reconnecting with an aqua guy

Hi,

I am an aqua girl. I met this guy 3 years ago at a 5-day event, and we had great connections. He tried to ask me out. But because I was too young and being a typical aqua, became scared that someone could pick up who I was that well within a short period of time, I totally disappeared.

I sent him a message later asking for help for a project. He gave me a long email of instruction. A year ago, I sent him another message about an opportunity I thought would fit him and he responded, thanking me.

The thing is even though in the past 3 years we lived in different places, I still kept thinking about him and even self-sabotaged potential love interests by comparing them to him in my head.

There's this nagging feeling that he might be the love of my life (which to be honest, it's pretty tough to say that and be an aqua).

I have moon in aries, taurus rising...

Any advices? If I send another message or add him on fb after 3 years, will he respond?

You never dated him to understand if there is a compatibility so how are you sayin that he could be the love of your life. So let me ask you, what do you know about him to think that he could be the love of your life?

Wow.

I know I shouldn't be, but I am so mad at you!!! Girl any time you let a man get away, you take the chance of losing him for good! Yes I know there are other fish in the sea BUT come on, it's rare to meet someone who gives you that "feeling" w/o even having to do much LOL

If he's responded to you contacting him all those other times, why wouldn't he respond now? That's just you being paranoid

I'm sure this guy felt rejected by you back then, but the fact that he's been willing to help you over the years means that he probably still likes you. Either that or he's not the kind of person that's petty, sits in the corner & pouts just b/c someone rejected him, and that's a good thing lol

If I were you, I'd re-establish the contact. Observe a little bit. Add him as a friend on Facebook. See if he has a girlfriend, wife or someone in his life that he's serious with

If your "observations" (lol) look like he's single, go for it! Don't be too aggressive, but give him slight hints that you regret not taking him up on his offer when he asked you out & let him decide whether or not his interest in you is still there

And go from there! Who knows, he might say, "Ugh finally! Come here girl!" lol

Posted by aquarius09
You never dated him to understand if there is a compatibility so how are you sayin that he could be the love of your life. So let me ask you, what do you know about him to think that he could be the love of your life?

I get what she's saying. Sometimes you just get that "feeling." You can't explain it, nor do you feel it that often.

It's a "feeling" that people who ended up being soul mates say they had when they 1st met that person. If you see enough people who end up in great relationships/marriages who also can relate to having that "feeling" when they 1st met their partner, it's only natural for others to think that maybe the "feeling" they are experiencing with someone could mean the same thing that it meant for others who were actually RIGHT, thus ended up in a good relationship/marriage b/c of it

I had that feeling when I 1st met my husband. Didn't know him from a can of paint, but something in my gut told me that he'd somehow be significant in my life in some way, somehow. Obviously my intuition was spot on

But I do get what you're saying though too. Sometimes getting that "feeling" means nothing at all.

But it's def. worth pursuing relations with that person & finding out.

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Posted by aquarius09
You never dated him to understand if there is a compatibility so how are you sayin that he could be the love of your life. So let me ask you, what do you know about him to think that he could be the love of your life?

I get what she's saying. Sometimes you just get that "feeling." You can't explain it, nor do you feel it that often.

It's a "feeling" that people who ended up being soul mates say they had when they 1st met that person. If you see enough people who end up in great relationships/marriages who also can relate to having that "feeling" when they 1st met their partner, it's only natural for others to think that maybe the "feeling" they are experiencing with someone could mean the same thing that it meant for others who were actually RIGHT, thus ended up in a good relationship/marriage b/c of it

I had that feeling when I 1st met my husband. Didn't know him from a can of paint, but something in my gut told me that he'd somehow be significant in my life in some way, somehow. Obviously my intuition was spot on

But I do get what you're saying though too. Sometimes getting that "feeling" means nothing at all.

But it's def. worth pursuing relations with that person & finding out.

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I got that feeling with a guy. I let him go. Tried to establish contact with him years later but he was already in a relationship. Last week he got married 😭 So yeah, I don't trust that "feeling" anymore.

@aquarius09: i get what you mean, that's why I let him go... lol but it's a nagging feeling that i cant explain ... after 3 years I still think about him and I am one hell of a workaholic aqua so i dont even know what to distract myself with...

@krysrenee7: thank you for breaking it down for me. Even reading your post makes my heart beats. I'm really scared

@krysrenee7: i deleted my first facebook acct because I felt like I was stalking him way too much (and think he was stalking me as well)... Will he be mad at me...?

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Posted by aquarius09
You never dated him to understand if there is a compatibility so how are you sayin that he could be the love of your life. So let me ask you, what do you know about him to think that he could be the love of your life?

I get what she's saying. Sometimes you just get that "feeling." You can't explain it, nor do you feel it that often.

It's a "feeling" that people who ended up being soul mates say they had when they 1st met that person. If you see enough people who end up in great relationships/marriages who also can relate to having that "feeling" when they 1st met their partner, it's only natural for others to think that maybe the "feeling" they are experiencing with someone could mean the same thing that it meant for others who were actually RIGHT, thus ended up in a good relationship/marriage b/c of it

I had that feeling when I 1st met my husband. Didn't know him from a can of paint, but something in my gut told me that he'd somehow be significant in my life in some way, somehow. Obviously my intuition was spot on

But I do get what you're saying though too. Sometimes getting that "feeling" means nothing at all.

But it's def. worth pursuing relations with that person & finding out.

I got that feeling with a guy. I let him go. Tried to establish contact with him years later but he was already in a relationship. Last week he got married 😭 So yeah, I don't trust that "feeling" anymore.

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That's unfair! It's up to you to fulfill that intuition! You're not supposed to just get that feeling, do nothing & expect some magical fairy to come down from the sky & put you 2 together!

If you get that feeling, MOVE & see where it goes! If you're just gonna ignore it or let it go to waste, it's unfair to say that you didn't get the results you wanted. You didn't get the results you wanted b/c you didn't do your part & put in enough effort to see if that feeling was there for a reason!

It's like the person who suddenly gets an intuition that they're in danger! If you're walking by yourself & get that "feeling," you're supposed to make a move, drive off, lock your doors, SOMETHING! If you just sit there & ignore that feeling, you can't say

.....It's like the person who suddenly gets an intuition that they're in danger! If you're walking by yourself & get that "feeling," you're supposed to make a move, drive off, lock your doors, SOMETHING! If you just sit there & ignore that feeling, you can't say your intuition was wrong just b/c you got robbed! Your intuition was CORRECT, it's just that you didn't do your part! HUGE DIFFERENCE!!

Posted by saqua
@krysrenee7: i deleted my first facebook acct because I felt like I was stalking him way too much (and think he was stalking me as well)... Will he be mad at me...?

Stop being so passive-aggressive!

If you like this guy, go for it! If you wanna talk to him, just talk to him! If you feel some kind of way, have the CONFIDENCE in yourself & tell him!

No more passive-aggressive stuff! You'll never get anywhere "guessing" what his reaction might be. Just test the waters yourself & you'll get the answer!

@krysrenee7: thank you so much for the advice. Are you an Aqua too? I just added him and I hope things will turn out ok

I'm the Queen Aqua honey =P

If the contact you've had expands as far as you've detailed here then don't worry too much about it. I know from my perspective I wouldn't think too much on it, the what ifs and what nots. meh. He's probably glad or happy that you made contact tbh.

Anyway look at it this way you ran away the first time, if he suspects this then I suppose he would be guarded or perhaps put you on the back burner until you're ready to stay. There's a few possibilities.

Why not just hang out casually for a while and see. Resist the urge to think he's your life partner for a while.

thank you Aquasnoz, i think all i need to do right now is calm down, continue living and look at things more objectively.

Posted by aquasnoz
Why not just hang out casually for a while and see. Resist the urge to think he's your life partner for a while.

I agree. Don't forget that you really don't know much about this guy, so for that reason, don't make him more important than he really is

For all you know, once you get to know him he could turn out to be a total douche! And if that happens, God forbid, not only will you look back at these times & kick yourself for putting him on a pedestal he didn't earn all this time, but you'll also feel like a jackass for not pursuing him & getting to know him earlier

My point? He wouldn't seem so intimidating if you stopped trying to guess how he can play some significant role in your life someday. We ladies have a way of doing that lol Just saying that confidence is always easier when you remember that he's just another average "person," (Not some God that you have to walk on eggshells around just to get his attention)