Now what?

After suggesting to Mr. Aqua that we call it quits for good because of his 'situation', he gets in touch a few days later to tell me that im just 'being scared', and that he wants me to "be around, and in his life". Jesus, now what..is this typical BS or is this for real? What does anyone think??

Sola, my experience with Aquaboys is that is how they act. I am, however, suprised that he admitted that he was scared - the Aquas I know don't possess a fear for almost everything.

My gut told me to end it with Aqua because of his wishy washiness and it sounds like this Aqua is doing the same to you. Listen to your instinct - you're likely better off without him or he'll suck you in each and everytime you try to walk away.

i think aquas are very afraid of being close to someone-or something, im not sure what, but it shows with mine

Yes, they're afraid, but 99.99% of them won't admit it!

i am not sure what the confusion is about..isnt he married?

WTF? He's married? If that's the case, what was she doing getting involved with that drama?

Man, oh man...that's just not right - for either side of that story.

the dude is married

walk away from him...cut off ties..he's married and you don't want to get involved with the drama of being the "other woman". you don't need advice on Aquas; you need advice on how to get involved with a SINGLE man; not one who isn't going to leave his wife for you.

"I left because he 'accidentally forgot to tell me he was married'"

Sola, this is what you wrote a week or so ago about this guy! He's married and you left because of that...so I really don't see the point of your Now What question. If you want to get involved with a married man, do so! but there is no point in agonizing over it online and hoping people will decipher the "aqua man's" weird behavior in order for you to have a healthy relationship and be happy!
Why can't people take responsibility for their actions anymore————?

You know i really hope none of you guys end up (innocently) in the same situation as me..all i know is his situation sucks, but i was already in too deep by the time i found out. All im asking for is a little help..not a preaching session. I know this can never be right, but love makes us all do stupid stuff..thanks anyway.

Right on SagitTauries...but it doesn't hurt to try.
Now Sola, people are not blaming you or preaching you for falling for a married man innocently! that can happen to anyone. What is potentially to blame is for staying in the situation and try to rationalize it one way or another.
you came here asking for advice but you can't expect people to tell you what you want to hear...if so, then proceed with your life, you don't need us to dictate how you should live it. it's your life at the end of the day.
Now, innocently getting in deep with a married man is one thing. Wanting to pursue the relationship after knowing about his marital status is another: it's stealing what's not yours and you know what: what goes around comes around. It's so hard to have a relationship with a person that is single, one would think that common sense would dictate that it is pointless to try out one with a married person.
Now to try to answer your first question: Now what? "he gets in touch a few days later to tell me that... he wants me to "be around, and in his life".
He is just telling you that he wants a Mistress, read: someone that he will not spend christmas/the new year with, that he will see in hiding, that he can't introduce to his friend, someone that he can use when he wants and how he wants it. If you can justify this deal on love: then call him and say we're on buddy!

Sola - don't waste your time. He started the relationship by lying to you, not a little lie - a HUGE lie, a lie to manipulate you into a relationship.
If you keep on seeing him knowing that he is married you are also relaying to him that you have no boundaries or much respect for yourself. He will use that against you.

If you have any empathy or a conscience - think about what he is doing to his wife - and if he can treat her like that ................