Alone and Lonely

Being alone is different from being lonely. I know there's a very thin margin between those two. And being alone is not always being lonely. I don't know why do people tend to connect them like they are twins. They might be. But it's still different. (My mind is all messed up. I don't know how I would defend my point but I hope you could see my stand. Because you're all aquarians like me so I guess you would understand me.)

I posted something like this on Facebook and eventually I deleted it 'coz I think I have the wrong target audience. And later after I deleted it. My friend posted this on my wall, "context clues. hihi." It seems that he's pointing out those two words are synonymous. And he's saying that it's ok because I will learn on the comment section. But really, I don't know why but I'm really seeing it as two different words like I'm standing on high grounds from afar and watching it doing stuffs differently.

I think they are very different words that often misunderstood.

By the way, I'm a new aquarian member here. A guy. I might be wrong and want to be corrected. I just want to share my view about this one. Please let me here your voices. Thanks.

Ohh. On the part that I wrote, —It seems that he's pointing out those two words are synonymous.?? I meant to say that what he wants to tell me to read between the lines of what my crush posted on Facebook. It's because my crush posted this line, —Love when you're READY. Not when you're ALONE.?? My friend thought that the post I posted about alone and lonely is my reply to her. It's not! It's for everyone. —Coz I keep on seeing posts on Facebook about being alone. It's like they??re telling me they are lonely.

And again, I want to hear your opinions. Thanks.

@metoo

1st answer. im not lonely when im alone. all the thoughts in my mind can make me happy. just by observing my environment. and just by indulging myself to my mind.

2nd answer. not really.

thanks for the reply. very much appreciated. 🙂

Not an Aquarius, but yes have been in situation when I experienced both things-sometimes alternately and sometimes simultaneously, so I sort of understood your question:
Being alone and feeling lonely , though not entirely mutually exclusive, are definitely two different things. Sometimes, when we are feeling self-contained than being alone feels good, it heightens the sensibilities and help us to understand and perceive things in their right context.

But I wont' lie, being alone always sometimes lead to feeling lonely and that is an other problem than.

This topic gets to be very broad and goes into a lot of philospohical ideas and would tie into a lot of thoughts on existentialism. I feel Loneliness has a sense of emptiness and void with oneself than it has to do with the lack of personal relationships. We see this in the popular kids who have the looks, the friends, the social life, yet have a huge feeling of lonesomeness. Some express how others do not understand them and not one person gets them. In reality, i see it as its THEY who dont get themselves. Cultural expectations also make us more lonely, because we are trying to fulfill an unrealistic dream of perfect love. If everyone else seems to have fine loving relationships, we may feel that we have been left out of a wonderful experience. If we are not coupled with someone, we may feel inadequate. Many people, including myself, attempt to find solutions by connecting more with others, going out, not being ALONE. Then there are times when we realize that we can cut the tension between the idea state of love and separateness by realizing that the "ideal" is unrealistic.

Being Alone reminds me of a quote by alan watts

"When a man has learned to let his mind alone so that it functions in the integrated and spontaneous way that is natural to it, he begins to show the special kind of "virtue" or "power" called te. This is not virtue in the current sense of moral rectitude but in the older sense of effectiveness, as when one speaks of the healing virtues of a plant"

that being alone is more of a luxury for ourselves, to reboot after a long day of work, a argument with a boss, friend, spouse, being alone is transcending loneliness in a way where we are seeking a higher truth. So we also can be alone and LONELY as two separate entities. being ALONE doesn't lead into loneliness because as the aforementioned, loneliness is a state of being rather a effect.

@batik005

I think you are right. I usually began feeling lonely when i'm surrounded by people i have no connection to because i don't feel my own company. When i'm by myself i can reflect about myself and examine my own ideas.

And sometimes I think that there are people who are lonely yet they are not alone. And there are people who are not lonely yet they are alone. Experiencing that at some point of their lives. That's what I thought. Am I right or wrong? Thanks guys for the answers. I kinda not understand some of it 'coz I'm not really an english person. I mean that's not my native tongue. Don't worry I kinda get your point, I think hihihi. But anyway, thanks 🙂

One difference is that being alone is objective (a fact, when it happens) and being lonely is subjective, a feeling (i.e. there is no difference between "feeling lonely" and "being lonely" - it is the same thing). There is often a supposition that to be alone is to be lonely, but of course it is not necessarily true - for example for one might say "a lonely fisherman", really meaning "a lone fisherman", presumably because "lonely" is a more powerful (poetic) word to use. To me loneliness is really about feeling that one is out of step with the people around one, that one is unappreciated, taken for granted and/or misunderstood. As I have said before on dxpnet, one astrologer (think it might have been Linda Goodman) once said that both Virgos and Aquarians "feel like aliens from an early age", and "feeling alienated" is associated with feeling lonely. As a Virgo with Moon in Aquarius I can relate to this all too well.