Hot and Cold aqua

Can someone please help me with this. For a few weeks this aqua girl is into me. Talks to me, texts, give me compliments, hangs out with me and be intimate. Then she gets quiet all of the sudden and ignores me with our mutual friends. We are not official together . Been hanging out since November. Just last week she said that I was amazing. That she hasn't felt this way in years. Even said she hopes I don't forget about her. All worried I would since I'm going to be busy.
She was the first to tell me that she likes me. I just don't get it. Last time she did this was because she thought I said things to mutual friends about us. I told her all I said was that I like you and they already know that. I had no idea she was that private. I get it now. But all the sudden she is different and cold. I really like her. I just have no clue what to do.
I am willing to be patient with her and give her time. I don't want it serious right away. I want to take my time as well but I just don't get the periods of her pulling away.

I'm having this problem too, with a girl with an aqua moon (libra sun). Only last Friday were we on absolute fire. Today and yesterday she acted completely indifferent towards me.

Help us Aquas!

I told her that I like her and I asked if we could do dinner tomorrow and she said busy working both days. shes a nurse at night. Then I asked if we could sometime this week. Told her how I felt. That I like her and that enjoy spending time with her. And also that I know that she is a private person that I would keep it between us. She is ignoring me now. Where just three days ago she was all into me telling me how amazing I was. I just don't get it. I really like this girl

I've been reading some threads in this forum, and from my understanding you Aquas randomly get distant/disappear when your emotions get the best of you.

I have a thread over in the Libra forum, but maybe you can explain what her Aqua Moon thing is doing. Essentially, we reached the zenith of our friendship/relationship last week, and with my advances she was absolutely joyful with our never-before-seen mojo*. I asked her to hang out casually on the weekend, to which she agreed.... but didn't turn up. She made excuses and I just left it. These last couple of days she became absolutely, shockingly distant. Short texts, evasive action of her whereabouts. She's not completely cutting me out, but she definitely finds it hard to look me in the eye, or be in the same room as me.

So yeah, I was alerted that this is probably her Aqua Moon thing. Could you Aquas tell me what's probably going through her mind?

I'll link the original thread below, but long story short: our friendship/relationship has been going at breakneck speed for the last month... even for my ultra fast Gem Moon standards. This act, however, came completely out of left field.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/libra-women-if-you-were-not-interested-4548339/
*I was noticing today when she was working with someone else, it wasn't as crackling as what we did during the early days, let alone the last couple of weeks.

sorry jade for jacking your thread lol.... but i didn't want to create another thread because it seems we're almost in the same position!

yeah mine wouldn't look me in the eye at all on sat eventhough we have been good for about a month. Odd I don't get it...

A few of us answered in your other thread.. did you have additional questions? Aqua women get SHY when they like someone. Have you read up on us?


No sure how to answer the moon stuff because I'm sag moon and very fire/earth heavy so I don't even feel very Aqua.

Shes not a libra . Why post that thread? I am seeking advice from aquas. Do I need to let her go? Is she still interested in me? Or do I give her space? I have no idea what to do. I like her a lot.

Yeah I do have other questions. I am getting the feeling she is backing away. She is getting mean and ignoring me, and won't look me in the eye. Do I still keep hope with her? Or do I walk away? I really like her. I Don't want to push her too hard bc I know aquas like to go slow.

She will just ignore my texts or offers to hang out . Its so odd . Just a few days ago she wanted me to come over and hang out . Now she is all quiet and seems as if she isn't interested anymore..

Posted by jade72980
Yeah I do have other questions. I am getting the feeling she is backing away. She is getting mean and ignoring me, and won't look me in the eye. Do I still keep hope with her? Or do I walk away? I really like her. I Don't want to push her too hard bc I know aquas like to go slow.

what's her chart? background?

if she's getting mean, she means it then. Most women who are mean to a man, means 'stay the hell away'.

don't cling for hope when she doesnt want you to. Believe me, you'll know if she wants you.

Some of these women will "lead" a man on because they feel bad. Switch it up when a man does it. It's not right. men have done it to women alot, where they just lead women on and they know deep down they want nothing to do with them. It's terribly cruel. I'm just saying that you cant pin your hopes on a woman who has no way of wanting you.

She was a little grump and mean on saturday night. Kind of avoiding. Not saying mean things but you can tell something was up. I did go to her house for dinner sunday night. Things felt a little different. But she was still nice and looked me in the eye. And today complete avoiding when I asked her if we can hang out later in the week. . So I don't know. Last week on New Years Eve and the next few days after she was totally into me. All Loving and touchy feely.

Deep down I know she likes me I just don't get whats going through her head and why she is avoiding me all of the sudden.

I don't know her chart her birthday is Jan 29 1972

Ok going to ask a few more questions.. did you guys recently get intimate? NYE or around then? I am asking because she may just need breathing space to wrap her head around everything. It sounds like you spent all of the end of last week together. she was lovey dovey, sat was grumpy. sun was semi ok..?

if you take last Tue (NYE) up until Sunday.. it sounds like you where around her 5 days? That's a lot of time spent around another person. Add in if you guys got intimate for the 1st time? Perhaps she just needs a day or two alone. not just a few hours.

Maybe she is pmsing- some guys don't understand how bad it really can be for women- I don't want to be around anyone my 1st day or so.

It may just simply be. she needs a little bit of breathing room. I know I get super cranky when I go on vacation and am with the same person for 5 days in a row....

Mind you I am reading between the lines of what you wrote and didn't write...

Even thought I'm a guy I withdraw from someone the minute people think something or speak about me. There has been many times when I'm talking to a cute girl and someone confronts me of liking her i back away. You should make her comfortable about it and talk to her because at this point she is possibly nervous or scared. Also maybe try for her to get to know your friends but tell them hold off from talking about this problem remember the idea is for her to become more comfortable

Dead on we recently became more intimate. We went all the way recently. I know she liked It bc she told me that I am amazing and that she says I have amazing hands as well. I am giving her some space bc I know aquas like that thing.

My gut tells me she likes me . She hasn't been in anyone in a long time. So this is all new to her. I am trying to be patient and let her come to me most of the time. I have a lot of fun with her . Aquas are amazing! Fun , airy, hilarious, spontaneous. I just love aquas.

Posted by jade72980
Dead on we recently became more intimate. We went all the way recently. I know she liked It bc she told me that I am amazing and that she says I have amazing hands as well. I am giving her some space bc I know aquas like that thing.

My gut tells me she likes me . She hasn't been in anyone in a long time. So this is all new to her. I am trying to be patient and let her come to me most of the time. I have a lot of fun with her . Aquas are amazing! Fun , airy, hilarious, spontaneous. I just love aquas.

My Scorpio helps me read what's not spoken 😉 I thought it might be a recent thing. Give her a couple of days.. text her let her know you are there if she needs you (if you haven't already done this.).. and wait for her to text you. She's trying to get her head around her emotions in all this. If she is a typical aqua, Intimacy is huge, she's vulnerable right now. That's possibly why you have sensed she's withdrawn or pulled back. You need to be careful you don't push/pry too much or that can cause her to close off more.

That's my 2cents and hope it helps.

Oh and the hot/cold you sense is not even directed at you, she is fighting with herself 😉 Emotions vs. Logic or heart vs. Mind!

My opinion, as a capricorn, is anyone ignoring your text isn't worthy of getting a text from you. I would leave it be and wait for her to want to contact you. I would be so bold as to even say something along the lines of "Since you are ignoring my texts, I am getting the hint that you'd rather I not contact you. I get it, I'll leave you alone. I'm putting this out there though - I'm still interested and when you decide you'd like to contact me, I would be happy to talk to you. Otherwise, I'll just go do my thing". (but that's my cap mercury talking). It's non-confrontational, lets her know you're interested, but at the same time lets her know you're not going to wait around for her or play games with her. Then, I'd just act like she was anyone else. Puts the ball in her court and you'll have your answer soon enough.

I know that reads as very little insight into an aqua frame of mind. But, keep in mind aquas like space, they like directness, they like someone who stands up for themselves and they don't mind being called out if it's done in a non-confrontational way. I've got almost two years in with an aqua and I've learned how to address issues with him so that it turns into a positive thing.

Posted by truecap
I know that reads as very little insight into an aqua frame of mind. But, keep in mind aquas like space, they like directness, they like someone who stands up for themselves and they don't mind being called out if it's done in a non-confrontational way. I've got almost two years in with an aqua and I've learned how to address issues with him so that it turns into a positive thing.

+1

actually we messed around at first just recently please her in ways he hasn't had in years! She was unhappy with another man for 5-6 years then got divorced about 6 months ago. She told me she hasn't been happy in years and wants a relationship with someone. Actually have fun with and live life together.
But to me when I tell her I like her she ignores it completely. I finally got a one word text from her last night. She was letting me know my college was closed for today.

I want to talk to her but right now she is not open to it! I have no clue what to say .

She may not be ready for a relationship. She may say she is, but deep down subconsciously, the prospect probably scares her. I've been there. Give her some time to sort out her feelings.

I will do just that! Im going to let her come to me! Thanks!

She just texted me good morning. She was sleeping all day since she worked last night. She said I did get enough rest and I have to do it again tonight. I told her hey I know you have been busy but I just want to let you know I enjoy our moments together. I enjoy getting to know you! I told her that I am here and when she wants to hang out let me know. That in the meantime I have school stuff to complete.

All She said was......in the shower lol. Getting ready for work .. hang soon!

Going to give her more space. Hopefully I am not annoying her. I cant help who I like and its another aqua.

I feel as if she has a wall up. Not saying sweets or babe anymore. I told her about me loosing more weight. And she said you go boy! ITs odd. I feel as if she is backing away! You go boy? That's odd.. Not you go sweetie. You got this. Shes not acting like she did before . It feels different.

aquarius girls want their freedom and independence. when ther in a mood i just leave them the hell alone

Posted by jade72980
She just texted me good morning. She was sleeping all day since she worked last night. She said I did get enough rest and I have to do it again tonight. I told her hey I know you have been busy but I just want to let you know I enjoy our moments together. I enjoy getting to know you! I told her that I am here and when she wants to hang out let me know. That in the meantime I have school stuff to complete.

All She said was......in the shower lol. Getting ready for work .. hang soon!

Going to give her more space. Hopefully I am not annoying her. I cant help who I like and its another aqua.

you have tenacity and persistence. I'll give you that much. If this woman is looking for loyalty, tenacity, persistence, seriousness, and that you're ready for a relationship, and you're not flaky....you got her. But if she doesn't feel any chemistry with you, it's a no-go. Hopefully for your sake, she feels that dynamite feeling from you. Good luck.

I am hoping she comes back to me. She is being different and acting like I am a friend now. Where last week we were intimate. We shall see! She knows how I feel. Im going to give her time to process it. I would love to talk face to face and let her know I am ok both ways. I still want her in my life regardless. Just because she is an amazing person!

Today she wanted me to join the gym with her and her friends.. So I did. She called me today and said well call me later if you get bored...

We shall see? Crossing my fingers. Trying to be her friend for now.