Before I lay me down to sleep, I pray for a man, who's not a creep, One who's handsome, smart and strong One who loves to listen long, One who thinks before he speaks, One who'll call, not wait for weeks. I pray he's gainfully employed, When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed. Pulls out my chair and opens my door, Massages my back and begs to do more. Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind, Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?" I pray that this man will love me to no end, And always be my very best friend. Amen.
Branh0913 why don't you change your record. It's getting rather boring. And the post preceding your was a joke in case it went over your head so maybe you need to learn how to take a joke. Plus women love guys with a sense of humour 😉
My tip for you Branh0913 is that your virgo nit picker's mentality shines though really strongly in your instance and you should try to tone it down cos it's such a turn off. I really think that if you had this under check a bit more you might start loosening up and attract the ladies that are actually in your league and thus nurture a nice feeling towards the opposite sex.
I believe my shit stinks but it doesn't mean I want anybody else shoving theirs in my face. It's about respect.
It's about saying and doing things so that they are not complete contradictions of eachother. It's about caring enough about the other person you happen to be being intimate with at the time, and not play with their feelings and tell them things that you don't mean. And this can all be done while being fully aware that your shit stinks as much as the next person.
They are two very necessary if paradoxical concepts to possess: to know that your shit stinks and still believe you deserve the very best for yourself. And this applies to men and women alike. Heck it applies the entire animal kingdom!
Well some of us can think that we don't consider status when evaluating a potential mate/date/partner but I think this is a factor whather we consciosuly acknowledge it. Another factor that causes problems sometimes if physical attraction. We can be strongly attracted to men and woman who are not really good for us.
"But because of their physical appearance, they can do anything they want, because there are enough impressionable men out there to give them what they want."
....and just as the counter argument....the statement holds if you replace men for women in that sentence.
But yeah I think we regular women should feel comfortable the way we are and not feel we have to strive to be something artificial and actually non existant, ie the perfect woman. But media and peer pressure conspire to make women feel that they must look a certain way, have a certain figure...blah blah blah...to be attractive and acceptable to men.
I'm not sure who said this but I thought it was good: "Women will not be truly equal to men until we are not afraid to be seen with a beer gut hanging out, our hair grey and balding and still think we're God's gift to men"
"Physical attraction isn't enough for me. If I see a woman who is physically appealing, I am just think sex. Whatever personality she has is quite irrelevant. And if by some chance we do estalish a sexual relationship, the terms have been satisfied. Not, at any point do I have to indulge her personality, because that isn't my motive to begin with."
You just touched on something that I have an issue with. Do you mean that if you see a nice piece of ass that you are sexually attracted to, you won't think twice about screwing but won't consider her a serious contender for your affections? Will you not think it wrong or hesitate in telling her things you think will get into her pants faster? Maybe tell her you like/love her very much perhaps? Will you also not care if you upset her after you've finished screwing with her? A hot or not so hot piece of ass has a brain and a heart too.
I personally would rate being rejecting after sharing my body with a man as being MILES more upsetting than being rejected on account of my hair style , however ridiculous I think her estimation of me was.
Screwing a woman even though you have no respect for her and yet tell her thinsg you think will make her spead faster is NOT ON. EVER. It doesn't matter if you've been rejected 20 times previously by women because of stupid petty things like your shoes or your hair style or your choice of sweater.
All of what you just described above about the type of women who will disregard a men on apparently petty and insignificant details....I mean would you even want to make it to the second date with this type of gal? Maybe you should be grateful that you don't pass her highly criticial standards before having to endure more princess pettiness?
These are a type of woman; there are of course many other types, ones who don't give a fig about what shoes you wear or what social status you hold. They of course have other defects, as do every person, but just so as you know there are women who are not like what you described. Maybe you need to start looking in other types of places or even open your eyes wider.
Okay, excuse me for jumping in this, however I'd like to add something.
You can complain all you want about other people, how they act, how they treat others, etc. But in the end, the only one that you can directly change is yourself.
So, at least for me anyway, I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't rant and rave about other women or men, how they act or what they do. Instead, I would look at who I am and what it is about me that enables or allows the behavior that others exhibit that I dislike.
If I can't tolerate the other person's behavior, I'd simply leave and tell them that we're incompatible. I wouldn't settle for changing someone else, or changing myself. But instead looking for someone who I feel complements me and who I can complement back.
There will always be men and women who will take advantage of others, have unreasonable standards and many more issues. But you always have a choice to be with these people or not.
BTW: Your poem, MellowDee, had an interesting rhythm...although I found it a bit "me me me" oriented personally.
"Okay, excuse me for jumping in this, however I'd like to add something."
By all means jump in. The more the merrier!
"So, at least for me anyway, I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't rant and rave about other women or men, how they act or what they do."
Just for clarification purposes, I wasn't ranting nor was I raving. I merely posted a humourous "prayer". After that I was merely challenging some snide remarks made by Mr Branh0913. Anyway it was more a philosophical discussion about the differences in perception that exists throughout male-female relationships.
"If I can't tolerate the other person's behavior, I'd simply leave and tell them that we're incompatible."
Of course this is the most sensible and obvious thing to do, if you're a robot. The thing is that it's not that easy, to put it mildly, to do when you are actually involved with someone else. It's due to something called "feelings". Are you familiar with this emotion? That is quite often the variable that interfers with logic dominating man-woman relationships.
"There will always be men and women who will take advantage of others, have unreasonable standards and many more issues. But you always have a choice to be with these people or not. "
I think most people are fully aware of this. Unless they have a personality disorder in which case it's pretty obvious why there are problems in the relationship.
"BTW: Your poem, MellowDee, had an interesting rhythm...although I found it a bit "me me me" oriented personally."
Really is that so? Oh well I should let you in on the fact that A) I can't claim credit for it's composition as it was emailed to me and B) it was meant to taken from a humorous perspective. Perhaps if you re-read it with this in mind, the rhythm might seem lighter and more frivolous if you will.
"Just for clarification purposes, I wasn't ranting nor was I raving. I merely posted a humourous "prayer". After that I was merely challenging some snide remarks made by Mr Branh0913. Anyway it was more a philosophical discussion about the differences in perception that exists throughout male-female relationships."
That comment was a statement in general, I did not intend any personal judgement towards anyone here on what is right or wrong. Simply how I feel personally from my perspective. It was not meant to you, if it was I would have stated such. I was talking singularly about my own perceptions.
"Of course this is the most sensible and obvious thing to do, if you're a robot. The thing is that it's not that easy, to put it mildly, to do when you are actually involved with someone else. It's due to something called "feelings". Are you familiar with this emotion? That is quite often the variable that interfers with logic dominating man-woman relationships."
Again, this wasn't directed towards you personally or anyone here personally, simply my method for how I approach relationships. However, I have found that thinking logically has given me much better results than just letting feelings rip. However this may just be me, we are all different.
Perhaps this is just the Aquarius in me talking, who knows. Perhaps the fact I'm dating an Aquarius as well is also a factor in the success of this approach. Emotion, logic, I suppose each relationship would require different amounts of both.
"Really is that so? Oh well I should let you in on the fact that A) I can't claim credit for it's composition as it was emailed to me and B) it was meant to taken from a humorous perspective. Perhaps if you re-read it with this in mind, the rhythm might seem lighter and more frivolous if you will."
I apologize if my comment has offended you or if my approach is distasteful to your sensibilities.
Capgirl..""although I found it a bit "me me me" oriented personally." Prayers often are...
I love this comment.. I need to post this prayer on the libra board.. the guys there are so different than the ones here.. they would eat this up.. much more sensitive to a womans needs and wants.. they aim to please over there.. this is where aqua guys come up short 😉 I do love my aqua men too.. but after reading this post all the way through, I see why there are 3000 threads and most of them are asking.."Why doesn't my aqua guy have feelings" or "Why is my aqua guy so hard to figure out", ya'll aren't all that hard to figure out.. just have an edge to you and that is hard to deal with at times.. Sometimes a woman just want to be.. no matter how she feels or what she says, she wants to be accepted without justifying everything to a man. Everyone wants to be loved and respected for who they are and their uniqueness, especially us aqua women.. This prayer embodied the qualities us women look for in the "perfect man".. it's funny, beautiful, easy to understand, and honest..
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Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks.
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?"
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
Amen.