I want this Aquarius Man!

So I'm a sag and I met this Aquarius man about 3 weeks ago on a dating site. He messaged me and we talked every morning for about 4 days until he asked for my number. The night he asked for it he jokingly told me to come over to his house. Because I knew that he was partially serious and because I didn't think I would have a relationship with this guy (he's 12 years older than I am) I went ahead and saw this as an opportunity for a friend with benefits. I went over and we ended up hitting it off so well! We talked for 2 hours before we did anything and when we did have sex it was amazing! I have seen him twice and both times we talk about everything under the sun and have great sex. Both times he hints that he wants me to stay the night but I decided not to because I didn't wanna catch feelings. He was trying to cuddle with me and being kinda cute.... So my question is, now I really like him so how do I play it from here? I've given him a TON of space since I know they don't like being smothered. We used to rotate texting each other every few days but within the last week it's me that texts him every 3 days or so. He's always really sweet and we'll talk for hours but then I don't hear from him for days. I would love for this to turn into something more but I'm not sure how they feel about dating someone they hooked up with right away. Advice?

You will get more responses from the Sag forum then here.

FYI Aquas are aloof and they can change their minds on the drop of a dime. So... Be fore warned.

From what I understand Aqua is the only sign that probably won't judge you.

Maybe some of them will pitch in.

*Smh at the comment above*

Just be patient, I'm sure someone will help... 🙂

Posted by truecap
From what I understand Aqua is the only sign that probably won't judge you.

Maybe some of them will pitch in.

+1 😄

OH boy, I am sorry to tell you this, it's not looking good. He got what he wanted.

He's moving on to someone who will challenge him --before they sleep together.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
OH boy, I am sorry to tell you this, it's not looking good. He got what he wanted.

He's moving on to someone who will challenge him --before they sleep together.

I thought this might be the case...

Posted by Mandapants

Posted by aquapiscescusp
OH boy, I am sorry to tell you this, it's not looking good. He got what he wanted.

He's moving on to someone who will challenge him --before they sleep together.

I thought this might be the case...

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😢 Listen, it's only my opinion but if you feel that it might also be then best to stop texting him.

Posted by miamivirgo
You will get more responses from the Sag forum then here.

FYI Aquas are aloof and they can change their minds on the drop of a dime. So... Be fore warned.

I'm curious, were you burnt by an aqua in the past? This isn't the first time you've interjected on a thread directed at aquas.

@Mandapants: Straight answer is why not? Of course depending on placements you'll either have to deal with his absent mind a bit longer. When you decided you actually caught those feelings have you made it known to him directly or indirectly such as through forms of going out on a date. Because if you haven't you probably should.

Just factoring in he did ask if you wanted to stay, I'd be inclined to think he likes you for more than sex. Though all this happening within 3 weeks is hard for me to gauge because it'll mean the majority of the communication took place in the first week, sex either in that first or second week then he disappears for the 3rd week. Unless it's actually been longer than that I honestly don't think you should be too worried, I tend to think saggies have anxiety issues when it comes to 'time'.

Anyway, be happy to help if there's more to the story but short answer is yes I've been with someone after hooking up within the first week. FYI it was a sag as well and we lasted a whole of 5 years.

Posted by aquasnoz
@Mandapants: Straight answer is why not? Of course depending on placements you'll either have to deal with his absent mind a bit longer. When you decided you actually caught those feelings have you made it known to him directly or indirectly such as through forms of going out on a date. Because if you haven't you probably should.

Just factoring in he did ask if you wanted to stay, I'd be inclined to think he likes you for more than sex. Though all this happening within 3 weeks is hard for me to gauge because it'll mean the majority of the communication took place in the first week, sex either in that first or second week then he disappears for the 3rd week. Unless it's actually been longer than that I honestly don't think you should be too worried, I tend to think saggies have anxiety issues when it comes to 'time'.

Anyway, be happy to help if there's more to the story but short answer is yes I've been with someone after hooking up within the first week. FYI it was a sag as well and we lasted a whole of 5 years.

Thank you! I haven't made my feelings known. I guess because this started off as sex i didn't want to seem too clingy if i mentioned hanging out with him. I jokingly made a comment about going to the dog park with him and he said, yeah I can see that happening, but again no moves made.
The time line is like this, first 4 days talking, day 5 sex. I texted him 2 days later, he was kinda short with me so i backed off. That night he texting me (maybe noticed he was being rude) we texted all night. Couple days go by I text him, couple days go by, he texts me (late at night and apologizes in the morning for it being so late) after a week of this I see him again, we have sex and hang out and talk, he wants me to stay again. He doesn't outright say this, but he cuddled up next to me and feel asleep. I couldn't sleep so I got up to leave. This woke him up and we kinda had this awkward goodbye. I texted him 3 days later with a hello and a picture. He said thanks for the picture (he was working at the time). 3 more days later I text him and we talk for hours again. That was Saturday today is Tuesday and no word since.
I DEFINITELY do freak out about time! I'm trying really hard not to and to give him space. I want him to know I'm thinking of him but I don't want to smother him. I just think I should let him make the first moves from now on...

Well can't say I speak for the masses, I consider myself to dive into things quickly but it still takes quite a while for me to be completely into someone. Conventionally Aquas (going by textbook and experiences) just takes a great deal of time to 'open' up to another person so the friendly phase lasts a long time with bouts of disappearance in between.

That disappearance can really mean anything tbh. He hasn't outright ignored you yet. When it comes to texting while I'm preoccupied I suck at it, I really am but if I'm not then I can talk for hours so it just really depends.

As for not smothering him I think that'll be the placement part. E.g. I'm a venus in Pisces there's really no such thing has smothering unless you're texting ever 3 seconds. And to me it's actually a confirmation you do care for me so I'd follow that up more often. Perhaps a a venus in Aqua or Cap might take longer.

Also you don't have to DIRECT if you fear that it might smother and scare him off. If you're okay with initiating just ask if he wants to go out for dinner and if you're a master of subtlety then throw some hints in there 🙂

Posted by aquasnoz
Well can't say I speak for the masses, I consider myself to dive into things quickly but it still takes quite a while for me to be completely into someone. Conventionally Aquas (going by textbook and experiences) just takes a great deal of time to 'open' up to another person so the friendly phase lasts a long time with bouts of disappearance in between.

That disappearance can really mean anything tbh. He hasn't outright ignored you yet. When it comes to texting while I'm preoccupied I suck at it, I really am but if I'm not then I can talk for hours so it just really depends.

As for not smothering him I think that'll be the placement part. E.g. I'm a venus in Pisces there's really no such thing has smothering unless you're texting ever 3 seconds. And to me it's actually a confirmation you do care for me so I'd follow that up more often. Perhaps a a venus in Aqua or Cap might take longer.

Also you don't have to DIRECT if you fear that it might smother and scare him off. If you're okay with initiating just ask if he wants to go out for dinner and if you're a master of subtlety then throw some hints in there 🙂

So is it common for him to not be the first to initiate a conversation? The second week we sort of took turns texting first. Lately, it's just be me first. I don't mind being the one to contact him if it's something he'd prefer. I just don't want it to seem like I'm too eager or that I'm making it too easy. It would be nice to hear from him first.

Posted by Mandapants
So is it common for him to not be the first to initiate a conversation?.

I think if it'll differ between aquas, I honestly don't think it's sign specific in this case. We had a thread about it a few times, some a great texters some are terrible. I think it's all in the mind anyway, unless the conversation if forever flowing (which is impossible) it'll always seem like there's an initiator.

In which case I agree with Irresistblescorp - keep it light and fun for the time being and don't put to much emphasis or expectation on the texting part.

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Posted by miamivirgo
You will get more responses from the Sag forum then here.

FYI Aquas are aloof and they can change their minds on the drop of a dime. So... Be fore warned.

I'm curious, were you burnt by an aqua in the past? This isn't the first time you've interjected on a thread directed at aquas.

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No. Not at all. Why?

Ok I now know that he has an Aquarius moon and Aries Venus. Can I get some more insight on that? What I'm reading about an Aries Venus isn't so great. They get over women fast and don't like it If they make it too easy.... I also read that when they want someone they really go after them

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Posted by miamivirgo

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by miamivirgo
You will get more responses from the Sag forum then here.

FYI Aquas are aloof and they can change their minds on the drop of a dime. So... Be fore warned.

I'm curious, were you burnt by an aqua in the past? This isn't the first time you've interjected on a thread directed at aquas.

No. Not at all. Why?

Because you make dick comments about aquas, tis all 😉

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Sorry. When did I do that?

Posted by Mandapants
So I'm a sag and I met this Aquarius man about 3 weeks ago on a dating site. He messaged me and we talked every morning for about 4 days until he asked for my number. The night he asked for it he jokingly told me to come over to his house. Because I knew that he was partially serious and because I didn't think I would have a relationship with this guy (he's 12 years older than I am) I went ahead and saw this as an opportunity for a friend with benefits. I went over and we ended up hitting it off so well! We talked for 2 hours before we did anything and when we did have sex it was amazing! I have seen him twice and both times we talk about everything under the sun and have great sex. Both times he hints that he wants me to stay the night but I decided not to because I didn't wanna catch feelings. He was trying to cuddle with me and being kinda cute.... So my question is, now I really like him so how do I play it from here? I've given him a TON of space since I know they don't like being smothered. We used to rotate texting each other every few days but within the last week it's me that texts him every 3 days or so. He's always really sweet and we'll talk for hours but then I don't hear from him for days. I would love for this to turn into something more but I'm not sure how they feel about dating someone they hooked up with right away. Advice?

So you already have feelings for him?

Posted by Jizzusizjizzin

Posted by Mandapants
So I'm a sag and I met this Aquarius man about 3 weeks ago on a dating site. He messaged me and we talked every morning for about 4 days until he asked for my number. The night he asked for it he jokingly told me to come over to his house. Because I knew that he was partially serious and because I didn't think I would have a relationship with this guy (he's 12 years older than I am) I went ahead and saw this as an opportunity for a friend with benefits. I went over and we ended up hitting it off so well! We talked for 2 hours before we did anything and when we did have sex it was amazing! I have seen him twice and both times we talk about everything under the sun and have great sex. Both times he hints that he wants me to stay the night but I decided not to because I didn't wanna catch feelings. He was trying to cuddle with me and being kinda cute.... So my question is, now I really like him so how do I play it from here? I've given him a TON of space since I know they don't like being smothered. We used to rotate texting each other every few days but within the last week it's me that texts him every 3 days or so. He's always really sweet and we'll talk for hours but then I don't hear from him for days. I would love for this to turn into something more but I'm not sure how they feel about dating someone they hooked up with right away. Advice?

So you already have feelings for him?

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I would say that I'm starting to...

Well, maybe you should slow down a little.

I mean you have met him twice and you communicate with him through text, 12 years older... hmm, something smells fishy here.

Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
Well, maybe you should slow down a little.

I mean you have met him twice and you communicate with him through text, 12 years older... hmm, something smells fishy here.

fishy in what way? and what do you mean by slow down? i see him about once a week or so. I saw him last night, same deal as the other times. It does now seem like it's just going to stay a sexual relationship though. I'm sure the dynamic to him is just that we sleep together and that's it. It seems like he doesn't take me seriously. I'm sure this might also have something to do with the age difference...

There's some truth in that jizz said (HA JIZZ)

Don't worry I'm not taking a stab at you but it is moving rather fast and it's really not a very aqua-friendly thing. Now's a good time to really think it over tbh, there's already some negativity fostering or at least some doubt on your end. If you've tried taking steps to rectify them like directly addressing him you might get more answers.

I don't disagree that men should be more forthcoming if you wish him to make the first move but know that it might drive you bat shit crazy. Also now that some feelings are attached I'd be more wary about agreeing to sex or it'll keep going down this destructive path. On the off chance if you do enjoy a physical relationship then it's really your call.

Thank goodness for this site! I'm really proud of myself, his bday was Sunday and I texted him happy bday. He was at a work convention in Texas (we live in California) so I wasn't really expecting to hear from him all weekend and I didn't. He drove there and back and worked the whole time so I assumed he was busy. When I didn't get a reply from him I was a little bummed but I made sure I didn't send him anything else. He got back from Texas yesterday and texted me saying he just got home and around to answering his messages and he thanked for me for the bday wishes. Then later on in the evening I texted him to ask how it was. I wasn't sure if I should bother him but I feel like he might want to talk about it so we texted for a few hours. It's so hard for me to just leave him alone but I think it's working! We made plans to hang out sometime later this week and since we are pretty much just fbuddies right now I sent him this video of some sexual stuff I want him to try on me and he said he would check it out. I figured that was playful enough and a way to plant a seed in his head to think of me. I hope it works....I'm so into this guy!

I think its cute how you do all these little jokes with him??_..

we dont do cute, we get drop dead gorgeous!

Posted by Mandapants
So I'm a sag and I met this Aquarius man about 3 weeks ago on a dating site. He messaged me and we talked every morning for about 4 days until he asked for my number. The night he asked for it he jokingly told me to come over to his house. Because I knew that he was partially serious and because I didn't think I would have a relationship with this guy (he's 12 years older than I am) I went ahead and saw this as an opportunity for a friend with benefits. I went over and we ended up hitting it off so well! We talked for 2 hours before we did anything and when we did have sex it was amazing! I have seen him twice and both times we talk about everything under the sun and have great sex. Both times he hints that he wants me to stay the night but I decided not to because I didn't wanna catch feelings. He was trying to cuddle with me and being kinda cute.... So my question is, now I really like him so how do I play it from here? I've given him a TON of space since I know they don't like being smothered. We used to rotate texting each other every few days but within the last week it's me that texts him every 3 days or so. He's always really sweet and we'll talk for hours but then I don't hear from him for days. I would love for this to turn into something more but I'm not sure how they feel about dating someone they hooked up with right away. Advice?

OMG, I have to tell you this. My story is 90% same as you. Can't believe it. I am also dating an Aqua man who is half French and German. We first met a month ago. I am just a traveller in Germany. He saw me in the streets, came to say Hi. Because he is so handsome that's why I stopped to talk to him. He invited for the first date. We talked a lot. He even cooked for me. At the outset, I just thought that he is a nice looking guy to dating and being with. But gradually, there's something happended inside me. He is very intelligent, gentle man and kindful to me. But he still haven't said anything seriously about us. He texted me few. And I am a kind girl who never text men first but so strange, with this guy, I texted him first twice! But when we are together, he spends all his time for me. Of course we had sex. He said "Morning" in the morning, asked me what I wanted to eat for breakfast, go outside for buying me some cakes or breads. To be honest, I was so surprised when he still want to make love though I was pe

And moreover, I am a typical Libra, too hesitate to make a decision especially in love. But I think all we have had is Fate. Because on that day when we first met, I didnt intend to go to the street in which we saw each other. And 1 day before we had the first sex, my ex texted me to come back...

sounds nice hexe??_.euro romance is the way to go

Posted by Mandapants
we are pretty much just fbuddies right now I sent him this video of some sexual stuff I want him to try on me and he said he would check it out. I figured that was playful enough and a way to plant a seed in his head to think of me. I hope it works....I'm so into this guy!

You do realize that you can't use sex to catch a guy, right?

Since you're so into him, it seems like you're going to want more than just a FWB. Sending him sexy videos is just reinforcing that it's just sex. So yeah, you're getting his attention, but you're reinforcing that you're a sex toy he can just look at as an f-buddy.

Try to be more playful in an intelligent way - that will draw him to you more than sex will. Otherwise, as soon as he's bored with the sex, he's just going to move on to the next conquest.

Posted by Mandapants
Ok I now know that he has an Aquarius moon and Aries Venus. Can I get some more insight on that? What I'm reading about an Aries Venus isn't so great. They get over women fast and don't like it If they make it too easy.... I also read that when they want someone they really go after them

This is why I said what I said. Copied from Alwaysastrology.com

Aries Venus

Aries Venus is a daring flirt. Subtlety is not for them. Instead of shyly hoping you'll notice them, they will try to impress you by letting you know about their accomplishments. They are a bit self-centered, but the right person will find this endearing. Their innocent charm comes through even though they may be acting like a spoiled child. They are impulsive, impatient and passionate?? in all areas the word for Aries Venus is "intense."

Those born with Venus in Aries can bring a childlike wonder to romance. They love to be active and energetic. They don't appreciate a "mature," vague or coy relationship. They love the chase and initial conquest. In order to keep their attention, you need to step it up to keep it new and fresh. They prefer their partner to be open and honest with them. They don't like playing games unless they're fun. Spontaneity adds fuel to their fire, and they'd rather be playful than serious. They like to lead, so be prepared to follow, at least most of the time. They will compete with you as fast as they will with anyone else. They don't like to lose when competing for someone's affections, and when they lose, they may be very irritable or moody.

Aries Venus falls fast and they are impulsive, so they can easily be attracted to many types of people. They get bored easily, and can lose interest just as quickly as they fell in love. They are very affectionate. If they get hurt, they are not afraid to stand up for themselves. When paired with a shyer soul, they can be a bit overwhelming. They like to have a little tension in a relationship to keep the excitement going?? it creates that mental stimulation to spark their interest.

In friendship, Aries Venus likes to be the alpha personality in the group. They are generous, exciting and confident. They are not afraid to push the envelope just to see what happens. They are direct and honest, and won't try to pull the wool over your eyes. They have no patience with self-pity and insecurity. Those born with Venus in

in Aries are admired because of their independence, confidence and sheer energy. They have a lust for life that makes them attractive. Instead of talking about what they want to do, they're out there doing it.

The fastest way to turn off an Aries Venus is to make them read your mind or analyze a relationship. This is too much digging into the mind for this sign. They much prefer to be active and dynamic. They would prefer a good rousing fight to a heart to heart talk about where the relationship should go.

If a Venus in Aries person can learn a little patience and tolerance, they can find that everyone does not get boring after ten minutes. They need to learn to put the work into a relationship so it can be long term and satisfying for both partners. Drama doesn't have to be on the level of Mount Vesuvius, lesser amounts of excitement can add interest, too. If Aries Venus stops for a moment and truly figures out what they really want, they will have a much easier time attaining their desire.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
sounds nice hexe??_.euro romance is the way to go

Thank you. Now I give much hope on him. I have had many scars from men in the past. This is the first time I dated with a foreigner. I am not sure whether everything is still alright. I really want to know how does he feel about me

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
sounds nice hexe??_.euro romance is the way to go

Thank you. Now I give much hope on him. I have had many scars from men in the past. This is the first time I dated with a foreigner. I am not sure whether everything is still alright. I really want to know how does he feel about me

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There's potentially the good and the bad but I'd say he's definitely a decent person. The traveller part would definitely have me on guard, bit of a "having fun while it lasts" sorta thing.

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
sounds nice hexe??_.euro romance is the way to go

Thank you. Now I give much hope on him. I have had many scars from men in the past. This is the first time I dated with a foreigner. I am not sure whether everything is still alright. I really want to know how does he feel about me

There's potentially the good and the bad but I'd say he's definitely a decent person. The traveller part would definitely have me on guard, bit of a "having fun while it lasts" sorta thing.

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Thanks 🙂. He is also finding ways to help me stay in Europe longer. He said it is unfair if I have to come back my home town since I am very active and nice to him.

I cannot guess his Moon and Venus sign. Just know he is Aqua. One more thing is he kiss me in the public esepcially in front of his brother...

a Aqua being THAT affectionate.

Pisces...


PISCES EVERYWHERE!

You mean his Moon sign or Venus sign is Pisces? I am not sure...
I am a typical Libra. We are both air sign

Ah and his Venus sign is Sag 🙂
I am not sure...I really want to take a move but I am woman...I cannot tell him first. He said that in the past, there some women dating with him but when they want to get in a relationship so quickly, he quit