Please help me with this aqua guy

I recently met an aquaguy.We had sex on the 3rd and 4th dates.I told him the following day after the 4th that I feel guilty us having sex cause we just met. He said he likes me and that I worry too much. The 5th date, I refused and told him I was really tired to do anything, it was 1AM. He knew it because I worked about 12 hours the day before. So he said that he's gonna take me home cause he needed some sleep too. We kissed , then before were out the door, it happened. We had sex. I felt really bad about myself cause I usually dont have sex if Im not in a committed relationship.For some reason, when Im with him I do things out of control.I acted distant and quiet the rest of the time we were together. I think its my way to get back control of myself and my way of telling him "Do you like me or just want me for sex?".Then I realized the way I acted was wrong. I should have talked to him instead of being silent and distant. So I sent him a text to apologize.No respond. Called him no respond. Sunday I sent a text and called him again. No respond. Then sunday night he sent me a text saying: "Relax, Im not mad I just need time to think. I'll call you".What should I do? I like him and want this to progress. My other issue too is I think that he only uses me for sex even he says it not true because the first 2 nights we were out even before the sex happened he already showed interest of hooking up with me.

My chart:
Rising Sign is in 26 Degrees Aquarius
Sun is in 29 Degrees Scorpio ( Im a Scorp-Sag cusp born Nov22)
Moon is in 20 Degrees Aries
Mercury is in 18 Degrees Sagittarius
Venus is in 15 Degrees Scorpio
Mars is in 08 Degrees Leo
Jupiter is in 04 Degrees Cancer.
Saturn is in 00 Degrees Virgo
Uranus is in 13 Degrees Scorpio
Neptune is in 15 Degrees Sagittarius
Pluto is in 15 Degrees Libra

His Chart:
Rising Sign is in 03 Degrees Gemini
Sun is in 15 Degrees Aquarius
Moon is in 24 Degrees Taurus
Mercury is in 12 Degrees Aquarius
Venus is in 29 Degrees Sagittarius
Mars is in 11 Degrees Aquarius
Jupiter is in 02 Degrees Leo
Saturn is in 12 Degrees Virgo
Uranus is in 20 Degrees Scorpio
Neptune is in 19 Degrees Sagittarius
Pluto is in 19 Degrees Libra

hmmm...i am dating an aqua and your aqua's chart is a bit similar to my aqua's. my aqua also has venus in sag and mercury in aquarius. our relationship also started out VERY quickly and the attraction was instantly there, however we did not have sex for a while. but, we did not get to know one another first on a friend level...we just jumped into it because we were so heavily attracted to one another and the spark was just there. and he told me within the first couple of weeks that he did not want to start a relationship, he was not ready for it. and then he went on to tell me about his past relationship and how he got hurt, etc. so, i respected that and left him alone and went and did my own thing. so, i think the best thing you can do right now is respect his wishes and give him the space that he needs right now to think things over. more than likely he is overwhelmed because things happened real fast between you two. you just go on with your life and do whatever you did before you met him, and let him come to you if and when he is ready. don't try to control the situation...just let it be.

oh, oops...i think it's his mars that's in aquarius actually 🙂

Thanks for your advice moonchild 🙂. I always give him his space. Just to add more info,I don't initiate calls for us to meet up ,it was always his idea.Neither I initiate calls just to chat. I called and sent him text messages over the weekend to apologize. Then when I received his text on Sunday night, I never tried to contact him again.

Oh boyeeeee.......

"I recently met an aquaguy.We had sex on the 3rd and 4th dates." ---> Me thinks you gave yourself up toooo early (you know this too.) this minimizes his efforts to really get to know you...there are two catagories that men put women in~

1- the good time girl and that is all she will be to him
2- the girl he wants to really get to know (his Prize)


"I told him the following day after the 4th that I feel guilty us having sex cause we just met. He said he likes me and that I worry too much." ------ of course he told you this.....he wants to keep you around - what else would he really say?


"The 5th date, I refused and told him I was really tired to do anything, it was 1AM. He knew it because I worked about 12 hours the day before. So he said that he's gonna take me home cause he needed some sleep too. We kissed , then before were out the door, it happened. We had sex." -------> what happened here, you were in your Power by saying what you truly were feeling (good for you!) note* at this point this can become a "challenge" to a man...ah, I bet I can get her to give it up.


"I felt really bad about myself cause I usually dont have sex if Im not in a committed relationship." ------> You feel bad because you did not honour yourself - you have values and you gave them up. Also, this guy now knows that your word does not mean much to him, you, to him are easily manipulated. *If he doesn't make you feel good about yourself, then he's not good for you.

Sounds like a great learning experience - let your feelings be your guide and PLEASE trust them - when we as women give up our power, our values...our body let's us know (by our feelings) that we are on the wrong track in this particular situation.

Wishing you all the best!

No ones using you if your willingly slinging leg. A man will always take sex if offered.

He was the first guy I had sex with which I had no committed relationship.All the rest I had long term relationships not less than 2 years. For some reason, this aqua guy and I are heavily attracted to each other and I lost control of the situation. I've dated other guys and some told me that Im to difficult and distant, maybe because I don't give up sex that easy . This is the first time I've made this mistake, please don't be so tough with me 🙂(but your honest opinion is appreciated) . I do have positive attitude, if he doesn't come back that means a better one will come around.

"This is the first time I've made this mistake," -----> personally, I'd like to think that you did not make a "mistake" rather....you experienced a lesson....it was just an experience and one to learn from (if one so chooses) - which btw is what life is about and why we are here.

"please don't be so tough with me" ------> It was not my intention to be "tough" with you...only to give you another perspective to consider for the future. 😉

The Best,

No ones using you if your willingly slinging leg. A man will always take sex if offered.





OUCH!
not if she looks like an old witch😛

If he's hanging out with her (and currently banging her) im sure she doesnt look like an old witch!😉

...besides some guys are into that sort of thing😛

ha! beat the dead horse day?

Agree with him on the and that I worry too much."

Sex, emotional intensity, etc, may or may not have an effect on the long term progression, you just never know...but no one uses anyone for sex - it's a 2-way street...if you felt he was using you for sex, then at the end of the 10th, 20th date, etc...he still would have had sex and walked away somehow right?

I assume you wanted the sex, then afterwards, you switched on him - there lies the issue - the guilt/manipulation/control switch...that scares guys more than anything in women...IMO sexual/emotional control does not give or take away power, it's the consistency/reliability/loyalty in your behaviour that gives you strength...I'd say chill (but you're a scorp 😛 my bad ).

Then if you have a problem about the sex issue you should be talking to him, good luck when he replies back.

In short ....no, he wont turn down the sex. But its not whats between your legs that will get him to stay, its what above your shoulders; utilize it or move on.

ha...well that explains my bf cause he is aqua with venus in sag!!! BIG TIME commitment phobe!

I doubt anyone knows for definite what gets any man to stay no matter the sign - even if they stay, do we really know why?

my friend is aqua with venus in sag
he is also a commitment phobe too

Can anyone please read the compatibility between me and him. Thanks very much!

i also have a guy friend who is a sag with aqua moon...and he also seems like a commitment phobe. maybe it's just a dangerous combo!!!

If you wanna suss an aquarian.........no texts, no phonecalls, be the "forever ender"....ie,. I no longer want you to be part of my world speech......watch him coming running!

and if you dare to say.....when you are drunk you look unattractive, speak unattractive ans areare emotionaally sttractive............every which way!!!

He asked me to hang out again, should I accept his invitation?

b2u you're my GOD for today ! if you don't mind of course---muah

Is venus cusp possible? If it is, then he is on sag-capri cusp. His birthday is a day before venus enters cap.