is it just me?

i recently started to develop feelings for an aquarius. we both tell each other that we love one another. he makes love to me for hours into the morning,take showers together,light candles and flowers and he even cuddles and holds me tight all night long. Then i dont hear from him for 2 or 3 days on a row. is this just how ya'll are or is he lying and playing with my emotions. i know as scorpios we can jump to conclusions, be demanding, and suspicious. We are not in a relationship so i dont try to push so much,but at times i really be wanting to be close to him, or even hear his voice. i have scorpio sun , libra moon and leo ascendant. so closeness is important to me, should i let this go? or if not how can i communicate what i want without sounding needy. with my planets should i just see aquarius and run or wat im so confused :-/. any help or advice you all could give me i greatly appreciate it, cause im at the point where i have to decide if im going to walk away, or stay, cause if i deal with him much longer i know its going to be hard to say goodbye :,(

Is he dating/seeing anyone else? Have you two discussed what the extent your relationship is? Perhaps he thinks is exclusive? —?

These are things you need to find out.

If the answers to the questions above are not indicating a step toward more, then my best advice is if you want a relationship with him, stop sleeping with him. There are so many women who begin casual with an aqua and then develop feelings for them. They are irresistable, I agree, but as it is right now, he has no incentive to bring this to the next level, i.e. relationship. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing and I'm not saying it won't develop into a real relationship, but odds are it usually doesn't.

I'm not trying to be hurtful or negative, I just don't want to see you get hurt. There are TONS of threads on here about women getting hurt in your situation. If it continues as is and there is no established exclusivity/relationship/status/etc. then I'm afraid you're going to be.

And when you have that conversation, if you do, then, be rational, direct, logical and whatever you do, DO NOT get emotional!

your right and caps are always so honest and logical i love my earth sisters. thank you so much for your advice. i have tolld him that i dont like to be pushed aside. tho we both said we wanted more than casual. He and i agreed to that, we even talk about etting a place together in a couple of months. But i dont feel that he is dependable based off his disapperences. So even tho he says all these good things i just dont know how much of it he really means. I think to stop sleeping with him is bes for now cause wen he leaces for those long amounts of time i feel rejected, and used. that is a real fact. i feel im some what settling beause i havent had anyone special in my life since
July of 2012. he is a cool guy so ive tried to be just friends. still outside of sex wen we do spend time together the mental attraction is heavy and we have alot of the same friends so its hard to just push him away, even wen i act like im ignoring him. i will just have to try harder. heaven help me!

It's not unusual for them to go 2-3 days without talking. Just let him know how much you enjoy hearing from him. Don't be all like "why don't you call more?" be more "it feels so nice to hear your voice. I'm glad you called". That might help motivate him to contact you more.

Based on what you've said, it appears he has good intentions toward you. That's promising!!!!!! Are you an earth sign? I can see your sheilds activated, if so! lol! Might be a good idea to keep them up and running just in case, but not so much you seem unapproachable.

@truecap she said she is a scorpio sun READ :p just kidding

You communicate with your feelings and your heart... an Aquarius communicates with his mouth and his mind. Does this mean there is no hope NO I think it can work but you both have got to not shit yourself off from one another. I can't tell you how to deal with the 3 days distance cause it could just be him and liking his space.... Truth be told your personality should like your space at times too... Just not so regularly. I mean telling him you dislike that could go bad or good. You could just be direct and voice your concern. Don't demand it lol that will get you nothing.... Tell him directly how it makes you feel and tell him some light communication would be better then none.

You have to be humble just like him in that both your signs are quite possibly the most difficult for everyone else in the zodiac. People at times have to just have FAITH lol in you that both of ya'll still love them and are not cheating on them with the stuff you both do and if you doubt me you go look it up for yourself. I am fighting with it right now myself... Because this relationship can be such a power struggle it's rediculous. But you have so much to learn and grow as humans that it is really worth it if you can keep communication open. I think even a immature or deeply emotionally hurt Aqua can be made whole again by a scorpio.... It would probably take that kind of love to do the job.

I can't predict what will happen no one can.

LoL shit= shut

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your right and caps are always so honest and logical i love my earth sisters. thank you so much for your advice. i have tolld him that i dont like to be pushed aside. tho we both said we wanted more than casual. He and i agreed to that, we even talk about etting a place together in a couple of months. But i dont feel that he is dependable based off his disapperences. So even tho he says all these good things i just dont know how much of it he really means. I think to stop sleeping with him is bes for now cause wen he leaces for those long amounts of time i feel rejected, and used. that is a real fact. i feel im some what settling beause i havent had anyone special in my life since
July of 2012. he is a cool guy so ive tried to be just friends. still outside of sex wen we do spend time together the mental attraction is heavy and we have alot of the same friends so its hard to just push him away, even wen i act like im ignoring him. i will just have to try harder. heaven help me!

I love scorps! They can bring out either the best or worst in us. My last scorp ex wouldn't have been satisfied until I was bleeding on floor proffessing my undying love for her. Your relationship is casual give him time and talk about it calmly. He seems to be very into you he just may need to as you say disappear to sort all the emotion out. Scorps are super deep emotionally and aqua's need time to catch up. Heck i need time alone just to get my head right every so often just dealing with my gem gf. Dont think of it as he doesnt love you or care just the opposite he does. An aqua doesnt disappear on someone they dont think will hurt them. The fact he comes back means he is trusting you with his heart. As things move forward you will see more of him as he trusts more.

very interesting. I will try to remain more logical about things, somtimes i also think that because im so romantic it may cause him to get ovewhelmed and even a bit afraid of how he feels with me. Cause he is very loving wen we are together. in public we talk and communicate, laugh and have fun but just like friends which is also important to me cause i have venus in saggitaerius so friendship makes me comfortable in relationships. his venus is pisces. his mars in sag. with his mars conjunting my venus by 2 degrees. so there is a lot of strong connections, but yes guards are up for both of us based off our past and in ways i can see how i push him away too wen things dont go my way. I need t find a more positive communication style . so thanks for bring that to my attention NotYourAverageAquarius.