Emotions, Intense What am I missing?

People that know me well, say I am not emotional. What does that mean— I cry, I get angry, I get sad, and I am moody. So what are they saying about me? Also when you read horoscope boards, the other zodiac signs refer to Aquarius women as not emotionally intense - What does this mean? I really want to be able to see myself the way others see me. I have emotions, I feel. Do I go crazy and act like a Pisces or Cancer, no. But I feel. Can you clue me into what they really mean?

Mostly people like others to display some sort of weakness, and Shenandoah an emotionally mature person refuses to take the bait and stays in control of his /her feelings, pellets sometimes resent this strength .
Proudly assert your emotional maturity by staying in control of your emotional responses.

Hey aloofnfunny

How's it going with your aries man?

Don't worry so much about what others think. There is a reason we all have specific traits.

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Sorry, I was on my phone which seems to have a will of its own.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Don't worry so much about what others think. There is a reason we all have specific traits.

I am working on not caring about what others think. I have a hard time with that.

Posted by red_aries
Hey aloofnfunny

How's it going with your aries man?

No Aries man. I flirted a little and got no response, I am not chasing him. If he was interested I am guessing he would have made it known. So no luck with a Cancer and no luck with an Aries. Eh'

Posted by ShahBano
Mostly people like others to display some sort of weakness, and Shenandoah an emotionally mature person refuses to take the bait and stays in control of his /her feelings, pellets sometimes resent this strength .
Proudly assert your emotional maturity by staying in control of your emotional responses.

I concur!

Posted by aloofnfunny
People that know me well, say I am not emotional. What does that mean— I cry, I get angry, I get sad, and I am moody. So what are they saying about me? Also when you read horoscope boards, the other zodiac signs refer to Aquarius women as not emotionally intense - What does this mean? I really want to be able to see myself the way others see me. I have emotions, I feel. Do I go crazy and act like a Pisces or Cancer, no. But I feel. Can you clue me into what they really mean?

I'm Taurus with Moon in Pisces. I think about my Aqua mother as a cold person. She did not tell me that she loved me every day, she did not cuddle with me. When I 'm around my boyfriend, nephews or even my dog I feel such a warm joyful feeling inside. It's impossible not to hug, kiss them tell them something nice, tell them that I love them. etc. My Aqua mother never was like this.

I have an Aqua mother but I never contact her at all now. She was very cold too. I never got love from her. My father was Picses and very abusive and my mother never protected me or cuddled me or anything. I don't think she knows me or loves me. I'm older now and I honestly have no love for her. It's sad. I don't know what it's like to have a loving mother.

Damn Aquas.

Just kidding. I know Aquas are not that extreme. But man .... they do NOT like to show emotions. But I know they have them. And because they are so self aware, I bet they are pretty intense within.

Do you talk about what you feel, or do you just feel it? If you don't verbalize it, your friends may not understand. They could also be saying they don't think you're empathetic? I don't know, just my two cents.

Wow, you're quite emotional. Calm down. Just breathe slowly and do abit of meditation 🙂

it may be because evolved aquas can take emotion out of a situation and deal with it logically. it comes off as unfeeling, which is not the case at all. take pride in being more evolved. the rest will catch up....or not.

i dont read a lot that aquas are lacking emotions but rather "aloof" -distant or "apathetic"-lacking interesting in x.y.z Most people tend to confuse those 2 words with lack of compassion and/or feelings. But really, everyone will feel and can feel the same things at one point or another. I think the other signs really misconstrue things to their own liking. Emotions come in different shapes and Degrees. Scorpios feel things to the max.. while aquas do to. BUT we express them through non=emotional ways . Light flirting, non verbal cues, actions (things that others may readily miss). etc etc. The difference between air signs and the rest of the water signs is that we CHOOSE not to let our emotions be the source of our guidance ALL the time. Emotions..Feeling too much sometimes IS just too much. Seems like being a air sign is the way to go! we are so balanced. not too much and not too little.🙂 we rock!

I do agree that we're aloof, sometimes I think I may be so aloof that I'm off the radar. I notice that usually people don't know how I feel until I blow up, which is after I've spent a lot of time holding it in and trying to subtly let my feelings be known. Then it all hits me and I explode! It's quite a mess...then I go back to my logic and think about all the reasons I shouldn't be feeling or responding like this, which allows me to hold back again. When it comes to other people's emotions, I am concerned about others, but if I dont know you well I dont know how to react in a helpful manner, which makes me uncomfortable. I would rather say little in support than make a big to do about something I'm not going through with someone I dont relate to.

Posted by Joon8Gem
I have an Aqua mother but I never contact her at all now. She was very cold too. I never got love from her. My father was Picses and very abusive and my mother never protected me or cuddled me or anything. I don't think she knows me or loves me. I'm older now and I honestly have no love for her. It's sad. I don't know what it's like to have a loving mother.

Damn Aquas.

Just kidding. I know Aquas are not that extreme. But man .... they do NOT like to show emotions. But I know they have them. And because they are so self aware, I bet they are pretty intense within.

+1 I have an aqua mom, and she was the same way. Cold.

I have an aqua moon. I can be detached, but once I care about someone, I'm all in.

Posted by aiyanatb

I do agree that we're aloof, sometimes I think I may be so aloof that I'm off the radar. I notice that usually people don't know how I feel until I blow up, which is after I've spent a lot of time holding it in and trying to subtly let my feelings be known. Then it all hits me and I explode! It's quite a mess...then I go back to my logic and think about all the reasons I shouldn't be feeling or responding like this, which allows me to hold back again. When it comes to other people's emotions, I am concerned about others, but if I dont know you well I dont know how to react in a helpful manner, which makes me uncomfortable. I would rather say little in support than make a big to do about something I'm not going through with someone I dont relate to.

This is a good point. I will say that I have met some Aquas who are so allergic to other people's emotions that even the slightest mention makes them clam up. That is not the problem of the person being "emotional," IMO. Emotions are a part of every day life and interaction, and it's unrealistic to expect otherwise. Doesn't mean you have to involve yourself intimately in every single emotional problem you come across, but a basic inability to acknowledge other people's emotions is a problem.
I prefer to get an emotional issue out in the open, deal with it and move on. My Aqua friend tends to blow that up into OMG, it's a big emotional crisis and I can't deal with it. Ironically by proclaiming to not want an emotional situation, she turns it into a much bigger one than it would have been if she had dealt with it head-on.

I think I'm actually a little overemotional for an aqua. Although that may have to do more with my personal experiences than my sign. But its weird in that the people I care about, I give them an emotional pass and don't expect too much from them. But when they open themselves up to me, I pour my heart out. Probably has something to do with my Venus and Mars in Pisces lol. When I'm all in, I'm all in and im loyal about it too. So I will hang on for dear life, while still not bridling my tongue or attitude lol. I am working on that though 🙂

I have been told I am emotionless. I don't get it. I cry, laugh, get mad. etc. just like everyone else. However, I do not get offended by little things so I am not easily angered. That said, my boyfriend says that it comes across like I don't care. Well, there is truth to that. I honestly don't see little things as being a big deal, "don't sweat the small stuff." He gets angry over petty things and I just don't see the point in being crabby all the time, makes a person miserable. BUT he also says I don't show affection very often and that I do things for people and I take care of the family but it is like I am a robot, without feeling, which makes me come across as cold. My take on this is...I am busy taking care of responsibilities and sorry if you didn't get that hug and kiss and baby I adore you right away. I'm a little busy making you a plate of food and cleaning the kitchen.....and by the time I sit down I am exhausted! BTW - I am a mother of two kids and they each can invoke strong emotions out of me....and boy do they test my patience. That said, I do "NEED" time out for myself daily. I prefer to sit and read. Of course, if you ask my family, they say I always have a book in my hand when I am not cooking and cleaning (you mean when I am not doing things for YOU). So...emotionless? NO I have strong emotions but it doesn't mean that I use them as an excuse to treat others poorly. I prefer staying quiet until I can get a grasp on the situation and then go from there. Sorry...some of us are more mature in the emotion area ;+)

I dont think that Aquas are unemotional -- aloof yes.
I think that they are VERY emotional probably more than any other sign the difference is they don't show it
It's bottled all up inside of them and occasionally they have breakdowns where it all comes out.

Most ppl like to see emotions shown on the outside so if u dont do that then they see u as being cold. I agree that aquas feel too but the problem is that most cant show it on the outside. And the other thing is that, we (atleast i do) tend to turn emotions into thought and vice versa rather than just feel. I know i cant do emotions without thinking and figuring them out 1st. Sometimes i know i feel something, be it hurt etc but im too busy thinking about it to actually allow myself to really feel it- some may view that lack of instant emotional reaction as being cold. I got a scorpio moon so i got a lot of thinking to do with all those emotions swirling around, lol.