Aquarius - Hot & Cold Help!!!

You broke it off. Don't be mad at him for seeing other people. What gives—??

You either want to be there or you don't. This back and forth is just silly. Give him space and you take your own space. Thats the only way it will work with an Aqua. Yes, they will be brutally honest about everything - gotta love that about 'em! At least they won't lie to your face. He does care about you - whether its just friends or more, who knows. Take what he says at face value. What does his actions show? Actions tell a lot.

You need to decide - Is this relationship healthy for you? If you want a lovey dovey guy, who tells you what you want to hear, don't pick an Aqua.

I'm not an Aqua, and I don't pretend to be an expert. I've dated three. That's just my advice.

he told you that you were his rock basically cause you're helping him out alot.
but you got angry at him because you drove around for him (him not having a license)
did you want him to pitch in for gas or what? i dont understand. if he's not pitching in, then tell him you need gas money.

it's this right here that stood out:

Things were going so good until it started being me driving him around all week long (since he had no license) and then him leaving for the weekend so i felt he was using me. So that friday I cut him off, That saturday he ran into that girl at the shopette and they ended up hanging out having sex.

some of them will just spite you to have sex with someone else even if they dont like/want that other person. but at least even though it was a short time, you were broken up.
you threw him out the door, so what is he going to do? he's not the wallowing crying type, so he's going to find the nearest girl who will take his advances and sleep with her. you just basically told him without saying it bluntly that he's a piece of crap who just uses you. yeah his actions afterward are crap too...

a few of them are extremely revengeful if they are unhappy, so their anger gets the best of some of them. they will turn that anger outward into 'actions'. it's terrible i know, but that's just how some of them roll. and plus, he doesn't sound like a passive guy with women so it's easy for him to find plenty.

and girl, you telling that 'other woman' that she's just 2nd best. priceless.

you have a cunning mind.

Posted by beautifie
Oh forgot to mention, I know his mother and she lives in South Carolina we live in Louisiana and we've talked on the phone only one other woman in his life has spoken to his mother. There is just so much to be confused about. Ugh! I hate being a Virgo sometimes.

I'm going to throw this out there.

yes, youre right. it's revenge.

trust your instincts. I dont know your aqua guy and the men and women differ alot, but there's a couple characteristic that are similar. and then that revenge will make us detach, make us cold, cruel and harden our hearts. the harder and closed our hearts are, the stronger we THINK we feel. it's all crap really. they think it's safe up in the clouds but it's not.

and you have an aquarius dad so you should know. there are some differences but you should already know.

and your cunningness. i salute you for that. my husband is one cunning man, and there's plenty i respect him in, but that cunning devil in him, puts me in my place. 😄 but he does it out of love. so theres the big difference. oh i dont even realize he's being cunning. i just figure he does things for me out of love anyway.

i thought you said he told you he loved you? i'm getting confused.

Posted by beautifie
You would think I would know, My father was an aquarius and they are identical -- but I dont lol. Thank you everyone for your honest replies it truly means a lot to me.

you're welcome. yeah he'll be back. 🙂

you're a little warrior in love. something like that is to be admired.

p.s. have confidence. you're a beautiful woman. you can have anyone you want.
and you have a beautiful mind and soul.

Girl..This is to damn much..Where is the peace..I got dizzy just reading this..

Aquarians are not for the weak hearted! lol!

I'm a cap, so I understand a lot of the nonemotional stuff and not wanting to say how they feel. However, there is a lot of scorp in me. The passionate Scorp side wants to hear it and the Cap side needs the reassurance. *sigh*

Hang in there beautifi - time will tell!

back.

I actually didnt get mad about me driving him places, i didnt mind. I got mad because I felt like he only wanted to hang with me through the weekdays and not on the weekends. I felt like he didnt want me to go hang out with his friends but from what I read AFTERWARDS they like their time with their friends. I stopped driving him places but he still found ways to get to my house just to hang out and be around me. I stopped worrying so much about who he was with or what he was doing and it changed him into worrying about me and what I was doing


hmm sounds like he could have found many ways to get places but used the excuse to be with you.

guys need space. they like to have their friends and then go back to their girl. Depending on age group you are in, as you get older it changes. as people get older they think more on what they want out of life and where they'll settle in. a man needs his space elsewhere. cause later down in life you'll be with someone, for example who is your 'forever' guy and he'll need to have his own man cave. he'll want his own little workshop, which he'll build or make for himself, or maybe hang out with his guy friends once a week. it's just how it is. in the meantime, you need to have your interests. once you have children,(if thats what you want someday) a home, so many things will just overwhelm you. but it'll be a blessing.
they dont want you all up into them 24/7. he'll be your best friend but he likes other activities too.

see, guys in general differ from girls. we need to know how they feel. through their actions. it's only when they let you into their little sanctuary that they'll open up to you. with words.

Thank you Lisa, I am going to do my best to just let this pan out. I am sure that if it doesnt work out I will find someone else it's the game of life right? Just have to get over this Aqua man first

😢 when you say it like that, it sounds cold but i know you're just trying to be strong and think wisely with your head.
and yep, his loss, to be sure. he's going to be hurting but maybe he needs a taste of his own medicine.

it truly is like a game of life.

btw if you make a decision to bring him back into your life, you need to make it known you want respect.
he sounds like he already respects you when you were IN a relationship. out of it, he's like a wildfire.

Posted by truecap
Aquarians are not for the weak hearted! lol!

I'm a cap, so I understand a lot of the nonemotional stuff and not wanting to say how they feel. However, there is a lot of scorp in me. The passionate Scorp side wants to hear it and the Cap side needs the reassurance. *sigh*

Hang in there beautifi - time will tell!

🙂

as a woman, i tell my husband with hugs,kisses and cuddles that he's the only man for me. even then, i dont think words work for some guys,(they're suspicious and sensitive with their hearts and souls) but actions always mean alot.

words are empty if the actions do not fit.

I'm sorry to say but you guys are "crazy" . You're not as cunning as him because your emotion is kind of a mess after your ex incident though. Enjoy the ride but don't expect anything more till you sort yourself out.

Posted by exam
I'm sorry to say but you guys are "crazy" . You're not as cunning as him because your emotion is kind of a mess after your ex incident though. Enjoy the ride but don't expect anything more till you sort yourself out.

Who were you directing that to?

I believe she is talking to the op.. And I agree, you have to be insane to go through all this and for what...Love....News flash this is not love...What was that, that was said, "Aqua's are not for the weak hearted" well if that makes me weak hearted then that I am...Cause I would have bailed out long time ago..but in honesty this is not about your guy, but about you..there seems to be some inside work you need to do and until you do, you will continue to attract him and if not him his type.....that is all...

Every experience we have shapes us and makes us a better person if we are willing to learn from it. We are who we are because of our past.

i'm glad you made your decision.

i'm gonna give you a little secret about some aquarius men.
they are very emotional. you probably haven't met them or ever seen one cry.
most aquarius girls have dated at least one aquarius man in their lives. (most, not all)
and my ex, long time ago has broken down and cried in front of me several times.
i have seen my ex's cry on their knees. but this was the past and past is past, left buried.
so, good luck out there, and yes, do you. no matter who/what sign you get with.

It's not an exclusive deal- he's already told you he doesn't want that.
He slept with the other woman because it's not exclusive with you, and you told him to fuck off.
You are "his rock" because you were there for him - doing things a friend would do, not things a girlfriend would do.

You cannot convince, manipulate, or force him to be in a relationship with you.
He's "hot and cold" on you because just when he thinks you're cool about the situation you rag on him again so he avoids you.

This man doesn't want a relationship with you. Stop trying to be in one with him.

Relationships are hard work. They're even harder when you put the work in on one that doesn't exist.

I have no idea why you bumped this bling?

In my experience with Aqa males; once it's over it's over. The move on... Now if they are in love with you it might take a minute (one of mine kept coming back). However when he finally got the message he never looked back. We are still friendly, however.