Aqua bf and Valentines day

man that sucks!

my bf has no money and he just made some tv dinners put it on a plate. lit up some used candle in his crappy small apt. made me some origami flower ..

you have every right to feel disappointed. Romance after all is a extension of your love and care for someone. If he doesn't give that without being told its a reflection of his emotions for you...possibly..not all the time. But he could've at least emailed you a card. or wrote a poem.

I totally understand where you coming from.

LOGICally....the way you delivered it was not the best to express your needs while maintaining a non-confrontational hostile and judgmental environment. I don't know the rest of your relationship with him...but if you overall feel that he is neglecting you then you should let him know...

regardless of sign...when communicating with men always start with something positive input the negative and end it with a positive note. Have you ever seen your cable or television go static? thats how men are when you say "we need to talk"

"baby i'm so glad i've got to have you as a bf for 3 years! we've been through so much together. Through thick and thin."

wait for him to respond..he might say "yea we did " or something

you then continue "However, sometimes i would like to see more desire and willingness to express your love and care for me at times. Especially on valentines day. I know it may to some people be another dumb day. but i've never got to experience it. Just for the sake of experimentation, i would've liked to share it with you...the man that i love. I guess i got hurt by the lack of effort. I don't care about the money you know? i just get so frustrated because i view romance as a extension of one's love and care. And since it lacks in this relationship...i start to question how strong we really are together. I start to think the love is not mutual but more one sided. Of course, your amazing most of the time...i just would appreciate to be "appreciated" at times...its just necessary in relationships to express those things..even if it seems unimportant"

You have the right to feel and be disappointed...

but not to judge him for not living your way and how you are. That is awful! aquarians really live and let live. Try not to stop what your doing. That is punishing him. That is cruel. If you lvoe and care for him why stop it? does it matter? your only doing that to prove a point. but the only point you'll be proving is that you only do t

It's not so much the sun sign I think. I've been with my Aqua fiance for more than 2 years now. He's also a student like yours and is pretty much a saver . However, yesterday he gave me his drawing in a sushi restaurant (my most favourite food!) and then took a stroll with me to the pier and proposed to me again with a proper and nicer ring! After that we went to the movie. I'm sure the trip could have had him "cry" for weeks because of the spending but he said what makes me happy is what makes him happy. I think maybe it's time you don't have to talk or apologize to your boyfriend anymore. In fact, ignore him if you can. He obviously is trying to guilt trip you after so much talks you two have been doing. He doesn't have to do things for Valentine day but if he treated you like butter on any normal days, I'm not sure even one special Valentine time can clear it all. By the way, you paid for 75% of all dates!? Geez!

OMG romance does not require money so that is a complete excuse.

Like some of the others have said...when one of my boyfriend wanted to give me flowers, he drew pictures of them. Words cannot describe how that made me feel.

I think it's weird that you said he used to be romantic, but he's not now. You kinda said that, didn't you? If that's the case I would try and address that cause it seems like something has changed.

I don't blame you for being upset. It doesn't sound like you feel special to him and that sucks. That's why I think it's worth a conversation to find out what's going on.

i dunno. he sounds like a regular dude being a regular dude to me.

v-day isn't for guys; it's for chicks and certain companies that make guaranteed bank off of them.

my bf is a cancer (a double cancer at that). cancers are known to be ultra mushy, romantic, affectionate types. sure, my bf is very loving and affectionate but he's really not all that romantic. he doesn't verbally express himself very much and he's not the one to bring flowers and candy... or celebrate v-day. you know what he gave me? he sent me a picture text of a silly Jonas Brother V-day card he found at a friend's house while I was at work. And. That. Was. It. We came home, ate some left-overs, crawled into bed (naked!), watched some instant netflix, and passed out. It was awesome 😛

I wouldn't make this a bigger issue than it is, especially if you feel fulfilled for the most part. None of us are perfect and there will be certain personality traits that we find in our lovers that may rub us the wrong way. We either accept them or we don't.

I can understand about paying for meals too but he has expressed to you his lack of monetary funds so it shouldn't be a big surprise (especially if you're the current bread winner). You guys have been together almost 3 years. I'm sure he feels comfortable allowing you to pay for things while he's trying to build a better life for himself and, most likely, you as well. He's probably thinking that once he's done with school, and gets into his career, he'll get you back tenfold for being supportive and understanding of his position. That's how I would be anyway.

You know him better than I do though and maybe he doesn't think that way. That's just what it looks like from afar. I would express my feelings to him. I would let him know that I understand but I'm a hopeless romantic.