Help with an Aquarius male.

I met this Aquarius guy online. From the start he has been flirty and super kind. He talks to me for 3 or 4 nights in a row and just when I think it's become a nightly thing, he disappears and doesn't message me until the next day. He sometimes ignores my messages while i know he is on and he is evasive of certain things I ask him, that's the bad part. The other side of him is this, he tells me he likes me and flirts with me where everyone can see, he said he got jealous the other day with a guy who talks to me, but i'm not sure of it was a joke of his... He tells me he likes me more than other girls he's met and that he isn't leaving or going anywhere. Last night he became very sweet, he told me he thinks about me all the time and at different hours of the day, he likes that i'm smart, that he wants to kiss me and even said that hopefully in the future we may share a bed. Today he is acting distant, he talks to me, but kind of laughs off the flirts when i throw him his way (he has done this before) and really makes me feel like he'd rather do something else than speak to me, I hear that Aquarius are supposed to act distant when they like someone, but this guy shows me affection and attention, the problem is that he can't seen to make up his mind about treating me nice, or ignoring me. I'm a Scorpio, but I am low-key jealous, however I am very possessive and wish he was with me all the time, but I don't crowd him, I respect his space and contain myself. I even wait until he messages me so i don't smother him with affection, but i make sure he knows that I like him, that i'd love that future he talked about last night and am crazy about him.

So my question is, does he or doesn't he mean what he says? Is he playing me? How do I know because he won't run away, but won't stay put either! Or am i just being psycho possessive? Please help me.

I forgot to say, he is always telling me that he tells me things that he tells no one else and that he trusts me even if he doesn't trust anyone...

This guy seems childish and immature. Want to continue this any further?

Yeah, I feel the same at times, but I really like him so, i'm trying to understand him... ugh 😢

Have you actually met him?

Not yet, no. But he lives in the same city and is coming back in a few months. He says there's no way we won't meet and then today he said he'd try to meet...

No way to meet why not?

He is in another state for some reason he won't disclose yet, but he says he's coming back here in a few months.

Yeah. I hate how that starts out like being open and honest with someone you like. Nah that doesn't sound right.

If he is the CIA or special forces okay then you trust that.

See, that's what I think too, but I did research on aqua males and it says that they are like that. That they disappear and they don't open up blah blah blah... this is why I posted here, because I figured that if it's that, someone will know, otherwise common sense says he's gotta go 😢

I dont want to sound bitter.but hm yeah can do that when you are ready

Hm don't look up astrology like that.

But hm wait what is his moon, mercury, rising?
What is yours?

I have no idea what his is. All I know is he is Aquarius... I'm Scorpio with Leo rising and Pisces moon and My Venus is in Scorpio. He has asked me a few personal questions and has willingly disclosed some stuff about himself, he does act interested, but then he just turns for a couple of hours or a day and I'm wondering where prince charming went. It's very strange.

I suggest just seeing if he does try to see you. If not, again do not take it personally. Maybe he will try to contact you again. Just do you and he will come around

Thanks

Your fire and water must tone down abit...but not aggressively or even emotionally casually talk, and take it easy. He probably doing his own thing and but don't let anyone lie to you for so long or keep something simple like that away from others. That's weird and stupid.

Yeah, most of my chart is fire or water, I know I can be pretty emotional if I let myself loose so, I try to remain always in check, especially around him. Most of the time I succeed. I'm watching him and hoping that he will be OK and open up. He doesn't lie to me, but he keeps things from me which is just as bad... but thanks for the advice 🙂

Lol maybe it is, but I've known him for a few months already and the time for him to come back here is starting to get close. I'd rather cut ties with him before we meet if he doesn't really like me, don't need to waste my time and emotions on the guy if he's not into me.

Where's Truecap, she's a Guru on this ish...

Posted by wagtail
Where's Truecap, she's a Guru on this ish...

She only does real relationships, not imaginary "online" ones.

OP, cut it short till you actually meet him in person. Don't get your expectations high, you'll set yourself up for failure.You may find out you don't actually mingle in real life and your daily communication was a complete waste of time.

Haha my Aquarius ex was like this when we first started to talk and even now.. Him and I would text but he wouldn't reply sometimes until the next day. Usually around the same time. I feel like once they're ready to take someone seriously they made themselves more available. When he wanted me to be his girlfriend he would text me all day. We dated for 3 years and even now he kinda goes MIA but reaches out here and there. I get your frustration but try not to smother him or make yourself too available.

Lotus, is that you? You look stunning, girl!

Posted by Elliejames
Lol maybe it is, but I've known him for a few months already and the time for him to come back here is starting to get close. I'd rather cut ties with him before we meet if he doesn't really like me, don't need to waste my time and emotions on the guy if he's not into me.

You don't know if you both like each other till you meet in real life.

Did you meet on a dating site? If yes, there are questions you need to ask yourself: "Why is he on a dating site if he is not available to date?" "If he is coming to your town...is it for a few days or indefinite?"

He could be a bored husband with kids looking to get an easy lay outside his town!

No, we met on an online game, not a dating site, but we have moved on from that to texting and skype as well. He lives in my city, he left for work reasons, but he is coming back in a couple of months and I've tested him, he knows the city very well. I know the true test is meeting in person and I do like him, but hold no high hopes, what I don't want is to imagine that this guy does want to meet and get strung around with all his smooth talk and waiting for him, just so he disappears one day and I don't hear from him again.

I'm here because I would have stopped talking to him ages ago except that I keep hearing that Aquarius men are like this and I don't want to lose the chance of maybe meeting someone amazing who could become a friend or more simply because I misunderstand him, not because I've already planned out our wedding and named our kids... I'm very realistic in that department.

Ok. If he's coming back, is it for good? Does he have a job in your city? Do you know where at? For how long? Has he a place to live? Do you know where?

I don't understand why are you so crossed that this man you never met is not texting you every day! He could be your boyfriend, and text you only once between dates! Some prefer quality, not chit chat.

Ask all the relevant questions, if you haven't done so already. You need to date many times to see how it goes, and for that he needs to be present physically and mentally, not stressed about moving homes, cities and jobs.

The fact that he is an Aqua or doesn't text every day is irrelevant for the success of a relationship.

He is coming back for good, he has a place to stay, he has a job and yes, I know where and it's a steady one.

I'm not upset about him not texting me daily actually, although it does upset me when he tells me he can't stop thinking about me, then doesn't even remember to do so... what really upsets me is that he is having a conversation with me and he just disappears and doesn't say he has to go or text me later to say sorry he left in mid conversation, he just vanishes and I'mthere wondering if it was something I said or if he got busy only to hear the next day or two that nothing happened.

When you tell someone you like them that much and act like you may want to meet them for more, it makes no sense to do this... at least to me it doesn't because if I like you, I am considerate, I don't leave your text unanswered so you keep wondering why I left in mid conversation. I don't play games with you and I definitely don't give you mixed signals by flirting with you one day and then the next simply laughing and dismissing your comments or flirt attempts. Yesterday he spent all day doing that and then at night he told me I'm exactly his type and that he's completely attracted to me. This is why I'm so crossed, it's not just about texts.

Manipulative.

Not sure what you mean by "don't leave your text unanswered". Someone has to end the shit and stop texting, or you'll be at it night and day, lol.

Both Aqua and I had "conversations" by text for the first 6 months of our relationship. They happened while we were at work, twice a day, lasted about one hour each...

The result? Increased stress at work for me. Then he got fired, moved towns and dumped me....by text...how predictable 🙂.

This time around there is no texting, except the usual "I'm 15 min away from you" and "I'm here!". before a date. If you want conversations, skype or phone him. Perhaps a few emails before bed....Ask him how much time he's got and always end up the conversation yourself.

I have tried that and he gets upset that I leave.... in fact, if I don't answer HIS texts within the half hour that he sends them or I miss a Skype call, he gets upset and starts asking what's wrong, if I'm mad at him and he gets irritated with me.

Lmao now that I'm seriously thinking about everything I have no idea why I even posted here... I should just quit talking to him. He has all these double standards and he confuses me. He's so complicated! At least to me...

Have you tried to set any rules? For example, I don't answer texts or even take calls while at work.

For conversations there is a reserved time, one hour daily, at the same time. If one of us cannot make it, has to apologise in advance. We initiate alternatively, and it's usually me ending the conversation with a "Good night, honey".

I just trained him like this, slowly but surely, no ultimatums or arguments 😄! He gets me!

I tried making the 'you gotta say at least talk later before you go' rule, but he simply doesn't get it. He says sorry and he won't just leave without a goodbye next time and then he does. Now the time limit... well, like I said, he gets upset when I don't talk to him when he wants to talk, that rule I highly doubt will go well with him lol. I'd definitely try it though. I'd personally prefer to have a rule on it actually.

Then make one! Let him know that you thought about your small "misunderstandings". You don't want them to happen again, so you two need to decide a time to give your full attention to each other and stick to it!

Yeah, I'm going to try it, thanks for the idea ☺got anything for his jealousy? Lol

PS: The best time is 11pm! Then you know he's spending the night alone 😉!

Hahaha, yes! Thanks for the tip. Š

Posted by Elliejames
Yeah, I'm going to try it, thanks for the idea ☺got anything for his jealousy? Lol

No, why jealous? He could see you are spending the night alone too 😄!

Lol yes, true...

Setting boundaries with an Aqua is tricky because they are admittedly rulebreakers in my experience 😄 Also when I would end the chat or texting he's always back with something that just popped into his mind 😄 they like to have the last word, including nothing lol. Try to stay positive. The only reason why we started dating was that we have known each other for 15 years. They can be cutely shy so meeting someone online can be helpful for an Aqua maybe. If you like him give him a chance. 🙂

I'm trying lol, I find him adorable and I really like what I've seen except for those few things, so I'm trying. Thanks ☺

Yes.. Dating aqua online is like this.. 🙂 if he shares his secret with you, then he is serious, just like my aqua.. Cheers

Thanks ☺