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Okay so blah blah blah you all know the story, if you dont u can read my other thread with it, but just to summarize, the girl has a boyfriend, shes aquarius, shes totally gorgeous, she proposed to be good friends till the end, i thought about it for one day remembered that relationships with aquas start that way so i said yes, she was happy.

Few days while we were studying together for an exam, we were sitting together she was flirting i was flirting, i poked her, she started hitting me, she let me touch her hair (she has amazing hair), and i teased her that her eye lashes (gorgeous eyelashes) were fake, she let me touch them, then she mentioned how gorgeous my eyes were, so she wanted to look closer and she was staring into my eyes face to face like 3 inches away from my face. Then we kept studying then we started talking about how smart SHE is lol.. Well she was all cocky im smart blah blah blah, it was funny to me so i was laughing and verifying that she is smart then i said yes you are very smart but.. and she says but what, and i said ur very very smart but youre a little immature.

She asked how am I immature, and im like its nothing big its nothing, then she says well im gonna go study on my own (already pissed and hurt), im like "noo," then she says well tell me, and im like okay, and she says again is it because i flirt? and she interrupted me, so im said "that too" and she says well i dont try to flirt im sorry if you feel that way, and she started jumping to crazy conclusions, then i said well actually someone told me something about you

(she already got up and started moving her things away from me), (some girl told me that she saw this aqua girl making out with different guys in our college library, that hurt me badly and i wanted to talk to her about it so this is how we talked about it),

I told her what the girl said but she didnt believe me she thought i made it all up to doubt her and that i basically assumed all those things on the fact that she flirts a lot, so we had an argument, she was pissed and hurt by me, she basically called me a liar and i told her, "[name] one thing you need to learn about me is that i do not lie" that didnt help anything she was pissed, i told her id get a recording of that girl saying stuff about the aqua girl so that she doesnt call me a liar, so next day she ignored me, basically told me to fuk off when i came to see her, i got the recording
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but i couldnt see her that day so i made a mistake and sent it to her cellphone... she called me back crying saying that the girl is very mean and why she says those things that they arent true.. i felt like crap i wanted to hug her and it was just terrible thta i couldnt do anything, i should have waited and let her listen to it when i was there... then id hug her =[ anyway, we spoke that night for an hour she apologized to me a lot, and she never apologizes - as shes always right. But then she started over-thinking stuff and now instead of being good friends again she keeps distance!! two days after i saw her in college she avoided me by going to the bathroom, so i texted her yesterday, read the convo please and tell me if im doing good or not..


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Um you talk too much (that's my Aqua kicking in) probing feelings can turn an Aqua off that's why she said your behavior is annoying, of course I can't speak for all Aqua girls but it seem you are trying way too hard and that can turn an Aqua off real fast. I don't think you have a chance with this one but have fun trying. Don't bring up other girls EVER, we don't like it and will friend zone you, don't try too hard and most importantly be her friend, be supportive, listen to her and share your own stories about yourself with her (we love that) try to go under the radar and not show too many romantic feelings b/c you don't want her to feel she has complete control over you, we need a little tension to stay focused on a man, just be there for her all the time as much as possible and she'll give into your wooing. It appeared you were judging her more than supporting her about this rumor, it's important that she understands you don't believe all those horrible things about her, playing games will get your balls busted...Just saying
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Aqua girls can be very self-centered in the most annoying way. They don't acknowledge wrong-doing on their part and make the world out to be everyone against them over something they are at fault for.

I would believe the horrible things about her because obviously she is good at lying and probably has an answer for every red flag that might come your way.

You like her because you are mesmerized by her beauty or some other part of her and are in love with the idea of being in love with someone, it seems.

She sounds like very bad news and is already playing on your emotions which is not something you are gonna want months down the road with her. I know she probably listens to what you say or seems to be, but she again sounds like a bad match.

She wants whatever she wants and does little emotional plays on you instead of being a partner in all things you both are interested in. I am sure the child-like behavior and fun-loving spirit makes everything that might be a red flag something you can pass off, but just don't get burned.

Stay on top of the games and get what you want out of it but use your ability to move on when you decide she is too much crazy to handle.
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Immature Aqua's don't acknowledge wrong doing but if I'm wrong then I'm wrong and I have no problem acknowledging the wrong I've committed in a relationship or towards someone else, it all depends on the Aqua girl and her own morals and values, I tend to center myself around people that I love, put them first which can appear needy so I have to make sure to shift my energy back onto myself and back off and give people room to breathe which can look aloof to others, we Aqua girls love hard and deep, we may not show it but once we are stuck on you, it's most likely for life, we stay stuck on a person way after the relationships expiration date. I can't speak for all Aqua girls of course but I'm sure other Aqua girls can relate.

Heroic appears bitter but that's natural when he's most likely been exposed to a bad Aqua girl.
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tiki33,

youre wrong im not trying too hard, or at least she doent know it because we both use term friends as something more, so all i was doing was "saving our friendship" i do talk a lot and i know last few texts were too much, but im sure this will come up in the future, and i will make sure to let her knwo that i dont believe any sorts of crap about her, cause i really dont...
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I didn't know the girl had a boyfriend, this puts a new twist on things, guess he likes a real true challenge...Self esteem issues maybe, he'll have to increase his pick up artist game to get her over to his side, Aqua girls aren't that easy, we kinda THINK and then feel (least I do) mental attraction, mental stimulation has to be really really really powerful and awesome and out of this world for her to consider leaving her boyfriend.
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kingofaries no you're wrong in this situation, you asked and we offered our insight and now your being defensive, most people commenting agreed you talk too much and yes it's annoying to us Aqua's, we love to talk but not be probed about our feelings and thoughts or told how we feel...you deserve what you're getting from her, you are trying to seduce her and it's not working so now she's the manipulator and liar when that's all you have been doing yourself, she's mirroring you but she's the problem...wow
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guys all the things you said about her i pretty much know and noticed myself.. from our convo does she still hate me?
also, she does listen to me as weird as it may sound, i guess its a good thing.
Also when she called me crying she actually called her mother who she didnt talk to and her dad who she didnt talk to either, so now she talks to both of them because of me, ill remind her that if she gives me crap about something.. that should put her into a thinking mode for the next day or two lmao

that day when she was crying i actually made her laugh and she stopped crying, but then again she became angry at the girl, now the convo you all read i dont know but i think it kind of set her straight, what do you think?
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whenever she lets herself talk to me we have amazing conversations we can talk forever until she "accidentally" - on purpose reminds me that she has a boyfriend, she is playing with me, thats very childish, although when things get rough between her and her bf i will be the first candidate because i am the only guy she hung out within three years other than her precious bf...
im not trying to win her over the hard way, im not trying to seduce her, im just trying to be her best friend, im trying to help her emotionally, i AM NOT trying to tell her how she feels, she just feels upset and im helping her uinderstand that its okay and that she doenst have to be sad that everything is actually alright, do you understand that??

i know i talk to much but i do that rarely and only to test them out, i tested her out and she was still pissed thats how i know that the mission was not accomplished, thats hwy i asked u all what to do how to get our friendship back on ttrack so that i still remain the next guy
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i guess ill just let it flow its way ill leave her alone will ignore her then will let her come onto me, thats how its been before lol.. why i do it is because i guess i dont let myself meet a lot of new people and if i do im very picky, she fits because she is gorgeous and smart, others fit because they are smart and rich and gorgeous u kknow>? eh, ill just let it go its natural way, and will look for an opportunity to chase something else, i find myself chasing my own tail - i dont like that
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i guess ill just let it flow its way ill leave her alone will ignore her then will let her come onto me, thats how its been before lol.
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yeah but that's part of the problem. you know your own goal, but you don't make progress because you accept whatever you can get from the situation. what you don't realize is that you're deviating from the proven steps to getting what you want, and I say this because "whatever you can get" usually isn't that much at all. you are not building a boyfriend & girlfriend type relationship with her because 1-she's already committed to someone else and 2-you take whatever you can get (which is being her sounding board, being her therapist in the past- she throws the scraps at you and her boyfriend gets all the goods). If you payed attention to "the plan of how to get what you want" then you would stick to a set of rules that YOU DEFINE. IE:

1- decide what you want (the perfect girlfriend)
2- decide what qualities the perfect girlfriend posesses
3- find out where these SINGLE ladies hang out
4- make yourself available to them wherever ^ number 3 leads you
5- flirt and talk with them, smile, make them feel good, vibe it out
6- hang out with them (BUT ... BUT!! Do something OTHER than studying, walking them home from school, or spending time in class. Something OTHER than that, that is CLEARLY defined as time spent under the premise of getting to know each other for the purpose of dating / becoming bf and gf. This way, there's limited future recourse on her saying you two were always just friends and that the encounters were purely innocent... when you in fact WANT them to be far less than innocent - lets be honest. 😉 )
7- go on 3 dates with this girl (get rid of ALL OTHERS during this time, all of em) during a 2-3 week period, and talk to her on the phone during this period as well.
8- after the 3 week period, evaluate whether you want to continue seeing her and make her your girlfriend, or cut your losses so you can either try this process again or move back to an ex.
9- ask her to be your girlfriend, use your set (ya you know what I'm talkin bout) and man up. ask her to be your woman
10- live happily ever after / or try steps 1-9 again.

🙂

Finding the one, takes effort and time. I promise if you go thro
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No you arent gonna tell me what to do youre stupid. I dont care whether it was annoying or not i needed to get my point across, she will get over it. Also I wasnt judgemental you dont know the situation so dont tell me that i cant criticize, the girl is not important were over it and were back to being friends.

After that texting she called me in 2 days and we had a really nice convo as if nothing was wrong, we were speaking nigg–?h accent just for fun, it made her laugh, then she mentioned the crap that happened... saying something that completely blew me away, i really did not expect it, but she said "you didnt defend me, i listened to the conversation.. [i interruptedsaying:> no whatever you heard was just a play i wwas simply pulling out information, then she said, dont play games with me i am very smart, [funny because i thought she was playing games] and i interrupted again saying i know that you are smart (she isnt that smart when it comes to figuring out complex stuff she just jumps to stereotypical conclusions) but i said, yes i know youre smart and i wasnt playing games with u by telling that girl whatever, and i said that i didnt believe her and that i did support her blah blah blah, it was a 3 minute conversation after what we spoke for an hour.....

basically everything is back to normal lol, i knew i was irresistible... she told me she loves talking to me and that she really enjoys our conversations, "and dont think that im flirting with you i really enjoy.." and my response was "nono were friends and i can tell you the same i really like talking to you im very comfortable (think i said that) anyweay i complemented her too, this week though i will ask out a black girl, and she likes black people somewhat, the normal ones obv. and see her reaction lmao.. also adding to what she said about talking to me "though sometimes when we talk i wonder why i even talk to you.." ROLFFFFF
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Posted by blueribbons
And the response we get if we call it like it is (in this thread) is "you're stupid, don't put me down". It's too defensive, I mean take some constructive criticsm and make progress or keep banging your head against a wall.

Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. - Coco Chanel


what you said makes no sense love, firstly because im just screwing with her im not hitting on her, she became a lying brat to me, she lies all the time, and i see it, and shuts off when shes mad, thats what i used to do when i was 5, im doneeee, ill just play her for entertainment
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Posted by blueribbons
ya or get into a fight :/ my boyfriend is a Libra (as you know Ali) and he'd be PISSED if something like this was happening to me.

Granted, it's the girls fault too. I wonder how much of it is her fault considering she entertains KOA's advances to a certain degree. She COULD ignore him altogether ?



SHE FUKCING FLIRTED WITH ME AND DOES FLIRT ALL THE TIME THATS THE FUKCING THING ITS NOT LIKE I FORCE IT, IF SOMEONE CUTE FLIRTS TO YOU AND YOURE SINGLE YOU MOST LIKELY WILL FLIRT BACK TO WHAT SHE GETS DEFENSIVE. Yesterday i called her and woke her up and she said later oh i texted everyone not to call me and didnt text you, and i said "i must be on the exclulive list hahaha" and instead of laughing with me and taking it as a joke it told me "think whatever you want, whatever helps you sleep at night" is that a normal response? im so fukcing done with this...
She greets people by kissing them on the cheek, and says bye by kissing on the cheek, i was gonna go for that today shes like no dont kiss me you know i dont like that, like WTF? doneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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Posted by blueribbons
All the while, we've been looking at his point of view. The fact that he goes after a girl with a boyfriend is highlighted and underscored, overshadowing the fact that she puts herself in questionable situations. I think that's just as guilty. I wouldn't want my s/o putting himself in situations like that, or continuing communication. So I wonder, what she's really up to.


according to her "we are very good friends" and she hopes that we "stay friends till the end," dont know whether it was just trying to screw with my head or putting me on the leash
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I think everyone here is trying to tell you that even the girl is enjoying her sideline flirts (meaning she's a flirt, maybe you haven't seen she flirts with others too. Please don't tell me that you know all people she know and be with her 24/7 therefore knowing who she flirts with!). However, ultimately, the choice is also yours as you raise your hopes up , thus leading you to be played by both her and your expextations that someday, somewhere it leads to something. Maybe it will , maybe it won't . If you want to play, play it, stop being so whiny about it. If you want to be a good guy friend only and want a single girl instead of a girl you claim playing games with you then get out of there. It's simple. Either this or that. Stop blaming other for the decision is made by you as well.i.e. staying in , enjoy the flirting game, gets mad when she acts like a stuck up and feel used when she doesn't flirt back . Seriously, the game you're participating is unpredictable from the beginning so stop complainning if you already take part in this for quite a long time.
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I'm starting to think this whole thing is an internet prank from KingofAries(really?) because the whole content is really ridiculous. 19 years old boy yet talking like 8 years old girl? I don't get it. At the same time, the thread is very amusing. I get a good laugh from here now and then when I'm stressed (with all the economic crisis, natural disasters and people dying..) Got to love Dxp!
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youre so stressed that you come here and read my shit and get even more stressed, i mean its pleasant to hear that people care about my life but to stress out or come here to forget about your shitty life and live yours through mine thats what really is amusing... what was that? your mommy didnt give you enough attention as you were growing up? im sorry.. not really but i pity you.. actually i dont care about you, about what you think, about your mental and economical crisis, and what entertains you, if you like talking to 8 year old girls then go to the local school, and pardon me im not a boy im a man, you really have some pedophiliac tendencies there buddy, didnt mean to say buddy, –?sshole.
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heyhey i'm pretty new to the dxp boards, about three months now?..i'm an aquarius chick and i read through this whole thread..the thing is, Aqurius' tend to flirt naturally (its just one of our traits) and it could either be a good thing or a bad thing..seems like in your case KOA that its a bad thing lol being that your reading into these 'signals' WAY TOO MUCH..the girl has a boyfriend, theres no point in getting all worked up about her actions towards you (being that nothing will happen more than just being friends at this time)..and yeah reading your text convo even got me a little irritated...once again, from an aquarius point of you the convo just came off too strong on your side and we don't like that..simple convo's go a long way (Especially when texting) but in person its different (lol another aqua contradiction)...you say that you are "doneeeeeeeee" with her just because she isn't flirting with you like she normally does, but why should you care? you both are just friends right? move on and get someone who is single. just like what everyone else has been telling you lol.
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SHE FUKCING FLIRTED WITH ME AND DOES FLIRT ALL THE TIME THATS THE FUKCING THING ITS NOT LIKE I FORCE IT, IF SOMEONE CUTE FLIRTS TO YOU AND YOURE SINGLE YOU MOST LIKELY WILL FLIRT BACK TO WHAT SHE GETS DEFENSIVE. Yesterday i called her and woke her up and she said later oh i texted everyone not to call me and didnt text you, and i said "i must be on the exclulive list hahaha" and instead of laughing with me and taking it as a joke it told me "think whatever you want, whatever helps you sleep at night" is that a normal response? im so fukcing done with this...
She greets people by kissing them on the cheek, and says bye by kissing on the cheek, i was gonna go for that today shes like no dont kiss me you know i dont like that, like WTF? doneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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perfect example of that Aries wrath and how quickly they get over themselves LOL