To trust or NOT to trust!?!

Any of you here with an aries moon or aqua venus or sag mars?

I recently got into a relationship with a cap sun, aries moon, venus aqua and mars sag. From the start I had an inkling not to trust her or well not as much.. everyday this feeling of "i shouldnt trust her" creeps up on me even more.

She is a big flirt and LOVES attention. Probably more than a leo moon! lol. SHe loves having people priase her and tell her how good looking they think she is etc. She parties and goes out like its 1999 and doesnt know when/how to stop.

I really like this girl and at first I thought we could have something serious and proper.. now that were in an actual relationship I just dont feel as though she is taking it seriously or at least at serious as she acted when SHE asked ME out.

Question is, can the aries moon or aqua venus or sag mars be trusted? Astrologically speaking, would she take flirting to the next level and get physical with someone else if she felt the fire right then and there?

Elle she is a bit more not as wild around me where as with others she is although she is slowly starting to let lose around me. She calls it "growing balls". lol

So the aries moon can be trusted? Hmm what about this aqua venus and sag mars!

I mean she goes out, stays out till late, I dont question her and I let her have her freedom but its doing no good to my libra moon,mars and venus in cancer. I always think the worse when she is out like she is going to cheat or something and im sitting at home like an idiot while she is out and about galavanting all over town!

Its best to just be straight up with her and have a chat with her about what is bothering me rather than break up with her now? Before more feelings develop?

Or just break up with her and tell her my reason is I cant trust her and thats it move on.

I know about the aqua venus needing space etc and thats why im trying to do it. I naturally give space because I expect the same in return (gem sun) but I know with the aqua venus she needs A LOT more space which is fine I can give that to her as long as im secure that she wont cheat and can be trusted!

Im sitting at home like an idiot because she isnt working at the moment and I am. She quit her job about 2 weeks ago and has been doing nothing and isnt bothered to look for another job while I on the other hand work in law and I dont have the freedom she does work wise. I cant be out on weeknights till when the sun comes up getting drunk and partying and then having to wake up at 7am. She knows I cant and she also knows I take my job seriously. I go out with her on the wknds and dont come home for like 2 days because we party too hard but during the week I cant but she still goes out and thats fine im not going to tell her YOU CANT GO OUT!!! Its her life I dont want to stop her from doing anything that makes her happy but she just doesnt seem trustworthy!!!

Why was the cap sun/aqua venus such a hard relo for u?

Yea you guys are right. Quietstorm you are very on point! Ughhh its honestly better to just stay single. Font have to deal with all these yucky emotions and feelings. They confuse me so much!!!!!

I will see her tonight, sit her down and explain how im feeling. Maybe she will understand and try to curve her wildness and flirtatiousness a little.

Thanks girls 😉

Thing is she loves attention. Oh and were gay.. well she is gay, im bi so were both girls lol.

Anyway I havent caught her flirting while im around, when im around she pays attention to me 24/7, doesnt leave my site, is quick to tell everyone im her gf and introduces me that way, all her family know about me etc all her friends do i've met most of her friends but theres this other stupid b*tch who is hooking up with my girl's best friend but this girl keeps on writing comments on my girl's facebook (stupid i know - but facebook causes so much drama!) and they flirt like teenagers over it.

I have to admit its more the other girl chasing my girl but my girl seems more than happy to respond and encourage and go along with the flirting and I just DONT LIKE IT!!!

I have met this other girl and she knows im going out with my girl. We all hung out together saturday night and this girl was with my girl's best friend and I was with my girl it was the 4 of us but i dont like this flirting between them over facebook and thing is i dont have facebook i deleted it a few months ago and my gf knows that.

But my gf is friends with my friends on facebook and so she knows i can find out everything thats written by her..

Posted by QuietSt0rm

Posted by nats
Ughhh its honestly better to just stay single. Dont have to deal with all these yucky emotions and feelings. They confuse me so much!!!!!)

Trust me, I know. lol Sometimes the libra in me just wants to DETACH from it all and be carefree entirely. LOL

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I FEEL your pain sister! Detach is my middle name and i've had my fone switched off since yesturday and havent spoken to her because I just find it easier to detach than to deal with all these emotions!!!

I do tell her and I compliment her and she told me the other day that she is so happy to be with me because all her past relationships she got cheated on and they always put her down but with me she feels really confident and safe and I compliment her and im always telling her how i think shes so cute and sexy etc etc and it makes her feel confident, good about herself and safe with me etc.

I want to believe her but then when I saw this flirting it just threw me off big time!!! Maybe im just being paranoid. I really hate my venus in cancer!!!!

I swear women are way harder than men. And I always complained about men. lol women are TERRIBLE!!!!

Its probably a little simplistic to put it this way but Im sure the dynamics between Aries moon/Venus in aqua/Mars in Sag very much give her the strong drive for personal freedom and party animal ways. My gf is also a cappy with Aries moon, however with Venus in Cap and Mars in Taurus she is very much the stable type, she likes partying and going out as well, but she equally enjoys the more simple pleasures of life.

You'll have to either accept her for who she is and trust her (this way she could grow to respect you even more, making any cheating scenario's very unlikely) this constant partying thing might just be a phase which could be related to a deeper need of finding out who she really is.

Or you could get all paranoid and start asking her questions all the time, which will most likely drive her away from you.

The answer to this situation is probably a combination of both, you have to show her that you trust her but at the same time showing her you dont lack self-respect to tolerate any bullshit. Aries moon women have to be put in their place at times and they actually want you to 😛

Moon in Aries: ruler of Aries is Mars and your gf's Mars is in Sag = emotional drive for freedom

Moon in Aries: ruler of Aries is Mars and my gf's Mars is in Taurus = emotional drive for security.

elle's Moon in Aries, Mars is in Scorp, I think we dont need to explain that 😛

I didnt ask you to show me your Venus/rising in Libra, I wanted some aries moon-fueled argument 😛 booooringgggggggggggggggggggggggggggg

What can I say? She's the only person I know who can stand me for long periods of time 😛 and Im the only person in the world who can stand her for long periods of time too so its just perfect for us 🙂

And good afternoon to you too blingo blingz 🙂

Yeaaah I spoke to her last night and she explained everything including the flirting thing with the other girl on facebook. She re read over the conversation and then was all like sh*t it does seem a little bit over the top she apologised and was like it was NEVER meant to be like that she goes that she didnt realise what she was saying at the time but if I had done the same thing she would probably be more angry than what I was.

Etc etc etc we had a good long conversation and told each other openly and truthfuly what we both like and dislike and what we will accept and not accept and then she was all like I need you to tell me things and not keep them in otherwise it will cause a drift between us and I dont want that etc etc she said that if she wanted to go and cheat she wouldnt be with my in the first place which is obvious and that going around hooking up with other people defeats the purpose of being in a relo etc etc anyway in all was a needed conversation and we are good now!

Thanks for your comments!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hahaha good reply Shaka, how's the Hague ?
The UK had it's longest day yesterday, ffs we better have an Indian summer, really lol

I dont know how THe Hague is 😛 I was in Amsterdam the last few days..playing the tour guide to a pisces friend of mine I hadnt seen in 16 years, obviously red light district and coffesshop visits included 😛

(Im still innocent on both "counts" though)

Agree about the summer, spring beat all records here as well as far as sunshine and drought. I have a feeling this is gonna be a HAWT summer!

No need for you to go back to OZ in that case huh?

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Moon in Aries: ruler of Aries is Mars and your gf's Mars is in Sag = emotional drive for freedom

Moon in Aries: ruler of Aries is Mars and my gf's Mars is in Taurus = emotional drive for security.

Thats interesting, so whats my emotional drive?

Moon Aries and Mars Cancer.

Thanks.