AmoureuxDeLesprit
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Shy Aquarius??
1) Yes,it does usually get better over time - once we've analysed you to pieces and decided you're partner material.
2) No definition until the afore mentioned has been carried out. But once it's decided, he'll more than likely ask YOU what YOUR definition is.
Good luck 🙂
2) No definition until the afore mentioned has been carried out. But once it's decided, he'll more than likely ask YOU what YOUR definition is.
Good luck 🙂
To answer your question...The good thing about Aquas is that you can usually measure how much they care/are invested in someone by the amount of time they spend with you and/or energy they are putting into the friendship/relationship. In other words, if they spend most of their time with you, it's b/c there's no other place they'd rather be. And on the flip side, if they are "hit or miss" or "hot & cold" it's not even necessarily that they aren't interested or THAT busy, BUT moreso that they haven't YET decided to feel 100% comfortable/safe in the situation.
I think communication on your part to him will be important to. Hey, everybody has a right to tell another person what level/kind of communication they feel the most comfortable with. For example, all the guys I've ever dated knew UP FRONT that I considered primarily getting to know someone through TEXT MESSAGE, very tacky! It's not that I implied that I'd never be okay with texting them, BUT I made it very clear that I'd prefer to do things the old fashioned way (over the phone or in person). And most of the time, men understood this right away. I think it all just depends on your delivery.
With that being said, I don't think it'd be a bad thing to make him aware of your expecations right now. Of course, I'd advise you NOT to come off as pushy and/OR giving him the impression that you want more out of him right now than he's really ready to give.
In most cases, the longer 2 people spend more & more time together, there's a big chance that 1 or both people will eventually end up establishing feelings for 1 another. The same goes for Aquas. IF after time they like you more & more, you'll notice a change! Now don't get it twisted, we Aquas still like our "space," BUT trust me, when an Aqua is fully comfortable with you, you'd be surprised at how much MORE energy/time we had for someone who probably thought we were either 1. Not interested at all or 2. VERY busy. Aquas like to keep a certain amount of distance there just in case things don't work out; the lack in constant communication would allow them to make a quick & slick exit persay things went horribly wrong.
Just hang in there.
I think communication on your part to him will be important to. Hey, everybody has a right to tell another person what level/kind of communication they feel the most comfortable with. For example, all the guys I've ever dated knew UP FRONT that I considered primarily getting to know someone through TEXT MESSAGE, very tacky! It's not that I implied that I'd never be okay with texting them, BUT I made it very clear that I'd prefer to do things the old fashioned way (over the phone or in person). And most of the time, men understood this right away. I think it all just depends on your delivery.
With that being said, I don't think it'd be a bad thing to make him aware of your expecations right now. Of course, I'd advise you NOT to come off as pushy and/OR giving him the impression that you want more out of him right now than he's really ready to give.
In most cases, the longer 2 people spend more & more time together, there's a big chance that 1 or both people will eventually end up establishing feelings for 1 another. The same goes for Aquas. IF after time they like you more & more, you'll notice a change! Now don't get it twisted, we Aquas still like our "space," BUT trust me, when an Aqua is fully comfortable with you, you'd be surprised at how much MORE energy/time we had for someone who probably thought we were either 1. Not interested at all or 2. VERY busy. Aquas like to keep a certain amount of distance there just in case things don't work out; the lack in constant communication would allow them to make a quick & slick exit persay things went horribly wrong.
Just hang in there.
To answer your 2nd question...This might be a tricky 1 b/c every Aqua is different. Generally, the more comfortable an Aqua is with you, the more likely & LESS nervous they'll be bringing up such a topic.
Remember, that Aquas always feel as if they'd be able to fulfill another's needs..the question in THEIR minds is always, "But can YOU fulfill what I need?" This is another reason why Aquas are known to take dating very slowly BUT also very seriously; It's b/c there's a good chance that after a while, an Aqua has already made up their minds about WHERE you'd fit into their future (if at all)..and once they can prematurely see themselves continuing to like you, that's when all the testing will begin. They'll expect for AND sit & watch another person reveal themselves. They'll literally wait on the other person to go "1st."
The best way to approach this situation if you're just curious about how he feels about you as of now, is to just bring the topic up as if it were just another 1 of your topics for a good conversation (like the weather, or politics,etc.) Hell, you could either pretend like you & a good friend were discussing it & ask him for his feedback on the topic. If you do this trick, he won't even realize that you're listening closely to his answers for DIFFERENT reasons other than to just have a simple/basic conversation. And hey, if he says something that bothers you or strikes you as odd, that'd be the best time to get his opinion/outlook on how he personally feels about you. Once you get him talking about, his defenses would've already been down, so that'd be the best time to throw him some bait & ask him how he feels.
Aquas may appear to be shy sometimes, BUT just b/c we are not speaking/talking 100 words per minute doesn't mean that we are not THINKING 100 things per minute. You'd be surprised; sometimes Aquas can pick up on the fact that the other person has "something on their chest," & they'll literally sit & wait for the other person to have the balls to say something;
Remember, that Aquas always feel as if they'd be able to fulfill another's needs..the question in THEIR minds is always, "But can YOU fulfill what I need?" This is another reason why Aquas are known to take dating very slowly BUT also very seriously; It's b/c there's a good chance that after a while, an Aqua has already made up their minds about WHERE you'd fit into their future (if at all)..and once they can prematurely see themselves continuing to like you, that's when all the testing will begin. They'll expect for AND sit & watch another person reveal themselves. They'll literally wait on the other person to go "1st."
The best way to approach this situation if you're just curious about how he feels about you as of now, is to just bring the topic up as if it were just another 1 of your topics for a good conversation (like the weather, or politics,etc.) Hell, you could either pretend like you & a good friend were discussing it & ask him for his feedback on the topic. If you do this trick, he won't even realize that you're listening closely to his answers for DIFFERENT reasons other than to just have a simple/basic conversation. And hey, if he says something that bothers you or strikes you as odd, that'd be the best time to get his opinion/outlook on how he personally feels about you. Once you get him talking about, his defenses would've already been down, so that'd be the best time to throw him some bait & ask him how he feels.
Aquas may appear to be shy sometimes, BUT just b/c we are not speaking/talking 100 words per minute doesn't mean that we are not THINKING 100 things per minute. You'd be surprised; sometimes Aquas can pick up on the fact that the other person has "something on their chest," & they'll literally sit & wait for the other person to have the balls to say something;
Krysrenne... what do your "aquarian" tests consist of? lol i asked this previously and fiesty said such things couldnt be revealed! lol
NZAqua and Krysrenee7,
Thank you so much, it makes complete sense that people take their time to analyze things, well, some of us do 😉 but I guess the difference between him and me is that I am willing to communicate a bit more often, although of course he doesn't know, but not doing it as much right now it is completely okay with.
I too, guard my heart and emotions, until they are safe, so I understand the logic, I don't give too much but yet I am willing to not give so little, if that makes any sense.
I know he likes me and I know he is genuinely busy at the moment, I just think his problem with women must be that of communication with them, but I will wait and see how that unfolds in the near future.
He and I can talk about anything...and you know what I like the most about this right now? I'll put it this way...
I think intelligence is attractive. So, when he brings up news I didn't get into as much and makes me think...that, to me, is a turn on. I appreciate people that make me think, that's nice, BUT people that make me not only think but genuinely investigate and challenge ME mentally...now, that is hot. Haha...I know it sounds weird, but in my case, it is so true.
I tried the whole dating gergous people when I was younger and honestly, it doesn't work so well for me if there isn't any mental connection. My aqua is so cute, he isn't the super buff type, but he is cute and his intelligence and drive makes him beyond cute in my mind...the only remaining question (everything is perfect) has to do with the emotional compabiltity, hence communication. So, just as he might be evaluating me for certain things, that is my my current evalution towards him... I appreciate your thoughts guys, thank you again! 🙂
Thank you so much, it makes complete sense that people take their time to analyze things, well, some of us do 😉 but I guess the difference between him and me is that I am willing to communicate a bit more often, although of course he doesn't know, but not doing it as much right now it is completely okay with.
I too, guard my heart and emotions, until they are safe, so I understand the logic, I don't give too much but yet I am willing to not give so little, if that makes any sense.
I know he likes me and I know he is genuinely busy at the moment, I just think his problem with women must be that of communication with them, but I will wait and see how that unfolds in the near future.
He and I can talk about anything...and you know what I like the most about this right now? I'll put it this way...
I think intelligence is attractive. So, when he brings up news I didn't get into as much and makes me think...that, to me, is a turn on. I appreciate people that make me think, that's nice, BUT people that make me not only think but genuinely investigate and challenge ME mentally...now, that is hot. Haha...I know it sounds weird, but in my case, it is so true.
I tried the whole dating gergous people when I was younger and honestly, it doesn't work so well for me if there isn't any mental connection. My aqua is so cute, he isn't the super buff type, but he is cute and his intelligence and drive makes him beyond cute in my mind...the only remaining question (everything is perfect) has to do with the emotional compabiltity, hence communication. So, just as he might be evaluating me for certain things, that is my my current evalution towards him... I appreciate your thoughts guys, thank you again! 🙂
FeistyAquarian and ScorpioDreamer,
I hope your heads feel better today!
and Eirelax87,
The aqua you described had similar qualities I appreciate in this guy I am seeing now. Even if things didn't work out between us, I would like to keep him as a friend, because we encourage each other so much and have lots in common. We are very different in some ways, but very similar in other ways...especially in things that really matter. I am willing to adapt to his anal/early morning ways, as long as he keeps on being open to relax with my a little over the weekends and let himself go once in a while. I think its cute that he is so organized though...funny thing. 🙂I should get him a plant to him entertained at home. :p
We have only held hands this far...and I probably wouldn't do more until I know later.
Plus, I too, want to know if this is the right move for me...I don't want to rush into anything, I want to enjoy his company more and more until I know eventually that I am supposed to have this thing with him you know? I guess we will wait and see. So far, it is great, so I am willing to keep on seeing what is up next. 🙂
I hope your heads feel better today!
and Eirelax87,
The aqua you described had similar qualities I appreciate in this guy I am seeing now. Even if things didn't work out between us, I would like to keep him as a friend, because we encourage each other so much and have lots in common. We are very different in some ways, but very similar in other ways...especially in things that really matter. I am willing to adapt to his anal/early morning ways, as long as he keeps on being open to relax with my a little over the weekends and let himself go once in a while. I think its cute that he is so organized though...funny thing. 🙂I should get him a plant to him entertained at home. :p
We have only held hands this far...and I probably wouldn't do more until I know later.
Plus, I too, want to know if this is the right move for me...I don't want to rush into anything, I want to enjoy his company more and more until I know eventually that I am supposed to have this thing with him you know? I guess we will wait and see. So far, it is great, so I am willing to keep on seeing what is up next. 🙂
ScorpioDreamer,
I read your post, he sounds a lot like the guy I am seeing with regards to his random response time, haha, except we have been only dating for a month and a half...I can't imaging dealing with that for 2 years :p
I asked you in that other post, but I will here too, do you think you like the fact that he is challenging as far as his space issue? I ask this because I tend to go for the challenging types and I want to make sure that I don't fall after a challenge again, but rather a true person... I think everyone wants a little challenge, of course, but I've been reading some good books about the difference between 'infatuation' and 'pure love' you know? At this point in my life I rather be found by the latter, not that I am against infatuation, I just think I had enough of it...and I don't want to waste my time in it any longer. I want something real and lasting and for that I am working on my ways to choose things and my own thinking processes and such... I was wondering if ever thought about these differences and if you have come to a place where you can recognize them clearly. 🙂
The aqua guy in question is wonderful, I like so many things in him and about him, but since he is also a challenge, I want to make sure I don't get confused you know? I think only time will tell...it is too soon to know, which by the way, as I type that, I think it is a sign that I do need to enjoy this slow process for now, I think I will just know in a little while. Hopefully I will stay centered and concious of all the good things I need to remember. :p
Oh and I can't say my sing yet 😉 that would give it away too quickly and who knows what kind of rep my birth mark has here. lol I'm assuming you are a Scorpio eh friend?
I read your post, he sounds a lot like the guy I am seeing with regards to his random response time, haha, except we have been only dating for a month and a half...I can't imaging dealing with that for 2 years :p
I asked you in that other post, but I will here too, do you think you like the fact that he is challenging as far as his space issue? I ask this because I tend to go for the challenging types and I want to make sure that I don't fall after a challenge again, but rather a true person... I think everyone wants a little challenge, of course, but I've been reading some good books about the difference between 'infatuation' and 'pure love' you know? At this point in my life I rather be found by the latter, not that I am against infatuation, I just think I had enough of it...and I don't want to waste my time in it any longer. I want something real and lasting and for that I am working on my ways to choose things and my own thinking processes and such... I was wondering if ever thought about these differences and if you have come to a place where you can recognize them clearly. 🙂
The aqua guy in question is wonderful, I like so many things in him and about him, but since he is also a challenge, I want to make sure I don't get confused you know? I think only time will tell...it is too soon to know, which by the way, as I type that, I think it is a sign that I do need to enjoy this slow process for now, I think I will just know in a little while. Hopefully I will stay centered and concious of all the good things I need to remember. :p
Oh and I can't say my sing yet 😉 that would give it away too quickly and who knows what kind of rep my birth mark has here. lol I'm assuming you are a Scorpio eh friend?
Posted by FeistyAquarianPosted by nats
Krysrenne... what do your "aquarian" tests consist of? lol i asked this previously and fiesty said such things couldnt be revealed! lol
bahahaha!click to expand
And someone is having fun today! 🙂 lol
I've never been very good at test-taking [yikes]. I hope my fast-learner skills help out during those times :p I am more of a doer than a test taker anyways. 😉
Posted by FeistyAquarian
nats wanted to know earlier how Aquarians "test" people in regards to relationships and prior to relationships as well. I wouldn't tell!
Fiestyaquarian,
I know, that's why I was saying that it is okay for me if you don't want to share them (the tests) since I am bad at taking them anyways 😉 haha. I hope your head is feeling better! One of my newest friends is a lovely aqua girl. I might do dancing with her and other friends this weekend, she also had a major headache this week, so hopefully I'll cheer her up with my dance moves. :p
Posted by ScorpioDreamer
AmoureuxDeLesprit,
You know, I do wonder the same thing. I have to admit that the whole challenge and mystery draws me to him. It always has. I hope that's not all it is or else I've wasted two years of my life on him. But you know, I don't really consider it a waste. I consider him a good friend and I care about him a lot. I hope that one day it can progress into love, but I'm not going to push it. Things are comfortable now. Do I wish for love with him? I'd be lying if I said no. We have not exchenged the L word yet and that's okay with me. If things don't work out I'll just chalk it up to another one of life's many lessons.
Ahh keeping your sign a mystery eh? You know Scorps love a good mystery right? Give me some time to figure it out. I love solving things! lol 😛
ScorpioDreamer,
Yes I don't think you wasted your time either. We can always learn from relationships if we choose to and they always symbolize something in our lives. I understand. 🙂
I too, wouldn't mind staying friends with this aqua guy, although I am pretty sure that we are dating right now, we just don't have any labels yet, which is totally fine with me, because that should come over time. I used to be very black and white about it. Now, I just relax, while staying vigilant, and let things happen. As long as I don't compromise what is really important for me, I let details take its place as they may.
As far as challenging people though, I completely understand you, and I guess I am in a stage in my life now where I just want to make sure I go after things that really matter in someone you know, things such as character and things that I might need in order to give more of me. So, I'm not closing the doors to things if they look challenging or mysterious, but I am cautious that "those" are not the reasons why I like someone, if that makes sense.
Keep me posted with your aqua situation, just make sure you give room to what you need and want too. 🙂
Oh and far as my sign, maybe you can figure it out without much research really. Maybe you are that good! :p My personal trainer is a scorpio guy, he is funny about mystery and things like that. We get along great though!
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I first must say that I love all my aqua friends dearly. We get along mentally so well and like to keep drama to the minimum so I have no questions regarding the fun ways and mental connections I feel with your sign. 🙂
I am here because I just started dating this aqua guy (a month ago or so) who is wonderful, and unlike other aquas I met, he is more of the shy type or so it seems. 🙂
Everything is going wonderful, except for the fact that he isn't the best at communicating right away, per say, but when we see each other everything works out perfectly. I am just used to communicating with someone I like a bit more often, he does it only once a week or so or right before and after we see each other. I understand that due to his aqua ways he needs space, which I am okay with for now since we just started dating a month and a half ago or so...however I have these 2 questions for you, if you could ever answer any or both, I would appreciate it greatly:
1) Do this communication pattern changes over time? Does it get better once an aqua is fully into the relationship?
You see, I don't mind seeing someone once a week (he lives and hr away from me anways) and I am a pro at long distance relationships so distance is not an issue for me, as I am a very independent person, but I do appreciate/value and perhaps need some consistent communication with someone and by consistent I mean at least once a day or every other day over text if I get serious about someone.
So I was wondering if this is something I should expect and hope for over time or if the way he is now is just how he is going to be once we get more serious about everything. I ask that because it is important for me to know what to hope/except before I get deeper into it you know? So I'm just trying to gather some thoughts and experiences.
2) How do aquarius like to define relationships? I'm more of the fun yet classy type, so I wouldn't bring it up unless he does it, but I was just curious to see if you all got any tips or stories about it. :p
I will talk to him about it at some point, but I just thought I would check with you, fine people, so I can get some feedback/opinions before I get into that subject with him eventually.
Everything seems to be going great though, he is like my guy version. 🙂 lol
Amoreux