Ideas on how to FUCK with the Aquarian male mind?

Hi Guys I got this idea from a topic Tiki comened on. And O think it will be very helpful.
I have gone through my grieving stages, and now I am mad.
He is so sure that I am pining and yearning.
I want to play some mind games now. He thinks there is no match for his mind games. Lots of his friends say he loves playing with people.
Ok give me some stories (funny, quirky, fascinating, mysterious) on how you have mindfucked them to the point that they became yor slave LOL 🙂🙂🙂

I want to cheer up and have some fun here.

you really don't want to PLAY mind games with an Aqua...I would move on BK, there is no reason to exert so much energy on assclowns, you will just end up more hurt over NOT being able to really have what you want which is a real loving relationship. If you didn't get into his head the day you began dating him there is no way to back pedal and try to establish that kind of mental connection, were air, were mental and our minds have to be lit up like a drug *the only way I can describe it* It's hard to explain, it's like him you and that mental energy in between you and him, it's the energy that will sustain the relationship or he will bore and move on or torture her to death emotionally until he either dumps her, she jumps off a cliff or she chooses to leave.....argh ick ewww give me a knife so I can end it already lol

Cant we have a little fun? Please! 🙂

BTW for the first year and a half we had a really amazing mental connection... he couldnt stay away from me... then we had a misunderstanding, then everything got messed up, then came the model girl and big success.... now his head is in clouds...
So there WAS a connection, but now it has disconnected.

You cannot tell me this is not a hard hearted and cold man I am dealing with. Where is the warmth. After a few years, to act like I am nothing now is hurtful. I mean there was also a friendship. But he does not care. Yes I admit last several months I have been trying to initiate more... so he wasnt given the chance to chase... And that lead to decreased attraction.
I am aware of the dynamcs.

Once the connection is severed IT'S OVER, why can't you women understand this, I'm not cold, I know it hurts when a person acts as though that person and relationship never existed but the best thing a woman can do with an aqua male is LET GO AND DISAPPEAR, I mean that literally, we will seek you out but we have to feel like your completely unavailable to us then you can play your mind fucking games if you choose to do so but right now your on the shitty ass end of the situation so you have zero power right now, once your feelings/emotions are under control completely were you literally can take him or leave then and only then will you be able to go there but right now it's not going to happen BK

"... the best thing a woman can do with an aqua male is LET GO AND DISAPPEAR, I mean that literally, we will seek you out but we have to feel like your completely unavailable to us then you can play your mind treetrunking games if you choose to do so but right now your on the butterty ass end of the situation so you have zero power right now, once your feelings/emotions are under control completely were you literally can take him or leave then and only then will you be able to go there but right now it's not going to happen BK"

Yes I know I know
U are absolutely right

Question about this:
"Once the connection is severed IT'S OVER "

So do awuas never come back once the connection went away. Can it ever be reestablished? Just out of curiosity.

If he can't see the value of having you in his life then what's the point of playing head games. If the connection was strong he will resurface but he has to hit bottom emotionally, meaning he has to go through some emotional hardships in order to miss what he had, right now this woman is probably more mentally challenging because of her status, she's his dreamgirl, he's intrigued by her life style , her inner circle of friends but once he tires of the shallow nature of this relationship he will seek a more grounded relationship one were he can be himself...dreamgirls turn into nightmares, leave him to it and don't interfere, he will be back

I will be faithful to your advice. You are very smart. Been reading your advice to any girls here.
It is so tough. I have to suffer and cry in silence.
I still feel he is a jerk. I sent him an email 2 days ago letting him know that I am going through a family health crisis. It was unexpected, and I am dealing with the stress of it all. He never even responded. wow. So he no longer even thinks of me as a friend. And the irony is that I didnt do anything to him. This is an example of a cruel aqua male heart? Even an enemy would send a message saying he wishes me well.

Oh My God, what excuse can anyone have for not responding to someone going through a crisis? I am even more dazed at this act of lack of compassion. This is cruel.

your seeking something he is not ready to give which is friendship maybe your seeking love and validation as well and to him that's what he's avoiding as to not mislead you or to set himself to be in your life when he know he isn't interested in connecting with you nor is he ready to be committed to respond to you every time you come around, stop reaching out to a man that isn't available and you won't be hurt by his actions or lack of actions.

So u don't think that not saying anything in response to a sad event in someone's family wrong? A simple "I am sorry to hear that" is not going to make a person be mislead about intentions of the relationship. Compassion is a normal and kind human act and response.

I mean shouldnt I interpret his lack of respnse as him being a bad person now? Someone I dont even know anymore...

BK you don't get it, you have not left this man alone, he is afraid if he reaches out you will get the impression that he's still romantically involved or interested in you as a friend so instead he is avoiding you, you had no right to reach out to him, he hasn't been that responsive with you in the past so everything your doing makes no sense, it's like your trying to force yourself on him, I am not saying he's right but why are you pushing yourself on him like this you are clearly making him uncomfortable with your manipulative actions. He's not an open option, he is not interested in connecting with you tragedy or not, I myself would think you were trying to open up the lines of communication as to force me into your life, I would be suspicious of actions and I too would avoid you, sorry but the approach your using is not going to work as you can tell...He will reach out to you but not right now and if you keep coming to him with little to no response on his part he will permanently stay away because it will feel desperate, crazy and controlling....right now he's done with it either accept it or drive yourself nuts over something you can't change

But listen Tiki, he just a few weeks ago reached out to me on his own asking me to call him back, and asked me why I did not say hello to him. So if he truly was trying to tell me he didnt want any contact with me, he wouldnt have bothered to call me the day after the party.
In the past few weeks, I have had a difficult time dealing with my family crisis, and I wrote the email explaining to him that I am not myself being under stress while going thru this thing, and I fel like I should communicate with him the right way (ie perhaps on the phone). I wrote the email bc before that I had sent a text a few days earlier that sounded somewhat like a goodbye letter (I was writing that I didnt want to be a female statistic to him and I felt our friendship was taken for granted, etc).

oh gosh, Bk do what you need to do, it's not resonating, he told you to call him as to not seem like a complete asshole and his voicemail box was full and he intentionally ignored you at an after party, what more do you need for him to do to see how he's blowing you off? He didn't respond to you calling, he hasn't been responding to you period, I mean come on, when are you seriously going to get it already?

Posted by FeistyAquarian
Hire a Scorpio to....umm...shoot him in the leg or something.

LOL!! Might jus work

Anyway it just seemed like I have made a mess of things. When he called, I should have just picked up, instead of letting it go to vm, and simply state what I was feeling instead of thru a mess of emails and texts where one cannot completely convey the gist. Ugh... now I have to extricate myself completely to save face.
Anyway him not responding to my crisis is a telltale sign of who he is. I am sorry but this is the only way to see that. No one would make up a family crisis to manipulate someone. How could anyone think that. He did call me weeks before, so it was not like I was trying to reinstate myself after months of his disappearance or something.

"Hire a Scorpio to....umm...shoot him in the leg or something."

That put a smile on me after a long time. LOL. J/k

You have been seeing this, this isn't new BK, you keep hoping he's not a jerk, he's not selfish, he cares more than he really does, right now it's not like that...stop chasing him, he's not responding

"he told you to call him as to not seem like a complete marker "

Ya but an aqua who doesnt care, doesnt care to call no matter what.

But/.....Looks like NOW he TRULY doesnt care though.

"stop chasing him, he's not responding"

yep that is obvious...
Sucks. He sucks.

when some Aquas don't care they just don't especially if our lives are not all that great we do become completely narcissistic and focus on ourselves even if it means hurting others, how can someone force themselves to care, he's not interested in your life for whatever reason, for you that makes him a bad person but realistically he's only bad because he's not the person you need him to be.

it hurts i know that feeling but you have to move on BK, that is the healthy thing to do

"he's not interested in your life for whatever reason"

I know but responding to human suffering is not about being interested. It is about conneecting with humanity. I thought that was the aqua way.
He has a great life, has made tons of miney and is at the top of his career at the moment. He could have had sympathy, compassion, concerm... just as a fellow human (if not as a lover or friend), even on a distant level like a text or a one liner email.

No excuse.

oh gosh this topic was supposed to be fun and funny... oh dear...

he DOES NOT want to CONNECT with you.....period, it has nothing to do with humanity, it has to do with him being uninterested in your life, when a man is out of a woman's life, he's out and it's his right to stay connected or disconnected with a woman for whatever reason, he's just not that into you not even as a friend....We both know you harbor some strong emotional feelings and that is partly why he's avoiding you, he does not want to maintain any kind of connection with you right now as to not stir up any unhealthy attachments....you may not like it but it is what it is

your thoughts carry these expectations in a non-existent friendship/relationship and all your doing is creating more emotional drama over a man that is not in your life.

It will be fun when you stop trying to ease your way back into a mans life that clearly doesn't want you there lol

wow :/

I was sitting 2 days on the beach with my ex Aqua, together with our mutual friends, he even traveled with me 3 hours in my car. In this whole period he didn't say a word to me, not asked me "how I am, what's up", or whatever. He ignored me all the time, just sitting in front of me, avoiding eye contact, turning his head on another side when I had something to tell... Silent treatment is the worst experience I ever had in my life from beloved person. I was such a fool to picked up him and draw him to his birth city on vacation. I sent him a short message that I hope that we can talk like normal people, and why is he so angry about me, because I really didn't make nothing wrong, i was the best person form him ever (his words when we were together)... He answered that he is not mad on me, but he just don't want to talk. Ok, you don't want to talk, I can understand that, but you cannot IGNORE me like I'm a ghost in front of you...you'll be react on ghost on some way! Where is here a basic bon-ton?? After a breakup, now almost 2 months ago, I didn't called him, no text messages, no emails, i just let him be, let him alone, no words, no explanations, nothing. He never ever called me, sent me an email, nothing. Ok, your way... I leave you alone, I understand that you are not in the mood to talk with your ex...etc. But, if my ex, or person which I knew for some reason (job friend, neighbor, whoever...) tell me that s/he has a problem or bad time, or ask me "hi, how are you", of course I will respond with txt message or email, or call him/her back, to see what is going on, showing any kind of compassion, caring and interest no matter if I dumped him or he dumped me for some reason. We are humans not dead persons. Even dogs say hallo to eachother on the street!
So, Baby, I completely understand your feelings. Please, you have to be strong, concentrate on yourself first, don't think about him (I know it is hard), but if it so like you explained here, and I know it is cause I am experiencing almost similar situation (ok, here's not other woman involved, but I think that he is not "over" with deep emotions for his ex gf who unfortunately died in car accident, and he is still dealing with this trauma), you don't have to worry, he is not the right man for you, he cannot respond truly to your precious being, and he just don't deserve your greatness and love. Maybe they are immature, stuck somewhere with emotions, cause adult men 30+ will not behave like this. I had muc

(cont.) much younger guys and every time I see them on the street, or online, we exchange our feelings, words, worrying about each other since we are not long together. This "human touch", sense for other human being is something wonderful. I never thought that my Aqua will the worst guy ever after a breakup. When we were a couple, hHE was the one who told me that if something happens between us, or if we separate, that we can stay in touch, be friends or just go to movie together. And now, what I got - total ignorance and cruelness.
Keep your head up, take care of your present, think about your satisfaction, your beauty, your job, your friends and family. Do the best for you. Read the books, watch movies, have fun, go out, dance, just please don't stuck in the moment thinking about him. Leave him in his ignorance, that's belong to him. And like always, everything will be returned back, your's to you, his to him.

Absolutely true.
Oakley that was so nice of yo to write me. I know you are hurting too. you are a good woman. Dont know why he did that to you. So heartless.

Wow, ladybug, you bounced back quick!
Nice. Cancer and scorpio should be an easy match and just what you need.

Just kidding. I am waaaaaay too nice to want to fuck with anyone's mind. Even when I am mad, I cannot hurt anyone. 🙂 🙂

Silly Aquas!! Shooting him in the leg is just physical pain!! You want to give him emotional pain if this is to be a revenge thing. Sheesh our sense of justice is sorta fair! At least give us that. 😛 🙂 LOL Just kidding

I agree 100% with you Tiki....🙂

I'm fairly new here and to most relationships but sharing the sign with aqua males, I can assure you that the best thing to do is to MOVE ON
and show him (genuinely) how much your life has changed for the better. This is the best time to pamper yourself physically, mentally and even spritually.

...but if all that fails I know a few scorpios who can help you out. (wink, wink) 🙂

The best advice I can give is that you never let your mind contemplate over someone who is not contemplating you. I think thats why us aquas get away with being so called 'detached' and 'unemotional'. Its just a built up defense mechanism, and most aquarius men that I know are like the sheep in little bo peep.

'Leave them alone and they will come home wagging their tails behind them' lol

Gosh I am still very sad. Cannot sleep bc I never got to understand what the hell happened to our friendship. Pouf? Anyway been on dating sites, and what do u know am chatting with a Cancer. Guess, thats what Lady M said was good for the situation. The Cancer guy is funny and kind and warm.
Aqua never cared about me after everything we went thru last 3 yrs.
It makes me sad, that he could just leave wthout an explanation or a talk... it is not like we dated a few months when disappeaing is par for the course in short relationships. I thought we had a connecttion.

Funny Cancers seem to be the in thing after a woman has felt betrayed by her aqua. They are quite different. Any downside to cancer men?