Interesting observation

I was having a discussion with my Scorpio about something. I made the comment "I require allot of attention in relationships so if you don't want to deal with that or can't handle it, you are free to run away now, and I will understand."

He has no issues with my need for attention in relationships but the comment I made bothered him. He asked me what I meant by that and I said plainly that if he was afraid of me being to needy or clingy that he could leave now and I would understand.

Now me (the Aquarius) understands that some people cannot handle a woman who has some insecurity issues and requires a little added attention so I am giving him the easy out now if that is something that will bother him.

He (the Scorpio) sees this as me not caring about our relationship and that I am telling him nonchalantly that I want him to leave.

Thankfully me and the Scorpio have already developed a good communication system so we can easily talk this miscommunication out.

What is interesting is the drastic differences in our points of view...

Aqua's, do you understand where I am coming from in my way of thinking? How would you have taken what I said?

I have noticed that I am misunderstood quite a bit in what I say.

Mamma Roz "I have noticed that I am misunderstood quite a bit in what I say"

Yep!! This is me all day every day. This is why I am so introverted. No matter what I say I get either blank stares because people don't know what I am talking about.. or I get complete confusion and misunderstandings.. which ultimately leads to an argument or silent distance until things can be discussed without emotions.

Communication is very hard for us.. this is why we need a man who is patient and a good communicator, so he can take his time to understand where we are coming from.. once he get's us.. I have found it is like riding a bike, he will (for the most part) always get us, or will at least knows how to get to the core of what we are trying to relay by asking the right questions..

I have found this to be most common in confident, extroverted or/and very outgoing guys. Most introverted guys don't even know how to communicate to get the thing they need in a relationship, so they definitely have a hard time, focusing enough to get to the core of others issues... It is kind of like, if you do not know yourself, you can't truly know anyone else...

Two people with major communciation issues make for a hard relationship...

"Communication is very hard for us.."

This pretty much goes against everything I've heard about air signs.

ahhh...the air/water sign issues. gotta love them!!!

I suspect communication emotion is hard for all signs, with the exception of fire signs, of course.😛

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an aqua would understand what you were saying and would have no problem with it...but a water sign would take what you said personally b/c that is just how we think...

i think aquas (both men and women) need to be with someone who is extremely patient and extremely persistant...

"It is kind of like, if you do not know yourself, you can't truly know anyone else..."

-ABSOLUTELY...this is the absolute truth!!! and if this is the case, one is not ready for a relationship...

Mamma Roz I get what you mean when you told your scorpio bf that you could understand if he wanted to walk away if he thinks you're too clingy. I have thought this myself but I'm not sure if I've ever actually said it directly to the guys in my past relationships. But I attribute this sentiment to being a protection barrier. It's like my code for saying "leave me now instead of really hurting me later on when I have grown to fall deeply in love with you". I don't think it's really a healthy thing to say and it doesn't surprise me that your scorpio was taken aback by it. You feel like you're giving him a free bail out card but he takes offence at how glibly you have estimated the feelings he has already invested in you.

I think that this kind of insecurity has caused me problems and that even if I feel unsure of whether my guy really mutually reciprocates depth of feelings that I have for him, I don't wanna reveal to him or more importantly acknowledge out loud to myself the fact that I regard myself and my feelings and my entitlement to be loved and nurtured as equal and just as valid to others.

sorry the last sentence should read "...I don't wanna reveal to him or more importantly acknowledge out loud to myself the fact that I do not regard myself and my feelings and my entitlement to be loved and nurtured as equal and just as valid to others.

moonchild8. "i think aquas (both men and women) need to be with someone who is extremely patient and extremely persistant..."

This is true if you want a good relationship with us.. and usually this is only until we trust and love you and you understand our communication patterns. Then you can ease up, bc we love our independence and if you are paying that much attention to us all the time, we will quickly bore of you. But in the beginning or until both parties are comfortable with eachother completely... Yes, extreme patience and persistance is needed but at a steady gentle pace...

hmmm...i find that i still have to be patient at times with my aqua and we have been together for a while now...so, i don't know if that ever goes away...

MellowDee - very good analysis of the situation. Pretty much dead on!!

jackdoniel..."Well from my side, if I am committing to someone, leaving is not an option, if we face some problems we will work through it but to end because of it no way, from a Scorpio point of view once commited obstacles are to be overcome and doesn't mean the end and I would expect the same from my partner"

WOW! I am impressed. You must be quite a bit older? Mamma_Roz, Yama, MellowDee... don't we wish ALL men could view the world like this!! So when we women act crazy.. he ain't going no where. (Not crazy like burn down your house crazy.. just word jargon misunderstandings)

the scorpio/aqua relationship is always so weird.


they will never get aquas i think. every scorpio ive ever known though is the opposite of the one explained in the first post. it is THEY who require too much attention! i just had one call me five times in less than two hours because i was AT WORK. i didnt call him back though, i am seriously dating someone.

but seriously...scorps=craziness.

naaahhh...you're wrong....you just have to let aquas have their 'space cadet'/aloof moments....


--uh huh, but how many of you scorps know that?? in my experience with scorpio guys, ive always wanted to strangle them after about two days!!

Plus,aquas do need the attention,you're just too stubborn/head strong to admit it....

--fine, ill admit it, but who doesnt need attention? lol
i know what you guys mean though. sure, i had a pisces friend call me an attention whore once. its true. i love attention. i get a little upset if my boyfriend hasnt at least texted me in a day. but honestly, whats wrong with wanting a little attention 😉

men need to learn telepathy. as long as men dont know it, women will never tell them what they are thinking.


proven fact 😉

but even if you men do learn it, we'll change our minds and say we were thinking something else anyway im sure...