavior.

cancer energy isn’t forthcoming when hurt but they’ll drop signs and your ass better take notice or they’ll be mad 😂

my slow aries ass always notices too late and i have paid dearly for it 😂

She didn’t sulk at all she abused me mentally she subtly let me know she hated me…😓

Maybe it’s because of her Scorpio moon and rising

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why do you like her ? 😅

like i said before, being insecure and paranoid is her problem, not yours.

if you’re not doing anything to provoke this woman, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells for her either, right?

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Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

thats so aries energy, but you will be action orientated and talk with no filter-offending everyone around u guys absolutely ruthless (my experience with aries) then say aw but i didnt mean it that way, u are all fun ppl to be around tho.

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yeah that’s something i’m definitely working on.

i have to tell myself, “not every thought that pops into your head needs to be verbalized/expressed even if it’s true.”

i feel like since i have thick skin and i don’t mind being reprimanded/told off if i’m actually wrong about something, i just automatically expect other people to have thick skin too, but it’s not fair of me to expect that.

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Posted by serenidad
to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.
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i feel like your cancer rising and jupiter might help you relate to her cancer sun quite a bit.

your capricorn moon might help ground her probably. you can be like her steady anchor. her water energy may soften you in a good way too. i feel like cap moons might benefit from having someone that’s water dominant and emotionally expressive around them. cuz cap moons tend to repress emotions.


scorpio energy in her chart might make her needlessly paranoid and suspicious so just show her that you’re an open book and have nothing to hide (within reason). everyone is entitled to some privacy. after all, being paranoid is her problem, not yours. if you’re not doing anything to provoke her or anyone, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells either.


but yeah like i said, cancers are big on reciprocity.

for example, if a cancer slaved in the kitchen for you, you better do the same or they’re gonna hit you with a “you know what, i bust my ass for you all the time and this is what i get!” one seemingly peaceful afternoon on a random tuesday 😂


not speaking from any personal experience. just observations of cancers in my life and the things they might possibly say/do 😂 they’re actually sweet people when they’re happy/secure.

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It’s over… I’m not mentally stimulating enough for her… she ate me alive. I have very little hope of finding someone 😓

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to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.
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i feel like your cancer rising and jupiter might help you relate to her cancer sun quite a bit.
your capricorn moon might help ground her probably. you can be like her steady anchor. her water energy may soften you in a good way too. i feel like cap moons might benefit from having someone that’s water dominant and emotionally expressive around them. cuz cap moons tend to repress emotions.

scorpio energy in her chart might make her needlessly paranoid and suspicious so just show her that you’re an open book and have nothing to hide (within reason). everyone is entitled to some privacy. after all, being paranoid is her problem, not yours. if you’re not doing anything to provoke her or anyone, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells either.

but yeah like i said, cancers are big on reciprocity.
for example, if a cancer slaved in the kitchen for you, you better do the same or they’re gonna hit you with a “you know what, i bust my ass for you all the time and this is what i get!” one seemingly peaceful afternoon on a random tuesday 😂

not speaking from any personal experience. just observations of cancers in my life and the things they might possibly say/do 😂 they’re actually sweet people when they’re happy/secure.

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It’s over… I’m not mentally stimulating enough for her… she ate me alive. I have very little hope of finding someone 😓

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not to sound super corny and cliche but try to look at rejection as redirection to something better.

like they say, when something ends and we have to start over again, we’re not starting from scratch this time. we’re starting from experience. so you’re not back to square one. you have more knowledge, more awareness, more experience, smarter ways to navigate rough waters, deeper understanding of human nature, better problem solving skills this time around.

life is too precious to spend it depressed. cuz as long as we’re alive and breathing, there’s always hope.

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to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.
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i feel like your cancer rising and jupiter might help you relate to her cancer sun quite a bit.
your capricorn moon might help ground her probably. you can be like her steady anchor. her water energy may soften you in a good way too. i feel like cap moons might benefit from having someone that’s water dominant and emotionally expressive around them. cuz cap moons tend to repress emotions.

scorpio energy in her chart might make her needlessly paranoid and suspicious so just show her that you’re an open book and have nothing to hide (within reason). everyone is entitled to some privacy. after all, being paranoid is her problem, not yours. if you’re not doing anything to provoke her or anyone, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells either.

but yeah like i said, cancers are big on reciprocity.
for example, if a cancer slaved in the kitchen for you, you better do the same or they’re gonna hit you with a “you know what, i bust my ass for you all the time and this is what i get!” one seemingly peaceful afternoon on a random tuesday 😂

not speaking from any personal experience. just observations of cancers in my life and the things they might possibly say/do 😂 they’re actually sweet people when they’re happy/secure.

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It’s over… I’m not mentally stimulating enough for her… she ate me alive. I have very little hope of finding someone 😓

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There are over 8 billion people on the planet, of course you’ll meet someone

I predict by Christmas you’ll be coupled up

😃😍

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to an aries, something that happened 5 minutes ago is already “in the past” so we’re like “why are you bringing up the past?” 😅 but to a cancer, something that happened 5 months/5 years ago is still somewhat fresh in their memory.

water energies think people should be sensitive to them. even if they themselves aren’t always sensitive to other people. ironically.

but anyways,

all things said, cancer can teach aries to be more sensitive, mindful, and aries can teach cancer to be more assertive, and not so stuck in the past.

i always reciprocate people’s efforts and deeds towards me so i don’t have too much trouble regarding that aspect, but i can’t pick up on signs that aren’t obvious so that’s where i’ve gotten into trouble lol 😅i don’t understand the mind of people who drop signs. it’s like “just say it, damn” 😅

I’m a cancer rising and Jupiter though, and she has Scorpio moon and rising.
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i feel like your cancer rising and jupiter might help you relate to her cancer sun quite a bit.
your capricorn moon might help ground her probably. you can be like her steady anchor. her water energy may soften you in a good way too. i feel like cap moons might benefit from having someone that’s water dominant and emotionally expressive around them. cuz cap moons tend to repress emotions.

scorpio energy in her chart might make her needlessly paranoid and suspicious so just show her that you’re an open book and have nothing to hide (within reason). everyone is entitled to some privacy. after all, being paranoid is her problem, not yours. if you’re not doing anything to provoke her or anyone, you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells either.

but yeah like i said, cancers are big on reciprocity.
for example, if a cancer slaved in the kitchen for you, you better do the same or they’re gonna hit you with a “you know what, i bust my ass for you all the time and this is what i get!” one seemingly peaceful afternoon on a random tuesday 😂

not speaking from any personal experience. just observations of cancers in my life and the things they might possibly say/do 😂 they’re actually sweet people when they’re happy/secure.
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It’s over… I’m not mentally stimulating enough for her… she ate me alive. I have very little hope of finding someone 😓
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There are over 8 billion people on the planet, of course you’ll meet someone

I predict by Christmas you’ll be coupled up

😃😍

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There are a few dozen women I can meet over the next 10 years

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It's the Scorpio rising. It's mean AF in a superficial way. Probably a defense mechanism, feels threatened by your disciplined energy and realizes they can't control. Scorpio risings have the most violent reactions when they can't control.

My ex was a Scorpio rising and she was the sweetest for a very long time, near the end, she became difficult though

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Posted by Bumboklaat
It's the Scorpio rising. It's mean AF in a superficial way. Probably a defense mechanism, feels threatened by your disciplined energy and realizes they can't control. Scorpio risings have the most violent reactions when they can't control.

My ex was a Scorpio rising and she was the sweetest for a very long time, near the end, she became difficult though

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Léo Sun?

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Posted by Bumboklaat
It's the Scorpio rising. It's mean AF in a superficial way. Probably a defense mechanism, feels threatened by your disciplined energy and realizes they can't control. Scorpio risings have the most violent reactions when they can't control.

My ex was a Scorpio rising and she was the sweetest for a very long time, near the end, she became difficult though
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Léo Sun?

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Yes

They are very intelligent and very good at understanding emotions and reading the room.

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I thought they were all nice and nurturing, but apparently not I learned the hard way

Judy remember (,indirect). It can and is absolutely annoying at times. Especially when you need direct communication.
This can look like manipulation because the level they operate on. Not always aware of the effect they have or what they are doing at times. When they are secure and trust you, they are total sweet hearts. Cancer sun and mercury, subtexts a lot.

I've seen the sweetest most loving cancer woman turn to some shit that is absolutely manipulation out of survival.
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You can be both direct and well rounded in your approach with words. There's not really a whole lot of context where indirectness is warranted, particularly if you are also trying to avoid being misunderstood.

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indirectness in general wastes time. it needlessly prolongs conflict. leads to confusion, misunderstandings and a lack of progress towards finding a solution.

but tact is still very important cuz if you’re too direct to a fragile sensitive person, their minds are gonna be too busy focusing on the fact that they got “attacked” rather than focusing on fixing problems and finding solutions. so it’s actually counter-productive to be too direct to a fragile sensitive person. 😅 lol

also, i’ve noticed that just because someone appears confident and cocky on the outside doesn’t mean they’re not the fragile type lol 😅

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indirectness in general wastes time. it needlessly prolongs conflict. leads to confusion, misunderstandings and a lack of progress towards finding a solution.

but tact is still very important cuz if you’re too direct to a fragile sensitive person, their minds are gonna be too busy focusing on the fact that they got “attacked” rather than focusing on fixing problems and finding solutions. so it’s actually counter-productive to be too direct to a fragile sensitive person. 😅 lol

also, i’ve noticed that just because someone appears confident and cocky on the outside doesn’t mean they’re not the fragile type lol 😅

It's not always about finding a solution either. Sometimes, the other person just wants someone to listen and just wants to be validated in their feelings. Sometimes, you have to let people figure things out on their own. In either cases, no matter how you word your directness, your point and your intentions likely aren't going to be received and interpreted correctly.

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true lol

when someone tells me an issue/a problem, my mind’s automatically like,

“must help brainstorm a solution!🤔”

typical gemini moon thought process 😅

i feel bad when people seem stuck on something they can possibly get unstuck from.

but sometimes people just want a listening ear.

Yes they are. We even got one cancer member right here among us that's like that in the title. Sometimes I don't feel comfortable posting on this site because of emotionally manipulative people. They shouldn't even be allowed internet possession and have no interactions with people. They don't know the difference between a joke and being serious cancer women take so much to heart that's why I can't be with them they take everything so serious they never let loose and put some fun in their lives. They are very much capable of being criminals and murderers. If nobody else on here don't say and admit to all of this (maybe because the rest of yall scade to do so) I sure as hell will and just did.