@newtothis
6 Years
Talking with my Cancer ex- any hope of reconciliation?
Keep in mind that Mercury is in retrograde. I think if you do end up together, it may not last.
Wait until it goes direct (October 1st) and then see if you gain some clarity.
Proceed by going no contact.
Proceed by going no contact.
Why?
Proceed by going no contact.
Why?
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So you can get over him. He's told you there's no getting back together.
Proceed by going no contact.
Why?
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A few times I have asked to meet and he will say "I don't see us going back" or "it is too hard for me to see an ex."
Staying in contact is not going to change his mind about being with you again or even meeting up in person. But continuing the texting allows him to not miss you. Not really.
Your still giving him attention and leaving the door open. Shut it. Firmly. Then see if the whole ‘you don’t know what you got till it’s gone’ plays out for him. Probably not cause dude dumped you the first go around without even a decent explanation. But hey, there’s a small possibility.
What I want to know is why your so attached to a relationship that only lasted a few months? Is it really him you miss or the fantasy of him and what could’ve been.
Proceed by going no contact.
Why?
A few times I have asked to meet and he will say "I don't see us going back" or "it is too hard for me to see an ex."
Staying in contact is not going to change his mind about being with you again or even meeting up in person. But continuing the texting allows him to not miss you. Not really.
Your still giving him attention and leaving the door open. Shut it. Firmly. Then see if the whole ‘you don’t know what you got till it’s gone’ plays out for him. Probably not cause dude dumped you the first go around without even a decent explanation. But hey, there’s a small possibility.
What I want to know is why your so attached to a relationship that only lasted a few months? Is it really him you miss or the fantasy of him and what could’ve been.
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We have similar interests that not many have at our age (I'm 26; he's 30). No one ever treated me the way he did either.
Aries and Cancer are square to each other.
I thought you were in love with someone new. What happened to that?
I thought you were in love with someone new. What happened to that?
No, I thought it was developing into love, but it was just a friendship.
Aries and Cancer are square to each other.
Can you explain more in depth please?
Proceed by going no contact.
Why?
A few times I have asked to meet and he will say "I don't see us going back" or "it is too hard for me to see an ex."
Staying in contact is not going to change his mind about being with you again or even meeting up in person. But continuing the texting allows him to not miss you. Not really.
Your still giving him attention and leaving the door open. Shut it. Firmly. Then see if the whole ‘you don’t know what you got till it’s gone’ plays out for him. Probably not cause dude dumped you the first go around without even a decent explanation. But hey, there’s a small possibility.
What I want to know is why your so attached to a relationship that only lasted a few months? Is it really him you miss or the fantasy of him and what could’ve been.
We have similar interests that not many have at our age (I'm 26; he's 30). No one ever treated me the way he did either.
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Treated you as disposable without a solid explanation as to why? I certainly hope not!
I feel like I need to get out the spray bottle.
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My Cancer ex broke up with me in March. I'm an Aries We dated for five months. He said he felt there was an unspoken feeling about us he didn't know how to explain, but he said I did nothing wrong.
I have missed everything about him ever since. I text him occasionally here and there to check up on him. He always replies and asks if I am okay. A few times I have asked to meet and he will say "I don't see us going back" or "it is too hard for me to see an ex." I am willing to be patient with him. I have dated others, but it is nothing like how we were.
However, last night we started texting. We discussed Jasmine Flower (he's Chinese), work, books, and traded gossip on mutual friends. I think I made a mistake though. I old him one of his favorite authors has a new book coming out and that I can order it for him. He said "I can order it for myself but thanks."
Logically, I know it is over. But my heart still has a little bit of hope. How should I proceed?