Aqua guys-should I or shouldn't I? Need opinion!!

Aqua guys I need your thoughts on whether or not I should write this guy & explain my reasoning for ending things a bit more or leave it alone.

You can read my full post on same thread here but long story short let me copy the part about the actual break-up:

I have never been the one to walk away but in this situation I felt I had to & I did it in person however I feel I was a bit harsh bc I was nervous & upset. I'd like to write something up to him bc I am more expressive in writing so I could at least tell him how much I will miss him since I didnt get the chance to. Also give him the chance to write his response to the situation as he really didnt have a chance to respond much & was so blindsided I am sure he needed time to register it all since we had such a fun/great weekend together. I am also curious how he actually may be handling it-- I know Aquas need time to think & since I completely shocked him I don't even know if he's fully prosessed it yet...


Help me out Aqua guys!! Should I write him & explain a bit more & actually say the nice parting things I wanted to? What would you feel about that after such a blindsided break up?

Or should I just leave him blindsided & thinking? Would that make you want to contact the person? Back story all of his past gfs have left him for other guys--- I come to find out he's never told a girl he loved them... I can see how that would lead a girl to leave. Here I am a girl he sees as a really chill/cool girl I can be girlie yet still hang with the guys & just not the typical girl & I bounced on him too.

Would really appreciate your thoughts & feelings (as hard as that is for you Aqua guys--haha jk xoxo)

PS: I'm not specifically wanting him to contact me... I don't even know what I'd do if he did- I only asked bc I am curious.

I think you should more for you than anything because deep down it's you at the end of the day not him. You should do it for yourself, so that if you really want to you won't suddenly do it years later or something like that. I also think due to the circumstances of his other girl friends you can finally be a good spot light on his out look on females. By telling him what you liked about him still even after the break up is a really nice thing to do. Most girls definitely won't do that lol so it would be most appreciated.

Posted by Metoo
I guess I just feel like if he didnt want it to end he could have contacted you too and said some final parting words.
I say leave it be.

+1 I agree! 🙂

"Live and let live"

Don't, and Don't contact him.. unless of course you want to open the doors of communication again, he will use it to lure you back in. You'll be back in the same boat rowing down the same stream.
You cut it off, if you want to be happy and find someone who wants more than just sex, then you have to remove the toxins in your life (Him). Trust me, after sometime he will contact you, thats how they are. Right now he is expecting you to contact him because he figures that you'll come running back and you were just mad.
You spent a year of your life on him, don't waste anymore time.

Posted by GodMadeBeauty
Don't, and Don't contact him.. unless of course you want to open the doors of communication again, he will use it to lure you back in. You'll be back in the same boat rowing down the same stream.
You cut it off, if you want to be happy and find someone who wants more than just sex, then you have to remove the toxins in your life (Him). Trust me, after sometime he will contact you, thats how they are. Right now he is expecting you to contact him because he figures that you'll come running back and you were just mad.
You spent a year of your life on him, don't waste anymore time.

You're so super right I know it... The biggest reason why I even want to is that I dunno I just feel bad that I didn't stress it was hard for me to do & I would miss him. I mean he was a pretty big part of my life for a year we talked & hung out a lot & I just feel like I blindsided him completely. It's just my nature to not wanna feel like I hurt someone. Damn my stupid girl hormones. At the same time I really wanna say how angry I am that just as we were getting closer I find out he updated his dating profile but as I hear it's the Aqua guy nature to wanna run when things get more serious! For example: in the 5 or 6 months we've been whatever we were I never ever stayed the night bc I didn't want it to feel like a relationship again but recently I started again, we were talking a lot more, hanging out a lot more, I'd hear from him on weekend nights he knew I was out to ask if i was having a good time or just randomly to tell me something. To me...we were getting back to where we were when we were actually something.

You're all right though. I need to be strong & not contact him because bottom line is he doesn't want anything serious & we can't be just friends we already failed at that. He'll contact me at some point I'm sure because he'll miss me we did have a great time together & I was close with his friends. He hadn't removed me from Facebook so I'll just keep him there so he sees I am living my life if he decides to check up on me.

"You're all right though. I need to be strong & not contact him because bottom line is he doesn't want anything serious & we can't be just friends we already failed at that. He'll contact me at some point I'm sure because he'll miss me we did have a great time together & I was close with his friends. He hadn't removed me from Facebook so I'll just keep him there so he sees I am living my life if he decides to check up on me."

I don't know if you know this but Aqua's are BIG on friends. They always call someone their friend (even those who are really enemies). It is their nature, whether male or female. Most of the time though, these so called friends are only mere aquaintances. To an Aqua it does not matter, because they love everyone! On a friends only basis.
Doesn't this sound familiar? This is how they think. Aquas are soooo ahead of their time than anyone else that it is always a constant battle to them (in their heads).
He will most definetly come back, but you need to be standing strong on what it is you want and what it is you feel. If you are not the same ride (remember the merry-go-round) will happen again.
Please do YOU! Take care of and love YOU! Don't worry about him. He doesn't even KNOW WHO HE IS yet!!!