Fellow aquas, have you ever wondered why...

OK! OK!!! We all know that we're a tough egg 2 crack when it comes to relationships but, why does it always come to that? Why would you come into my life and try to make me do things that I don't want 2 do? Yes, I have a major crush on you, but that doesn't mean that I want to date you on the spot, cuz if that's the case then I'd be married already! I'm not going to get all emotional and sacrifice my daily activities just to prove how much I care for you! I feel as though us aquarians are the only ones that use their minds over our feelings and that's why we're labeled as coldly unattached. I don't want to feel as if dating you is another full time job I have to deal with, maybe this "player" just isn't your type

I just want you to think about it...I'm just trying to eliminate that negative from our shoulders. We kiss no arse, so what does that mean? We're egotistic? We're cold and controlling because we're not going to do and accept everything we're told? I love you but I'm not going to call of work because you want to go shopping! I'm not going to chase you if you're mad at me! Its not that we don't care, it's because that's not how we show our affection. Loyalty, trust, and respect (and sex lol) are the only things I really care about in a relationship. How do you aquarians truly feel about this and the whole dating thing.

Yea but you know what? Ass-kissing is a human quality, not specific to an astrological sign. I know ass-kissing, poseur aquas and I know genuine aquas. Both are very similar, except the difference is their egos.

Efficiency.

I'm sorry father for I have sinned. Might I add one of the 7 deadly sins. What must I do to vanquish the demon within me that is gluttony? None of this say 20 Hail Marys crap either I want full on young priest, old priest, exorcism willy nilly with the head spinning and pea soup puking madness.

I've always been accused of not "ceasing the opportunity" when women wanted to become exclusively involved with me, and grew frustrated with me. They just don't understand that I don't fall into love because it's convenient. I heard this line from a movie, and thought it had some relevance... when one actor told the other "the worst thing you can do is let a good girl go, because your afraid of commitment" and the other replied, "No. The worse thing you could do is marry the wrong girl, because you were afraid to be alone". And that's the gist of my out look at times, not afraid to lose.

... On that same note I caution women to be aware of exactly why they have feelings for me and observe what those feelings really are. Some women like to bullshit themselves. I don't like relationship titles... what are they for? we should really have a topic about this. Just show me loyalty, compassion and try to empathize, and everything will be reciprocated with 10% interest

lol, you are indeed an aqua Phil. There have been plenty of discussions on this. Start another one if you like.

I think I will

by the by, I concur 100% with your post.

From a non-aqua perspective let me just tell you guys that you seem to think that you?re hot/cold attitude is just par for the relationship course....it so isnt. My curent bf (aqua) came at me FULL THROTTLE and then as soon as he got comfortable with me i got the cold shoulder. Comfort and stability isnt an acceptable excuse to just turn into a person?s worst nightmare. So, if you start off with someone by being too accommodating,too loving/affectionate/attentive, how can you be surprised if your other half expects it to continue—

No one expects a 24/7 charade of romance but for christ sake, dont you understand the concept of consistancy? I told my bf, i dont expect him to drop his friends/routines/motorbike/other interests for me, but if you cant or are unwilling to give some special attention where its due, blame yourself instead of that famous aqua excuse "you ask me for too much". It?s so boring. Anyways im Libra and it suits me more than fine to see him once a wek or whatever, im not interested in every detail of his life, and he feels the same about mine.

You bring someone to you and then push them away, the issue is yours.

Indeed it is our issue. Treat it that way also. Let them fix their own issues.

You see, attachment will aways be the issue. This is what happens when you decide to use your mind instead of your feelings. Its like a new toy, you're soo obsessed with it because you want to figure it out, then it gets old and you put it in your toybox. This isn't being aquarian, this is just being childish. Its called wasting precious time, one thing aquarians definitely doesn't like to do. What is consistant between even the aquarians who posted was that as long as there is loyalty and trust in the relationship (without trying to change us) you're definitely in there.

Personally, if you can grasp an aquarians heart, I don't think you will find a more pure and passionate love.

Its not about attachment!!! The attachment is there..its the underlying selfishness and assumption that the lover will always be there and consistant while you bugger off and do your own thing that?s the issue. You arent getting the point that you guys change and start getting ideas that the bf or gf is trying to take over your world. Ummm no, its called a relationship, you?re supposed to spend time together, do things together, have common interests etc, so when you blow someone off you can expect the drama that goes with it.

Either accept the terms of mature relationships, or dont start them..simplicity is good!!

Get your own life. I hate when women get boyfriends and completely drop all their friends. I find it retarded, then after 3 years when they've broken up...she's completely ALONE.

Sola has a point though. Every person that one knows on a personal level is ultimately IN their life regardless of whether one wants to see it in that light. The aqua personality would rather have a relationship where two lives can co-exist paralleled instead of merging into one existence. I realized how that can seem selfish from the perspective of a person who wants to feel like they are A PART of the aquas life and not just driving along side.

One with an aqua personality has to share his/her personal interest's as well as take part in their companions interest to create a bond without smothering each other.

Do you have any air in your chart UC?