Moving On from Messed up Ex and Breakup

Just would like an input..im new to this forum...

Well i would just like some words of wisdom on how to move on from my recent ex..you see me and my ex have been on and off for he past 3 years, we broke up d 1st year (in 2011) cz he lef me for his then ex gf...fwd to a few months later (in 2012) we started seeing each other again but broke up dt time bcause some girl called me and said that they were living together at the house he lived at and i had been like once or twice (nvr went in cz he alwys had some type of excuse)

fastfwd to Dec 2012 and feb 2013 we started talking and taking things slowly gettin to know each other again and decided to giv it another try in march (2013)...two months in May (2013) my mother got sick (note i live with her and had to take up d responsibility of taking up the house matters of bills etc)...at that time he had known dt she was sick but it nvr got til bad until den..so i went to him and said i needed space to get everything sort out and wen it is i will come to u and sit down and tell u everything...fast fwd to June (2013) i got a txt from him breaking up with me an hour later he said he was drunk and didnt mean it..i was angry and told him i didnt want to hear it...

fstfwd to Sept (2013) he started seeing a girl 4 years younger dan me who lives 3 houses from me on my street...post pics of dem and i love u's on fb and all dt jazz....he says its his way of moving on..i told him good for him even though it bothers me but he will nvr gt the satisfaction of knowing dt...

anywys just wanted u guys advice on how to deal with dis situation cz i rly cnt nt see them together since they basically flaunt their love near my house and on social media and all dt..

How do i move on from dis messed up situation?

Who is the aqua, you or him?

I am the Aquarius born February 16th, 1989 he is a leo July 28

Delete him from social media if it hurts you to see their pictures.

@everevolvingepithet...u have me laughing at that picture...thank u for making me smile today..rly needed that..

I don't gate them either i just hate the fact that the Leo guy i knew (namely ex bf) thought he was god's gift to women......But as they say...we accept the love we think we deserve...hmm...smh..

Whoa

This guy has been playing/hurting you from the beginning

Why you kept allowing your heart to take another devastating ride is something maybe you think made sense

And did you just say that he dumped you via text? Yeah move on girl

This guy is not and never has been truly invested in you. When it comes to comparing yourself to other women or judging their potential for him, don't even go there. Who they are doesn't matter; focusing on them just deflects & distracts you from remembering the REAL problem: Him

Delete him off of Facebook. Completely strip your emotions naked of him. Will it be hard? Of course. But heart break & that feeling of always hurting is something you've already been enduring, so what's a few nights of self-discipline gonna hurt?

Leave him alone. He is not the one for you. You are not the one for him, as evident in his actions. Focus on yourself & your family

This man has shown you AND told you over & over again why he isn't worth your time. If you keep giving it to him as if you have no common sense or self-esteem, don't expect for his respect for you to increase, if he even has any respect for you at all

Admit & acknowledge that you keeping him around was bad judgment on your part, learn whatever lessons you've gotta learn from it, pack up & move on. If you always do what you always did, you're always gonna get what you always got. Never forget that.

krysrenee7 thank u for ur insight that is what i am trying to do and i have started talking o other ppl aswell...yes i have deleted him from fb also this week...and got the courage as well to remove everything that reminds me of him because i have learnt and after looking back at everything know that im a good person and i didnt deserve any of this bt as i said before i thought he was what i needed...

and Oldman...no he doesnt live near me his new gf does...and yes that is what he said through fb

Join a meetup.com group. Good vibes to you.

Posted by CassieJones24bze
krysrenee7 thank u for ur insight that is what i am trying to do and i have started talking o other ppl aswell...yes i have deleted him from fb also this week...and got the courage as well to remove everything that reminds me of him because i have learnt and after looking back at everything know that im a good person and i didnt deserve any of this bt as i said before i thought he was what i needed...

and Oldman...no he doesnt live near me his new gf does...and yes that is what he said through fb

I'm so happy for you!!

It's like we spend our entire lives looking for this grand man that will love us the way we deserve, right?! Oh he's def. out there somewhere! But in order for that rare opportunity to happen, he's gotta he within our reach. And he can't be within our reach if we're still busy trying to chase the bad men who don't wanna be caught!!!

When we say we want real love, our dating decision have to reflect that we're serious when we say that we want it!! And hey, sometimes that means having to cut toxins out

Once he sees that you're gone for good, I'm gonna tell you right now, he'll try to come back. Not b/c he wants to straighten up...not b/c his intentions will be good...but b/c men like him like testing women to see if they've still "got it." His games can't work if you're no longer the prey

krysrenee7..i Totally agree with what u r saying and u have made me realized that it was just really a game all along for him to see if i was still under his "spell"...Well honestly after all of that i can say that i have learned a few lessons from that toxic relationship and i no longer wish for him to be a part of my life...We have spoken a few days ago and i told him i no longer want him around nor wish to be his friend in any type of way and hope that he finds whatever it is he is looking for...

Posted by CassieJones24bze
krysrenee7..i Totally agree with what u r saying and u have made me realized that it was just really a game all along for him to see if i was still under his "spell"...Well honestly after all of that i can say that i have learned a few lessons from that toxic relationship and i no longer wish for him to be a part of my life...We have spoken a few days ago and i told him i no longer want him around nor wish to be his friend in any type of way and hope that he finds whatever it is he is looking for...

Good for you! It takes a lot of courage to walk away from something that may have felt good even though it was technically toxic!

I'm sure you will move on to find a better man! And I'm praying that this situation hasn't altered you in a negative way, ultimately stopping you from allowing yourself to trust or fully submit to the right man for you in the future that actually won't play with your heart.

Good luck girlie!

Posted by CassieJones24bze
krysrenee7..i Totally agree with what u r saying and u have made me realized that it was just really a game all along for him to see if i was still under his "spell"...Well honestly after all of that i can say that i have learned a few lessons from that toxic relationship and i no longer wish for him to be a part of my life...We have spoken a few days ago and i told him i no longer want him around nor wish to be his friend in any type of way and hope that he finds whatever it is he is looking for...

Just make sure to be true to yourself and KEEP him in your past. It's hard, very hard at times but you CAN do it. I say this after a long and I do mean long back and forth relationship; or more a dysfunctional toxic exchange. I finally had to realize that I didn't want nor need that in my life and even though we had a 20+ history I had to finally just end it all, including my friendship, because that was the healthy thing to do. Am I the only Aqua that holds on to friendships even though they are well past time to go?

From reading what you wrote about what has happened- he's not worth you time, effort, energy & doesn't deserve you! Find the one that is worth your time, effort, etc..Best of luck to you.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

love this! Ha!

Thank u krysrenee7...no it has not i dont let the negative things in my life bring me down..i always try to find the positive in everything bad that happens to me...and hopefully one day i will find what it is i am looking for as well...

Thank u justagirl no you are not the only Aquq that holds on to friendships even though they are well past time to go...as you can see i have done it as well and yea he is in the past as i said before i have gotten rid of everything that reminds me of him and have currently moved on with my life...

I feel like a weight have been lifted off my shoulders and I am happy about that...