How can she get him to take the DNA?

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My friend has a baby and she believes that she knows who the father is. Hes an aquarius and wont talk to her now that she asked him to do the at home DNA test. keep in mind i hear this guy is like 19 and in college with a gf and all that so i can see how he would be terrified. but she told him that she just wants to do it at home to save all kinds of trouble. she wants to find a way around the court system. is this going to be possible for her?
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Hey, your friend should do what she has to do. If she wants to save money for HER sake then tell her to do whatever calls for it as long as the job gets done. And if he has such a problem with the home test then tell his a*s to go down to the court & pay hundreds of dollars out of his own wallet. A DNA test is a DNA test no matter how it's taken & no matter how the brand. The tests are necessarily the same & a home test may not be seen as as credible as a test administered by a medical professional, but if this is all about saving money & if getting the test done is inevitably her responsibility, than she needs to do what she has to do. And if anyone rejects to that then that means THEY are going to pay for it. Life is too short for games & all the time that this baby is missing both parents together is crucial. They both just need to suck it up & get the test done so it can be over with 🙂
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she is a very good mom! if she wasnt then she wouldnt care who her childs father is.
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Not necessarily. Her decisions & mentality BEFORE she had the baby can be completely DIFFERENT after the baby is born. Normally, women who have self respect don't end up in these kinds of situations. Sure, we all make mistakes. But in reality, just because she decided to jump up one day & face reality & be responsible doesn't mean this other guy will do the same & act that exact moment. I don't think the focus should be on you OR him, but instead on that child because the child is the one who's missing out on a father, good or bad. For every day this doubt & non sense continues, serves as another day ANOTHER child in this world will suffer because the paren't couldn't get it together. She's probably a great mom when it's just her & her child, but when it comes to her & this other guy (potential father), she might have a lot of growing up to do. Her being the best single mom in the world to her child still doesn't erase the fact that kids need BOTH parents. I don't know what this girl did to make this guy feel doubtful about taking a DNA test, but whatever the reason, she needs to try to take every step possible to get this test done. If he doesn't want her or doesn't trust her, then hey, all they have to do is take the test & all the answers will be there. I can't understand why a man would accept the fact of always wondering if he's that baby's father or not. Usually, in situations like this, things are the other way around: The man desperately wants the test, but the woman ends up playing the games because it's her way of hiding her doubts on paternity. And hey, once they get the results, he can make the decision to be in that child's life or not...but atleast he'll know