aquarius girl i cant figure out??

im a leo male,ive been talking to this aquarius girl for a year now and i dont know what to do,its like i know she likes me cuz she told me but it doesnt seem like it.She doesnt return phone calls or texts and never really initiates contact unless were on twitter and sends flirt tweets to guys in front of me.But then wonders why I dont say anything to her or try to get in contact with her after days pass lik WTF?Seeing her is like pulling teeth and theres always an excuse,Its not like i havent given her a choice to rather or not she wants us trying to be together,i told her before to be honest.Im guessin i gotta play mind games to get the truth or what the hell am i supposed to do because I her alot—?

maybe you should get a group of friends together (most likely common friends) and then go out in group somewhere,like for a drink,to a party or camping . We aqua's love to go out with our friends,and to win her heart fully then try to be also her friend.We appreciate it when we got a lover who can also be our best friend,and a sense of humor or knowledge in a subject she's interested in may pretty much make her like you more.
Also,a Leo and Aqua relationship is usually opposite attract,so find a common subject or just try to pay attention to what she enjoys.But give her also space and freedom cause as you noticed,she rarely shows up,it may mean she loves to spend time on her own or with friends. It says that we aqua's are a little foolish,aka : we also laugh if we make something dumb. So if you tell her something funny that happened to you in the past she may laugh and appreciate you more.

I hope i helped 🙂

yea it helped thanks,but she seems to flirt with other guys when im not trying to contact her.I do everything you mentioned as far as stimulating conversation and i have a sense of a humor as well.....im jus lost i guess

From what it's sounding like, this girl is just not that into you. And I say that b/c she's showing all the classic signs & signals that women (Aquas especially) who are not really interested will give off. Aqua women can be very finicky, wishy washy & hard to figure out. BUT the catch though is that these flip floppy behaviors are usually temporary, in which they only last as long as her suspicion of you does. It is very unlikely that a woman (in general) who highly admired a man would still be completely standoffish, unreliable and inconsistent after officially deciding to admire someone.

This girl doesn't seem to be that interested. When Aqua women are really into someone, they give their all. They make themselves readily available & will do all they can to spend as much time possible with the one they admire. Yes, in the beginning they can be hot/cold but usually this about them is not personal; if anything, this hot/coldness is a reflection of their inner confusions, suspicions and emotions about someone they do not yet fully trust.

It could be possible that even after all this time, she's STILL not sure about you yet, BUT I highly doubt it. You'd think that if she wasn't interested, she would just say so & quit wasting your time. And of course we've all heard about how Aquas are infamous for cutting people off with no problems. Problem is, it doesn't sound like you've personally done anything wrong/offensive that would justify her impulsively cutting you off, thus her way of SHOWING you better than she can tell you her lack of interest in you is literally in how much she DOESN'T give to you (time, energy, etc.)

If I were you, I'd chalk this one up. Read between the lines. IF you're waiting on her to literally come right out & say "I'm not that interested" you might be waiting for a long time. Yes, it sucks b/c she's def. wasting not only your time but also her OWN time by blowing smoke up your azs. Take some of the control back & walk away, b/c if you don't, she'll continue to lead you astray as long as you'll let her

it could be that shes not into you, but it can also be that u expect too much from her lol.....leos are renown for being vain and wanting heaps of attention which is fine but don't get all shoddy because shes not living up to ur expectations of worship.

try turning the intensity down because when u have a fire sign and an air sign it can get really intense and has a chance of blowing out........I've been with a leo before and at first its great and he is great but he has such an ego and talks himself up BIG TIME when I can see right through that and it also gets boring and tedious having to agree on how quirky and different and amazing he is lol sometimes aquas like to debate and challenge but when im around a leo I feel i need to blow theyre way ll the time and agree with them which is why its hard to be honest .....personally I'm not gonna put him in his place because i dont wanna damage his ego...but i just separate myself from him to let him settle down.

I read somewhere that we both have different vanity....leos have self pride and aquas feel they are above common people...so we want to influence the situation in our way but not in a direct way....I've always thought of the leo aqua relationship much like king arthur and merlin because king arthur *leo* rules the kingdom because hes the iconic figure and merlin *aqua* whispers in his ear and gives him advice on how to run the country.....so both are amazing and in this way i guess is a good way to do buisness.....lol im just tripped out

trust me u dont wanna play mind games with an aqua.....they see right through that shit....and u might think ur getting away with it but she knows and is gonna use that as another reason to keep playing the way she does.

ok so i found out....i asked her to make it official and she said shes not ready for the duties of a relationship and she likes me but hasnt gotta chance to be single that long,shes been broken up with him fo a year

@Sir..well there's your answer. The reason she was incapable of giving you the time/energy you expected (considering she claimed she liked you) was beacuse her heart & emotions still belong(ed) to another gentlemen/her ex. In other words, she is "emotionally unavailable." She might've liked you a little bit BUT not ENOUGH that her admiration for you outweighed her attachments to this other guy.

She is still healing & feels that jumping back into another relationship so quickly is not the best choice for her. Perhaps she still has some baggage and/or healing that needs to run it's course. Either way, this is a good thing, considering she could've been like some girls, jumped right back into another relationship before she was fully ready for a new one, thus releasing all of her negative baggage onto the next guy.

When a woman pulls the "I just want to be single" line, it's for 1 of 2 reasons: 1. She's just not that into you & she knows that most guys who hear this will run vs. trying to change her mind OR 2. She's very self-aware & honest enough with herself in knowing that she's not fully done with the past relationship. And if this is the case, her still wanting to remain single means she's probably only down for something with NO strings-attached.

She needs time to re-up & get back all of her emotional energies that were sucked dry from her last relationship. Once she re-fuels, she might be more consistent & reliable with the guys she dates. Only 1 problem, this time period/phase where she feels the need to be "single" might be a phase that lasts for a LONGGG time. Are you prepared to take the chance & "wait?" That is the question

you women can be difficult. only a cap could wait that long...lol

@Val: Thanx & Yes a longggggg time! Aquarian women dance to the beat of their own drum. They can/will meet the sexiest and most well-put-together man all day long BUT if THEY are not yet ready to change their emotional status to "Emotionally available" all the fine & good men in the world approaching them won't change this. As in anything, when an Aqua makes a decision/makes up their mind, that decision is usually final. There's only a 1% chance that this final decision will be overturned & it's even MORE rare for this final decision to be over-turned by someone they do not yet love and/or trust! That is the key!

Aquas will go to the ends of the earth for those they strongly admire and/or love. BUT, if they have not yet found comfort with you and/or discovered any thoughts within themselves that sees you as a long-term potential prospect, they will selfishly continue "playing the field" until THEY are ready. And since Aquas can be very non-trusting and/or avoiding when it comes to relationships/emotional attachment anyways, the waiting time for these types of Aquas are usually way LONGER than they are for the typical woman.

If this Aqua lady was going to make the decision to admire you, she would've made that determination already. The fact that she didn't means that either 1. You didn't tickle her fancy enough. 2. She didn't see anything in you enough worth changing her mindset/ways for. 3. She's one of those naive/ungrateful women that lets a good thing pass by first, thus to acknowledge & end up regretting this later OR 4. She needs a little more time & opportunity to get to know you so that she can make the determination of her feelings for you. And I highly doubt #4 is what's going on here. Trust me, this woman has given herself the chance to "feel you out." She's probably & already seen enough in/about you to make her decision. Don't think that Aqua women just sit around, not taking the time to thoroughly examine any of the people who ask for permission into their lives/hearts. Sometimes the answer is simply NO. And sadly, some Aqua women, instead of just coming right out & saying NO will make it so that the other person has to "read between the lines." Well, I think she wants you to read b/w the lines & move on!

Sometimes the answer to your questions regarding whether someone admires you or not lies in what they do NOT say/do. It's about the things she's UNWILLING to do and/or say that tell the true story of how this woman feels about you or lack thereof.

What do I mean when I say that it's the things some women WON'T do that tell the true story of their feelings? Well, 1. She's NOT consistent. She's NOT reliable. She's NOT honest. She's NOT considerate enough of your feelings. She's NOT being open with you. She's NOT investing enough or any time/energy into you. She's NOT giving you the answers that she needs (she's beating around the bush for the same reason anyone else would--so as NOT to hurt your feelings/rejection). She's NOT assuring you that she's ready for you and/or that she's on the same page you're on. She's NOT looking for and/or headed down the same road to commitment like you are. This is what I mean when I say that the true story lies in what she is NOT doing, moreso than what she is saying/doing.

Her actions or LACK thereof are speaking LOUDER volumes than her sugar-coated words are when you confront her.

you guys are awesome for all the advice,i guess i'll just keep her around but at the same time mingle with other women.

Move on. No need in keeping her around. TRUST ME-if she wants u. She will come get U-I-mean snatch u up so fast. It also could be a phase/rebellion. We have those from time to time. If ure a good guy-she will realize that and be back. When she does come back make sure of the following:

Ure spontaneous
Ure loose (meaning not a square or uptight)
Keep ure hands to ureself-if she wants affection-she'll brush up against u-after that just go with the flow
No sex talk or pressure of any kind
Go somewhere loud w/ a bar
Dress nice (AQ's are VERY detail orientated). If ure shoes are tied wrong in turned off,lol
TRY to be as flawless as possible
Smell good-summin sweet and spicy.
Brush up on the news or current world events
Dont be over nice But be a gentleman
Leave ure issues at the door (she probably wont care about who in ure family is sick, or how evil ure boss is) that convo will be initiated by her if she likes u-which will take her a few weeks to decide.

Posted by sirsmoke
you guys are awesome for all the advice,i guess i'll just keep her around but at the same time mingle with other women.

@Sir: But why keep her around? What would you gain? It's not like she'd be a PLAN B. In order for someone to be a valid PLAN B, they'd have to be someone you could actually get something from persay other relations/relationships don't work out. And from what you've shared, this girl doesn't seem to be prepared for giving up the goods or giving you what you want any time soon (OR whether you cling to only her or play the field or not). You "keeping her around" symbolizes that a small part in you is still "wishing" or "hoping" that she'll change her mind about you and/or magically jump up 1 day & give you the world. Welp, honey that only happens in movies & fairy tales.

If this girl isn't worth it enough that you only focus on her, then why is she now good enough to only get 1/2 of you, since you claim you might start "Sharing" yourself with other women? If she's not good enough to have ALL of your attention/focus then she's not good enough for any of it. Just let her go. 1 thing about Aqua women: We will NEVER respect someone who doesn't have the balls to get us straight. Even though we may not always like it, we will always respect the person who has enough respect for themselves to let invalid/irrelevant people go, EVEN if that includes US; even if that WE fit into that "irrelevant/waste of time" category.

If you're going to date around, do so b/c you have finally moved on. If you're going to just keep this other gal around, you'd be wasting YOUR time AND any future girls who actually MIGHT see you for what you're worth. Imagine if the tables were turned: You're prob. going to meet a really special girl & imagine how she's going to feel after knowing that 1. You didn't finish 1 thing before you started another & that 2.You're STILL holding on to someone from the past whom didn't even deserve you? The worst thing you can do is give off a bad impression to those in the present/future who are worth more than the person they see you're still holding onto. Either move on completely or continue to invest in this other woman completely. But don't try to have your cake & eat it too. And even if she finds out you're dating she probably wouldn't care anyways. I hope your "playing the field" option isn't only designed to spite her or arouse feelings of jealousy. A girl can't/WON'T get territorial over someone she doesn't even want to begin with

i get so much out of these convos. i thank you as well. i have an aqua gf. this is helpfull lol

damn. my scorp ascendant will get me in trouble with my aqua friend. i think im too possessive. cant help but wanna talk to her all the time.