Aquas and Culture

Mind talking with me a bit?

I'm curious about what kind of culture you all were brought up in and what traditions/values were held in high regard.
Also if those which values, if any, did you think about or challenge and why?

My Dads a Jehovah's witness, we were allowed to choose our religion because our mum is Buddhist

I always grew up with dad saying homosexuality is a sin and saying he would disown me, It hurt me but I found out his faith really elastic when it suits him so I pretty much see it as a joke and he's just a funny old man, he totally accepts me and my brother for being gay now and is even star struck that my little brother is a famous drag queen

Hawaiian and Chinese, with my grandparents converting to Christianity, I've doubled back to Buddhist. Hospitality is the single most important value, and as guests we were expected to treat our hosts' home like we would our own, and as a host to invite others to share in our home like they live there.

Here in the South and in the Midwest, it's custom for the host to provide most of the refreshments for a gathering, like catering. I'm used to potluck style gathering, where everyone brings an entree, serving and cleaning up after myself, like I would at home. Unless it's agreed upon before hand, its rude to go to a potluck gathering and bring a bag of chips or soda. You are expected to put some effort in. Given the extended savory culinary skills of the women in my family, I bake. Banana Bread, Pineapple Cake, Apple Cinnamon muffins etc etc.

Take off your shoes before entering a home, wash your dishes, taste EVERYTHING offered to you, turn no one from your door, stuff like that.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
My Dads a Jehovah's witness, we were allowed to choose our religion because our mum is Buddhist

I always grew up with dad saying homosexuality is a sin and saying he would disown me, It hurt me but I found out his faith really elastic when it suits him so I pretty much see it as a joke and he's just a funny old man, he totally accepts me and my brother for being gay now and is even star struck that my little brother is a famous drag queen

Holy shit, dude that's like book material right there.
Ever thought about telling your life story?
Seriously.

Posted by Gennie
Hawaiian and Chinese, with my grandparents converting to Christianity, I've doubled back to Buddhist. Hospitality is the single most important value, and as guests we were expected to treat our hosts' home like we would our own, and as a host to invite others to share in our home like they live there.

Here in the South and in the Midwest, it's custom for the host to provide most of the refreshments for a gathering, like catering. I'm used to potluck style gathering, where everyone brings an entree, serving and cleaning up after myself, like I would at home. Unless it's agreed upon before hand, its rude to go to a potluck gathering and bring a bag of chips or soda. You are expected to put some effort in. Given the extended savory culinary skills of the women in my family, I bake. Banana Bread, Pineapple Cake, Apple Cinnamon muffins etc etc.

Take off your shoes before entering a home, wash your dishes, taste EVERYTHING offered to you, turn no one from your door, stuff like that.

Yum. I mean, I see.
If you don't mind me asking, what about that tradition made you stick with over ditching it?

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by Gennie
Hawaiian and Chinese, with my grandparents converting to Christianity, I've doubled back to Buddhist. Hospitality is the single most important value, and as guests we were expected to treat our hosts' home like we would our own, and as a host to invite others to share in our home like they live there.

Here in the South and in the Midwest, it's custom for the host to provide most of the refreshments for a gathering, like catering. I'm used to potluck style gathering, where everyone brings an entree, serving and cleaning up after myself, like I would at home. Unless it's agreed upon before hand, its rude to go to a potluck gathering and bring a bag of chips or soda. You are expected to put some effort in. Given the extended savory culinary skills of the women in my family, I bake. Banana Bread, Pineapple Cake, Apple Cinnamon muffins etc etc.

Take off your shoes before entering a home, wash your dishes, taste EVERYTHING offered to you, turn no one from your door, stuff like that.

Yum. I mean, I see.
If you don't mind me asking, what about that tradition made you stick with over ditching it?

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Hospitality? Because it's good manners? I'm actually having a lively discussion with Scorpie about bringing something to the lunch with his parent's as we are meeting them at their house. I say lively, because everything I've suggested so far, he's shot down.

Posted by Gennie

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by Gennie
Hawaiian and Chinese, with my grandparents converting to Christianity, I've doubled back to Buddhist. Hospitality is the single most important value, and as guests we were expected to treat our hosts' home like we would our own, and as a host to invite others to share in our home like they live there.

Here in the South and in the Midwest, it's custom for the host to provide most of the refreshments for a gathering, like catering. I'm used to potluck style gathering, where everyone brings an entree, serving and cleaning up after myself, like I would at home. Unless it's agreed upon before hand, its rude to go to a potluck gathering and bring a bag of chips or soda. You are expected to put some effort in. Given the extended savory culinary skills of the women in my family, I bake. Banana Bread, Pineapple Cake, Apple Cinnamon muffins etc etc.

Take off your shoes before entering a home, wash your dishes, taste EVERYTHING offered to you, turn no one from your door, stuff like that.

Yum. I mean, I see.
If you don't mind me asking, what about that tradition made you stick with over ditching it?

Hospitality? Because it's good manners? I'm actually having a lively discussion with Scorpie about bringing something to the lunch with his parent's as we are meeting them at their house. I say lively, because everything I've suggested so far, he's shot down.

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Good luck. Does he have a habit of being hard to please?