Do us Aqua guys give off the wrong impression?

sometimes ..all the time?

hey. im an aquarian male. believe it or not i keep in touch with a lot of my ex's. ive had many conversations regarding out past with each other etc... Ive also talked to the more recent women in my life, and it seems like they have all had the same 1st impression of me across the board. it seems as a lot of ladies see me as some sort of "conceited-player", type guy. either that or they felt that i was purposely being "stand-offish" for the 1st couple of months of meeting me. Some even said that they felt a little intimidated. even close friends of mine both male (although i dnt care about them) and female have said that it was kinda hard to get to know the "real" me.
I guess i just want to know why? i dont think im that un-approachable. it hasn't stifled my sex life, but i fear that it may pose a problem when i try to find a person i'd like to have a serious relationship with. im very busy with school and work etc.. and i have to say thats where my mind is at most of the day, but i dont know if thats making me a difficult person to know exactly (if that made any sense).
i like to look nice (kicks & stuff) and i do have a good amount of friends, but im far from a player... i like playing world of warcraft and talking about geo-politics (more of a cool nerd). what should i do to heat up this chilly persona im constantly givin' off. Can i? is it even in my "nature".

ohh yea I have both my sun and moon in aquarius if it means anything
andecant in Sagg

Well I am a woman and have pretty much heard the same from all my guy friends. The latest label for me has been the ever so popular "unapproachable" *rolls-eyes*...apparently its just my face and basically the way I carry myself (apparently I come of as snooty too), because once they get to know me I am really nice.

I have come to the conclusion that I really can't change my face ! lol
Most of these conclusions are drawn up prior to people getting to know me or speaking to me period, so I honestly have no idea how to now let that happen.

I must admit it is difficult to get to know me on a personal level. I've had friends and crushes; people in general say it. Its just really hard for me to relate to others or atleast let myself relate to others. In fear of just being misunderstood, labeled weird (b/c I can be), or just general cultural differences. I try to test out the waters with my trust...I dont trust easily. I'm very friendly and can hold all kinds of conversations, but I shy away at giving any information about myself even if its the most mundane...its still my personal information. I always say aquas can be just as secretive, if not more than scorps. I have tried to overcome it though, it finally (lol) dawned on me that a relationship, whether it be a bff, bf/gf, SO, whatever, only has a chance to evelove if your just as open as the other person. SO, with that I have gotten closer to more people and now have two people I can label a best friend...just have to work on the boyfriend label *cringe* lol

Im just as lost as you are with this so I don't think I can offer any real advice and it seems we both have venus in cap...so good luck to the both of us. 🙂

Posted by Aqualeo
Why would you change you for other people?

The best thing in life I think is being true to yourself.

When a serious relationship comes then you can decide how much you want to compromise.

Until then at least your friends should love you for who you are and not what they want you to be.

I felt the same way and still do in regards to me being unapproachable,etc...but I did have to compromise in the fact that when try to build any relationship its definitely a give and a take. I still struggle with it, but I can honestly say I am trying now.

I conider myself a cool nerd as well. I think most air signs would. 🙂

oh your not the venus in cap guy...
There are a lot of new aqua guys lately

Welcome...your insights will be much appreciated, trust me 🙂

Oh for sure. I'm still very selective with my information. I don't tell my sister (cancer) A LOT of things because she goes and runs her mouth in an instant to anyone who will listen. I learned the hard way many years ago just because she's family doesn't mean she can't be on a need-to-know basis.

My Gemini friend/roommate also has a diarrhea mouth (whats up with the people born in 1983?)...I don't tell him anything anymore.

My two bffs (a libra guy and a leo girl) I have found can't keep MY information to themselves and not use it maliciously, which is probably why there my bestfriends.
🙂

Posted by Lady_M

My two bffs (a libra guy and a leo girl) I have found can't keep MY information to themselves and not use it maliciously, which is probably why there my bestfriends.
🙂

Wait, I've read this sentence over a few times.

They can't keep your information to themselves? But they are your best friends? :S

I think everybody gives off the wrong impression at times, unless you get to know someone then you have to go on assumptions about that person.

oops I meant *can

Posted by Lady_M
oops I meant *can

Ah I was thinking that but I had to check, I thought you might be a bit crazy for a moment!

Posted by normalisboring
It irritates me to no end. "Doesn't anyone THINK these days?" is a question I find myself asking every time someone thinks i'm depressed when i was thinking to myself "how much a KFC meal box cost again?". It's a question I find myself asking EVERY damn day to be honest.

ahhahhahahhahahahhahahha

People tell me I give off an unapproachable vibe from time to time. That's either because I'm out of my element or I'm busy scanning the room and watching everyone else, talk to me after I've run for 20 minutes on a treadmill or finished crossing over every mofo on the court and it'll be like we've been best friends since grade school.

Well, are these people thinking these things because you are confident OR because they weren't confident enough to step to you in the moment? There's always 2 sides. Sure, alot of Aquas kind of have a "standoffish" or intimidating stance, but if only others knew, we aren't purposely wanting to wear a sign on our heads that says "Don't approach us."

Aquas have a different air about them & half of the time, our uniqueness & "oddball" mentality projects onto others before they even meet us or speak to us. And sometimes they mistake this unexplainable vibe from us as conceitedness and/or being too good for others. And hey, of course there are conceited Aquas out there too. For the most part, Aqua's main goal is not to be the cocky one that no one can't stand or won't approach. We don't see any gain from being that way. Sure we like to stand out, to be different AND to appear off-limits from the people who aren't on our level, but if only people would gain the confidence to step to us & THEN make their assessment of us, they'd be suprised at how opposite we really are from what they initially thought.

Alot of people say, "Wow, you're nothing like I thought you were!" And I respond by saying, "Seems like that's more YOUR problem then it is mine."

When I am walking somewhere, (especially in public) I always look straight ahead. Alot of people mistake this for me being conceited. No, I don't stare at the ground while I'm walking & NO, I don't look from side to side all the time to see whose staring/looking at me. I literally look straight ahead as if I'm the only person in my world. And hey, according to body langauge experts, this type of walking sends out the message of confidence to confident people & conceitedness to insecure people.

Now, if I started meeting people who were confident to step to me because of the confidence in themselves, & not neccesarily based on over-analyzing me to make that decision to step to me, & if these types of people were telling me I came off as arrogant, then maybe I'd take a look in the mirror & start wondering why more than 1 person keep saying the same things. But it's normally only the people who are insecure & non-confident that always have something to say about how unapproachable I am. The confident people never have this problem with me. And since other confident people are the ones I prefer to mingle with, only their opinions matter, if at all

"Alot of people say, "Wow, you're nothing like I thought you were!" "

Same here and even if it's not spoken you can definitely see there demeanor change.



I always say, "The weak need not apply."

There's not much else I can do about other peoples assumptions. *shrug*

Exactly. Nicely put Lady M