how can you tell?

how can you tell when an aquarius is really in love cuz you know when they in love they dont really speak on it. im a taurus girl and yeah blah blah blah they say we incompatible but we been together for almost 2 years now so im guessin he still feelin me if he still here..i still wonder tho is this real cuz i feel like im the only person feelin it and whenever i ask him to tell me how he feel he dont want 2 but hes quick to tell his gemini friend thats a gurl he tells her everything its reallly irritating and i told her to stay away form my man and he got mad that i did it seems like he cares about his friends more then the person he claims he wants to have kids with? but yeah all i know is i really love him he is mah first love we been together since 7th on and off tho folks! but yeah i still question it tho..so aquarius men tell me how can you tell?

I've been through something like this. For me it's difficult to approach a conversation regarding the way I feel for someone WITH that same person. It becomes even more difficult when that person asks me to tell them how I feel. I feel as if I'm literally looking in a dark room for a needle. I don't know whats what, I can't pin point nor can I differentiate certain mixtures of feelings, and I become nervous then I freeze. What works for me is when I'm given time to sort things out on my own. People will try to help me, by talking me through it, but ultimately I feel like I'm better off solving the issue on my own. So when someone says to me, "whats wrong? what do you feel?" I say, "it's nothing", which really means "nothing I'm able/want to explain at the moment". Moments like these require a little distance, if your lover is like this, I suggest you give him the mental & emotional (notice I didn't say physical) space to approach this in the manner most comfortable. Don't try to coach him through any feelings or thoughts, he'll most likely resist the help, but stick by him because soon he'll be ready to speak. If you can, speak vaguely about the situation (in a 3rd person) to help him look within himself from a detached point of view. Detachment is the best way aquarian males can express there emotions. If we approach it directly most times our brains will go "does not compute" over-loading our rational filters with emotion.

So we use our minds because our hearts may be too strong to control, and we fear losing control. I guess thats the logic with emotions, sometimes you can't BE LOGIC with emotions.

"So we use our minds because our hearts may be too strong to control, and we fear losing control"

I agree with this, from my experience anyway. I think I was the last person to know that he really loved me, I seemed to be the only person he was restrained around.......for the first year I actually wondered why he was even with me.

I did read somewhere that the more they like you the more detached they are around you and that you will at times feel as though they don't even like you. I have to say this is exactly how it was with me and my Aqua ex. Actually it wasn't until he nearly lost me (and then actually did) that I saw the full extent of his feelings for me.

I did read somewhere that the more they like you the more detached they are around you and that you will at times feel as though they don't even like you.

thats so true with my aqua friend

I too had/have this same things w/my aqua. He is detached, and I use to tell him all the time "you dont even like me" and constantly try to get him to "leave me alone" and move on.
This has not worked in two years. He now will call me spur-attic-ally (sp?lol) and at odd times. He lurkes around where i live and a park i walked at until all of our bridges were crossed. (scared me). Anyway, my friends call him a "stalker" i somehow through it all recognized he was not saying the same as his actions. Actions were of someone who cares, words were "ugly" thus my attempt to detach from him and "us".
I still wonder will it ever end? For him.
I moved on, and i keep moving.

My agua is always looking out for me -- for an aquarius, it's all in their actions. It takes a long time for them to accept someone's sovereignty over their hearts, but once they've learned to put their faith in you, that is when they fully let you in.

I did read somewhere that the more they like you the more detached they are around you and that you will at times feel as though they don't even like you. I have to say this is exactly how it was with me and my Aqua ex. Actually it wasn't until he nearly lost me (and then actually did) that I saw the full extent of his feelings for me.



SO TRUEEE

I like your avataar, MysticGirl

thanks sb

philosophy287... i think you gave an incredibly good explanation of aqua men. you have probably cleared up a lot for a lot of us girls on here who have been or still can get quite confused...so thank you for clarifying for us. it means a lot...

"Actually it wasn't until he nearly lost me (and then actually did) that I saw the full extent of his feelings for me."

-YES!!! from my own experience, i can tell you that this is correct! the only time you will see the deep emotions/ feelings come from an aqua guy is if he thinks he is going to lose you or if he does lose you. then, and only then, you will see a whole different side to an aqua man, one that you never knew existed. and it's really deep!!!

Why did you have to write that last post mc :-\ sigh ... btw great saying Starfish225

oh sorry Tas...i know i hit a sore spot there. but, it is the truth, right?
it is unfortunate though, but in my case with my aqua it all worked out for the best after he realized what he had lost. it just sucks that it took him losing me for a while to realize what he felt for me...but, whatever it takes!!!