Confused.

Posted by Impulsv
He's married 😢

why would you think so ?

Just one question: Has the contact so far between you two online only and in text form?

Posted by aquasnoz
Just one question: Has the contact so far between you two online only and in text form?

Yes.

Okay I'll offer some opinions because in all honesty I usually just write these situations off as two people in various stages of life, feeling a tad lonely and a touch insecure in need of companionship who inevitably falls into the trap of thinking online only dating can get somewhere.

So I'll lay out the obvious because these questions will probably at one stage apply to both of you. What are you expectations? Do you intend for this to blossom into a full blown relationship whereby either he moves or you move to be with each other? What are the consequences? If he is a family man as you said and you being based in India (correlation with strict family values), how realistic do you think this match up is?

I'm not saying situations like this never works out but there needs to be a glue that holds you guys together, there needs to be an incentive to be together. When majority of the contact is limited to texting you're not really getting the full picture of him. He can tell you whatever he wants to, so you can never make a full assessment of his character. There really needs to be a physical component somewhere along the line. Can you guys look into each other eyes, hear the trembles or pride in each others voices?

I can go on but you get the idea. If it is just two lonely hearts, indulge in it if you will but don't create delusions. Address things immediately, ask him what he means be going forward, why does he not have a contact number, don't leave it to speculation.

aquasnoz - Thank you for the matured response.If we both are genuinely interested ,this can result in a serious relationship.I hold the option to move to US if I really want to .As far as I know(based on what he said) he is no more interested in casual one-s.So if he comes again ( if he is not genuine , there is no chance he would confront me again)I would pose this question about numbers ?

Sorry going to cut this short because I'm heading into work.

Would definitely ask him regardless because it seems to me you are thinking about taking it further. It's a personal opinion but you want to avoid the bullshit when it comes to online communication especially given what you've described, I find that really sketchy that he does not have a personal contact number.

I get busy at work too, but never busy enough to not at least make the effort to talk to someone I genuinely like. Another Aqua Krys or Tiki might offer you a good insight into men who abuse this 'online charm' and I wouldn't dismiss that he might just be one of those types.

Anyway, the only way to know for sure is by asking him, it'll avoid the whole confusion and cut your losses while it's still 'new'.

hm.thank you aquanoz.