Confused...

I see from reading the forum that this is typical. I am dating an Aquarius man. I am a Cancer. We work together and have been flirting what, the last six months. We have been dating for the past 3 weeks. This guy confuses me. He seems interested when we are together. When we talk, the things we talk about. He wants to go on a vacation and so on. But the guy never calls me back. Never texts me back as well. We will be in the middle of a conversation and he will say he'll call me right back and won't talk to him till the next day. We talked about it and he just says he has been really busy. Always some type of excuse. But he apologized and has since then tried to change up a little. He doesn't do it so much. Last night he called briefly and said he was going to bed early and he would see me at work the next day. So today I talk to him and told him how I took a drive last night just to get out of the house and away from the chaos and how it was stressing me out. He asked me why I didn't call him. I said because you told me you were going to sleep and I didn't know if I could just call you about something like that. I am sooooo confused. I don't know wether to just sit back and act unattached myself and make him chase me. I feel like I don't want to make a wrong move...

remain unattached, take care of your own feelings and issues, he will allow you so much space to vent it all out and then he will become very distant and aloof, almost as if he doesn't like you anymore

Some Aqua's only want to do what he/she feel like doing and give what she/he feel like giving, some of us get really annoyed at a person needing and expecting some sort of emotional support.

Relax, be genuine and allow him to set the pace, if he says its ok to call then do so sparingly, don't overwhelm him with your stuff, if you can keep YOUR emotions out of the relationship you will do so much better, emotional displays is a huge turn off for some Aqua's.

Intimacy issues d:

seriously...what is with all of the aqua/cancer relationships— it's crazy to me!
aquas and cancers will never get each other if they are typical of their sign...bottom line. they are going to be confusing to us and we are going to be confusing to them 😉

but, yes...keep your distance and let him have his space. yes, sit back...unattach yourself...and let him chase you. keep yourself busy with your life and don't ever change that for him. the more unavailable you are, the better. don't worry about making a wrong move if you are doing this!!!

I feel like I don't want to make a wrong move yea having a move sounds like you're the one chasing, not that there's anything wrong with that but if you're comfortable, why don't you do moves you're comfortable with?

Relax, be genuine and allow him to set the pace, if he says its ok to call then do so sparingly, don't overwhelm him with your stuff, if you can keep YOUR emotions out of the relationship you will do so much better

lol - I'm sorry --- be genuine but she has to not put her emotions in the relationship? This relationship is supposed to last for how long? Or did you mean keep it out until the relationship has progressed further --- surely if she's driven by emotions, this will be keeping a vital part of herself out, right?

She can use her emotions for herself, an Aqua male will not appreciate all that emotional energy, it will feel suffocating and he will soon exit to more emotionally grounded pastures.

If she's having a bad day, go to her best friend/family member/someone she can trust, if she comes to him for support he will listen and seem concerned but he will lose attraction for her and begin to see her as a friend not a potential girlfriend because he's going to feel longterm her emotions will drain him and he will feel she's dependent and Aquas love freedom

i agree wit tiki33

hmm, tiki33, I get what you're saying, sounds like most guys I know not just Aqua - as they don't always get emotional women side.

However, if you read her initial post, this does not sound like a one bad day thing --- sounds like different definitions of the relationship

--- she managed to sort out her need by going out driving but still told him about going out for a drive? So everytime she goes out to best friend or family member, he will know about this - which leads us to the points Bijou2u makes on passive-aggressiveness.

I still wonder if she manages to do all of this in the short-term until he has passed his 'girlfriend' test - will she continue to do this as long as the relationship lasts or will he offer emotional support/understanding then as now gf?

Oh well, Honeygirl, wish you luck 🙂

I'm giving her advice to help her get past the dating stage, women really need to be more conscious of what they say and do during this stage, it doesn't mean be fake but THINK about things on a more broader spectrum.

Men don't want to feel obligated during the dating stage, keep your stuff to yourself until its been fully established that your out of the dating stage and on to more of a longterm relationship.

I feel she did the right thing by taking a drive and all although he said it was ok to use him as a sounding board, I personally know what men say and what they mean are 2 entirely different things, during dating EVERY woman should grasp this.

If she BE unattached and not ACT unattached he will pursue more from her, want to bond with her more, Aqua men want to be the ones to acknowledge the relationship, this makes him feel in control of the direction he's heading with her, its just not Aqua men, men in general want to steer and lead relationships to attain a level self control by being the primary decision maker of how things are going to be in his life.

She's dating, its too soon to involve him in her stress and men tend to associate good things and bad things with women as anchor to decide if she's making him feel good or bad, if she comes with emotional stresses etc he will listen and allow her to lean but that doesn't mean its a good thing, he will do like most men do and categorize her in some way or another as a deciding factor to pursue more, just keep it light and fun during the dating process, save the rest for later when things get deeper and more serious

Now I'm really confused... So many different opinions and ideas. For number one when I say act I don't mean literally... I mean I feel more attached then he seems to be. So I feel I need to just back off a little bit. I actually decided I am just going to date other people. Cause hey, even though I like him so much. He may not be the one for me. I think he is a great guy. And your right... I should just be myself... Its just good to know that hey this is typical Aqua trait...