virgo aqua

Hi everyone i just wanted to know if telling an aqua u miss then and wanted to see might send them running away. I have this aqua who has been driving me nuts and yesterday i ignored her all day not on purpose but because i was busy. By doing this she kept texting me all day asking if i was ignoring her. i told her no and that was the last time i heared from her. I didnt want to fight ne more so i told her i miss her and wanted to see her i think i might have really pushed her away now. One more thing i drop off a gift for her and she never even said thankyou (that was so rude to me).



are aquas revengeful?

virgo aqua = nothing but bad news

virgo28 .. your post is very confusing to me ...

I have to say no we are not revengeful, an aqua (most) have to be pushed to cause harm or discomfort to another person. I don't know if this combo is a good one, friendship it's excellent, a love relationship it can go either way. Virgo males can be a bit mechanical emotionally, she's probably picking up on your lack of emotions and it scared her a bit...sounds she might be a bit needy also, don't tell her you miss her or want her anymore, Aqua girls tend to like to be the aggressor and like to chase a bit, you showed her you were available so she doesn't feel the urgency to chase like she was doing once you confessed your feelings...yeah it was rude of her not to say thank you so she might not be the one you want to deal with unless you want a bit of a challenge. I would call her on it for sure

I just went over and read about this scenerio on the Aqua board, virgo28 and it sounds to me like you are showing her an extreme amount of desperation on your part. You kept calling her, showing up at her house .. practically throwing yourself at her.

She disconnected her phone, isn't home when you get there and disregarded your gift to her.

Then once you backed off a tad, she came running to you, throwing a hissy fit because you were ignoring her.

And now when you get ahold of her to tell her you miss her ... she blows you off again.


The writing is on the wall, virgo28 ...

The best thing you can do is to slow down in your emotional chaos about how you feel for her and get back to your natural Virgo frame of mind. She's driving you mad, and you are playing into the insanity by participating in her push and pull game with you.

Aqua's are very emotionally stable and mentally acute ... she's perfectly aware that you are fumbling at her feet, this is why when you back off a tad, she pulls on those strings to bring you back closer, just so she can push you away again.

Swim ... now !!!!!

One very good Virgo friend of mine, from ages past, used to tell me something on a daily basis ....


Don't try to make sense out of nonesense.


And that's what you are trying to do .... you're a Virgo .. this will certainly drive you mad. Your mind doesn't function this way, and if you force it ... you'll self-destruct.

this is probably the best advice i've gotten thank you p angel your right i'm not being myself and i hate that shyt.

P angel u have a couple things wrong i dont really call her i only call if she calls me and i miss her phone call. I've probably only called her 3 times i know the way it comes off is that i'm throwing myself at her but i'm really not. she didnt change her number because of me it was some other situation that had nothing to do with me. I showed up at her house because i had her gift i didnt want to keep holding on to it.I really do feel like a fool for letting my guard down so quick that's unlike me guess it's that aqua charm.

Thanks for the advice everyone this shyt is so hard to just walk away but i think it's best cause i feel like i made a fool of myself and i hate that.

You didn't make a fool out of yourself .. there's nothing wrong with feeling somebody and wanting to express it.

However, a person also has to live within what requires them to be real for themselves ... and a Virgo simply cannot live with these kinds of uncertainties. Sorry, that I messed up on understanding that you weren't throwing yourself at her .. that is just what it sounded like because of the limited information that was provided in which to assess. But, one thing I did understand correctly, and I know to be true very well ... you express several times that it is the uncertainty in where you stand with her that is driving you nuts.

A time comes to us all when we have to tighten our belts and let the natural law of things take over = not everything is in perfect harmony with what we want it to be, so we have to let it pass.

Even if a time comes where she will be willing to be more communicative with you in where she sees a future with you (if any) .. you can't force her hand on it .... you cannot change her into being forthcoming with her intentions. So, your only recourse is to withdraw away from her until she is ready to communicate with you fairly.

Take some time for yourself .... go find your own party, with other friends tomorrow night, and have a good life full of laughter with friends who are wanting you with them to enjoy.

Cheer UP 🙂 ... the right woman is out there for you, and when she finds you, she won't forsake your heart.

p angel your the greatest that's exactly what i needed to hear i think i will take your noble advice.

Sidenote: she called earlier but i missed her call i dont plan on calling her back for a while i think it's best i've already made a fool of myself.

Hahahah of course i caved but not like before she called me 4 times so when she called back i answer and she sincerly thanked me for the gifts. I fealt as if she meant it because she kept saying how much she loved it and about how she's been calling me. She asked what i was doing i told her getting ready to go to a friends party(which was the truth). She told me to please call her. I said ok but i dont plan into falling into the trap again. After we hung up she text me saying she was really greatful for the gift and she hopes i'm not mad. I texted her saying your welcome and drop worry about it. I think this is the right time to step away because i dont know if she realized the games she was playing and figured they were unneccesary or she just wants that control again.

My aqua is still confusing me but i've been kind of vocal with her i told her about how she always rushes me off the phone and how quite she is. Well she started improving she calls me more she always answers my calls. When were having a convo she responds (i told her i hated when she just sat there and listen she said she was just observing she likes to observe rather than talk.) she also told me she hates my criticism. I told her i was sorry and i only did it because i didnt understand her. We had a good week but i havent talked to her in 2 days she's out of town with her fam so i dont want to bother her. I really miss her and i hope i'm not geting my self into trouble. If a relationship doesnt develope from this i sincerly hope a solid friendship will evolve.

PA: "the uncertainty in where you stand... that is driving you nuts."

Does this drive all signs nuts?

It DEFINITELY drives me nuts. I've never thought, pondered, analyzed, obsessed over something so much as to not know where I stand with someone I am without a doubt digging.

Virgo28, I have been with 3 Aquas, one still holds the title of best boyfriend ever. The first one was not someone I would miss romantically but we stuck it out from March to August in the calendar year that we dated. The second was holds the title.

The third one is playing the push and pull game with me. It's a most recent. I went out with him only one time because of our work schedule and distance we live apart I deemed the odds of us working out non-existent. I know myself and I am not interested in putting the time in to something I don't believe in. Well, my elusiveness (disinterest in more) makes him want to challenge my conclusion and prove me wrong. I told him we could be friends and he toys with the phrase but I don't think he has accepted it. I attempted to set him up with a gf more compatible with him than I and he toyed with that too. Told me he would think about it, knew I had told her, but he never got back to me but he still tries to communicate with me. IMO, he's not good enough for her because of the way he handled this. We never had any intimacy going on, just dinner and friendship but I knew he wanted more and that is why I analyzed the situation adn our ability to work and decided early on it wasn't going to work.

He had a gift for me on VDay and I told him it was inappropriate since I have no intentions of getting to know him that way. He came back and said that he "have a gift for his friend" so I told him ok. He was going to bring it to my job, I never saw or heard from him that day. I texted him letting him know thanks for confirming I was right about his ability to stand on his word. He came up with a half-assed excuse as to why he couldnt make it none of which was that his phone was broken and he couldn't let me know. The following week and up til last Friday he texts and calls off and on and I ignore him because I don't have time for the game. No clue if he will just give up. My thoughts are he is enjoying the challenge but if I was to say "ok" to anything he backs down which will ultimately prove my point that a relationship wouldn't be worth trying. My point is, if this is the kind of Aqua that you have the only way you might hold on to he

the only way you might hold on to her is to be a challenge. IMO, she'll miss out on what you really have to offer her which is romance and sincere friendship.

if you play the chase me I'm a challenge game that is.

Just read your update and I can't call it as to whether your distance made her come around or if it's sincerity. Go with your analysis since you are right there in it. Just be careful to not forget that they like challenges. The more difficult the better. Why that is I don't know.

MsAristocracy your aqua qould drive me wild he's playing too many games.



update on my aqua we spent most of the day togeather yesterday, went to luch and then came back to my house.

while at my house we just lay on my bed watching t.v, at first she was really far away from me then she start inching closer to me. I'm so shy that i didnt know if i should touch her. I wanted her to lay on me so bad but i didnt have the nerve to put my arms around her.

i touch her head and asked her if she was sleep and it seemed like she caught an attitude saying she wasnt sleep.
I cant read this girl but ne way after we lay down for a little bit longer she just jumped up and said she wanted to leave. So i was a little pissed i know she could tell but i gave her a hug when she was leaving.


Am i the only shy virgo? i swear i think too much

if an aqua came to your house and layed with you does that show intrest because today on the phone she was mentioning how cute someone else was. I dont like to hear shyt like that i'm not jelouse but keep that shyt to yourself.

MsAristocracy your aqua *would drive me wild he's playing too many games.

:: scratches head and goes to Pisces Board to check dates of recently-exing relationship with Pisces Man ::

P angel y r u scratching your head?

virgolove,

i am an aqua, and i am just gonna tell u certain things u should know. I donno if its too late, but the thing about being too shy to hug her in bed is just too much. She likes u alot and is there with you, waiting for u to do something abt it. She came closer to and u ignored her and to her its like telling her, i am not really interested in you that much. After a while, when u still didnt touch her, she was getting irritated with u and just had to leave the place b4 she blows up and spoils the relationship.

She talked to u on the phone, which means she forgived u, herself for expecting too much yest and trying to make u jealous enough to make the next move. And u still didnt show any jealousy, which is like to her, oh god he is really not interested in me that much...

And one more thing, even when she leaves for the weekend with family, just msg her something, which will tell her u thought abt her. And if she msgs u right back, she has been thinking abt u all the while...haha....good luck

An opinion from any Virgo female on my problem would be much appreciated 🙂

Aqua male here have been knowing this virgo girl for a long time. However we were never keeping contact in regular basis. We were having a kind of "let's flirt once in a while but that's up to it" kind of relationship. We managed once to arrange to go out as in go out to see what is this flirting all about (not that we were talking about it) but that was after me having to chase it and also she puts it in her schedule. It was arranged but eventually I couldn't make it that day. She was calling to convince me to go.

Now a few months later, we arranged something new and I'll make sure I'll go. But the thing is I know virgos are flirty but how do I know if she's interested for more ? I mean she obviously knows I like her but is virgo the kind who will give false hopes just for the sake of flirting ? Or will she "punish you for liking her" like scorpio ? I get the feeling that either she is confused so with the right time and moves from my end she will open herself or it's all about flirting.

Heeeeelp

Sthg might help : I met her in uni like 1-2years ago, last arrangement was like 6months ago, she had/still has to do coursework and work placement, I've been working the last 1,5 years and during the start of my career so I didn't have much free time either.

Tas

Hmmm ok do you know what her moon sign is or what her birth chart looks like cause you can't really go by sun sign alone ..... and it could explain why she is flirty......hmm normally when a female virgo flirts with you.....it means she is interested....I wouldn't give a person the time of day if I'm not interested but if she is ....let say has a air moon it could explain the flirting part....also if she is close to the Virgo/Libra cusp ...and trust me I know.......this kind of Virgo tends to be very flirty...so it could just be the way she is or she might be interested in you

Well it was too bad.......you missed the "date"....especially if she was calling you to go....which was a good sign cause she wanted to interact with you and believe it's rare for a virgo to actually try to convince someone to go out...so that was an missed opportunity

Normally virgos aren't really know for there flirty natures unless close to the Virgo/Libra cusp....I'm not the flirty type....but once I get really comfortable and become really interested then I'll def start flirting and teasing 🙂

I can't really comment on the giving false hope thng.......cause everyone from all zodiac signs experience the same thing/ or do that....so I don't think that is "Virgo" thing

but please do go to the next get together!!! it will be good and could answer alot of your questions or atleast.. you can more information on her and it will be a good time to communicate/ get to know eachother.. which is what virgos like ...we like to have a nice chat where we can exchange ideas and be mentally turned on ......Aquas and Virgos are mental creatures so mentally connect with her and she will def notice you a whole lot more but most important and above all else be yourself......nothing more of a turn on then that and also like her and accept her for who is she also.....

hope it helped a bit 🙂

Virgo28: "Am i the only shy virgo? i swear i think too much

if an aqua came to your house and layed with you does that show intrest because today on the phone she was mentioning how cute someone else was. I dont like to hear shyt like that i'm not jelouse but keep that shyt to yourself."

HOLY SHIT!!!

Ok, let me address the easy part. NO... you're not the only shy Virgo. I mean in spite of what P-Angel thinks, I am a shy Virgo. 🙂 Shy as in unsure of how to move forward when I like someone and am not sure if they like me the same and more so equally as much. And, YES... I think too much too. Sometimes I wish I didn't. I analyze every action and it's uncontrollable. Can't stop. I say more in my head than I say verbally to that person. I can have a relationship with someone all by myself based on the communication that goes on in my mind about the 5 W's and 1 H. It's nerve wrecking. Glad to see I am not alone. Is your birthday on the 28th or are you 28y/o? My bday is the 25th. Just wondering if you're 1st decantes too.

Ok, my 1st Aqua guy did this to me. too. The last part of my quote of yours. We were dating, and I was about to buy my 1st car and asked him to drive me to the dealership which was along a highway so not really accessible by public transportation. Well during this car ride he tells me about some woman older than him that he met in Blockbuster Video and who he was so fascinated by her and how exciting she was. He told me about their first date and how amazing it was. Now mind you, he and I were still within our relationship. We started talking February end and this was late April so we were still very much actively dating. After that time and after I got my car I pretty much got over him but dealt with him off and on (for sex) until August when I started clubbing and meeting more men. I had never had someone disregard a relationship with me that way. Very interesting learning that it's happened again with another Virgo and Aqua. What could that be about? Why do they think we would be excited with them. Buggers... lol.

Virgo28: "MsAristocracy your aqua *would drive me wild he's playing too many games."

Hey, hey now. He's not my Aqua. You know he and I ended up being friends for real. I made the executive decision to invite my gf to his restaurant and told him we would be there in the 11th hour. We all had a great time, by the end of the night she said she was interested in getting to know him and he gave me permission to give her his number. Unfortunately, they both never actively tried to get to know each other. To date they both give excuses about why they haven't spoken on the phone one good time. Always short phone calls and bad promises to call back.

I haven't seen him since that dinner (Feb 29th) but he and I have a text friendship, we have a battle going on about who can fwd the most original creative and insulting text forward. It's actually pretty funny. He won't entertain me but so much whenever I ask about him and her. It's like he wish I would realize it aint going to happen. As for her, she has bailed on a girls night with me and our other friends and I am not sure why. She's distanced herself a bit. I really hoped they would hit it off. So, I will talk to her tomorrow to see what's up with that.

aquawithvirgolove, Virgos aren't moved by jealousy. We're big on saying "F*ck it!" and letting the shyt play out on it's own. Virgo's HATE games, we don't get them and prefer not to give our energy towards that. Besides, games would mean that someone else is yo-yo'ing our feelings around and we're not into being uncertain if someone loves us truly. I understand your point to Virgo28 but she is being a true Virgo and analyzing the behavior vs. playing into it. Virgos find the flow and go with it, if you're quiet we're quiet. We're like mice, we sneak out after so much silence but then if we see danger up ahead we pull back (to analyze). That's all we really know. 🙂

Starblue, you said it best. "normally when a female virgo flirts with you.....it means she is interested...."

Thanks all for your advise. Btw this virgo must like to be chased as much as good she is on flirting. Have been texting her today and no reply, I'm sure she won't came back to me at all. She has done it again. Makes me believe there's an even more aloof creature out there than aquas. I would at least find some excuse when I dissapear to tell others in a way that I want to be alone.

wow 5PhDs eh? lol believe me I can be aloof (im an aqua for God's sake) but seems something in my chart breaks it as I can't stand not contacting someone I like not constantly but now and then. Besides she replied today ie 2 days later 😉 Grrr and it's 3 weeks since we meet, how do u expect me not to contact her since then ?

ok some updates people just to keep interest going :p
she suggested we go together with her peeps on that day or alt on a bday party
my reply on msn is below (during work)

- hey i need to go to a meeting and then i finish at 5

- well bday plans with peeps would be a nice saturday but I had the image we arranged sthg (roller skate) for 2 for us

- and we would both enjoy exploring each other's mind as it seems we do via msn isn't it ?

- if you believe I should join your friends that's cool but I fancy your company more

- don't get me wrong, no pushing or trying to ruin things, I just believe honesty is the best policy 🙂

- think of it (carefully) I'll be back home by tonight, enjoy

just leaving work, looking fwd to your reply people 🙂

Thank you all for your insight, I've learnt a lot about virgos (and myself).

However this story has ended as I had a direct discussion with her but she turned me down. Very cleverly and mature through but still hurts 🙂 After all virgos are flirty making you became more direct and then express themselves. They don't seem though to be fully aware of what they doing, others may interpret their behaviour.

All the fuss was helpful as an aqua I seek improvement so I've learned a lot from that.