Aqua FWB to relationship?

Ive recently got out of an engagement so definately not looking for anything serious with anybody, so my friend introduced me to her boyfriends mate (Aqua), also just out of a serious relationship and we soon became "friends with benefits"

Was just wondering are aquas the type to get attatched? From all my experiences with Aquas i have found them to be really intense, and slightly obsessive.

We get on great but we both agreed at the start that this would just be sex, but I am always being bombarded with text messages from him which I have to text back immediately to him unless i get a serious of "did you get my text" and "?" and these are if i havent text back after 5 minutes!

I really like the guy, but i like the way things are and dont want it to get ruined by feelings getting in the way. Even though if i was looking for a relationship this guy would be perfect! (apart from the obsessive texting!)

Well, Aqua or not, there's always the chance that 1 or 2 people having the fling (sexually) will eventually establish feelings. This is just the territory that comes with FWB & why it's heavily something lots of people are starting to NOT encourage.

I can't speak for all Aquas, but I generally am not one for FWB. I'd rather find an actual partner that I can release all of my sexual energies onto; I'd get more inner fulfillment out of finding a good match/companion for me FIRST, thus the intense sexual experiences with that partner would just the ICING on the cake vs. the sex being the actual cake & what makes our friendship/relationship what it is.

Generally Aquas aren't ones for FWB & it's b/c Aquas crave long-term affairs & stability. They aren't looking for Mr./Mrs "Next week." or Mr./Mrs. "Right now." They want someone/something that will actually last & go far beyond other's expectations. So when an Aqua is okay with being just FWB, it's either b/c 1. They too aren't set/focused on finding a relationship OR 2. They actually LIKE the person they are sleeping with. This Aqua guy might like you a little bit more than you know and/or than he's willing to tell you. Just like with some women, he might hope that if the sex continues, you two will eventually get to know AND discover more aspects of eachother's personalities that if admired, perhaps might lead to something serious.

Aquas can be possessive, BUT usually they're this way when they're actually feeling someone. And hey, sometimes a person's intention is NOT to enter into anything serious, but then again we can't really control when the "right" person may come at the WRONG time. Some of the best relationships deprive from 2 people who thought they weren't even ready for love again when they 1st met. Maybe this guy is just possessive/obsessive in general, thus he's like this with EVERY woman. If I were you, I'd try to find out to see if this guy may like you outside of just someone he has sexual flings with. It's not unusual for a man to go "all out" when he's having sex, as it's kind of expected that each person will give their all/show their skills, regardless of how much/lack of care they have for someone. Some guys just like to perform to their best ability for ego/pride reasons.

@Val: Thanx! You always have my back 🙂

I agree with what Val said. Sometimes a relationship/friendship might start off as just a sexual fling, & this doesn't even necessarily mean that it will ALWAYS & only be that. BUT, if 2 people can never move past the FWB stage, it's probably b/c 1 or both people don't see the need in "pretending" to put more effort into something they don't even see as long term.

So many people claim that Aquas are commitment phobes & this is why some people think Aquas are okay with keeping a certain level of detachment through means of only allowing things to stay as FWB. BUT, as with anything in life, when a man/woman starts admiring someone more than friendship level, they usually can't hold back. It's very rare that an Aqua will actually/officially really like/love someone, & yet they be okay/content with things still staying only platonic. When a man wants something/someone, they'll do what they've gotta do to make sure they have it.

Go into every situation with each person you know assuming that people 1. Do what they really want to do and/OR 2. DON'T do what they really DON'T want to do. Thus if a person decides to take things further past FWB it's b/c they really WANTED to. And if a person chooses not to, it's not b/c they're too scared to man/woman-up about their feelings. No it's usually b/c they literally just don't want to. And THIS is the trick men have been playing on women since the beginning of time. If a man sees a woman as further potential, he will NOT be okay with just exploring the sexual side of her. He will put in the time/energy/emotions in order to make his admiration clear regardless of his sign and/or what kind of personality he has.

Aquas, when they're into you, won't spend the majority of their time investing in a non-secure/non-stable friendship/fling. And if they do, it's b/c they've ALREADY made the decision that you are not what they consider long-term potential. And we all know that when Aquas make a decision/pre-judgement, that decision is usually FINAL

Thanks for replies! glad to hear all your responses, I hate hurting people so glad it seems me and him are on the same wavelength. Its just weird for me because I am usually the obsessive texter (when i like someone have to try really hard not to text them all the time!) so to me its strange to have it from a guy I have no commitment with, but then again you Aqua's never fail to suprise me! lol

Don't worry about him wanting more. I've seen this type of Aquas. Very charming. They've FWBs everywhere they go and the women feel very good about themselves , thinking that he wants something more from me. Otherwise, why he sometimes talks about many kids , what sort of wedding, how amazing girlfriend I would be and seems jealous when I see other men, etc? Yet, they're all just part of the FWB pack these Aqua men offer them. They want to make a woman feel good and special so the sex can be much more better , thus creating the "fantasy" for them to believe in. It's really nice of these Aqua men but they don't calculate the risk of the trail of heart-broken women they leave...Besides, no human can disconnect with someone forever if they both keep meeting, having sex and living in a "fantasy" , these Aqua men consequently take up the role they create before to please the woman as part of their identity because they're Fixed sign for a reason. Therefore, it could confuse them about whether they feel for the woman. Then begin the cruel process of disappearance and reappearance for years till they can sort out what sort of feeling it is. In the end, if the role they take up before doesn't fit into their normal lives anymore, they will change at the drop of hat ,leaving the women pondering with an obsessive question "why , why, I thought he had feeling for me. We has a history together. Why he dropped me all of sudden??" . That's just how it is. Cruel or mercy depends on how the women look at. Remember this is just one type of Aqua, they don't represent for the whole Aqua population. Most of them have some Pisces traits influence.

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Posted by ScorpioDreamer
Oh boy, reading this makes me have doubts. I was having a little bit of hope that my Aqua actually wanted more with me and actually liked me, but now I'm not so sure. I'm so confused. Would an Aqua want to maintain a FWB for two years or longer? Blah I don't even trust my instincts anymore. He seems so genuine, but heck he could just be doing that to bed me. Jeeze, I need to think on this some more.

Naw, no comparison, SD, to be honest. Libra girl above just met the aqua guy. And is immediately jumping into the FWB because she just got out of a serious relationship (though she secretly wants him)

in your case, you have a longer history, so there's very different variations. And he came back to you.

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LOL i do not "secretly want him" I do not want anybody on that level I just want to make sure that he's not the kind of guy who says one thing and means another

@Libra: Well honey, unfortunately, when you're dealing with FWB situations, the rules usually change. B/c there is no promise of commitment, it's common to see 1 or both people eventually becoming confused. Some men will go all out to please/charm a woman they already know up front they can't see themselves with. And then there are the types of men who will literally give only the MINIMUM to women they don't feel strongly for.

FWB situations get so confusing b/c sometimes 1 or both people can begin to do/say things to/for the other person that they would normally only do to/for someone they were actually in a relationship with. This is why it's important that if you only want someone for sex, you approach/treat the situation as such. But no, some of these guys nowadays will treat you to lunch, cuddle with you, love you down, & say all the sweet things in your ear like they would to their official woman/girlfriend. And once this happens, the woman is always left to be confused b/c she's only going to naturally assume that if a man wanted more, he would take it to the next level instead of just being content in only having sexual relations with her.

If you're not ready for anything more serious, make sure that neither you OR him are doing/saying things that go outside of the boundaries for a sexual relationship. And if you feel that those lines are starting to be crossed, put a stop to it 1. So that you can't ever be accused of "leading him on" & 2. So that you can keep your feelings in check (sex can bring out imaginery emotions). For example, if he always wants to take you out, put a stop to it & tell him that you'd prefer things just stay sexual. 2 people can put a "label/title" on something all they want BUT their actions speak way louder than that title.

& if when you attempt to put a stop to certain things he's saying/doing, you'll know the answers to your own questions by how he responds. If he seems hurt and/or a little scarred from this, it's probably b/c his emotions have far surpassed the "friends" stage. And if he seems not to be bothered by your requests for him to stop at all, then you'd actually be making it EASIER on him since he'd feel better knowing that he can still get the "goods" w/o treating you like his girlfriend. When a man doesn't see you as long-term potential, his goal is to do the LEAST Possible to get whatever benefits he wants.

FWB just isn't worth the hassle.

Cheers for replies everyone I spoke to the guy about it and he was fine, said he was just being friendly and he meant nothing by it, suppose all I have been thinking about is the "benefits" part and forgot that after all we are friends too.