Aqua wanting to get back together ?

I was talking to my Aqua as a friend for about a year even though we had strong feelings for each other. We actually have been dating now for about a month. The relationship is still very new, but I feel like we been together for pretty much the whole year we been talking as friends because we liked each other so much. For the first time In a long time I felt happy because we over came so much. He hurt me a lot in the past because use to do things on purpose to make me jealous and mad when we weren't dating, but finally I guess he grew up and changed for the better. The main cause of all that is because he use to be a heavy drinker. Now he stopped drinking pretty much and only drinks at social gatherings and such, and tends to handle himself well. So yesterday, one of my friends I went to college with that transferred to another came back in town for the holidays. One of her best guy friends is gay, his best friend is a lesbian. His lesbian best friend was hosting a holiday party, and we all decided to go. When me and my aqua got there, everything was fine. I knew the girl who was hosting the party because I met her a few months ago at another party. I always thought she was nice, and I didn't mind that she was lesbian. But I noticed she would hit on me and told a few of my friends that she actually liked me. I told her I had a boyfriend and she backed down.

So at this party I was praying that everything would go smooth and she wouldn't hit on me in front of my boyfriend. So about 2 hours into the party, my boyfriend is very drunk pretty much talking to everyone. So my friend from college and the lesbian were talking in a room alone about a friend they both had issues with. So then about 20 mins later, she wanted to speak to me about it as well because we both know the same girl. Im in the room talking to her about it, and my boyfriend comes in pissed as all hell because he thinks she was hitting on me but we were only talking ! He flips out and try's to make me feel bad, and just slams the door. I didn't chase after him because I didn't want to cause a scene, so I left him alone for a while. Then he comes back in the room again mad because Im still having a conversation with her. So out of no where we both end up arguing ! Once everyone clams us down, he goes out somewhere and passes out. So I ended up having to stay the night there because was so drunk he couldn't drive, and none of us had no idea where his keys were so we decided to just let him sle

sleep. So we he wakes up, I say goodbye to people who stayed over and we left. Then in the car ride home, he ended up saying that he's never drinking with me again because I acted like a fool, ect. Then told me he couldn't do this anymore and wanted to break up. I was so upset because if anything the whole night I was talking to her about him, saying how much I loved him. So I just start crying in the car and he driving not saying anything or acting like he cared. So he pulls up to my house and I ask him if we are really over just like that, and he says yeah. Im still crying and I get out the car crying my eyes out and he just pulls out and leave. I was so hurt because he acted like he didn't care at all, and he was willing to let it go so easy. So later that day, he texts me and I didn't respond because I was hurt. So then he texts my friends and tells them that breaking up with me was a mistake and how much he loves me ect. Then he pretty much blew up my phone with text messages saying he wanted to talk to me. I still have not responded because Im so hurt. I want to get back with him, but Im scared because he knows what to do to make me mad, and Im scared he will just break up with again over something so stupid. How he let me cry the whole way in the car home and not care at all really hurts. He showed no feelings towards me what so ever. In the text he told if I don't want to get back together could we at least be friends. I just don't know what to do.

After your post I am seriously considering that their is something wrong with aqua guys...my ex aqua guy friend drinks allot and it seemed like that was the only he could tell me something personal...I eventually had to cut communication...but anyway it sounds like this guy is mentally abusive...*most male aquas are*... I think that if they see any kind of weakness they tear at that until you cant take anymore...hence my problem with my aqua friend who knew that I liked him but he kept on telling me all of these stupid stories with all of these girls who he liked and etc....I would say that he should really have to prove to you that he wants you back and treats you respectful if he gets you back...you need to set some boundaries

Anyway, whether in real life or on internet, the abusive pricks appearantly turn out to be aqua or gemini guys.

from my observations, they end up with women who really play to their tunes 😢

Oh I wouldn't link abuse to just aggression...I have met a LOT of abusive Aquas, Libras and Geminis...it is intellectual mental controlling mechanism >>> abuse is abuse whether it is mental or emotional or physical, etc...

E.g. a lot of women in relationships with Aqua men frequently hear things like, 'I'll never change, this is how I am' >>> this puts a person where they want them so they can go about their business and you don't say a word.
OR
the disappearing act or break up acts, whenever things don't go their way...the person in the relationship is then afraid to react so they don't disappear.
OR
the subtle 'you're too draining or emotional' to change you...
OR
He flips out and try's to make me feel bad, and just slams the door. This is typical of Aqua males I've come across, they never admit any wrong doing on their part - actually, there's no sign that readily admits they did wrong, is there?

--- I don't think there's a typical of any sign...you have to work with fact and what is in front of you.


The thing is, Mackitty wants to get back together with him because of a few texts? sounds like the beginning of a rollercoaster ride.
her crying --- now he knows what to use to get to you everytime you have an argument? after you've been officially dating for a month? and knew him for a year? he didn't even respect the friendship? 😢 sounds young...are you his 1st gf?

wow... this is eerily familiar. my last aqua ex(not the most recent but the one that was one and off for 2 years)was bipolar, and would drink away all his sorrows.
he didnt know how to handle his problems and wasnt readily available to take into consideration of my viewpoints because i was often times right and he is stubborn.
he would always just say that i was crushing his dreams and raining on his parade all the time, and that hurt.
of course he also had a really hard time telling me how he felt. it was always soooo much easier to hear the things ive been wanting to hear come from his mouth when hes intoxicated.
it was horrible.
mackitty, please be careful. i know you really care for him and guys can be jerks, but seriously... this is something that is going to keep continueing to happen.
trust me, i delt with this for 2 years before i said enough.
are you ok with him being mentally controlling over you and your relationship?