Did I handle this wrong? Aqua M Virgo F

Back in December I met a Aqua man at work, we were teasing each other platonically but me not thinking he would want more from me after that let my guards down and played with him (teasing). He asked for my digits and I gave it to him because I felt guilty for getting him excited about how much fun we just had (10 mins of fun). I was in a relationship as of Nov 19th and this was so new that I wasn't done with making friends just in case.

Aqua man and I talked that night for about 45mins, really cool conversation. Afterwards we were just text buds and mainly humorous forwards. he remembered I liked cheesecake and brought me a huge slice from his restaurant where he was chef. it was really sweet and I felt a little guilty because I could see where this was going and I was involved with someone else.

He never pursued more with me until after my then bf broke things off with me. So, I went out to dinner with him and it was beautiful. I definitely felt like he would make the perfect mate. Except that we lived 2hrs apart. He lived 30mins from my job in the opposite direction of where I lived. I work 1.5hrs away from my home. In addition, he works Thursday through Monday anywhere between 1pm and midnight. He is off on Tuesday and Wednesday in which he thought these would be good days for us to spend time together mainly while I was at work he wanted to come up and see me or after work in which the night of dinner I got hom around 10pm on a worknight. Driving 1hr 15mins from the restaurant.

Eventually, I felt compelled to tell him that this wasnt going to work because I asked how does his job affect his social life (meaning dating) he said most of his exes were in the same line of work so they were off at the same times. He hasnt done LDR but promised he could come visit me three times a week. I felt like he wasn't seeing the big picture and because I just got out of a relationship and wasn't completely ready for a possible disappointed I told him we should just be friends. He said that he would prove me wrong and I will see that we can work.

He bought me something that he wanted to surprise me with at this point I felt like enough was enough so on Valentines Day I told him that I had a girlfriend that I wanted to hook him up with. That she was beautiful, smart, single, no children (like him and unlike me) and that she lived 5mins from his job. He told me that he doesn't like blind dates and that he prefers to meet people on his own. Caught an attitude thinking I didnt want to be bothered with him at all. I told him we would be friends and he said that he would bring his friend a surprise up to my job. I was out on to lunch and told him that I would be back at 2pm. Never heard anything else or saw him or got my gifts.

I sent him a text telling him thanks for proving me right that if he couldn't keep a promise from 5mins away that how did he expect to keep one from 2hrs away. He later responded that he had to be in work before I would get back and if that's how I want to carry it then so be it. I responded that there was no way for me to know that he was not able to make it due to that and that he could have said that at the point that I told him I would be back in the office. Haven't heard anything back from him since.

I had asked my gf prior to asking him about the hook up and she was cool with it. She was fresh out of a relationship with a man she's been allowing to come back and forth in her life because seh loved him but after this time she wantee to definitely be done with him. I figured the Aqua and her (Sagittarius) would be good together and since he was handsome, a gentleman, outgoing, and available spontaneously to hang out that it would work for dating.

I have yet to tell her that he's MIA and that its not going to happen. When he said he didnt want a hookup I told him that I would tell her he declined he came back and said he didnt say he declined but to let him think on it. I don't think he's thinking on it so I pretty much don't want him with her at this point being as though he's showing this side of him.

We have never been intimate and I only allowed him to give me a closed mouth kiss after dinner because I knew that it wasnt going to work based on his availability to date me (time and distance) but other than that nothing else. So, I figured I caught it at a good point to hook him up with someone more compatible.

Where did I go wrong and should I give up on the hook up? Thanks. 🙂

Bump, I came up with a brilliant idea. 🙂

I am going to invite the Sagittarius gf of mine out to eat after work at Aqua man's restaurant when he is at work. Call him to the table and introduce them. 😉

Thanks DCVirgs,

Not sure if what you've said will pan true. So far, so good though. 🙂

Friday after work I met my Sagi friend for dinner at Aqua's restaurant. I only told him I would be having dinner with a friend there and he thought that was hella funny. I think he thought I would be on a date at his restaurant. Well, when I got there I texted him and he came out. Met her, then about 3-4 more times he came out to sit and talk with us. They talked and ganged up on me on a couple of things, all in good fun. They both are NY Giants fans. 🙂 By the end of the night she said she would be interested in getting to know him and he told me I could give her his number.

I also got my gift. It was a tin of valentine's day kisses and the movie Why Did I Get Married (I love this movie). It was very sweet and thoughtful. He and I texted today about the movie and I asked him how did he feel about everything I've done. He told me I hadn't done anything yet and that we're only friends. So, I am so happy about it all. I so hope they are great together. I like both of them and nice people deserve nice people. 🙂