Questions about Aquarius guy

Hello there! If someone could help me with my questions about the aquarius guy I'm about to describe a little about in this post, I would be really grateful.

-Background-
I am a Leo and have known this aquarius guy for a little over 10 years. Yes, typical of an aquarius, he is always helpful even for things which seem stupid to most others, and doesn't seem to say 'no' for most of the times when I ask him for an impromptu hangout at the aquarium or stuff. It does move me when he does little things like bringing something when we hang out because he knows I am too lazy to do so.

Over the years, we have always been extremely close friends. I ain't sure if he thinks of me as bestie but sure as hell, I do. From what I know, I should be the only one he talks the most amongst the friends he made 10 over years back. He always appears to be detached and doesn't take the initiative to contact them. He does enjoy talking to them when he happens to bump into them.

I have always liked him all these years but I have not actually confessed it verbally as I always had a gut feel that he would retract, even before I realised he is an aquarian. … I would usually be inquisitive into what he was up to/into and try to spend more time with this guy. Of course, I do acknowledge, me being a Leo, I get clingy from time to time and I do think I end up bugging him a good deal because I enjoy his company.

-Recent state-
A good number of months back, I introduced to him a gps-based game that I was enjoying. The game has to be played outdoors. We have been playing together a good deal since then. He even started to walk me home almost everytime we went out, even if it wasn't late at night or even if we just met for dinner and did not play. We even stayed out till sunrise playing the game.

Recently, he even dropped by a gathering I was at with other common friends and walked me home even though he was not originally at the gathering and was at his family dinner. On another recent occasion when we were out playing that game with a bunch of friends, I was feeling a little moody. I had decided not to take my friend's offer to drive me home and to instead, walk home even though it was 4am in the morning and home was 7km or so away. Do note, I had not done that before in the wee hours of the morning, and neither had I mentioned to anyone of my intention. To my surprise, the aquarian guy actually suggested so even though common sense would just tell u to call for a taxi instead. So we ended up strolling home for 2 hours while talking lol.

So, for the past 2 weeks, after the above occurences, he has started to 'ignore' my messages more than ever. He would reply and talk in group chats and appear aloof sometimes in our personal chat. At times he would be really engaged and talk about the most random of stuffs. He isn't exactly cutting me off totally but seems to be trying to add some distan

Also, personally, I trust him enough and I do want a future with him in it!

Side note, he has been single this whole time.

-Questions-
1. Under what situations would an aquarius act more aloof when messaging despite being normal when in person? Is that normal?

2. Any advice for me on how I could encourage or lead him to realize his own thoughts? I don't want him to end up just rationalizing with "oh she got a better deal" if I end up with another person in the future because he didn't realize his thoughts. That is something I don't hope for though..

3. For the aquarians on this board, if you were him, is this actually some kind of a weird friendzone shit? Have you guys been through something similar?

Thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy posts! Do appreciate it! Please ask if u need more information to understand better. There are definitely things I failed to bring up here

Posted by miya
Also, personally, I trust him enough and I do want a future with him in it!

Side note, he has been single this whole time.

-Questions-
1. Under what situations would an aquarius act more aloof when messaging despite being normal when in person? Is that normal?

2. Any advice for me on how I could encourage or lead him to realize his own thoughts? I don't want him to end up just rationalizing with "oh she got a better deal" if I end up with another person in the future because he didn't realize his thoughts. That is something I don't hope for though..

3. For the aquarians on this board, if you were him, is this actually some kind of a weird friendzone shit? Have you guys been through something similar?

Thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy posts! Do appreciate it! Please ask if u need more information to understand better. There are definitely things I failed to bring up here

1. We start acting aloof, if we are caught up with something, or if we feel differently for someone, it can actually be anything really.

2. I really don't understand. Realize his thoughts as in?

3. I do move away from people if I feel I am spending way too much time with them and crowding them almost. I believe in giving some space to everyone, including my gf and my best friend.

I have often been accused of being too sweet to people that makes them believe that I care for them like in committed relationships. I don't know if your friend is also like that. Actually, it is often misleading, although not intended at all.

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Also, personally, I trust him enough and I do want a future with him in it!

Side note, he has been single this whole time.

-Questions-
1. Under what situations would an aquarius act more aloof when messaging despite being normal when in person? Is that normal?

2. Any advice for me on how I could encourage or lead him to realize his own thoughts? I don't want him to end up just rationalizing with "oh she got a better deal" if I end up with another person in the future because he didn't realize his thoughts. That is something I don't hope for though..

3. For the aquarians on this board, if you were him, is this actually some kind of a weird friendzone shit? Have you guys been through something similar?

Thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy posts! Do appreciate it! Please ask if u need more information to understand better. There are definitely things I failed to bring up here

1. We start acting aloof, if we are caught up with something, or if we feel differently for someone, it can actually be anything really.

2. I really don't understand. Realize his thoughts as in?

3. I do move away from people if I feel I am spending way too much time with them and crowding them almost. I believe in giving some space to everyone, including my gf and my best friend.

I have often been accused of being too sweet to people that makes them believe that I care for them like in committed relationships. I don't know if your friend is also like that. Actually, it is often misleading, although not intended at all.

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1. Okay, will just take it like it ain't anything bad then ahaha! Since, he did initiate contact after a while.

2. Well, I do feel he likes me, based on his actions and him being vocal that he is 'worried' about me sometimes and does act on it. It ain't at a friend-level when me or our other friends observe so. However, I think that he has not realized that his actions to me is very different compared to those with other friends. I just fear he has not realized why he treats me really sweet and also why he keeps initiating contact even for the most seemingly pointless things.

3. Ahh thanks for the insight!

Ooo when you do so, do you treat a lot of people that way, or just one? If it is just one person, I have gotta say, that is hella misleading especially if your actions go beyond a "best buddies" level imo.

Thanks for reading and replying!

OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

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Posted by miya
Also, personally, I trust him enough and I do want a future with him in it!

Side note, he has been single this whole time.

-Questions-
1. Under what situations would an aquarius act more aloof when messaging despite being normal when in person? Is that normal?

2. Any advice for me on how I could encourage or lead him to realize his own thoughts? I don't want him to end up just rationalizing with "oh she got a better deal" if I end up with another person in the future because he didn't realize his thoughts. That is something I don't hope for though..

3. For the aquarians on this board, if you were him, is this actually some kind of a weird friendzone shit? Have you guys been through something similar?

Thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy posts! Do appreciate it! Please ask if u need more information to understand better. There are definitely things I failed to bring up here

1. Maybe he's been busy? If I'm not interested I give short answers until the person stops. But in person I'd do exactly the same.
2. Be straightforward.
3. All the guys I've dated started as friends. No exceptions, even if it was just casual. I know many Aquas do this too.

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1. Oo he's been ignoring messages but he does message, or when face to face, it is totally normal. Now I'm wondering, both the 'aloof' part and 'being chatty' are normal even though they happen in the same period of time? I was wondering if the aloof part had a meaning but I guess I won't figure that out anytime soon ‚

2. Actually I did ask him previously jokingly "so you're mean to me only??" (to keep the mood light) but then he refused to answer. lol. As an aquarius, does it work better if someone is straightforward and asks you, or is it better for you to realize it etc?

3. Okie cool, thanks for the reassurance on that point too!

Posted by febaqua
OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

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Posted by febaqua
OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

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If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

Posted by younowho
leos are opportunistic ! i dont like leos but i like pussy cat !

Disagree. They may come across a bit bossy and rude at first, but deep inside they are very caring. At least the ones in my life.

Just like how an Aqua comes across as cold, they appear rather bossy.

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OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

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Thank you so much! Yes I am practically observing every move to try get a better understanding before I actually do anything drastic. His is 11 Feb!

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leos are opportunistic ! i dont like leos but i like pussy cat !

Disagree. They may come across a bit bossy and rude at first, but deep inside they are very caring. At least the ones in my life.

Just like how an Aqua comes across as cold, they appear rather bossy.

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Leos, if you are worth their effort, will be true to you. Maybe the Leos near you are afraid to take the first step due to some other reason? So they wait for an opportunity? Else usually Leos would be the ones seeking for the opportunity xD

@Febaqua you are damn right! Sometimes we appear bossy or rude but it is something some of us just do naturally even though we don't intend to appear as such, just observe if the intentions behind the actions are genuine and you can tell if the Leo is bossy on purpose or by habit/nature

Posted by younowho
One time there was this cute leo woman I was really fascinated and I asked whether she was single.

She said yes

I stalked her

and found her viber and instagram account

both of accounts had profile picture with her and some guy holding hands .

doesn't seem to prove anything. also, off topic ahaha

Well, I'm an August 14 lioness with a Feb 11th Aquaman for almost 30 years. It takes work on both sides. He made the first move, then I basically wore him down, lol. But it did take a loooong time for him to admit to himself out loud what he felt for me.

But it was instant attraction and a very special connection from the start. I just knew what it was much sooner than he did. It caused problems for us, but if it's meant to be it will happen.

Posted by moondust
what kind of messages is he ignoring?

Idk exactly what people mean by aloof... I was quite surprised when someone called me cold, because I don't mean to be.I hardly ever shut up but I don't talk to the same person *all the time*...whatever he feels for you won't change if he stays away for a while so no need to be always with him. In fact if you give him the right amount of space you get many points in your favor.

Sometimes it could be replies to his messages, sometimes it could be random stuff I messaged him about. I may be wrong on this but, I figured it would be okay if I did so since he does message me on random topics from time to time. Sometimes I feel puzzled because he replies group messages but not the private messages we have. What do you think?

Well, maybe you seem to be aloof because the people feel a difference on interaction when it is one to one? e.g. you could be real chatty to this person and have a real long conversation for a few hours today, but the next day, when the same person sends u a message, u may reply a day later or, not reply at all. It feels like you're close one moment and far the next. Maybe that is what they felt when interacting with you individually? I feel that it is tough to feel close when interacting in a group hahaha.

Okie. I will try to see what the right amount of space is. To be honest, it sure is hard to gauge that because we are way closer than before and interact way more than we did in the previous years xD

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One time there was this cute leo woman I was really fascinated and I asked whether she was single.

She said yes

I stalked her

and found her viber and instagram account

both of accounts had profile picture with her and some guy holding hands .

doesn't seem to prove anything. also, off topic ahaha

The point is she lied .

I was so heart broken

I was already picturing her with my kids.

You don't know how many porn movies i had to see to get over her 😢 !

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You have to check the timestamps. May be old stuffs. Also, you have not actually dated her so you don't know her as a person, this is not even about whether she is a Leo a not, but the other party as an individual.

Posted by sultrykitty
Well, I'm an August 14 lioness with a Feb 11th Aquaman for almost 30 years. It takes work on both sides. He made the first move, then I basically wore him down, lol. But it did take a loooong time for him to admit to himself out loud what he felt for me.

But it was instant attraction and a very special connection from the start. I just knew what it was much sooner than he did. It caused problems for us, but if it's meant to be it will happen.

Hi! We're real close! I'm Aug 17 😉 Thank you for sharing your experience with me. Just how long did it take? (They are slow but cute ahahaa)

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One time there was this cute leo woman I was really fascinated and I asked whether she was single.

She said yes

I stalked her

and found her viber and instagram account

both of accounts had profile picture with her and some guy holding hands .

doesn't seem to prove anything. also, off topic ahaha

The point is she lied .

I was so heart broken

I was already picturing her with my kids.

You don't know how many porn movies i had to see to get over her 😢 !

You have to check the timestamps. May be old stuffs. Also, you have not actually dated her so you don't know her as a person, this is not even about whether she is a Leo a not, but the other party as an individual.

He is a ghost don't mind him.

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@shashkay I guess you are right. No need to bother with someone who doesn't bother to establish facts and just believes anything whipped up in their own mind. heh.

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what kind of messages is he ignoring?

Idk exactly what people mean by aloof... I was quite surprised when someone called me cold, because I don't mean to be.I hardly ever shut up but I don't talk to the same person *all the time*...whatever he feels for you won't change if he stays away for a while so no need to be always with him. In fact if you give him the right amount of space you get many points in your favor.

Sometimes it could be replies to his messages, sometimes it could be random stuff I messaged him about. I may be wrong on this but, I figured it would be okay if I did so since he does message me on random topics from time to time. Sometimes I feel puzzled because he replies group messages but not the private messages we have. What do you think?

Well, maybe you seem to be aloof because the people feel a difference on interaction when it is one to one? e.g. you could be real chatty to this person and have a real long conversation for a few hours today, but the next day, when the same person sends u a message, u may reply a day later or, not reply at all. It feels like you're close one moment and far the next. Maybe that is what they felt when interacting with you individually? I feel that it is tough to feel close when interacting in a group hahaha.

Okie. I will try to see what the right amount of space is. To be honest, it sure is hard to gauge that because we are way closer than before and interact way more than we did in the previous years xD

the 2nd paragraph is spot on. I just assume that people know I like them and even if I vanish for a while I'll be back soon lol. I asked you what kind of messages he ignores because I hardly ever ignore questions..if you're just commenting on something I might not reply because I'm busy, moody, whatever.

Aquas are kind of unusual so... you won't be sure of what is really happening unless you talk to him. Have you considered asking him what's going on?

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Now that you mention it, I think you're right! The ones he ignored recently so far aren't questions. Okay, you Aquariuses sure are a mystery on this point. xD How is it logical for Aquarians to ignore comments when Aquariuses do share random comments 😆 (Even if you don't have an answer it is totally fine for this one LOL)

Aquas are totally mysterious ;x I tried! But mostly he wouldn't tell me anything!! Sometimes it is work and he say so. Usually if he even fesses up anything it would be in person and not over messages.

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OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

Thank you so much! Yes I am practically observing every move to try get a better understanding before I actually do anything drastic. His is 11 Feb!

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He is a third decan Aqua then. Must be a bit more sensitive than normal Aquarians I suppose. I personally like this decan very much as I am one of it.

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OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

Thank you so much! Yes I am practically observing every move to try get a better understanding before I actually do anything drastic. His is 11 Feb!

He is a third decan Aqua then. Must be a bit more sensitive than normal Aquarians I suppose. I personally like this decan very much as I am one of it.

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Ahh cool! I just checked it up, I'm a third decan Leo hahaha. Sensitive? Sensitive in what sense? Actually I think you're the same age as me. '91?

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OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

Thank you so much! Yes I am practically observing every move to try get a better understanding before I actually do anything drastic. His is 11 Feb!

He is a third decan Aqua then. Must be a bit more sensitive than normal Aquarians I suppose. I personally like this decan very much as I am one of it.

Ahh cool! I just checked it up, I'm a third decan Leo hahaha. Sensitive? Sensitive in what sense? Actually I think you're the same age as me. '91?

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Sometimes can get hurt easily. Need to be a touch careful as your witty conversations can zone him out because he gets hurt. Very sensitive in that sense.

Also, he may have the tendency to go into hiding. Such behavior can be very common often leading to people believe that they are mysterious in a way.

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Well, I'm an August 14 lioness with a Feb 11th Aquaman for almost 30 years. It takes work on both sides. He made the first move, then I basically wore him down, lol. But it did take a loooong time for him to admit to himself out loud what he felt for me.

But it was instant attraction and a very special connection from the start. I just knew what it was much sooner than he did. It caused problems for us, but if it's meant to be it will happen.

Hi! We're real close! I'm Aug 17 😉 Thank you for sharing your experience with me. Just how long did it take? (They are slow but cute ahahaa)

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5 years to acknowledge a relationship, another 5 to say the 3 words. We're still not married, never will be, but living together for 13 years.

Posted by starwars
wheres his moon?

I don't know his birth time but I am guessing it may be Capricorn. I just entered the usual 12noon timing with my timezone

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OMG, my comment is cut short. :O

Anyway, I was saying that be very careful before coming to a conclusion that he likes you more. We Aquarians can be all too friendly (too friendly) at times landing us in trouble most times.

LOL when technology doesn't work the way you want it to. ‚

Even if you say "I'm worried about you"? Is it common to give more... umm.... special treatment to one individual only because you know that one individual longer among a group of friends? If it is common then I wonder what are the tell-tale signs before I come to that conclusion. hmmmmmm

If you are very confident that he treats you in a special way compared to the humane way he does with others, then there is hope.

But, I still advise you to notice his behavior closely. What is his DOB?

Thank you so much! Yes I am practically observing every move to try get a better understanding before I actually do anything drastic. His is 11 Feb!

He is a third decan Aqua then. Must be a bit more sensitive than normal Aquarians I suppose. I personally like this decan very much as I am one of it.

Ahh cool! I just checked it up, I'm a third decan Leo hahaha. Sensitive? Sensitive in what sense? Actually I think you're the same age as me. '91?

Sometimes can get hurt easily. Need to be a touch careful as your witty conversations can zone him out because he gets hurt. Very sensitive in that sense.

Also, he may have the tendency to go into hiding. Such behavior can be very common often leading to people believe that they are mysterious in a way.

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Oooo. I am guessing it may have happened in the past but probably not recently cause the mood is usually light and we end up teasing each other. However, I'll be sure to keep that in mind!

You are very right on that point though, some of our common friends said that he is mysterious ‚ Do you get the same kind of comments?

Posted by Shashkay
In order to hide from someone you need to be hyper aware of their existence. Not detached from it. I know I have hidden from people. It means you have hyper aware of them not the other way around.

You can't hide from someone you don't know exists.
And if they are unaware of your existence then they are not hiding from you at all.

I'm not 100% sure on this but from it has been going on all this while, they hide by being selective in interactions and totally dedicate the time to themselves and their own activities. Kind of like putting almst everything in relation to the person they are hiding from, on a pause, to go about their own stuff.

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Well, I'm an August 14 lioness with a Feb 11th Aquaman for almost 30 years. It takes work on both sides. He made the first move, then I basically wore him down, lol. But it did take a loooong time for him to admit to himself out loud what he felt for me.

But it was instant attraction and a very special connection from the start. I just knew what it was much sooner than he did. It caused problems for us, but if it's meant to be it will happen.

Hi! We're real close! I'm Aug 17 😉 Thank you for sharing your experience with me. Just how long did it take? (They are slow but cute ahahaa)

5 years to acknowledge a relationship, another 5 to say the 3 words. We're still not married, never will be, but living together for 13 years.

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Wow! Aquarians are reallyyyyyyy slow xD . You sure have been together with your aquarian for a long time!! I sure wonder where us lionesses find the patience for that xD I hope my aquarian doesn't take that long if we're meant to be. I want kids … but looking at the current pace I guess it will take damn long!!

Most of my classmates keep asking if I am still part of the university. Haha.

Ofc say my close friends who see the best of me everyday. I also like it being that way, as I don't want my helping nature to spill over to people who don't deserve it. Is he like spending more time with you than anybody else? Like even his closest male friends?

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Most of my classmates keep asking if I am still part of the university. Haha.

Ofc say my close friends who see the best of me everyday. I also like it being that way, as I don't want my helping nature to spill over to people who don't deserve it. Is he like spending more time with you than anybody else? Like even his closest male friends?

Ahh I see that technology failed you again xD

LOL THAT STATEMENT! They clearly can't grasp your actions xD I am guessing it is fun for you aquarians to be mysterious. :x

I think I get that point, I really hate it when people try to take advantage of that willingness to help. I'm bossy. I forbade some people from bugging him. A request to him is fine, just don't let me find out they are bugging and spamming him because they know he is helpful. I will give them hell for it €

Hmm as far as I know, probably his family only I guess. He does go for group gatherings (I'm not a part of those) but have yet to hear or notice him spending time with another individual. Part of why I know this is because I can see his status online when he is gaming at home. Unless, it is a case of spending 1 hour or 2 with an unknown someone everyday? (seems impractical imo though, due to transport and stuff)

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Most of my classmates keep asking if I am still part of the university. Haha.

Ofc say my close friends who see the best of me everyday. I also like it being that way, as I don't want my helping nature to spill over to people who don't deserve it. Is he like spending more time with you than anybody else? Like even his closest male friends?

Ahh I see that technology failed you again xD

LOL THAT STATEMENT! They clearly can't grasp your actions xD I am guessing it is fun for you aquarians to be mysterious. :x

I think I get that point, I really hate it when people try to take advantage of that willingness to help. I'm bossy. I forbade some people from bugging him. A request to him is fine, just don't let me find out they are bugging and spamming him because they know he is helpful. I will give them hell for it €

Hmm as far as I know, probably his family only I guess. He does go for group gatherings (I'm not a part of those) but have yet to hear or notice him spending time with another individual. Part of why I know this is because I can see his status online when he is gaming at home. Unless, it is a case of spending 1 hour or 2 with an unknown someone everyday? (seems impractical imo though, due to transport and stuff)

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I see this commonality with third decan Aquarians. The need to develop meaningful relationships with people. Good that you are keeping him away from potential cheaters who can misuse his genuine help. He will appreciate what you are doing.

I think the third decan Aquas are the mysterious ones. The disappearance acts and the coldness can be really intense among the third decans.

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Most of my classmates keep asking if I am still part of the university. Haha.

Ofc say my close friends who see the best of me everyday. I also like it being that way, as I don't want my helping nature to spill over to people who don't deserve it. Is he like spending more time with you than anybody else? Like even his closest male friends?

Ahh I see that technology failed you again xD

LOL THAT STATEMENT! They clearly can't grasp your actions xD I am guessing it is fun for you aquarians to be mysterious. :x

I think I get that point, I really hate it when people try to take advantage of that willingness to help. I'm bossy. I forbade some people from bugging him. A request to him is fine, just don't let me find out they are bugging and spamming him because they know he is helpful. I will give them hell for it €

Hmm as far as I know, probably his family only I guess. He does go for group gatherings (I'm not a part of those) but have yet to hear or notice him spending time with another individual. Part of why I know this is because I can see his status online when he is gaming at home. Unless, it is a case of spending 1 hour or 2 with an unknown someone everyday? (seems impractical imo though, due to transport and stuff)

I see this commonality with third decan Aquarians. The need to develop meaningful relationships with people. Good that you are keeping him away from potential cheaters who can misuse his genuine help. He will appreciate what you are doing.

I think the third decan Aquas are the mysterious ones. The disappearance acts and the coldness can be really intense among the third decans.

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Thanks! I also hope that he understands that I am doing it because I know that side of him, and because he is worth the effort of me burning bridges if need be(some people are way more cunninh and nasty than I expected =_=). I may have chosen to just stay a bystander if it wasn't him (e.g. someone not worth the effort).

I think the "hot n cold" game is strong xD He can be real close, accomodating, sweet, caring and chatty face to face, and really cold for some time over messages to the point of lack of replies, only to pop up randomly with "game supplies" at my home area even though he didn't have to (yes, he knows I'm lazy to get supplies lol)

Also, is it in an aquarian to go after someone? Or would it be easier for them if the other party was more initiative on it? I'm currently just waiting and unsure of how to move this forth!

@miya

Sorry, I am going to quote you from now, as DXP is not allowing an Aquarian to express himself. 😛

I do that with my close friends and most importantly with my gf. She goes mad at times. But, I normally get back to her with proper text messaging standard that we follow. 😄

I go after someone if I like them, but not to the point of crowding them. I don't want to make someone feel like am breathing down their neck almost. I appreciate if my friends also follow through and be there during times when I go into shell, although not at my back. It is the famous Aquarian distance that they give and expect from all. Feel free to take some steps that you think will make him feel like your relationship is strong, albeit there being a chance of you scaring him initially. But, if he understands you well, then it will be alright

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@miya

Sorry, I am going to quote you from now, as DXP is not allowing an Aquarian to express himself. 😛

I do that with my close friends and most importantly with my gf. She goes mad at times. But, I normally get back to her with proper text messaging standard that we follow. 😄

I go after someone if I like them, but not to the point of crowding them. I don't want to make someone feel like am breathing down their neck almost. I appreciate if my friends also follow through and be there during times when I go into shell, although not at my back. It is the famous Aquarian distance that they give and expect from all. Feel free to take some steps that you think will make him feel like your relationship is strong, albeit there being a chance of you scaring him initially. But, if he understands you well, then it will be alright

No worries! DXP prefers you to stay partially mysterious ‚ It just drives people 'mad' cause we don't even know if something is wrong etc. If you can, I think you could let her know where she could find you xD That is sure to give her a peace of mind :x

I think I did scare him ‚ but he did come contact me, and he did meet me for dinner and walk me home as usual ‚‚ (I actually find it amusing, how do so many aquarians actually have the distance thing in them? Also, it is also common in all of them to have it as an unspoken rule!! This is interesting)

Do you and your gf have a "comfortable silence" kind of thing?

@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

Posted by febaqua
@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

LOL I am guilty of that too, unable to resist being quiet for too long :x

Also, gdi dun just slither past and not answer the part on comfortable silence!!! (face to face)

Aquas sure like to do that, miss a qn here or there 😆 ahahaha

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@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

LOL I am guilty of that too, unable to resist being quiet for too long :x

Also, gdi dun just slither past and not answer the part on comfortable silence!!! (face to face)

Aquas sure like to do that, miss a qn here or there 😆 ahahaha

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Another piece of advice, if possible, take the lead in this relationship and make him comfortable. We Aqua guys do like close friends who steer the relationship forward.

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@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

LOL I am guilty of that too, unable to resist being quiet for too long :x

Also, gdi dun just slither past and not answer the part on comfortable silence!!! (face to face)

Aquas sure like to do that, miss a qn here or there 😆 ahahaha

Another piece of advice, if possible, take the lead in this relationship and make him comfortable. We Aqua guys do like close friends who steer the relationship forward.

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This.

And coming from a Cap moon, we like to know straight up what's going on. We won't let on unless we're pretty confident that we're going to get the same back.

Don't tell him how you feel, but maybe start talking about how much you like the relationship now, and has he ever thought of anything more? Maybe on one of your long walks bring it uo casually. Don't make a big deal out of it but let him know in a not-obvious way that you're kind of leaning that way. Then leave it alone. Even if he doesn't respond, he'll be thinking about it.

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wheres his moon?

I don't know his birth time but I am guessing it may be Capricorn. I just entered the usual 12noon timing with my timezone

its capricon then. wow hes probably uncomfortable with feels talk 😆

its a bit of tough situation since you are friends for 10 years. yet its easy because at this point its natural for you to connect.

the 3 obvious solutions:

1. you can tell him straight up, but I think he'd feel stuck or maybe distance himself which is not a bad thing if you could deal with it, he'd distance because he probably 1) didn't see it coming 2) he doesn't have much time to think about it 3) that way, in their heads its seem like you put the pressure on them on deciding where this is going, while you already made up your mind and waiting for them to decide your fate.

2. if I was you, id send subtle hints while still keep being his friend and without pressuring him, try to let him go "oh she might like me!" you need him to be in the same page as you. once you do that, read his actions and once you feel its the right moment, which I'm sure will come make a move. this one will need time and patient because guys can be dense when it comes to getting a hint.

3. detach yourself a little, see what happens. - I'm not a fan of this game nor do I do it, but I know lots of people who have done it and it worked. I don't think this could work with aquas though, but you can give it a shot. *shrugs*

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Thank you for the help!! Wow talking abt feels shld be tough and awkward xD I think it is likely he will 'run' hahaha.

I guess I will wait for him to be less occupied/overwhelmed by work before I drop more hints, which may trigger more "hiding" :x In the mean time I will try "detaching". We should be watching a movie in 2 or 3 weeks time, I guess I will just wait and see how he reacts in the mean time. Will keep your suggestions in mind and see what I can do. Guess I have to be more initiative on this Dx

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@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

LOL I am guilty of that too, unable to resist being quiet for too long :x

Also, gdi dun just slither past and not answer the part on comfortable silence!!! (face to face)

Aquas sure like to do that, miss a qn here or there 😆 ahahaha

Another piece of advice, if possible, take the lead in this relationship and make him comfortable. We Aqua guys do like close friends who steer the relationship forward.

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Thanks for the advice! I wonder how I can go about doing that 🤔 I am afraid of progressing too fast that would make it uncomfortable. What do you aquarians deem untolerable? Could you list some examples?

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Posted by miya

Posted by febaqua
@miya

She never lets me be silent for too long. 😄 Being a Gemini, she can't resist being quiet for long.

LOL I am guilty of that too, unable to resist being quiet for too long :x

Also, gdi dun just slither past and not answer the part on comfortable silence!!! (face to face)

Aquas sure like to do that, miss a qn here or there 😆 ahahaha

Another piece of advice, if possible, take the lead in this relationship and make him comfortable. We Aqua guys do like close friends who steer the relationship forward.

This.

And coming from a Cap moon, we like to know straight up what's going on. We won't let on unless we're pretty confident that we're going to get the same back.

Don't tell him how you feel, but maybe start talking about how much you like the relationship now, and has he ever thought of anything more? Maybe on one of your long walks bring it uo casually. Don't make a big deal out of it but let him know in a not-obvious way that you're kind of leaning that way. Then leave it alone. Even if he doesn't respond, he'll be thinking about it.

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Sounds good!! Previously when we were pretty close (we are closer now), I tried asking what but he refused to describe what he saw me as. No matter what!! zzzz Maybe I should trigger him to think again once his 'hell period' at work is over xD As a cap moon, would you actually retract if you think that you "may not get the same back"? Or would you stay nearby etc?

So don't ask him how he feels, ask if he's ever thought about "us". That's it. It's enough pressure but you're not assuming anything. Asking "what we are" assumes you're "something".

If someone who is a close friend were to tell me they had interest in being more, I would be flattered, but honest if I didn't feel the same way.

My reaction would be totally dependent on how they acted afterwards. I might be a little standoffish at first, but if they go about our friendship as if nothing had changed, it's all cool. I would only completely detach if it was someone that I wasn't close friends with.

@miya

Be there for him behind the scenes and in front of him and let him quietly know that you are doing a quiet job. He will appreciate that.

Example well, I really get confidence in life when my close people make surprises. Recently, my best friend surprised me by coming over to my house on my birthday (we live in different states btw). I thought he forgot my birthday, but he ended up making my birthday absolutely memorable.

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So don't ask him how he feels, ask if he's ever thought about "us". That's it. It's enough pressure but you're not assuming anything. Asking "what we are" assumes you're "something".

If someone who is a close friend were to tell me they had interest in being more, I would be flattered, but honest if I didn't feel the same way.

My reaction would be totally dependent on how they acted afterwards. I might be a little standoffish at first, but if they go about our friendship as if nothing had changed, it's all cool. I would only completely detach if it was someone that I wasn't close friends with.

Hi! Sorry for the late response, was pretty caught up with some activities IRL, practically KO-ed the time I got home each time. Managed to on my computer but fell asleep before achieving anything lmfao.

That does make sense. Previously when I asked, I was asking if he was treating me like a sister or etc, but he just beat around the bush with no clear answer. lol. Then again, that was some time back, so I'll take note of the above when asking next time, about 'us' instead, in the close future. 😉 I guess as long as I phrase things properly, it won't turn out as a 'all or nothing' scenario, it seems like it is good just to set him thinking and pondering further into that possibility. Though I think, the chance of him trying to turn the situation into a joke and starting some sort of staring competition again is higher xD rofl!! If it does turn out that way, I guess I should just let it be so that he can 'chill' and think about it :x

Thank you for the sharing!

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@miya

Be there for him behind the scenes and in front of him and let him quietly know that you are doing a quiet job. He will appreciate that.

Example well, I really get confidence in life when my close people make surprises. Recently, my best friend surprised me by coming over to my house on my birthday (we live in different states btw). I thought he forgot my birthday, but he ended up making my birthday absolutely memorable.

Hello! Sorry for the late reply, I was pretty caught up with stuff over the past couple of days. Didn't manage to check my phone while on transit either cause I was stuck with people discussing stuffs, and then, KO-ed once I got home as I was too tired. @_@

Ahhh, I think I know how I can go about doing that, have been doing something along that line recently, which yes, did trigger some silence for a good number of days before he resumed contact. Maybe he got 'shocked' hahahahaha. I guess it is the little things and efforts all along the way which make it really pleasant for Aquarians? But I must say, your friend was real sweet!!

I'm still not too sure on what 'take the lead' could be though. I don't want to be too 'aggressive' and give him unnecessary frustrations/stuffs to think about. I guess it still really is tricky to get that fine line right to push it on. Any other things that come to mind?

Once again, thank you for the replies all this while!

@miya

It is a slow process. You don't want to be bossing around suddenly. Slowly make your way into his personal space and give him confidence that you understand him deeply. And then start helping him be himself more. For example, I am a chatty person when am with people, but hardly many knew how chatty I can be until my close friends came into my life and started to give me confidence that I can be myself when I am with them.

Appreciate him for who he is and that should be good enough for starters.