Question about how to deal with Aqua male

I'm going to make this as brief as possible, I was recently contacted by an Aqua male who I very briefly dated over 20 years ago. Thanks to FB he reached out to me about 5 years ago and has some very interesting conversations about how we truly felt about each other back then but at the time I was with someone else so it didn't go anywhere. We live in different states and when he learned he was coming out to where I lived he tried to contact me thru fb but I haven't really been on there recently so he did a lot of digging (I mean he did a lot to find me it's actually very flattering). So when he arrives he contacts me and I give him my number we go to dinner and it's basically a walk down memory lane. With me reliving the fact that he broke my heart. By the end of the trip we've had dinner a few times (amazingly it was never awkward even though we hadn't seen each other in 20 years) and there really seemed to be renewed feelings for both of us (he called me beautiful multiple times and told me I was the one who got away).

He's been home for a week now and I've heard from him twice but not in the last 3 days. Even though I been doing a little research on Aqua's and realize that this is not uncommon but how can you track me down, claim to want to get to know me again and then disappear?

My question is how do I respond when he finally contacts me again? I am waaay too old to play games and would love to pick up the phone and ask him why I haven't heard from him but thought to myself "did I read this situation wrong"?

What do you think?

strictly my opinion:
if it didn't work 20 years ago, it won't now...it was, how you said, a beautiful walk down the memory lane...if he had really been interested in a relationship, it wouldn't have taken him 5 years of fb to come and see you. sorry to say that...

give him time,if it is ok with you...call him, if you want to...

anyway, why don't you go on with your life as you had done before you had that date with him and see where things go?

Maybe he's taking a breather after all that time tracking you down lol. Relax it's only been 3 days. Though as feb noted, have you initiated at all or is it just him?

Even given the short time frame (and speaking from my own perspective not applied to all aquas) is that I like to be met half way.

Agree with mz, if he broke your heart recklessly he'll do it again.

Go on with your life, it seems the more apathetic--slightly disinterested you are the more he wants to chase you but like so many men out here they'll chase and chase relentlessly because it's invigorating, fun, exciting! But once he feel you're mentally/emotionally caught he's gone which is a huge clue that after so many years he's still reckless and immature.

When and if he do contact you don't be so eager, don't act caught, don't go back down memory lane, don't talk about your broken heart. Instead listen, let him do 90 percent of the talking and decide if he has anything to offer you on an mental, emotional, physical level. If having to alter how you respond is the equivalent of playing games to you then bow out gracefully, no explanation needed.

I've dated several Aquas and even married one; never knew them to play games... If they are interested they will pursue you relentlessly--that's been my experience. They can be very cold I admit that so I think if they aren't interested you'll be left wondering why you haven't heard from them. Takes another air sign like Gem or Libra to "get" them. Other signs are left befuddled.

Maybe it just felt good to catch up with an old friend. The chemistry might not have been there for him like it was for you. It is possible that he thinks there is still a lot of resentment left in you for how things went down 20 years ago and you talking about that might have freaked him a little. Still, he may have felt bad for how he did you 20 years ago and wanted some closure that you turned out okay (I once contacted an old boyfriend 20 years later and apologized to him for how I handled things when I broke it off with him). Really, I think it's more that he was in town and just wanted to catch up. There's probably still some fondness he has for you, but I think you're jumping the gun thinking this was a reconnect or could be a reconciliation of sorts.

I would contact him andjust say something about it was good to catch up. Leave it short and simple and put the ball in his court.

You can't deal with us because we aren't a deck of cards.

^^ that's an interesting analogy