HELP help my ex aqua is showing interest AGAIN!

OK this is like sooo FREAKING ME OUT!!!
As I mentioned earlier on this website that I cut off anyway of contacting my ex aqua. He was still on my list but still invisible and pointless cuz we never talked!
Accidentally my sis contacted him by mistake she got mixed up with his name and someone else with the same name.
Anyways he kept asking her about me..how is she blah blah. She told me hes saying hi and i still never made contact.
After some time I apologized to him saying sorry that my sis got mixed up and that will try not to repeat that mistake. He was acting all sweet like its ok no problem blah blah

TO make the story short is that he started talking to me more. instead of saying just one word, now hes writing lengthy convos and opening up with me about he PRIVATE FAMILY life like b4. He started asking me questions about my life and family and he actually said he is CONCERNED about me. And he showed signs of jealousy when he knew I told some guy on facebook happy birthday.
the recent SHOCKING thing is that he started calling me with my old nick name the one he used to call me with before.
yesterday we had a nice convo. I usually talk about general things related life like politics, education, music...so ONE good thing we have is that our convos were always stimulated except ofc the time we broke up he stopped talking to me completely and even if we talked it would be v short and dull. and he would sometimes not even reply to me. Till i decided to completely stop talking to him

I NEED HELP! I dunno if hes falling for me again?? or is he just in that moment where he is not gettin along so well with his current GF and just wasting time with me. Why would he keep asking me "R u ok?" whenever I disappear for a little. what is changing him.
Im not really falling for him even though I would love to but I know he is not mine now, he has a girl. I wont take a man from his girl and certainly wont accept it if he leaves her for me. If he wants to dump her its up to him but not for me!
Im also scared that maybe he wants to use me again or something. I dont know!!!!!
Any opinions about whats goin on with him plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..................

Oh and one more thing. I always try to end our convos. like yesterday I told him i gotta go sleep and I had to leave the convo. He kept on going and going talkin talkin but eventually I said politely with a smile good night and thats it. the final thing he said was "we will talk v soon"

sooooooooooooo..............emm any suggestion here? I dunno if hes really having feelings for me again after the talks we had or is he playing something evil to trick me? or test me?
we only talked about 3 times so far after not talking for monthsssssssssss almost a year!

you're just an option right now.

Don't give him that much of your time anymore, limit the convos. Keep ending them they way you have. If you're on your way out..and its something fun, mention it...for ex: "It was nice talking to you, but I'm about to head out to this Rihanna concert. I'm sure we'll catch up soon..have a good evening..bye!" --BAM. The silence and the boredom he will FEEL.


While its nice to keep in touch.. he DID set the tone. NOW you have the power to do as YOU wish and treat him as YOU wish. and he has NO choice but to deal with it. KEEP your life details private..and He is not interested in getting with you again. He is just curious to see if you yourself have moved on. and you HAVE.

Posted by TAURUSbelle
Don't give him that much of your time anymore, limit the convos. Keep ending them they way you have. If you're on your way out..and its something fun, mention it...for ex: "It was nice talking to you, but I'm about to head out to this Rihanna concert. I'm sure we'll catch up soon..have a good evening..bye!" --BAM. The silence and the boredom he will FEEL.


While its nice to keep in touch.. he DID set the tone. NOW you have the power to do as YOU wish and treat him as YOU wish. and he has NO choice but to deal with it. KEEP your life details private..and He is not interested in getting with you again. He is just curious to see if you yourself have moved on. and you HAVE.

I agree. Why do women pay so much attention to their exes.

If you broke up. Ignore him completely.

I did and they don't bother me anymore and they found other people and then that's when we became friends again.

Taurusbelle, he probably wont give a damn thou lol, so many other interesting people to talk to anyway, INCLUDING SELF. No boredom at all when you can play with sock puppets by yourself.

@ScorpioFemale79

It is understandable..it takes experience to get to this "comfortable with self" point, to just Simply let go...Taureans take time to "Let go"..its like a throwing away a nice pair of jeans that hugged your curves so nicely, but now its time to clean out..SO I feel her pain. But me personally, the older I get, the less I GIVE a Fk about an ex.

I do agree, Its best to wait till the "Scales are even"..(Meaning you Both have someone, or YOU have someone and THEY don't..lmao)..in order to become friends again.

Posted by WaterCup
Taurusbelle, he probably wont give a damn thou lol, so many other interesting people to talk to anyway, INCLUDING SELF. No boredom at all when you can play with sock puppets by yourself.

LOL! Picturing you playing with sock puppets! hahaha!

Posted by WaterCup
Taurusbelle, he probably wont give a damn thou lol, so many other interesting people to talk to anyway, INCLUDING SELF. No boredom at all when you can play with sock puppets by yourself.

He May, or May not give a damn, but he'll definitely be -MINUS a HUMAN puppet.

Truecap, anything to keep boredom at bay. We honestly almost never get bored lol. My two big toes have been on numerous dates with each other. Just saying

Taurusbelle, again no problem, we arent too fond of people anyway. I'm being honest here lol, not trying to be sarcastic or anything. He'll probably just sigh and move on to the next interesting thing, like his earwax for example.

Posted by TAURUSbelle
@ScorpioFemale79

It is understandable..it takes experience to get to this "comfortable with self" point, to just Simply let go...Taureans take time to "Let go"..its like a throwing away a nice pair of jeans that hugged your curves so nicely, but now its time to clean out..SO I feel her pain. But me personally, the older I get, the less I GIVE a Fk about an ex.

I do agree, Its best to wait till the "Scales are even"..(Meaning you Both have someone, or YOU have someone and THEY don't..lmao)..in order to become friends again.

I pretty much waited a few years before getting in touch with him again when I knew that he wouldn't try and crawl back to me again.

He was a serial monogamist.

So things are fine now. Karma got him over the years for being a dick so I'm happy for that reason as well.

Posted by WaterCup
Truecap, anything to keep boredom at bay. We honestly almost never get bored lol. My two big toes have been on numerous dates with each other. Just saying

@watercup u seem a very different aquarius from him. He is the type of guy who LOVES love, attention and so on. He gets bored really quick and he is a social person always meeting new clients. Always with family and stuff. I dunno y he is crawling bk to me now. Im just waiting to see if hes goin to ask me if im ok again after not talkin to him for a while.
I just disagree about the part he doesnt care about being alone. He hates being alone and does get bored really fast.

Posted by tiziani
I'm not sure I'm quite understanding. Why would you need help to understand how he feels? First you have to be honest about how you feel and what you want, then act accordingly. If you play games with yourself you will always be vulnerable to him no matter what he or you do, act or behave.

Well thats the thing i am honest with how I feel. I immediately do what my mind and heart tells me to do. But not everythin that the mind and heart says is right! know what i mean? I mean my brain could tell me to keep talkin to him on and on non stop and i would b enjoying it so much but that could lead to him thinking im still all over him and that im desperate or perhaps still not over him.
Its just i wana get a clearer vision of y this guy suddenly showing so much interest when he barely gave any attention to me after we broke up for about 8 months of ignorance.

Posted by Nouran20

Posted by WaterCup
Truecap, anything to keep boredom at bay. We honestly almost never get bored lol. My two big toes have been on numerous dates with each other. Just saying

@watercup u seem a very different aquarius from him. He is the type of guy who LOVES love, attention and so on. He gets bored really quick and he is a social person always meeting new clients. Always with family and stuff. I dunno y he is crawling bk to me now. Im just waiting to see if hes goin to ask me if im ok again after not talkin to him for a while.
I just disagree about the part he doesnt care about being alone. He hates being alone and does get bored really fast.

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Your guy is dominant Taurus right? with a cancer moon? You should look towards the characteristics of Taurus men, and those men with Cancer moons. I'm not sure how Taurus men are in general, but don't they exude a kind of venusian energy that draws women to them effortlessly?

Think Enrique Iglesias, (more him because he has an Air moon)

Posted by ScorpioFemale79

Posted by TAURUSbelle
Don't give him that much of your time anymore, limit the convos. Keep ending them they way you have. If you're on your way out..and its something fun, mention it...for ex: "It was nice talking to you, but I'm about to head out to this Rihanna concert. I'm sure we'll catch up soon..have a good evening..bye!" --BAM. The silence and the boredom he will FEEL.


While its nice to keep in touch.. he DID set the tone. NOW you have the power to do as YOU wish and treat him as YOU wish. and he has NO choice but to deal with it. KEEP your life details private..and He is not interested in getting with you again. He is just curious to see if you yourself have moved on. and you HAVE.

I agree. Why do women pay so much attention to their exes.

If you broke up. Ignore him completely.

I did and they don't bother me anymore and they found other people and then that's when we became friends again.

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I only has one ex which is him. I obviously still have feelings for him. Our nice memories gives me a tingling feeling and butterflies in my stomach. I miss him and totally wish he could be honest and nice to me like b4..those are all wishes in my head. BUT that doesnt mean im stopping my life for him I do every fun thing in the world and If I would love to be with another man on a serious relationship but only if I find that man cuz I DONT WASTE my time with guys who jus wana play for a bit.
so i still have something for him just dunno what it is.

Posted by TAURUSbelle
@ScorpioFemale79

It is understandable..it takes experience to get to this "comfortable with self" point, to just Simply let go...Taureans take time to "Let go"..its like a throwing away a nice pair of jeans that hugged your curves so nicely, but now its time to clean out..SO I feel her pain. But me personally, the older I get, the less I GIVE a Fk about an ex.

I do agree, Its best to wait till the "Scales are even"..(Meaning you Both have someone, or YOU have someone and THEY don't..lmao)..in order to become friends again.

@TAURUSbelle i think u totally understanding me. It is true. I loved him so deepply he was the only relationship i had and guess what I LOVED IT..I know it wasnt so perfect. But I know that if we both put some effort things could flow so well. The most thing that draws us together is how our convos never die out how its always interesting and how we connect intellectually. On the other side I just love a VERY LOYAL MAN..nd ive had tiny issues about that with him. I also know that I was slightly impatient with him. I didnt give him much freedom cuz he was the JEALOUS type that didnt give me much freedom so it was like i was tryna get bk at him..it was revenge or somthn
But from my point of view I could be better than b4 to suit him better..but the REAL issue is that im not sure if he is willing to do the same for me? u know like stop some things that annoy me. We both need to compromise for a healthy r-ship. Not just me!!!

It was the hardest thing to let go. I still have feelings for him a year after the break up. I hate break ups. Ive put so much effort in this r-ship..we planned and built things 2gther. Hate to see it all fall apart. But I moved..............

Now im just silent. Im not talkin to him. Will wait and see if he is really goin to talk again. I mean he already tried to talk twice b4. So ill see. He didnt talk all day today since yesterday's VERY VERY GOOD convo!!!!!!!

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Posted by Nouran20

Posted by WaterCup
Truecap, anything to keep boredom at bay. We honestly almost never get bored lol. My two big toes have been on numerous dates with each other. Just saying

@watercup u seem a very different aquarius from him. He is the type of guy who LOVES love, attention and so on. He gets bored really quick and he is a social person always meeting new clients. Always with family and stuff. I dunno y he is crawling bk to me now. Im just waiting to see if hes goin to ask me if im ok again after not talkin to him for a while.
I just disagree about the part he doesnt care about being alone. He hates being alone and does get bored really fast.

Your guy is dominant Taurus right? with a cancer moon? You should look towards the characteristics of Taurus men, and those men with Cancer moons. I'm not sure how Taurus men are in general, but don't they exude a kind of venusian energy that draws women to them effortlessly?

Think Enrique Iglesias, (more him because he has an Air moon)

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this is his natal chart (without birth time tho)
Sun:27?? 49' in Aquarius
Moon:10?? 52' in Cancer
Mercury:01?? 30' in Aquarius
Venus:16?? 01' in Aquarius
Mars:16?? 16' in Taurus
Jupiter:27?? 24' in Taurus
Saturn:10?? 34' in Capricorn
Uranus:04?? 13' in Capricorn
Neptune:11?? 33' in Capricorn
Pluto:15?? 02' in Scorpio

I dunno if that makes him a taurus dominant—? what u mean by that anyway. taurus appears twice on his chart. His venus is in aqua and cancer in moon. Not sure if moon or venus is considered more powerful here?? He seems like a good mix of earth and air signs

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Posted by Nouran20

Posted by tiziani
I'm not sure I'm quite understanding. Why would you need help to understand how he feels? First you have to be honest about how you feel and what you want, then act accordingly. If you play games with yourself you will always be vulnerable to him no matter what he or you do, act or behave.

Well thats the thing i am honest with how I feel. I immediately do what my mind and heart tells me to do. But not everythin that the mind and heart says is right! know what i mean? I mean my brain could tell me to keep talkin to him on and on non stop and i would b enjoying it so much but that could lead to him thinking im still all over him and that im desperate or perhaps still not over him.
Its just i wana get a clearer vision of y this guy suddenly showing so much interest when he barely gave any attention to me after we broke up for about 8 months of ignorance.

Sure, I get that now that you've spelled it out (sorry, I am an Air sign and we need these things said in words).

My only advice is he has a "current GF" if I am reading you correctly so it would be best to keep any romantic notions out of it.

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well yeah thats logical..i am very cautious and I am trying hard to not fall for his sweetness. Im very careful. I cant just put emotions in something i cant guarantee.

ohh he is earth/air combo. 😢

hmmm well I'm only familiar with fire/water combo personally.

Maybe someone who is and has been in a relationship with someone with earth/air combination can help you....


btw, that's more of a "thinking" person....analytical, logical as earth and air are more thinkers.

water and fire are more emotional, feeling....

hmmm well he does have pluto scorpio and cancer moon. I'm such a newbie at this.

but this is the same freaking guy with the gf? Girl...how many times have i got to tell you? stay away from these men. they are bad karma.

Yes the same guy with the gf..trust me i am far away from him..hes the one who started talkin all nice to me. But he didnt talk today at all. dunno.
I just wana know what the hell hes thinking of.

How can I know more about earth/air combo..he has too much earth on his chart tho

Posted by Nouran20
Yes the same guy with the gf..trust me i am far away from him..hes the one who started talkin all nice to me. But he didnt talk today at all. dunno.
I just wana know what the hell hes thinking of.

How can I know more about earth/air combo..he has too much earth on his chart tho

you can compute it here, his bday

http://www.astrotheme.com/astrological_elements_fire_air_earth_water.php<BR>
ohhhh i just found this new one, it looks really good to read:

http://goldencupcafe.tripod.com/html/the_four_elements.html<BR>
In his Tetrasomia, or Doctrine of the Four Elements, Empedocles described these
elements not only as physical manifestations or material substances, but also as
spiritual essences. He associated these elements with four gods and goddesses - air
with Zeus, earth with Hera, fire with Hades, and water with Nestis
(believed to be Persephone).

In her book, Four Elements in Ancient Greek Philosophy,Tracy Marks describes a
wide-ranging look at earth, fire, water, and air, and the dynamic twin forces of Love
and Strife. Her book takes one to a journey from ancient Greece to alchemy to
Carl Jung??s association of sense, feeling,thoughts and intuition .

Air moves us
Fire transform us
Water shapes us
Earth heals us.
Wiccan



The Four Elements of Air, Fire, Water and Earth describe the four unique personality
types associated with a sign of the zodiac. The elements exhibit profound influence
on basic character traits, behaviour, emotions and needs. Some consider these traits
too general, but these are reflected in our emotions, our relationships,and our ambitions
or lack thereof, the unexpected turns and twists that add spice to our lives.

hmmmm earth heals? Who would have thought? No wonder..... 🙂


continued from:

http://goldencupcafe.tripod.com/html/the_four_elements.html<BR>
"Astrology aims to help us focus these energies to the positive aspects, gain a better
understanding of our positive traits and deal with the negative ones; thus realize our
full potential and give our best to this life. To my mind, to deny these is to deny life and
destiny.After all, basically, we all need air to breathe, water to sustain our growth and to
cleanse us, fire to shelter us from the cold and nourish us, earth to live on together
with all the living things on it,and to grow our food.

Earth
Astrology: Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo
Tarot: Pentacles, Disks,
Jung: sensation

Feel the Earth under our feet, the soil that sustains all forms of life, look at the power
and beauty of the mountains, a symbol of stability and solidity of the earth. Everyday we
experience the physical world, we walk on this earth, enjoy the beauty and bounty of
Mother Earth and feel the comfort of being on solid ground. Take a walk, walk slowly
and feel the earth under your feet, solid and steady. Associated with the signs Taurus,
Capricorn and Virgo, Earth represent the practical, realistic material side of our nature,
it seeks to assert a stable, secure, structured environment into which we can function."

this is Air (in the article shows the weaknesses and strengths of each element power)
http://goldencupcafe.tripod.com/html/the_four_elements.html<BR> Air
Astrology: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Tarot: Swords
Jung: Thinking

"The element Air is associated with the signs Gemini, Libra. and Aquarius. It seeks to
establish itself in the realm of the intellect. It is through the process of thinking that we
develop ideas. It is through the influence of this element that we learn to communicate.
Through air we gain and share knowledge.

Air contributes inventiveness, originality and versatility to the personality. It gives that feeling
of freedom, unattachment,it reaches out to the mental self. Enjoy that refreshing gentle breeze,
allow thoughts to flow freely and nourish the creative moment. Air expresses love of people,
the ability to intellectualize,to appreciate the differences in people, accept different perspectives,
without which, there would be a lack of vision and lack of human interaction.

Our thoughts are a continual force in our lives. It is assoiated with meditation where deep
breathing is essential to reach that level of stillness, energy, and relaxation. Air is used for
transport,flying and sailing. Let our thoughts soar to reach our intellectual pursuits.

An over expression of air's influence can be seen as living in a dream world with unrealistic
goals and flights of fancy. Air should seek to maintain practicality and develop consistency
in dealing with the real world.

Weakness of this element : lack of emotion, depression, lack of connection with the higher
self, overactive mind that blocks inner peace and harmony."

@lisabethur8
Does that make him sort of somewhere in between earth and air? like mixture of both?? emotional yet a thinker?

Posted by Nouran20

Its just i wana get a clearer vision of y this guy suddenly showing so much interest when he barely gave any attention to me after we broke up for about 8 months of ignorance.

Why not just ask him?

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by Nouran20

Its just i wana get a clearer vision of y this guy suddenly showing so much interest when he barely gave any attention to me after we broke up for about 8 months of ignorance.

Why not just ask him?

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Ok I cant exactly ask him y r u so interested in talking to me now blah blah..getting in touch with his emotional side cuz u know he prolly will fly away. I guess.
I did ask him something else. I said how come ur not annoyed from me or how come u never say anythin bad about me (since after all im his ex and he used to show signs of awkwardness when i talk to him)
He said there is nothin bad about u and I would never get annoyed from u. U r far from annoying. Im the one whos annoying.
Its sweet of him to say that but..........again....he is with another girl not me! all the sweet talk pretty much is pointless and doesnt count.

But I guess I do have a good answer for that sudden interest. I think it how well our convos went recently. I guess it made him sort of miss how we were together and maybe he felt like he wants to know a little about my "new life" now. I guess.

Yeah but I mean so what if he flees? He should shouldn't he?? It's not odd to you that he would just talk to you while he is with another girl?? Would you like if the tables were flipped and you were her and he was 'emotionally' cheating on you with his ex girlfriend?? Hell talking to his ex-girlfriend at all with no other reason other than just to talk to her? I know you have strong feelings for him but you got try and think clearly about this.... HE LEFT YOU AFTER ALL... It should be he wants to talk to you at all he's gonna have to be single and not just leave this girl because he wants to be with you.. I mean at least be single right??

Doesn't that bother you at all...

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Yeah but I mean so what if he flees? He should shouldn't he?? It's not odd to you that he would just talk to you while he is with another girl?? Would you like if the tables were flipped and you were her and he was 'emotionally' cheating on you with his ex girlfriend?? Hell talking to his ex-girlfriend at all with no other reason other than just to talk to her? I know you have strong feelings for him but you got try and think clearly about this.... HE LEFT YOU AFTER ALL... It should be he wants to talk to you at all he's gonna have to be single and not just leave this girl because he wants to be with you.. I mean at least be single right??

Doesn't that bother you at all...

Ofcourse it does bother me loadsss y do u think im here tryna figure out what that guy wants? y acting like that?

I did mention earlier dunno if u read it or not. That i would not ever take a man from his girl. And for sure I would not like it if he left a girl for me. Hell no I would not accept that cuz I certainly would not like it to happen to me if the tables would b flipped. When he first started a r-ship with his GF he said she is JUST a girl to him and he cant b bothered treating her like they r in a REAL r-ship..he was so not serious about her that I felt bad for her and I tried so many times to tell him its not a good thing to use ppl's hearts and tell them that u love them when u really dont. But he said I shud stay out of it
so as u can c I am not happy about it. Even if he was single and he talked sweet with me I would diffiently think a million time b4 investing into a r-ship with him again cuz I would be scared if he left me again.

Dont get me rong plz.
When I say he talks all sweet with me I dont mean that he flirts. No he did not. But he would compliment me. He would say things like ur most person that know me too well. He started calling me with my old nick name the one he gave me b4. Which i find weired cuz it breaks the level of formality between us. Its like there was a brick wall built between us after the break up and now he is tryna break that wall and use all the words/names/jokes we used to once share b4

I just dont get it.

its very off cuz he is not the type of guy who uses ppl's hearts or plays games on girls. He was sensitive person and would get upset if he upseted someone.
I dunno y he is doin that to her..maybe he likes her now or Maybe hes not gettin along with her anymore..I really dont know.

Posted by tiziani
It sounds to me like your judgement is clouded and possibly too coloured with emotion.

Air/Earth people (me being one of them) always create exit plans/contigency plans in a relationship and we are analytical but if you allow us to take liberties then we will rarely be forced to turn that analysis upon ourselves and ask what we really want.

I would stay firmly within the boundaries if I were you and use your time away from him to grow and possibly see him in a different more balanced light. Maybe in a colder light balanced with a little more thought and less emotion.

What u mean tryna create exit plans?

Posted by WaterCup
Taurusbelle, again no problem, we arent too fond of people anyway. I'm being honest here lol, not trying to be sarcastic or anything. He'll probably just sigh and move on to the next interesting thing, like his earwax for example.

haha .. ya lil maniac 😄

Nouran, dont get me wrong. I'm not saying your ex is anti-love or doesnt get lonely, but its like this...we (or at least me, others may agree or disagree), well, we get all those things but are easily distracted to dwell on them for too long. Eg. I get heartache like everybody else & I'll sit and wallow in my misery but something else ALWAYS comes up to remove me from that. Like, "wow, a flying lint! Cool" & for a moment I've forgotten my pain. It goes like that until I completely forget. Pain, loneliness etc is not something thats gonna be TOTALLY consuming to the point where you're ALL he is thinking about. My point is, your curt calls, if they are a way to make him 2nd think or miss you more just because you CUT HIM SHORT, its not gonna work. He'll just get bored of "trying" and find something else more stimulating. If you have something in your mind speak up with honesty, to him & keep it moving. Game playing is not IT. Just say "look, dont call me again" if thats what you really want from him.

"Oh, look, that guy have hair coming out of his nose! Thats interesting. I wonder if he breathes normally" *wondering* "oh wow, look..." it goes on like that the whole day & I still have real life issue too, but I'm not consumed by them. Just saying

Listen as long you dont update your knowledge and keep him mentally stimulated he will do the same thing again and again, aloof. Do you want him always near to you and forget about his friends or even his family, then open your mouth, talk and and keeps him thinking all the time. Then you gona get the best out him, if u approach him with your typical Taurus routine and boring stuffs he will run a mile.

Nouran20,

From what you??re saying, it could either be that he's just being nice and friendly. Missing that relationship you both had with the communication aspect. Or he's bored from his GF or He just curious to know what is happening in your life. Keep a limit to your conversations. Because from what I remember from your messages you were really hurt and you don't want to go through that again right? I'm glad you are the one who is ending the conversation. That might be one of the reasons why he's talking to you more.. because you??re not showing that interest. Don't fall for it ok. Keep it sweet. Or just blank his messages. Its difficult I know lol.. but have to be strong. He's still in a relationship at the end of the day. Feel bad for her..

My Aqua Ex got to the point in our relationship where he needed to grow more in order to stay with me. And he cheated on me with his Ex and she thought that he was going to reconcile with her. He finished his degree, lost a bunch of weight...and tried crawling back to me like 3 times.

My feeling is that your Ex is struggling with something in his relationship. Something about the relationship is forcing him to face things that he doesn't want to face so, instead of dealing with it head on, leaving the new girlfriend, he is using you to stroke his ego.

Do not be his ego stroke. You are worth more than that. You guys had a good run but, now it is time to finally close the curtain on the stage play that was your relationship.

Take bow. And exit Stage Left.

Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
My Aqua Ex got to the point in our relationship where he needed to grow more in order to stay with me. And he cheated on me with his Ex and she thought that he was going to reconcile with her. He finished his degree, lost a bunch of weight...and tried crawling back to me like 3 times.

My feeling is that your Ex is struggling with something in his relationship. Something about the relationship is forcing him to face things that he doesn't want to face so, instead of dealing with it head on, leaving the new girlfriend, he is using you to stroke his ego.

Do not be his ego stroke. You are worth more than that. You guys had a good run but, now it is time to finally close the curtain on the stage play that was your relationship.

Take bow. And exit Stage Left.

+1 time to let go Nouranie boo.. you can do it. 🙂

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Posted by ScorpioFemale79
you're just an option right now.

I mean this^

If I am unsatisfied or unhappy in my relationship, I want to explore my options and how viable they are before leaving.

Well actually I do not do this anymore, but this is what I did when I was younger and unhappy. Who's to say unhappiness will not strike me again? Hope not.

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i still dont get u.. I mean if ur in an unhappy relationship u just stick to it till u get no more good from it then leave?
Whats that got to do with me since im not even in a relationship with him. He cant explore anything with me cuz we r not even together.
In our finaly year of our relationship he barely explose any options with me since he was too busy not communicating with me and doing something else. I had to wait for very long to actually have him talkin to me. I used to blame our distance for that since we were not in the same country. I thought things will get better once we are REALLY next to each other.

Posted by geminidude
Listen as long you dont update your knowledge and keep him mentally stimulated he will do the same thing again and again, aloof. Do you want him always near to you and forget about his friends or even his family, then open your mouth, talk and and keeps him thinking all the time. Then you gona get the best out him, if u approach him with your typical Taurus routine and boring stuffs he will run a mile.

Ok I am far from boring and I hate routine. i honestly dont know y they always refer to taurus ppl this way. Im more adventurous than my gemini sis. I love travelling. And im the kinda person that always changes her desktop wallpaper cuz i get bored of the "usual" things.
Im confused Im not sure if I should keep talking. I mean that could make him think im desperate to speak to him. NO! im not.

tbh if i have something to say ill just say it. Even though being a taurus that means ill stop and think about it first cuz im very cautious.

Posted by Angeleyes17
Nouran20,

From what you??re saying, it could either be that he's just being nice and friendly. Missing that relationship you both had with the communication aspect. Or he's bored from his GF or He just curious to know what is happening in your life. Keep a limit to your conversations. Because from what I remember from your messages you were really hurt and you don't want to go through that again right? I'm glad you are the one who is ending the conversation. That might be one of the reasons why he's talking to you more.. because you??re not showing that interest. Don't fall for it ok. Keep it sweet. Or just blank his messages. Its difficult I know lol.. but have to be strong. He's still in a relationship at the end of the day. Feel bad for her..

well till now he still didnt talk to me. I feel like I wana ask him if he is alright so badly but i just dont think its wise to do that. Ofc I dont wana b hurt again. I guess ur right about all those reasons, he could bored of his gf or wutever
at the end of the day he is with her not me 😢
our convos really flow helplessly without even tryin to make it interesting but at some point id like to end it b4 he ends it.
So I guess ill be friendly when hes friendly and ill be RUDE if hes rude. to b fair!

I wish I could help you out but... sometimes we just got to live our lives and learn. I know if I was a pretty young lady like yourself I would just have fun and date other people. I always say this to women but w/e none of them ever listen to me. Just cause you go out on dates doesn't mean you will never be with this guy. It's kinda like seeing if there could possibly be anything else out there better. You gotta stop thinking about him so much. You gotta stop letting your mind be consumed by people who don't show you the same amount of interest.

And if your gonna say you don't then well... stop posting if your not thinking about him. I know that's rude to say ;/ sorry

I don't mind reading lol, just I think you need to free your mind a little.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I wish I could help you out but... sometimes we just got to live our lives and learn. I know if I was a pretty young lady like yourself I would just have fun and date other people. I always say this to women but w/e none of them ever listen to me. Just cause you go out on dates doesn't mean you will never be with this guy. It's kinda like seeing if there could possibly be anything else out there better. You gotta stop thinking about him so much. You gotta stop letting your mind be consumed by people who don't show you the same amount of interest.

And if your gonna say you don't then well... stop posting if your not thinking about him. I know that's rude to say ;/ sorry

I don't mind reading lol, just I think you need to free your mind a little.

I agree with u and thankx