signs an aqua man is into you

What are the classic tell take signs an aquarius man is romantically interested?

you get the gut feeling he hates you


true story

Hahahaha! Yes!!

Posted by flowingwater

Posted by aquapiscescusp
you get the gut feeling he hates you


true story

This.
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Lol really ?

Why though what's the sense behind that ?

He needs to see your reaction to that. This gives him insight.

I have an Aqua admirer, he's been lurking for years, he's pretty obvious and straight forward, like showing interest in hanging out, going for coffees etc, but keeps his distance at the same time.

Signs Aquaman is into you...

Staying the fulk away from you
Establishing your relatives political persuasion
Suggesting you co-produce his movie/ join his foundation
Sweating ?? la Palm a little lol
Dressing better - Aquas don't always look look conventionally 'sharp' - why should we?
'Thinking of you' texts at busy times e.g. AM. Aquas don't plan so remembering to txt is big
Stopping to talk about himself always, asking you unsolicited questions
Talking about your 'Feelings' - not your Thoughts
Mentioning his family... 'family' can be a distant notion, and now you're part of it lol
Confirming cultural parallels- Remember that Pixies song?
Starting to act childishly, or nervously.
Forgiving: You??ll say how deep down you always felt like a bigot' - Aqua says: 'So what babe?" ??
Excercising. Aquas live in their head, so the body is a burden - not anymore!
Romance Eg. he will take you to a Conference, Record Store, Arboretum
A conservative streak will appear - you??ll be shocked
Something making him look dumb. "... I had all the Backstreet stuff!"
Scared you??ll drop him when you see he ain't perfect, he'll talk —imperfection??. "Lady Gaga? - well, least she writes her songs.."
Knowing things your friends appreciate - eg: Lacrosse results lol
Displaying an ability to make money, or showing some you didn't know.

Speaking disdainfully of past interests - —That methlab thing was just a phase??
Refraining from flitting from friend to friend at parties, noticing you - mostly. Finally...
Cutting back/accelerating booze/drugs intake lol
Using txt language previously alien. Nothing - just thinking of you??
His closest Friend will start acting mature. They know.
Suggesting things {you] like: —Maybe hit IKEA/House of Blues babe?" etc
Making suggestions about your career (He wants you to be famous) - —Imagine a gallery in the city - you??d be great at that!??
His eyes will look clearer. He's sleeping proper - less sociable, see?
Constructively criticising his friends —Zack is cool, but the whole Vader thing is...??
If he has a car, it will look better
His place will smell better. Possibly on Libran advice.
A new female will be mentioned. Sister/Aunt (Mother?) - They know.
He'll Cook for you, nervously...(despite his thai currytalk, he cant cook for sh1t)
He'll start to seek validation, self-deprecatingly: —How was that? Dumb, right??

Posted by aquapiscescusp
He needs to see your reaction to that. This gives him insight.

This intrigues me aquapiscescusp-- like what insight does it give?

Aquapiscesmoon, what is the reasoning behind him "stopping to talk about himself?" He sure doesn't let me get any words in edgewise.

Also what do you mean "a new female would be mentioned.?" Why would he mention new females?

Lately he's been having family troubles, and actually thanked me when I listened to his concerns. I told him "of course, you're my buddy." It's weird it's taken a year to talk about that .

Hey Penny,
Great to see your avatar. If there was an Avatar Prize on here you'd be in the final I think

My opinions are just that so they're not 'gospel' yeah?


Anyways, FWIW - I think a more mature Aqua (definitely not under 27 or maybe more), would start to become conscious of his place in a serious relationship.
It depends I guess on a lot of things. How many times he had been a poor communicator previously. Relationships etc.
I was a terrible communicator, so I learned relatively quickly - like a decade lol

So what did I learn?
Aquamen are self absorbed. Huge Egos. The Biggest. Leos roar, but their feet are on the ground. Aquas roar and its a weather event on Saturn.
Aquas can be Great when they are 'enabled' and happy - but total torment and even nihilistic or else depressive when they're not.
A late Aquaman I know lived like a zombie after 7 years of fame and fortune. Just because he was [wrongly] accused of fraud. It hit his ego hard.
He lost everything. But then, bounced back. Magically.

As we mature, aquamen need to learn to give more. Listen deeper. Compromise. Deeply appreciate contrarian views. And balance our fixed position.
So if yours is a mature aqua, he'll be more sensitive to his previous failings, and a better partner to you basically.
An obvious thing is that he'll stop talking (about himself) all the time...
He will still be widely distributed, but you'll start to feel that you are the constant irreplaceable illumination atop the flickering baubly tree of his life.

Sometimes, when an Aqua is feeling something big, he'll reach out to...someone.
Reaching out for emotional reasons is rare.
Sisters and Mothers of Aquamen (may) be likely to be less judgemental than fathers/brothers.
Hes more in touch with female than male energy after all
He may mention theres someone new recently in his life.
And he'd value (but mightn't ask outrightly for) their opinions.
He'll also want to 'celebrate' you as a wondrous thing, like most guys with their new gf's perhaps.
This is all easier with a little foreknowledge. And insight in return.



So....he may have been talking to sister/mother or amazingly in some cases, and ex.
Aquas are dumb sometimes, but they're plenty smart enough to realise that - if they're into something special, talk to the experts...
The experts are women.
Being so private about such emotional matters, it won't be just any female. They'll be highly trusted.

I....M....O

aquapiscesmoon, thanks for the comment about my avatar. I didn't make it or anything, but I think it sums me up nicely.

Thank you for the info, and your insight on things. I guess I've been snooping around the Aqua board more lately because I just haven't been getting the attention from him that i used to.

I get crumbs lately, and I'm super hurt when he goes off for four or five days at a time without any reaching out. When I send a smiley face after day three, he doesn't respond at all. Its hurtful.

I have been thinking of ending it, even though I love him so much. When he's with me, I am so happy. I forget all the pining and sadness when he's around. When he's not, sure I continue on with my life, and go do things to get my mind off, but the sadness is there, nagging at me, ready to consume my thoughts when I let my guard down.

The reason I think of ending it, is that I don't have to pine anymore. It'll be a nice memory, rather than a constant waiting game to when he's ready to chat, or meet up or whatever. I think this is my ego, trying to control the situation. He gave me so much at the beginning, and its not fair he is giving me so little now...

The problem I think, is out of sight, out of mind. That's how it seems.

sorry for hijacking the thread.

Posted by flowingwater
No woman should have to wait for a burden call. You know your place, hold it and stand up for what your hearts needs. It needs to heal.

This Aqua is making you feel heavy. Isn't it time to make yourself happy? Because he surely isn't. He's not worth the sadness and tears.

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flowingwater, I do appreciate your advice, it's always great.

The thing is, he is worth the sadness, because when he's around, (and it's not just the loneliness talking), he has a way to make it all better. All of it.

It's just the silence that is deafening.

I'll probably talk to him tonight, and I'll be all glitter and happiness again.

I hate that about me, so damn forgiving, and conflict avoiding. HATE IT.

Damn Penny, you got to tell him straight. You shouldnt be suffering for his failings

I think [we] have come to dumbly associate communication needs/requests with [Power, Emasculation, Abuse, Lack of Trust, Control Freaking, Shallowness]
Aquas particularly, will think their woman is a —like-mind??, and may be —disappointed?? at —having to?? communicate just like —others?? do. (You??re different/better than others, after all)
You??re a dynamic, independent woman. Not some barbie clich? he doesnt respect🙂

We Aquas need to look deeper and discover that such —signalling?? is not twee. Its not weak. Its not shallow. Its not —conventional??. Its not controlling, or untrusting.
If she NEEDS something, its because she SENSES something (not his strength)...
So what is she sensing?
And what good would a little text/call make for chrissakes?
But its not the SMS - its the Feeling that goes into creating it...
The call/text is just the packaging.

Aqua knows ALL about the IDEA of Love.
He has very little understanding of the Feeling of Love.

He can look at an Idea, and agree, —Yoga?? is good.
You can look at the same Idea and agree Yoga IS good, yeah!.

Aqua thinks, wow, we think the same - we??re sooo connected. Its awesome.
...But he's a donkey. Thats not connecting - Its just a shared —Thought??.

Love however, is kinetic. Feeling Energy flowing into and out of each other.
Remotely and Locally. Sensing and Feeling. Faraway. And Near.
Lets call it an —Ether??. You Feel it around you. He Thinks its around him too.

When his body(brain) is in the Ether, alls good. He's on it.
When his body is far from the Ether, it can fade. But he wont Sense That.
As Senser In Chief, you know that Feeling it -Expressing, Affirming, keeps it strong.

Help him understand that there's 3 of you in this relationship.
Theres You.
Theres Him.
And theres the patent-pending chemical you made the day you met. This —Ether??.
The stuff is unique. And mysterious. Nobody on earth has any. You two made it.
And it can disappear.
If its not kept alive.

So Penny - it wont be about [your] needs.
It wont be about everyday words and letters and signals.
But something his mysterious intuitive woman has sensed, whilst he was away.
That Feelings, iterated as Words, transport —electricity??.
This same energy keeps our mind and bodies alive.

Without it, we accelerate our deaths.
And you want [him] to be healthy and well.

Expressing Our Love therefore, keeps us young.
Merely thinking it, leads to poor circulation in Aquas.
They become —top-heavy??.
And sluggish.
Slugs...
Ugh!




And Penny.
If this is a little high concept for your Aqua.
If he is unwilling to strengthen and deepen your chemistry.
If he fails to act, after learning how important it is to you.
Then dump that young boy.
He's not yet a man.

aquapiscesmoon, I love the way you write. It's poetic.

Thanks for the response. I love to communicate, in all forms, writing, reading, texting, talking, listening. I communicate to my Aqua all the time. I tell him what I need. He tries to meet my needs... But its so sparingly given. I want more. Maybe I'm asking too much.

So he called me yesterday, just as I predicted he would. He calls me from his night job, because that's when he just sits around. Sometimes, he tells me that it's crazy, and he doesn't talk to me.

So of course, all is glittery and happiness all over again. We made plans to meet up today. We didn't out right say it, but we're gonna hook up. I hate that I am so damn easy. But I want him like so bad it's not funny...

I was joking and I told him that we will just be "hugging" the whole time. He was "well that's ok too, if that's all you want." And we joked back and forth that we will only be hugging. He tells me it's whatever I want it to be.

I'm thinking, should I just hang out, no sex? It's hard because it's like explosions every time we're together, and I do usually play hard to get, but in the end he gets me where he wants me.

I want to sleep with him, as a way to get closer, but then he'll back off again, and I won't hear from him in a week.

Also, I'm weak. I'm starved for his attention that I have no self respect, lol. Any ideas?

Posted by AquaMermaid
Penny, I wish I could smack your Aqua guy on the head and ask him to treat you better. Just reading your comments makes me feel heavy inside.It's the same I was going through with the Libra ex. All women regardless of the sign wants to feel loved and appreciated.I am sorry that your Aqua is not giving you what you deserve.I feel ashamed and apologize on his behalf. Sometimes our heads are so far up in the cloud that we forget about people who love us so much.

AquaMermaid, I like what you wrote, that Aquas heads and where they are at, and they forget those who love them. He doesn't forget, that I'm sure of. He'll come back and tell me the things he thought of (about me) while he was out doing something. You can see why I want more of him lol.

Don't apologize, I really do love Aquarius, and he's so good to me when he's around. I just want to know why he isn't around like before, why he keeps himself from me.

I'm the most depressed when I hit like day four and on after not talking with him. He tells me "believe me, believe me, so am I?" So, damn it, why are you keeping your distance?

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Posted by AquaMermaid
Penny, I wish I could smack your Aqua guy on the head and ask him to treat you better. Just reading your comments makes me feel heavy inside.It's the same I was going through with the Libra ex. All women regardless of the sign wants to feel loved and appreciated.I am sorry that your Aqua is not giving you what you deserve.I feel ashamed and apologize on his behalf. Sometimes our heads are so far up in the cloud that we forget about people who love us so much.

AquaMermaid, I like what you wrote, that Aquas heads and where they are at, and they forget those who love them. He doesn't forget, that I'm sure of. He'll come back and tell me the things he thought of (about me) while he was out doing something. You can see why I want more of him lol.

Don't apologize, I really do love Aquarius, and he's so good to me when he's around. I just want to know why he isn't around like before, why he keeps himself from me.

I'm the most depressed when I hit like day four and on after not talking with him. He tells me "believe me, believe me, so am I?" So, damn it, why are you keeping your distance?

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You seems like a lovely person and so clearly mad about this guy.

What he's doing is unfair but I know what it's like. _??_
Put you first , you don't deserve to feel so down after every meet up with him. You should feel secure and clear about what is happening no one had a right to do that to you and make you feel so down.

Are the few hours of happiness you feel when you see him worth the week downer you feel when he disappears? Only you know if your heart can tolorate that behaviour.

Scorpio says I stung him because I'm scorp
Aqua says I'm aloof and distant because I'm a humanitarian I'm everyone's but noones

Still can't treat people that way no matter what star signs and what not. We are all humans that feel and think and deserve our basic needs met

Thanks Penny, you're very kind 🙂

Listen if you're a volcano of emotions at the moment- try to harness it.
And put a cap on it.
(Not an actual capricorn lol)

Eg..
Stop yourself day dreaming a while. Its difficult I know, but try to distract yourself just now.
Put on some music which is comforting without being too lyrical.
Beats are good if you like that sort of thing.
Uplifting, affirming music.
Or Hard Rock or Electronic or orchestral music.
(Play it loud yeah?)

Channel your energy into something physical which isn't sexual.
If know another Aqua, steal his Bongos lol - and find a rhythm with those things.
Try to get into Controlling Situations.
If your a gamer - cool. I'm not.

Steal your uncles favourite car. Hit the road and get off the highway.

Go to a Massuse (NOT masseur)
Get a good work over.
Not anything light and comforting, something stronger.

Go to Water.
Like a Boat, ferry, Aquarium...
Get some sea air in your lungs.
Flush out that static air.

You could go to the gym obviously.
But a wooden fishing boat for 3 hours on a bay would be better.

If you are Very Organised in the morning. Meditate for 15 mins at start and end of day.
Empty your mind. De-Aqua.
You'll feel great - it works.

Put some (loud uplifting music) on your phone and take a ride to a city or park near you.
Walk around with that music for an hour or two.

Connect with an old friend. Someone Older. Or Fun. Surprise them.
Call over to distant/unseen family/nephews or nieces or hang around with their kids lol
They will get your mind off romance real quick 🙂
Play

Go to a stables somewhere.
Ride out for an hour or two. Cool.

If you don't have a chateau with horses - Go to a dog pound. Help Out.
Animals are amazing. They'll help. Funny but true

And Music - did I mention music...🙂
Spend some bucks on a live music concert.
A small, hip, acoustic, intense one.
Or a loud, orchestral soaring one.

Or Salsa.
Dance your axe off.
One of the best things.
(No alcohol mind, that'll mess you up when you're floating)


Later, to relax, Listen to Father John Mistys album
Or maybe Lisa Gerrard. Or Lisa Hannigan.
Or Watch a Hitchcock Film
Have a long bath.
And Sleep


(but not facing North by Northwest 😉

Sorry I forgot...

If you are so way into Aqua, Penny. No Sex maybe...
Until you can really feel he understands you and makes you feel the way you want to feel..

Otherwise Aqua might recoil after sex. It happens.
If he realises (at that, late point) that the depth of feeling you need is too much for him. And It could be.
Until Aquas learn what They Need, they can never give someone what They Need.
So an immature (but well-meaning) Aqua can break a Piscean heart real quick.

So go slow.
Use your time to grow your Communication.

I always say that unless an Aqua is 'sacrificing' his time/person/schedule/life for you - don't proceed.
Everyone is sensitive and friendly at 10pm - thats easy.
Only truly special people will think of you in morning traffic 🙂

Over and out/

Posted by aquapiscesmoon
Sorry I forgot...

If you are so way into Aqua, Penny. No Sex maybe...
Until you can really feel he understands you and makes you feel the way you want to feel..

Otherwise Aqua might recoil after sex. It happens.
If he realises (at that, late point) that the depth of feeling you need is too much for him. And It could be.
Until Aquas learn what They Need, they can never give someone what They Need.
So an immature (but well-meaning) Aqua can break a Piscean heart real quick.

So go slow.
Use your time to grow your Communication.

I always say that unless an Aqua is 'sacrificing' his time/person/schedule/life for you - don't proceed.
Everyone is sensitive and friendly at 10pm - thats easy.
Only truly special people will think of you in morning traffic 🙂

Over and out/

Truer words could not have been said better my friend.

I definitely don't want him to recoil. I want to open the door to communiation.

He could talk forever, and I could listen forever, but unless I feel that real closeness of thought...

Also, aquapisces moon, what you said about electricity and telepathic messages holds so true. I thought I was weird thinking that I felt something without even seeing him, but it really is the case always.

I've never had a drink, and he was telling me how my first drink will be with him (he wants to give me wine, lol). So anyway, over the weekend I thought about that idea. Last night, I was mentioning how he still owes me a drink, and he was so shocked, he said "I was thinking about that too, isn't that weird."

He got real quiet, and I told him, "see how we think alike." It was a "shared thought", as you mentioned in a previous post. One we haven't spoken of in a while, and I could see how this made him feel like he connected with me...

Tinxy, thank you for the kind words. Of the few hours of happiness, is it worth the weeklong sadness? The obvious answer WOULD be no, right?

He makes me super happy, though, and I like to believe that he gives me what he can.

Posted by flowingwater
I've come to the stage in my life that the "idea" of love is not enough.

Being with Pisces for so long... Has made feelings genuine and now a part of me. There were times when we slept together and woke up having the same dream. Our connection was deep, systematic, and constantly flowing.
What I gave to him he returned, we were vessels of energy for each other.

He taught me how to feel!!! How to truly combine ones soul with another. You're eventually going to want this penny, it's amazing!
My water placements were spilling all over the place like never before.

I just feel at home with a water man. It's to hard explain.

That was really beautiful flowingwater. It sounds like heaven. I like to believe that our paths were destined too, like yours seems to be. He always tells me that I teach him. I have no idea what, lol. With him, I've experienced so much emotion myself. I've cried after making love to him, (the emotionally satisfying kind of crying) something I thought only a few ever really experience.

I would love to give positive influence and direction to my Aqua, as you have said your Pisces has done for you. I also want him to make me better, smooth out my flaws...

I'm in awe of where you are in your relationship, and only hope to follow suit.

+100 that, Mermaid

And Penny, if you are ever wondering if you are 'asking too much', just think whether your longest, closest, dearest true friends would say:

"PennyStealing123? Why she's a fussy, needy, pushy, demanding, irritable so-and-so!"

No?
Thought not 🙂

If anyone is interested, I want to update about my day yesterday with my Aqua.

Of course it was AMAZING, and he erased any negative thoughts so quickly, all the hopeless worry melted, and I even forgot to talk about what was bothering me in the first place.

He is really busy, he's got so much going on, and I just have to learn (thanks to my new Aquarius board buddies) not to take it PERSONAL.

But anyway, he made it all about me. He didn't want anything in return, nothing. He took care of me so well, hugging, kissing, fooling around, and multiple explosions over and over. We talked about the future, which I heard is something to take seriously with Aquas. He told me he loves me, many times, in different ways. He wants to spend the entire day with me Tuesday, I'm really excited, but weary, in case he cancels, which happened on my Birthday.

We were joking around so much, and even after, I caught his eye, and he just smiled so big. I told him I felt very loved, and very desired. He told me I am very loved and desired...

Maybe I'm just a simple old fool. But I believe him.

Multiple, people, I'm talking like TEN TIMES. He's a master, though he says I'm the teacher.

Help, I'm ridiculous. 😄

aquapiscesmoon, you're the best 🙂

if a man has the ability and stability to make a deep, long term commitment, love you through the thick and the thin, words don't matter much, it's the actions.

Always look at this actions. if he still provides everything, like stability and long term commitment (that is just one step) and he doesn't give you the emotional stability, deep commitment, that is unsaid, and yuo just know, then you're good. very good. Most women would die for that kind of man.

sadly, not many are like this, that i've seen, even reading around, looking everywhere (books, relationship forums are filled with this problem, and just everywhere!!)

anyway, ifyou are feeling great, and good today, that's what matters. 🙂

next day, another day.

(my earth mercury is such a downer i know, but i'm being very realistic as well)

lisabethur8, that's the nicest you've ever been to me, so I'll take it. 🙂

I love that you mentioned the "unsaid" aspect of relationships. From the start, it was all unsaid, but we knew exactly what we were doing, we just understood. I started getting into more direct asteroid aspects, particularly Juno-Neptune and we are both aspected well on both ends. It's the long term relationship aspect, and we trine each others in different elements, both Fire and Water. Astrologically speaking, he IS in it for the long haul. I'm over the moon!

About being happy today, I'll enjoy it. I'm afraid of the anti-climax, I'm bracing myself lol.

Thanks for your support AquaMermaid. For being happy for me 🙂

I am super happy!

And from Evening to next morning, now I have to rev up my work out to compete with you lol.

Hey Penny...I'm all fuzzy here thinking of what you and your 'pupil' have - schucks 🙂
You make you own luck, right?
He sounds like a cool guy.
I'm so happy for you.
But Also.
I'm jealous
🙂

Aquaman might dream on, and thats cool - he lives in the future - but also try to keep him Grounded.
His air will fuel your fire, you just need him to regulate his breathing lol

Slow, and steady for him.
Little things matter.
Big things are merely a collection of little things.

Let slip sometime how someone you knew always left you waiting and it hurt you so deeply. He'll want to be different, better.
Teach him that its human to be busy, late or absent sometimes, but always to try to keep You in his 'futures'. Plans.
Like "Looks like I may have to go to the Moon next Sunday Penny, so maybe we'll have to meet Monday - what You think?"
He can Involve you, and you'll feel more in control. and he'll see that you don't mind, once its together.

Also, bring a little English Patient into your life loll
I mean, try to cherish the fact that you two have even been lucky enough to Meet.
Against the odds.
That you Get each other.
That its something Special.

Try and make each moment count.
And don't 'project' into the future too much - he'll do it more though you mightnt see it.
Aqua's challenge is to not spiral off into the Wonder of It All.
Keep your Kite on a string Penny!

And you'll be fine.

If he ever gets a defects to North Korea, or his head comes loose, or he spontaneously combusts - at least you'll have lived every moment honestly and deeply 🙂 Really.

Stretch out the time you have together, by helping him feel every mundane and meaningful moment.
That time is eternal.
And Time will slow down.
Days together will seem far far longer.

And you'll start wanting a break from him 🙂



Now Penny I'm sorry but lets be honest, you're on Cloud Nine today so - Thread Hijack Alert - What will "I" do about my Ram? Quid pro Quo girl!
My own Ram already has a Shepherd you see - and it's not me 😢

Not being a Ram Rustler, I'm not sure how to proceed...
What you think Teacher?

Aquapiscesmoon, How committed is she to her shephard? Aries are different. They are very loyal to the one that's committed to them, so as long as he's treating her well, her eyes won't wander. But if (and I'm assuming your Ram is a she) she isn't happy, to catch her attention, give her attention. And then do the Aqua thing and distance yourself, she'll be a moth to a flame. She wants to chase, she MUST chase. But not too crazy-- Run, then jog, then skip, so she can catch up. Then hold hands and walk together. She'll get happy, and walk on her own for a little. Rinse, repeat.

Aries girls love to be complimented, love to give compliments right back, and you better be thankful. Aries girls are rough, unless they have Earth softening placements, so you can tussle her hair, pat her on the back. She has a large EGO, so you have to be sure she's what you want, because if she leaves the other guy for you, you have to be everything. Resentment doesn't last long, she'll ice you out, and nothing is colder than Aries Ice. Jealousy is a hot button, do not flirt with other girls, unless she's got some Air placements.

Keep your promises, as trust is key. Ever wonder why an infant falls asleep in a strangers arms? Trust. Ever wonder what happens to a baby that is awoken suddenly? Hell.

Extreme emotional outbursts can happen, "It's not fair." "Go to Hell" Tears, tantrums, ANGER. When an Aries girl is mad, Watch OUT!

Does your Aries know you like her? That's the first step.

All Aries are different, but one thing remains the same, no matter how calm the surface, the undercurrent is ALWAYS bubbling. Look closely, you can almost see the fireworks shooting out of her head.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
He needs to see your reaction to that. This gives him insight.

Can you go into detail about this?

In my experience, he'll try to lure you into a date with talk of fancy food. And there will be something in the way he looks at you, specifically when you're parting ways. I miss that look 😢