Why doesn't aqua man ever call?

some of you may already know my story. i appreicate all your insight just trying to figuer it out.


the aqua guy i like has told me once i made his heart melt when i went to see him play his passion lacrosse. When i was upset he told me i had a beautiful soul and couple of times as we were saying goobbye he has said "ciao bella" in a very serious tone (he is half italian). after all this flirting and what not

why doesn't he ever call he has my number its trying my aries patience.

whenever i call he talks and sometimes he texts me back. my aries fire wishes he would call all the time. but that is not the aqua way is it?

for most of the flirting we've done i was living with my ex. the miuete i moved out we went on a date. i just got scared and didn't use my aries charm on him.

he is 25 and i am 35 lives with 3 male roomates all around the same age. he works at a gym and has tons of friends both male and female. asked me once to get my cell phone fixed so he could contact me. you know when he told me i melted his heart i don't think i responded correctly i just blushed and played it off as nothing.

what is following up? we planned to something else soon. plus i just got out of a 10 yr relationship i think one of his friends are telling him to back off.

Well I suppose you could look at the options:

1) He's not interested.
2) He's just actually busy, and being a guy doesn't think it's a big deal not having called you yet.
3) He wants to see if you're prepared to persue him, thus he is awaiting your call.

You know what I would do? Call him, find out, and stop obsessing over it lol.

if he was a player he wouldn't wait till i moved out. i just spent 13 years of my life with a leo and he caused me nothing put heartache.

i want to hear from the aqua people

and he offered me tickets to the next game and better seats.

I have to say LK I'm feeling obsession here too.

Aries girl let me tell you one thing if what you are looking for is an answer from an Aqua guy perspective (which by the way all 3 of us ladies here have plenty of experience with) well you say you want him to call you all the time, you obsess about why he's not called you, and you "follow" him around.

I'm sure most Aqua guys would agree with me when I say this behaviour is likely to make them run a mile. It screams clingy, and an Aqua male loves his independence and freedom above all else.

Sorry but that's how it is, you did ask.

And I'm sorry things didn't work out with your Leo and that he hurt you, but seriously you sound like you need reassurance at this point and seriously Aqua boy isn't going to give it to you.

You'd be better focusing on yourself, get yourself back together and stop looking for reassurance from someone who can't give you it.

lol LK yeah.

Aries girl seriously if you want a relationship with an Aqua male you absolutely have to be your own woman, you have to show them that you can stand on your own two feet, be independent and allow them the same.

"We don't know what he is thinking, no matter how much experience we have had with Aqua men, they are all different.."

This is true SF, all I'm saying is that she should be focusing on herself at this point in time, build herself back up. Not worrying about some guy who isn't giving her what she wants, reassurance and affection.

I know SF I know.

Which is why I said just call and find out, like you said though nothing heavy just call up and say hey how are you.

LOL @ LK, well I suppose it's better than sitting there freaking out about it and wondering why he's not called.

I truly do believe that there is much merit in the phrase.....ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

Any person can say ANYTHING to anyone and not mean a darn word of it especially if it is the EGO speaking. I know many men who flatter a woman just to see her response to him...he wonders if he still possess that magical male charm - this IS the EGO's food.

Always pay attention to what a man says...log it somewhere in the crevices of your brain for safe keeping and then observe (this is what a smart Fox will do) the ACTIONS of the male species. Note if his words and actions are in sync. If they are not - this is known as a RED FLAG and to a smart fox is signals......move on away from that critter!

just for the record...... i have yet to pay for the workout sessions. and i started working out with him when i still with me ex. we were divoriced 2 years ago but still stayed living together he even know my ex.

"just for the record...... i have yet to pay for the workout sessions."

AGIL - whose record? he may just be a nice guy doing a nice thing for a friend - this does not necessary mean that he is in love with you or that it signals a forth coming relationship. Perhaps accept it as a wonderful gift and let it be just that without any attachment?

necessary.....necessarily - yeah, that is what I meant to type.

*runs to grab MORE coffee!

I agree with UC - if they want you, you will know. They will make it known....they may do it in their own off-beat way but you wont wonder.

Hi, AGIL. I am an aqua male who has also just started seing an aries girl, I will try and be as honest as posible!!

I reckon you should leave him to it. This is the only way to establish if he is pissing around with you or if he 'testing' as people like to say. Depending on his chart, he will act differently in different scenarios so it is hard to say at face value.

As an aquarian male, i love confidence, passion and mystery in a woman. confidence bacause its attractive, passion because I am way too passionate for my own good and I want to know she can keep up( aquarians arn't all dead inside!) and mystery, well, because I like to keep guessing as for me this adds depth cos she is not giving it all up in an instant.

So rushing in is probably not the best way to handle things cos really, you need to find out if he is for real.

I hope this helps!!

My aqua was the one that rushed in!! Phew, couldnt get rid of him..maybe its age?? Or my libra charms 🙂

Thanks for some more positive feedback I was getting a little depressed yesterday reading what leokitten had to say.


I agree that a person usually has a good idea if someone likes them. I think he does like me. I have looked at my situation from all angles. He does return my calls. And answers whenever I call, I just was wondering why he never just called to talk since we talk so much when we are together. Maybe he just doesn't like the phone

my bf only phones if there's something really important to say..otherwise it can wait until he see's me.

i guess i should have reworded my question. Even though they don't call all the time doesn't mean they aren't thinking about me or care about me right?

he always mentions the text i sent or that i called but he doesn't voluntarily call back. i feel he likes talking in person better.

a day or two no longer. i really do feel he likes me just as much but I am dealing with a slow poke. Even the other day. I looked him straight in the eye to say something and then looked away. He said "you just looked deep into my eyes then looked away what's up" he said in a serious tone too.

''I looked him straight in the eye to say something and then looked away''

Hey AGIL, why did you look away? I'm Aries too but can't look people in the eye - I just cant. Any other Aries do the same?

tell me about it. I keep getting shy and he keeps getting bored. I wanted to say something really profound but lost my nerve

Go for it! You don't have to try to be profound, just be yourself...

We can be very shy as not comfortable with emotional intimacy as opposed to sexual intimacy - embracing it makes it easier to work with instead of trying to be brave all the time 😛

But yea, in my experience, Aqua uses eye contact - don't know why but you don't have to do it if it makes you uncomfortable - good luck!

He has given me a few chances and either totally blow them or miss them all together.

I am really at a lose with this. My intuition is pretty good I guess I just need to sit and think about everything and realy dig deep for what my true feelings are.

dxp may have interfered it seems? 😛