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Aquarius Ladies, May I have your advice on this (Warning LONG Post)
------ Anyways I was like that's okay I can always visit you, and I might move down there eventually so we will most likely see each other a lot, I'm into open relationships and etc. so I was okay with it, but I guess I wasn't as cool with it as I thought, we were in the car together when she told me this, so I tried to stay calm because I didn't want to scare her, we got to my house and I was a mess internally but I’m the type where my emotions don’t show on my outer face even when I’m stressed. So we got to my drive way and I was hesitant say what I was going to say because I knew I might not get the reaction I wanted because, it was something that would polarize most Aquarius women. But I had to say it was most one of the last times I would have seen her, we had a very strong and unique bond like I said it was definitely surreal one of the most “magical” relationships I have ever been in (It’s not something one can explain unless you have experienced it yourself), and before I tell you what I said to her and what occurred afterward, I just want to preface a few things and tell you why I think she felt the same way about me.
I just turned 20 and she just turned 21, so we were pretty young but to me some people are old souls even when they are young both her and I had a lot of water placements (Pisces specifically) so we were more mature than most for our age. She gave me every sign that she was serious about me, from what I know about Aquarius women maybe I was completely wrong who knows… 1) We saw each other almost every weekend for six months besides when she went to Florida (from what I know Aqua hate wasting their time and I know they like to be friends first 2). We had a lot of common interests and she taught me how to ski (it was more romantic than it sounds). 3). She shared a lot of deep things with me (Which I know Aquarius don’t like to share too much) 4). She talked about me to her friends while she was in Florida and she introduced me to her family pretty quickly (This is a big step for an Aquarius is it not? They take friendship seriously) 5). We gave each other gifts, she cooked for me and we fell asleep together a couple of times (not sexually). 6) She complimented me a lot and We acted like a couple, in every since of the regard really she gave me all the signs she was interested and felt the same as me (I was head over heels but I knew I didn’t want to rush things). ----------
I just turned 20 and she just turned 21, so we were pretty young but to me some people are old souls even when they are young both her and I had a lot of water placements (Pisces specifically) so we were more mature than most for our age. She gave me every sign that she was serious about me, from what I know about Aquarius women maybe I was completely wrong who knows… 1) We saw each other almost every weekend for six months besides when she went to Florida (from what I know Aqua hate wasting their time and I know they like to be friends first 2). We had a lot of common interests and she taught me how to ski (it was more romantic than it sounds). 3). She shared a lot of deep things with me (Which I know Aquarius don’t like to share too much) 4). She talked about me to her friends while she was in Florida and she introduced me to her family pretty quickly (This is a big step for an Aquarius is it not? They take friendship seriously) 5). We gave each other gifts, she cooked for me and we fell asleep together a couple of times (not sexually). 6) She complimented me a lot and We acted like a couple, in every since of the regard really she gave me all the signs she was interested and felt the same as me (I was head over heels but I knew I didn’t want to rush things). ----------
------- Anyways back to the story before the preface, I was in a desperate state but to me long distance relationships are never the same, people to me change weekly and the thought of not seeing her was hard for me, I did my best to keep my emotions in check though, So I did something I normally wouldn’t do, to me I had nothing to lose, the past 6 months were absolutely amazing for me and maybe I was too young to understand or my emotions got the best of me but I never felt such a way about someone before so I blurted out I love you to her, what happened next well it’s embarrassing and painful to say she said nothing back to me , she looked at me emotionless, We were in my driveway at this point so I got out of the car and she still said nothing , I was so nervous about saying I love you that my leg was shaking a little bit (This is really out of character for me since I’m an Aries). She still said nothing and just drove away. And that’s the last I heard from her or saw her. I was devastated and on top of that I was embarrassed……. I texted her she ignored that too, she just blocked out my existence pretty much. And that’s that. What do you think happened? Was she just using me to kill time, was I overly naïve? It just confuses me why would she spend so much time with me if it met nothing? If she didn’t care at all? To me that is what upsets me the most that wasted time, if I care about someone I would never string them along like that/I wouldn’t mislead their emotions like that. Any insight or opinions on the situation would be appreciated. I just want to learn from my mistake with this Aqua.
if it meant nothing*******
Oh boy, sorry to hear that.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.
Posted by AquaNextDoorWell. Thank you =) I mean I gave her space like a normal person, I was consistent with other things like texting her, and hanging out. and she was only gone for like week when she left so I think it would be pretty silly to bother someone when they were gone for such a short period of time, and looking back maybe I was more vague then I realized but to me spending so much time with them is indicator enough that I like a person.
Oh boy, sorry to hear that.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.
Hmm oh I'm definitely not waiting for her I have been in many relationships since, I can't forgive someone for just ignoring me completely like that, I mean I get it maybe I said I love you too soon but you could at least tell me how you feel it would have been easier to swallow.and idk about the previous relationship thing.
so much time with a person *****
Posted by AquaNextDoorAlso in your opinion did she like me at all or was it a ruse?
Oh boy, sorry to hear that.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.
Posted by AquaMermaidThis is my chart :
I want to know yours and your Aqua lady's placements.
and this is hers :
Posted by FieryAries9108I totally believe she liked u but maybe u were just a rebound and she needed the attention and feeling of being admired and cared for.Posted by AquaNextDoorAlso in your opinion did she like me at all or was it a ruse?
Oh boy, sorry to hear that.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.click to expand
I'd def confront her face to face the next time. No need to be rude but just ask her straight up what that was all about
Posted by AquaNextDoorI wish I could confront her but we aren't even speaking , After I said I loved her, she acted like I did something far worse, she just wouldn't talk to her, I haven't tried contacting her since, but why would I? I know I deserve better and I also know she wouldn't respond.Posted by FieryAries9108I totally believe she liked u but maybe u were just a rebound and she needed the attention and feeling of being admired and cared for.Posted by AquaNextDoorAlso in your opinion did she like me at all or was it a ruse?
Oh boy, sorry to hear that.
In my opinion as an aqua (although I have heavy cap placements) she isn’t into you the same as you are. I’d never ever accept an open relationship nor would I suggest one – I’m def not a woman to share and I expect that I get valued.
Maybe she felt overwhelmed when you said I love you but her ignoring you is a big no no, it’s disrespectful and immature. As long as I remember I always told my opposite how it is, I’d never string someone along just for the fun of it. Always communicating pretty clear if I’m into you romantically or not.
And that thing about giving space is crap in my opinion – sure us aquas we hate it when we get smothered, but if you don’t show consistency than I get turned off pretty quickly. Like if you told me that you are fine with me leaving the country for several months for example I’d think “ah ok… I see, he isn’t that much into me or doesn’t love me that much cuz otherwise he’d lock down my ass next to him so we could start a future together” maybe I’m too much influenced by my cap placements but if I’m interested then you’ll def know and I won’t leave you in the dark.
Wait for her if it feels right for you but I’d move on. Did she come out of a relationship before? Maybe she needed a rebound.
I'd def confront her face to face the next time. No need to be rude but just ask her straight up what that was all aboutclick to expand
Posted by AquaMermaidThank you =) I also think my Pisces placements really contribute to that. And it seems like your right, sigh I just wish I knew that beforehand, before liking her so much, I mean I didn't even expect her to return my love I remember I said that too, I just wanted her to know how special she was to me. Well thank you for you response it does at least help me prepare for future situations.
Wow! Your Aqua lady's chart is very similar to FlowingWater's. Aqua sun/Aries moon/Pisces Venus/Aqua mercury. I hope she contributes to this thread. I was little surprised that for a 20 year old Aries, your writing and expression is really impressive.Your Cancer ascendant explains a lot. Well, Aqua sun/Aries moon combo is really explosive one. I believe she was either just being friendly and nice to you or your expectations and love was too intimidating for her.
Posted by flowingwaterWell I appreciate your response, but I just think people with that placement should be careful not to mislead others, also I just wish she would of told me how she felt after I said how I felt, I remember also saying after I said that, that I didn't expect her to love me in return that I just wanted to her to know how special she was to me and that I didn't expect anything more from her that what I said shouldn't really change anything etc. But it's now a thing of the past it's best to move on and learn from it right?
So you dated someone for six mos. and you said you loved her?
Honestly.
She didn't view you the same but still appreciated the close bond you created, maybe just fun?
I think she's not mature enough to handle love right now. Aquarius sun with Aries moon is a hard sign to evolve from because although you have the knowledge, the impulsive impatient character of a fire sign does not help whatsoever. It's always setting you back. That moon itself creates immaturity imo. It's a placement I struggle with everyday even though my heart and brain know better. She probably knew you loved her and enjoy the time but wasn't willing to say something she didn't mean in return.
Posted by flowingwaterYeah I guess I understand but I wouldn't have started a relationship in the first place with someone, I wouldn't make it see like romantic relationship if I didn't meant it.
She wasn't expecting you to fall in love. She was being an aqua and taking it slow.. Being cautious. You probably moved way too fast for her and truthfully, be very happy she didn't tell she loved you.
It was suppose to be a carefree relationship, six months is not that long.
Any other opinions would be appreciated, Aqua men if you want to contribute you can.
well then move on if it feels right for you 🙂
I admire people who know when to wave the white flag and move on for good. And in my opinion 6 months is totally fine to say I love you – heck you say “I love you” when your heart tells you so. My cap told me “I love you” after a month, just before we moved in together and tomorrow will be our 3rd monthsary and he already got me an engagement ring he made himself and we plan to build a family by end of next year. Nobody has to understand or accept what the two of you have (or not have), as long as it feels ri
I admire people who know when to wave the white flag and move on for good. And in my opinion 6 months is totally fine to say I love you – heck you say “I love you” when your heart tells you so. My cap told me “I love you” after a month, just before we moved in together and tomorrow will be our 3rd monthsary and he already got me an engagement ring he made himself and we plan to build a family by end of next year. Nobody has to understand or accept what the two of you have (or not have), as long as it feels ri
- sorry - feels right for YOU! Love will grow over time and later you won’t mean “I love you” the same way like you said it the first time, because love will grow. But saying “I love you” is always right as long as you mean it. But that’s just my old school cap heart talkin lol
Maybe for the next time make sure to carefully ask if the other person is looking for a relationship or not. That way you safe yourself a lot of time and effort, although it might me awkward to initiate that topic.
Maybe for the next time make sure to carefully ask if the other person is looking for a relationship or not. That way you safe yourself a lot of time and effort, although it might me awkward to initiate that topic.
Posted by AquaNextDoorYou're right and thank you =) that's good advice, and I agree on your viewpoint it's not that old school, I have a Venus in Taurus so I understand.
- sorry - feels right for YOU! Love will grow over time and later you won’t mean “I love you” the same way like you said it the first time, because love will grow. But saying “I love you” is always right as long as you mean it. But that’s just my old school cap heart talkin lol
Maybe for the next time make sure to carefully ask if the other person is looking for a relationship or not. That way you safe yourself a lot of time and effort, although it might me awkward to initiate that topic.
Hi Aqua female here, I really think the way you behaved and handled things was very admirable and correct, I can't pick any faults with it. Is it possible that the Aqua girl didn't know it was a romantic relationship and thought it was a friendship? If you weren't being physical, were you kissing and being romantic ? Sorry not trying to be nosy lol just trying to work it out. Ive more than once had a guy become very angry and upset at me when they thought we had a romantic relationship and I thought we were just friends who maybe had a very slight flirty element. The only way I realised they saw our friendship in that light was when I told one of them I was going on a date and they got very upset. I'm not saying that's the case here, but may be a possibility
Posted by CutevougeThank you =) and it was definitely romantic, we kissed, fell asleep together, held hands, celebrated Valentine's day together , she cooked for me, we go each other personal presents etc.
Hi Aqua female here, I really think the way you behaved and handled things was very admirable and correct, I can't pick any faults with it. Is it possible that the Aqua girl didn't know it was a romantic relationship and thought it was a friendship? If you weren't being physical, were you kissing and being romantic ? Sorry not trying to be nosy lol just trying to work it out. Ive more than once had a guy become very angry and upset at me when they thought we had a romantic relationship and I thought we were just friends who maybe had a very slight flirty element. The only way I realised they saw our friendship in that light was when I told one of them I was going on a date and they got very upset. I'm not saying that's the case here, but may be a possibility
You didn't say why she was moving( or maybe i skimmed past it) but that might be why. If she had to move then your out. Long distance is a joke. Sometimes if you cut it off completely you can think nobody got hurt. Out of sight, out of mind( so to speak) so sorry. I'm sure it wasn't personal.
Posted by IlovemeYeah she had to move, and it definitely was personal before I said the three words I was talking about visiting her and she was open to the idea after I said the three words she would say nothing to me, to not say anything I don't think that is ever justified or fair. I would have been happy with I don't feel the same way can we be just be friends, that to me would have been better than nothing..... Also for anyone who hasn't experienced the pain of saying I love you and not hearing it back it hard for a person to know how that feels.
You didn't say why she was moving( or maybe i skimmed past it) but that might be why. If she had to move then your out. Long distance is a joke. Sometimes if you cut it off completely you can think nobody got hurt. Out of sight, out of mind( so to speak) so sorry. I'm sure it wasn't personal.
it back*** it is hard for a person to know that feeling of rejection, if that hasn't happened to them before.
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