Are all Aquarius so passive?

Are all Aquarius so passive?

I was talking with my sister's room mate who is an aquarius. She's rooming with someone else next years because this girl is possessive and doesn't want the aquarius rooming with my sister. I asked her what are the perks of rooming with her and she said none. In fact this girl is not only possessive, but mean to her, telling her she should get down to a size small so they can share clothes. And she calls her all the time and gets mad when the poor aquarius is trying to study and can't do things.

This aquarius seriously needs to grow a backbone because this is starting to piss ME off. :rolls eyes:

Sooo how about it aquarius.. do you have problems with being passive? Having a backbone? Or is this just her deal?

Yeah this girl will push or poke to annoy my sister or me when she feels upset or wronged. It's just the little annoying stuff that they know will get to us... I really just hate it. They need to come out and say what is offending them or I'm going to beat it outta them ^-^

Posted by janettam
i really think people are generally passive aggressive. being an aquarius has nothing to do with it.
because in the end, you are the one posting on a forum complaining instead of telling the aquarius to stand up for herself.

The only aquas i know that are not passive aggressive is my girl and my best friend's girl. but mine is a scorpio rising with a quick, albeit cute, temper.i dunno what his is. The other aquas i know happen to all be from other parts of the country. I grew up in the south and passive aggressiveness is a fairly new concept to me as i meet and work with more and more people not from here. So it may be a regional thing or just coincidental. Southerners will generally tell you how they feel in the nicest way possible...ahem...rednecks excluded.

Posted by janettam
i really think people are generally passive aggressive. being an aquarius has nothing to do with it.
because in the end, you are the one posting on a forum complaining instead of telling the aquarius to stand up for herself.

The only aquas i know that are not passive aggressive is my girl and my best friend's girl. but mine is a scorpio rising with a quick, albeit cute, temper.i dunno what his is. The other aquas i know happen to all be from other parts of the country. I grew up in the south and passive aggressiveness is a fairly new concept to me as i meet and work with more and more people not from here. So it may be a regional thing or just coincidental. Southerners will generally tell you how they feel in the nicest way possible...ahem...rednecks excluded.

just cuz we don't talk about it to the sorce of the issue doesn't mean we don't have a backbone. take it as a way of not making things worse

Yes, we always think before we wanna start an argument. ITs coz we dont like to get involved very easily in other people's stuff...
With an aquarian, ask and u shall be given and thats it..

Yes, we always think before we wanna start an argument. ITs coz we dont like to get involved very easily in other people's stuff...
With an aquarian, ask and u shall be given and thats it..

Posted by janettam
i really think people are generally passive aggressive. being an aquarius has nothing to do with it.
because in the end, you are the one posting on a forum complaining instead of telling the aquarius to stand up for herself.

I have told her. Trust me I wouldn't be talking about it on the boards if I hadn't confronted. I'm not the one who needs a backbone. I'm just curious if it's subjective to aquarius. And no people aren't generally passive aggressive. There are a lot who actually know what they want and let people know it.

Posted by candi3bb
just cuz we don't talk about it to the sorce of the issue doesn't mean we don't have a backbone. take it as a way of not making things worse

You know you think that, but but not talking it makes things so much worse. In the long run you're only hurting yourself and making yourself look annoying

my son is aqua and he does have the tendacy to be passive. He is naturally a sweet person but his friends do take advantage of him.

We can be,until we figure out where are backbone is...we just like to be nice so being passive is in our nature,until we figure out how to dominate & when we do....IT'S BAD!

Consider that girl lucky for now. 🙂

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Posted by candi3bb
just cuz we don't talk about it to the sorce of the issue doesn't mean we don't have a backbone. take it as a way of not making things worse

You know you think that, but but not talking it makes things so much worse. In the long run you're only hurting yourself and making yourself look annoying

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I dont think that statement is absolute i mean yeah...she shouldn't be even talking to you all the time about it if shes that bothered. ITs not gonna help herself. it makes her look annoying and in the long run yeah this PARTICULAR situation will be even more affected than others. Shes living with that roommate. so things will eventually blow up.

You should just tell her "then what are you going to do about it?"

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Posted by candi3bb
just cuz we don't talk about it to the sorce of the issue doesn't mean we don't have a backbone. take it as a way of not making things worse

You know you think that, but but not talking it makes things so much worse. In the long run you're only hurting yourself and making yourself look annoying

I dont think that statement is absolute i mean yeah...she shouldn't be even talking to you all the time about it if shes that bothered. ITs not gonna help herself. it makes her look annoying and in the long run yeah this PARTICULAR situation will be even more affected than others. Shes living with that roommate. so things will eventually blow up.

You should just tell her "then what are you going to do about it?"

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I have, she just says "Idk". I mean this girl is passive to the point where it is sickening. Makes me want to beat up her future room mate just so I feel okay with this. *huff*

Posted by janettam
but its foolish to think that everyone should voice their discontentment. i find such people to be immature and underdeveloped. voicing out every dissatisfaction like things as minor as "oh no. my nail broke because you made me carry this bag. this is your fault. blah blah blah." is pathetic. normally people do not change. whats the point of saying anything if i know the other person will just stick to their habits. this aquarius girl probably understand the situation more than you. its easy to criticize other people and tell them how they should run their lives, yet when people tell us to what to do and what not to do, our first reaction is to slam the door in their face.

I'm not saying people should complain about everything. But when someone is hurting you and you let it happen or you annoy them because you aren't strong enough to just "hey, quit it! What you're doing to me hurts my feelings" then that's just sad. And yes I understand people can be like that. I can't do anything about it. Once again this post was made to figure out if all aquas are like this. I can't help that she's that way, but I can be pissed for her because she is my friend and I hate that she's being mistreated.

and so what if the girl is passive aggressive, thats her choice. who are you to tell her how to run her life or even in a sense degrade her. you may be annoyed but she probably has a higher tolerance level than you. don't tell people how to run their life or even insult them because they are not doing what you what them to or how you would normally respond if you were in her place. i think you should be more concerned with your life.

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I actually have a very high tolerance level. Theres a difference between tolerance and being accomidating because you're too scared to say no. Yes it's her choice and while I don't like it I'm not going go to her future room mate and tell her to leave the poor girl alone. I just hate that she's going to be with someone who is so verbally abusive...especially if she complains about to all of us later.

Posted by janettam

in the end, this shouldn't even be in the aquarius section. i hope you know when it comes to personality human behavior and whatnot, psychology and not astrology should come first...

This isn't just about astrology, its about psychology as well, and more importantly what a friend of mine is putting herself through. All through her life she's put herself in situations with people who mistreat her and while I can't stop her, if she does come to me and complains I will give her my personal thoughts on what I think she should do. Before I had only overheard what she was doing and I didn't meddle, but as soon as she started complaining to me that was her seeking my advice. And she even admits it's bad. But because this girl is manipulative, possessive, crazy, she's scared to not room with her anymore. I gave her my thought and I haven't talked to her about it sense. What it comes down to is passive aggressiveness is seen as not having a backbone. And I'm sorry if you see it differently. But really, would you rather have people know that you don't like that they are hurting you or would you like to just stick with it and tolerate it even though you are hurting just for the sake of not hurting that persons feelings? You're just hurting yourself and lowering your value because you're saying "it's ok you can treat me however you want and I'll still be here". It's sickening

Posted by janettam
honey i wasn't born yesterday. i know people like that exist. i am from new york. however, regions shouldn't even be a factor in determining a person's personality. it helps but its a pretty weak. .

You'll learn a lot in the next 4 years of your life, especially about people, trust me. You can't look at regional differences with the eye that they determine individual personalities and egos, that's not what i was implying. But you can most definately see differences in how the people within a region respond to each other...whether it be a less personal bigger metropolitan area or a more openly personal smaller country town. Those types of differences, coupled along with vastly different modes of life do indeed shape personalities in their own ways.

On a side note...I recently read a health article discussing climate and testosterone levels. Believe it or not they determind that hotter climates contained populations that had higher average levels of testosterone (in men) the closer they were to the equator. They were not drastically different, but it was enough to explain a tendecy for more slightly higher rates of aggressiveness.

But i don't want to discredit your point that basically says aggressive and passive-aggressive people exist everywhere.

I've never met a strictly passive Aquarius. However, most of them that I know do tend to be passive-aggressive & there IS a difference.

It's weird. Sometimes we are almost TOO aggressive to the point that it's unnecessary & where we won't let even a speck of dust enter into our box or change our minds on how we oughta react to someone/situations. We can be so blunt, so blatent & so straight-forward, almost to the point that we justifiably look insensitive, cruel or straight up emotionless.

Other times we may be completely passive, allowing EVERYTHING/EVERYONE free room to rain on our parades!

Sometimes we don't feel bad for being so dominant b/c we figure that it's NOT OUR fault that another person allowed that to happen. Other times, we're perfectly ok (well not really lol) with someone being the 1 in charge, in control or with the dominance

Sometimes we Aquas need a BREAK! We're so used to being the good advice givers, the dominant ones in our friendships/relationships, the ones who keep it bluntly real, the ones who spew only from the logic (not emotions) & the ones who have others on edge (vs. it being the other way around!) Aaaah sometimes it feels so damn refreshing to actually play/be dumb, be the one in need of the advice this time, let someone else take charge/control for once and/or sit back & act as if we're clueless sometimes!!! Sheeeeesh!