Can some Aqua's please explain this to me?

Aqua friend and I are "apparently" cool now. We met back up finally on Saturday night, had a few drinks sorted the whole thing out and had a great night. Good catch up, laughed a lot, all fine.

So I text him Sunday saying was good to catch up, glad we were ok and would he like to do it again soon. Now that's a question unless I'm mistaken and requires a response does it not?

So it's now Wednesday morning and nothing. And before everyone says oh he's so busy etc. etc. he's been posting crap on facebook for the past two days and chatting away fine there. So don't tell me he's not got time to send a quick two minute text.

I wasn't expecting a reply straight away but to still have none after 4 days? I just find it plain rude.

I do love Aqua's (my best female friend is one) but this isn't the first time I've experienced this with you guys.

Grrrr.

"Cool" is exactly the word to view this.

If it were "hot" you'd get an answer. You're "cool", which means "Don't expect me to make a lot of effort for you. This includes answering your texts and hanging out when YOU want. It's on MY terms, baby".

Cool.

That's where you're at right now. It could change though, we take ages to get over our shit at times. We'll make you suffer a bit,keep you hanging, calm down and THEN get over it.

TIME is the key here.

However, i have to say that if you sent a text today that said "hey, stop being a rude fuck and thinking you're special by playing silent treatment games, it's pathetic" you'll most likely give him a textual-slap and he'll be shocked enough to either 1) tell you to get fucked or 2) apologise. I'm picking he'll apologise since you've already hung out etc.

Oh yeah - be prepared for the "I lost my phone/my phone was flat/I was busy/I didn't get your text" rubbish.

It's a load of crap. He got it. He's just being a dick.

Revenge for an Aqua is best dealt silently. So that's what you'll get. Really immature, right? Yep, I'll agree.

He'll make excuses, don't believe them, it's bollocks. He got your text, he's just trying to exert some power-trip exercise. Let him know it's not happening on your watch and he'll think twice about doing it again. Don't fear rocking the boat. We're blunt, we understand blunt back again, we respond to it. We RESPECT it.

Posted by NZAqua
Oh yeah - be prepared for the "I lost my phone/my phone was flat/I was busy/I didn't get your text" rubbish.

It's a load of crap. He got it. He's just being a dick.

Revenge for an Aqua is best dealt silently. So that's what you'll get. Really immature, right? Yep, I'll agree.

He'll make excuses, don't believe them, it's bollocks. He got your text, he's just trying to exert some power-trip exercise. Let him know it's not happening on your watch and he'll think twice about doing it again. Don't fear rocking the boat. We're blunt, we understand blunt back again, we respond to it. We RESPECT it.

+1 for the aqua silent revenge. that's some stressful shit

Posted by NZAqua
Don't fear rocking the boat. We're blunt, we understand blunt back again, we respond to it. We RESPECT it.

agree with this too. just don't be emotional with your delivery, they seem to hate that/it makes them uncomfortable

Posted by nimbue

Posted by NZAqua
Oh yeah - be prepared for the "I lost my phone/my phone was flat/I was busy/I didn't get your text" rubbish.

It's a load of crap. He got it. He's just being a dick.

Revenge for an Aqua is best dealt silently. So that's what you'll get. Really immature, right? Yep, I'll agree.

He'll make excuses, don't believe them, it's bollocks. He got your text, he's just trying to exert some power-trip exercise. Let him know it's not happening on your watch and he'll think twice about doing it again. Don't fear rocking the boat. We're blunt, we understand blunt back again, we respond to it. We RESPECT it.

+1 for the aqua silent revenge. that's some stressful shit

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Yes it is. And it's really childish, but rarely do we grow out of it. I don't know a single Aqua that doesn't do it at times. Then again I don't know that many Aqua's because even though i am one, I can't hang out with them often. We're a weird bunch of people and i can't be arsed working it all out. I feel for those involved in one in a romantic sense.

Well I last night I text him saying "eh hello, earth to -his name-" and left it at that. He replied almost straight away saying "sorry hon didn't know you were after a reply" then went on to say of course he would and am I free on Sunday.

Didn't know I was after a reply ha sure.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Then again if you've offended someone it never hurts to put your back into it and/or admit where one has been a bit of a twat (not saying you're a twat fwiw MissPirate, just wanted to show this thread some love)

Lol I was a bit of a twat that time but definitely owned it and went out of my way to make things right.

Posted by NZAqua
"Cool" is exactly the word to view this.

If it were "hot" you'd get an answer. You're "cool", which means "Don't expect me to make a lot of effort for you. This includes answering your texts and hanging out when YOU want. It's on MY terms, baby".

Cool.

Yeah that sounds about right. He was never this bad before. I feel like I'm still being punished.

I still maintain that what I did wasn't even that bad and that he's being overly sensitive about it. I'm deffo blaming that on his Cancer rising all the other Aqua's I know would have built a bridge by now.

Posted by firewaterearth

Why would he do that though? I wouldn't say I had any expectations, I just enjoy his company and we have a lot in common. I consider him a good friend, not one of my closest but a good friend nonetheless. We've known each other for around ten years - we used to work together that's how I met him. We weren't in touch for a good few years though up until I'd say about a year ago we got back in regular contact.

I know he went through a lot of shit in that time. Some chick broke his heart or whatever and he's become way more cynical than he used to be, definitely more bitter. Maybe he just doesn't trust women full stop now.

Sorry I'm shit at the quote function, firewaterearth that comment ^^^^^^^ was in response to yours.

I did find out what I said to him though that made him so mad.

Or should I say "hurt" because that's more what it was.

Still think there was some truth in it though.

Possibly.

Or sat there fuming at me for being such a bitch in pointing it out lol.

He is such a sensitive wee soul.

My Gemini moon clearly doesn't help.

Posted by MissPirate
He is such a sensitive wee soul.

My Gemini moon clearly doesn't help.

I do not beleive it was your approach per say, because Aqua men appreciate the direct route/what's the bottom line/truth to anything someone else tells them. I do not beleive it was the "bitch" approach you stated either. But what I do beleive is it was the emotion he saw/felt in the way you presented it
That is why he needed "time" to THINK about his response. 🙂