How to handle my Aquarius guy friend?

Before I get too far into this post, yes I do like this guy! lol

We have known each other for years, but only really started talking and getting to know each other over the past year. 6 months ago he would talk to me just about every day, always initiated contact and we would talk for hours on the phone. I made a trip to see him back in December, he hugged, kissed me and was very sweet! Then things changed. He stopped calling every day, texting less and basically started to avoid me. However, I just let it go and didn't place any pressure on him. When he did call, I kept the conversation causal, not even bringing up our time together.. other than telling him that I enjoyed my time with him.

In the past couple of months, when I would call him, he seemed like he didn't want to talk and was short on the phone. So, I assumed that maybe he wasn't interested in pursuing anything. Then he will randomly call me or text me and ask to see me but will never show up! These mixed signals are starting to throw me off. Not to mention, we will go weeks without speaking to one another and one of the first thing he says to me when we do speak is how he misses me/wants to see me! It's hard to believe anything he says anymore.

I guess I'm just wondering what his deal is. Maybe get some suggestions on how to approach him? Or should I just drop him?

Typical Aqua man behavior. He likes you for sure, can't say how much. But, he definitely does.

An Aqua will never get back to someone frequently if that person isn't important. This is common among Aquas, more common among men.

Ask him out on a date.

I'm having the same problem and feel that it's pointless because it's like he doesn't know what he wants and sounds like he may not know until it's gone if they come around when they feel that they are losing grip— Why even bother? Why do you aquas come around when women don't seem as interested?

Posted by P3n3lop3
I'm having the same problem and feel that it's pointless because it's like he doesn't know what he wants and sounds like he may not know until it's gone if they come around when they feel that they are losing grip— Why even bother? Why do you aquas come around when women don't seem as interested?

If you can't put up with us, why not just move away?

I love learning and even though it may be overwhelming it builds my character discovering other parts I didn't know existed

Still winning just annoyed with the process

I've notice though he does have a tendency to be a coward

He's so very quiet about his thoughts and feelings. A lot of the time when we talk on the phone, he says very little and I'm doing most of the talking. I always end up feeling like I'm "annoying" him when we do speak and yet he still continues to contact me whether it's through phone, text or Facebook.

I've already told him my feelings almost a year ago and didn't get much of a response from him. This December when we got to hang out in person.. he sort of admitted that he, in his own words, "felt some type of way" about me (whatever that means). I guess the fact that he's so vague with me and is always flaking out on me that is making me really second guess how he feels. I really want to talk about it with him, but I would prefer speaking face to face.

And I feel like the contact has been 50/50. I've initiated contact with him numerous times, for him to cut me off, tell me he will call me right back and never does. At that point, I just go about my business and figure he will call/text when he is able.. and he usually will get back to me anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks later. I don't give him grief about it. I'm all about letting things flow and not placing any pressure on him. I just don't know exactly where I stand with him and if I should continue to go at his pace.. or am I wasting my time?

Posted by Cale989
And I feel like the contact has been 50/50. I've initiated contact with him numerous times, for him to cut me off, tell me he will call me right back and never does. At that point, I just go about my business and figure he will call/text when he is able.. and he usually will get back to me anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks later. I don't give him grief about it. I'm all about letting things flow and not placing any pressure on him. I just don't know exactly where I stand with him and if I should continue to go at his pace.. or am I wasting my time?

You show limited understanding of him anyway. I wonder how with such effort, you have even gotten this far.

Sorry, but if you expect him to call you and speak like you, I don't know what else to say. How long have you been around him?

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Posted by Cale989
And I feel like the contact has been 50/50. I've initiated contact with him numerous times, for him to cut me off, tell me he will call me right back and never does. At that point, I just go about my business and figure he will call/text when he is able.. and he usually will get back to me anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks later. I don't give him grief about it. I'm all about letting things flow and not placing any pressure on him. I just don't know exactly where I stand with him and if I should continue to go at his pace.. or am I wasting my time?

You show limited understanding of him anyway. I wonder how with such effort, you have even gotten this far.

Sorry, but if you expect him to call you and speak like you, I don't know what else to say. How long have you been around him?

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We've been around each other since we were in diapers. Our mothers were close friends.

I do think that you're not going to get very far doing it this way. He may have feelings but unless there's some kind incentive for him to be more proactive, this is how it's going to be.

It's a very fine line with Aquas whether you're too pushy or too passive. They want confidence in a woman and will "test" you to see a) how far they can push before you break, and b) whether you're independent enough to give them the space they need but still be devoted.

They're pretty much "take It or leave it" because they know that they aren't typical in relationships and need a woman who's OK with that and still thinks they're the best thing since sliced bread.

So if I were you, I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket, unless you want to be more forward with your intentions.

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Posted by febaqua

Posted by Cale989
And I feel like the contact has been 50/50. I've initiated contact with him numerous times, for him to cut me off, tell me he will call me right back and never does. At that point, I just go about my business and figure he will call/text when he is able.. and he usually will get back to me anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks later. I don't give him grief about it. I'm all about letting things flow and not placing any pressure on him. I just don't know exactly where I stand with him and if I should continue to go at his pace.. or am I wasting my time?

You show limited understanding of him anyway. I wonder how with such effort, you have even gotten this far.

Sorry, but if you expect him to call you and speak like you, I don't know what else to say. How long have you been around him?

We've been around each other since we were in diapers. Our mothers were close friends.

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If he is calling you and letting you do all the talk, then why are you complaining?

I understand if he didn't call, then there is a lot to be worried about.

I give you my perspective (an aqua male myself)

I do this to people whom I respect and care about. Period. I normally shut people if I start to feel that they are not worthy of my relationship. Ofc, every Aqua thinks differently. but there are some common things we do.

It wasn't complaining, just adding on to my confusion about his odd behavior? I guess I don't have him quite figured out? It's a learning process.