mackitty
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Aqua Playing Games Or What ?
Are you waiting for everyone here to console by telling you that this is "typical" aqua behaviour?? It's not..this guy is unbelievable, and worse, you're taking it all. You're not even dating and look at the state you're in, YOU start dating somebody worthwhile. All talk and no action..what a turn-off.
"We have been talking off and on this whole time now because I really can't seem to trust him." -----------> Trust is the basis of all healthy relationships - if you are not trusting him now what do you think is going to change? YOUR awesome instincts are telling you something and you seem to be discounting them. Ask youself, why?
"I really do think that you're perfect and im in love with you. I don't even hit on other girls anymore cause I feel like im cheating on you even thought were not even dating, thats how much I care about you. You make me so happy. I know I said I didn't and couldn't like you more then a friend, but I only said that it seemed like you didn't even care anymore."" -------------> appears to me that here he is in the process of MESSING WITH YOUR MIND and I think deep down you already KNOW this. What I am personally getting from this text of his is that, no.1 - he is lying. no.2 - he has huge ego issues...wants to keep you on a string for back-up. no.3 - what is YOUR defination of CARE? honestly, by what you have written, it clearly shows to me that he does not care about you but infact, cares only for himself. When a man - ANY MAN says he will only like you as a friend, BELIEVE him -
"It's like he lies to me" -----> Like? honey, he IS lying to you. He is playing with you like a little toy however, you are ALLOWING him to.
"How can I trust him when he is going to lie to me all the time about stupid stuff."------------> Now that is a GOOD question. How can you? Simply put, you cannot.
"Is it normal for aqua men to try to make a girl jealous when they really like them?" -----------> When ANY person exhibits this type of behaviour they have some issues going on, he appears to be very insecure - it is not healthy especially for someone who is in a relationship with someone like this.
"And I know If I continue to be friends with him he will just throw other girls in my face to make me jealous." --------> You seem to know quite a bit here about this guy and most likely you are correct so..........let me ask you - why do you want to be in a relationship with this person? What need of yours is he fulfilling in you that you cannot do for yourself?
"I don't know if I should actually try to date him and see what happens, try just to be friends, or seriously just never speak to him again and move on."------> Really? you really do not know the answer to your question? (I think you do ho
(I think you do honey). You know what will happen if you date him...you will be feeling just like you do now - he is NOT going to change.
I honestly beleive that people do show up in our lives to teach us something about ourselves. You seem to have some values by what you have expressed ...yet you seem to want to dishonour them for a man? Maybe he is showing up in your life so that you are able to see where emotionally you are with yourself.
Personally, I'd move on and choose to be with someone who leaves me with good feelings.
Wishing you the best Mackitty.
I honestly beleive that people do show up in our lives to teach us something about ourselves. You seem to have some values by what you have expressed ...yet you seem to want to dishonour them for a man? Maybe he is showing up in your life so that you are able to see where emotionally you are with yourself.
Personally, I'd move on and choose to be with someone who leaves me with good feelings.
Wishing you the best Mackitty.
Are you waiting for everyone here to console by telling you that this is "typical" aqua behaviour?? It's not..this guy is unbelievable, and worse, you're taking it all. You're not even dating and look at the state you're in, YOU start dating somebody worthwhile. All talk and no action..what a turn-off.
Your right, all talk and no action. Were not dating because I won't allow myself to because of all the drama that has been going on with this whole off and on thing. I can't trust what he is saying because one minute he will tell me he is love with me and another minute he says he never loved/liked me ect or he rather just be friends. I think he feels like that because he say's that he opens up to me and tells me how he really loves me ect ect, but when he does I act like I don't care, which causes him to get upset because he feels like he's wasting his time opening up to me ( which he says he never does to any girl, im the first ) and I just don't take him serious and act like I don't care. But my thing is, just because I don't show you off that bat how much I like and care about you doesn't mean I don't. The only reason why I act like I don't care, because we been through this a million times. And the few times I did act like I care he told me he didn't like me anymore, and just played with my head.
Its like I can't win for losing. It takes two to tango and if one person doesn't want to be in a relationship then you can't form a relationship. But now Im thinking, instead of just talking this out all the time which gets us no where, should I just jump in and just date him and see how it goes. Because he we actually never dated. We been friends this whole time with very strong feelings for each other. I just don't know if I should take that risk because I really do like him a lot. Im just thinking is it worth it ? I been single for two years now by choice and I do think Im ready for a relationship and I do believe that if we were to date we would have a an amazing relationship if we both work at it. I don't want to get in a relationship after 2 years to only be in one for a week or so and break up. Thats why Im saying should I really just let my guard down with him , try to date him and see —
Your right, all talk and no action. Were not dating because I won't allow myself to because of all the drama that has been going on with this whole off and on thing. I can't trust what he is saying because one minute he will tell me he is love with me and another minute he says he never loved/liked me ect or he rather just be friends. I think he feels like that because he say's that he opens up to me and tells me how he really loves me ect ect, but when he does I act like I don't care, which causes him to get upset because he feels like he's wasting his time opening up to me ( which he says he never does to any girl, im the first ) and I just don't take him serious and act like I don't care. But my thing is, just because I don't show you off that bat how much I like and care about you doesn't mean I don't. The only reason why I act like I don't care, because we been through this a million times. And the few times I did act like I care he told me he didn't like me anymore, and just played with my head.
Its like I can't win for losing. It takes two to tango and if one person doesn't want to be in a relationship then you can't form a relationship. But now Im thinking, instead of just talking this out all the time which gets us no where, should I just jump in and just date him and see how it goes. Because he we actually never dated. We been friends this whole time with very strong feelings for each other. I just don't know if I should take that risk because I really do like him a lot. Im just thinking is it worth it ? I been single for two years now by choice and I do think Im ready for a relationship and I do believe that if we were to date we would have a an amazing relationship if we both work at it. I don't want to get in a relationship after 2 years to only be in one for a week or so and break up. Thats why Im saying should I really just let my guard down with him , try to date him and see —
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Personally, I'd move on and choose to be with someone who leaves me with good feelings.
He does leave me good feelings. We get along, we get along amazing. I think he just feels like I don't care about how he feels or believe what he says because of things he said in the past which he knows was wrong. But be being a cancer, I can never let things ago. Even things that people have done to me in the past that happened years ago. Im still not friends with a few people because of things they did years ago. So its not just with relationships its with everything. Lately I been starting to think things were my fault because of this. Im guarding my heart because I don't want to get hurt again, because every guy I talked to in this past after my break up with my ex has really hurt me. If he would honestly not try to push me and just act clam and cool and understanding for more then 4 days then maybe something with me and him could work out. But I don't know if he has the patience.
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Personally, I'd move on and choose to be with someone who leaves me with good feelings.
He does leave me good feelings. We get along, we get along amazing. I think he just feels like I don't care about how he feels or believe what he says because of things he said in the past which he knows was wrong. But be being a cancer, I can never let things ago. Even things that people have done to me in the past that happened years ago. Im still not friends with a few people because of things they did years ago. So its not just with relationships its with everything. Lately I been starting to think things were my fault because of this. Im guarding my heart because I don't want to get hurt again, because every guy I talked to in this past after my break up with my ex has really hurt me. If he would honestly not try to push me and just act clam and cool and understanding for more then 4 days then maybe something with me and him could work out. But I don't know if he has the patience.
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"And I know If I continue to be friends with him he will just throw other girls in my face to make me jealous." --------> You seem to know quite a bit here about this guy and most likely you are correct so..........let me ask you - why do you want to be in a relationship with this person? What need of yours is he fulfilling in you that you cannot do for yourself?
The thing is I really grew to care about him and like him a lot. When we do get along, its great. We both have so much in common, he honestly is very smart, and is actually doing something with his life unlike most guy's I ever talked to. We both share the same group of friends to, which makes it very hard to stop talking to him if I wanted to because he is always around, and plus we live in the same area so I see him around a lot. Like I said before, he is use to girls kissing is butt, but he knows I won't do that. I would beg him to stay or force him to leave. Either way I might be really upset deep down inside but I won't show it to him. Many times that we have hung out together men have hit on me right in front of his face, and I know deep down inside he feels like he's not good enough for me, thats why he will lie and try to brag about other women to me when I act like I don't care.
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"And I know If I continue to be friends with him he will just throw other girls in my face to make me jealous." --------> You seem to know quite a bit here about this guy and most likely you are correct so..........let me ask you - why do you want to be in a relationship with this person? What need of yours is he fulfilling in you that you cannot do for yourself?
The thing is I really grew to care about him and like him a lot. When we do get along, its great. We both have so much in common, he honestly is very smart, and is actually doing something with his life unlike most guy's I ever talked to. We both share the same group of friends to, which makes it very hard to stop talking to him if I wanted to because he is always around, and plus we live in the same area so I see him around a lot. Like I said before, he is use to girls kissing is butt, but he knows I won't do that. I would beg him to stay or force him to leave. Either way I might be really upset deep down inside but I won't show it to him. Many times that we have hung out together men have hit on me right in front of his face, and I know deep down inside he feels like he's not good enough for me, thats why he will lie and try to brag about other women to me when I act like I don't care.
"Many times that we have hung out together men have hit on me right in front of his face, and I know deep down inside he feels like he's not good enough for me, thats why he will lie and try to brag about other women to me when I act like I don't care."
Okay, so if you KNOW that he feels that he is not good enough for you then why would you possibly think about being with him? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who is secure within himself and knows that he is good enough to be with you?
Are you secure with who you are? do you feel good about yourself? What will you tolerate from another person? what will you settle for? what do you stand for?
"He does leave me good feelings." -----> you are lying to yourself here. If you reread your posts you will see that he clearly does NOT leave you with good feelings.
Okay, so if you KNOW that he feels that he is not good enough for you then why would you possibly think about being with him? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who is secure within himself and knows that he is good enough to be with you?
Are you secure with who you are? do you feel good about yourself? What will you tolerate from another person? what will you settle for? what do you stand for?
"He does leave me good feelings." -----> you are lying to yourself here. If you reread your posts you will see that he clearly does NOT leave you with good feelings.
"Thats why Im saying should I really just let my guard down with him , try to date him and see —"
Ya know, I think that this is most likely the best way for you to go. We as humans learn about life and ourselves through experiencing the experience.
the best to ya!
Ya know, I think that this is most likely the best way for you to go. We as humans learn about life and ourselves through experiencing the experience.
the best to ya!
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