How to get an Aqua to apologize?

Alright so my bf invited me and about 6 of his friends over to his house and then asked me to bring 2 of my friends over too. I really didnt want them there because all my bf ever does is bitch about them always drinking all of their beer and not contributing. But I still invite them cause stupid me told him not to bitch about them if they did take any beer that wasnt theirs.

Anyways during the small get together or whatever my bf asks me to buy him some cigarettes and chips and I do it. Then at like 1 in the morning he asks me to go on a beer run and get some more. And I do because Im the only one who didnt drink. Then an hr later when my two friends leave my bf (whose already really drunk) starts counting up the beers and showing that she took like one of their beers. He was acting really rude to me and telling me to "be quiet" so he can finish and just kept bitching about them. Finally I just said wtvr and said Im going home and he said "fine get the fuck out" in front of everyone. Pretty embarrassing and really mean of him to do that after all the favors I did for him that night.

Now its the next day and he didnt call me at all to apologize for what he did. He prob thinks he did nothing wrong because he was "right" about my friends. What do I do? Please no one tell me to break up with him because he honestly normally treats me really nicely. But this was just bad. I called him like and hr ago but he didnt pick up because he's prob sleeping. All I want to do is yell at him for treating me like that but I know that all he's going to say is that Im overreacting or blame it on me being on my period.

Is there ANYTHING I can do to make him see that what he did to me was wrong? Do I just avoid him today and maybe tomorrow? Cause I hear Aquas respond best to the silent treatment. Avoid him and then tomorrow tell him calmly how I feel? I just dont know how to properly communicate how I feel towards him. What normally happens is that he just pretends that he did nothing wrong, then when I point it out he tells me that its just my period, then I get REALLY angry and start screaming at him, and then he somehow makes me feel guilty about being so mad, and then I apologize to HIM. Any advice please— 😢

Yes, here is my advice. Tell him to pull his head out of his fucking arse and stop talking to you like you're a piece of shit. Don't argue the point, don't repeat it, don't apologise for being angry that he yelled at you like that. He'll argue about it - because we like to think we're always right - but he'll calm down, feel like a tool and then apologise. Eventually.

It's not a "break up situation", it's a hurdle.

Boundaries. Set them - make the number one boundary that of "I will not be spoken to like a piece of shit on your shoe".

Go from there.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
That's a bit mardy over a few cans of beer tbh.

lol he is just a retard, aquariuses tend to do that kind of stuff with words what u say to them, but this? because of one beer? thats just the fukced up maners his mom never taught him, and you as his gf i cant believe you even take his crap, if he treats u like piece of crap you can imagine how he will treat u when u get married and he becomes more comfortable treating you even worse, set the ground and dont fall to his feet, if he agrees to it and changes keep him if not tell him that youre worth better and leave him

how about all aquas on here demonstrate the art of apology 😛

The alcohol took over that night.

And even though he doesn't normally treat you with disrespect, that doesn't minimize the problem or the fact that WHEN he's not sober, he DOES treat you with disrespect.

That in itself is grounds for why you oughta have "the talk" with him. Him disrespecting you whether he's sober/drunk or whether your friends are there or not is besides the point.

If you 2 ever want to make it long term, you've gotta learn how to communicate even during uncomfortable/rough times.

If you know you weren't in the wrong this time, screw shrugging it off & becoming passive all just for the sake of sparing his feelings.

He needs to know like RIGHT NOW that him disrespecting you is NOT ok. And that even if he does figure he's not in the wrong, the least he can agree to do with you is talk it out.

It's not fair of him to completely ignore your feelings or what you have to say.

It shouldn't be about whose more in the wrong or whose pointing fingers at who. It's about 2 people, who are BOTH probably upset about "something" being able to put their own emotions/ego aside in the moment & talk things out, out of respect for the relationship

And hey, if he's unwilling to apologize when he's truly in the wrong, that's a big problem not only for you now but especially in the long run & down the road.

Everyone hates being wrong, BUT a part of being in a relationship means loving someone enough to not allow your ego/fear of being wrong over-ride the truth or an apology that the other person truly deserves.

Beware of the person that can't ever bring themselves to say "I'm sorry." HUGE red flag

Plus, he knows he's in the wrong.

But 1 thing he also knows is that if he ignores you for long enough, you'll chase him enough to forget the fact that he was wrong, thus sparing him from ever having to cringe & say the words "I'm sorry."

So no offense, but if he's ignoring you now it's b/c you've given him the impression in the past that him giving you the silent treatment actually works & gets him out of the hole.

Instead of the focus being on the original issue, the focus changes to 1 or both of you chasing after eachother b/c of the horrible feeling we all get when someone is ignoring us.

So yes, ignore him. But not as a means to play mind games. But instead b/c sometimes you've gotta stick to your guns & stand up for what you truly believe in

The LAST message you want to send to your man is that you won't stand up for what you believe in or that you won't demand an apology or respect. If you don't demand it, he won't give it

Stand up for yourself!

Thanks for the advice guys. Sorry I forgot I wrote on here but just after an hr of posting this he called me begging me to forgive him for what happened. I was a little taken back because he normally never apologizes unless I have to tell him to apologize ha. So thank god he did that cause if he was actually going to try and make me think that I was over exaggerating then I dont know what I would have done ha