chemengin
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Someone told me I act like a man sometimes—??
nope, my husband says i'm very feminine. 🙂
Posted by lisabethur8
nope, my husband says i'm very feminine. 🙂
right, i dont get it. my hubby says the same thing. I guess my bluntness threw her off. my thing is if you dont want the truth dont ask a question.
Posted by chemenginPosted by lisabethur8
nope, my husband says i'm very feminine. 🙂
right, i dont get it. my hubby says the same thing. I guess my bluntness threw her off. my thing is if you dont want the truth dont ask a question.click to expand
Really? cause you were complaining in the other thread about some aqua woman and you couldn't confront her. maybe go to her next time and be blunt.
that was in a professional setting. i have already been warned at work about my mouth i was trying to be professional. geez.
if i was blunt with the woman and gone off on her, i would have gotten in trouble because of the other woman i made cry in the bathroom.
i didnt want another HR meeting about professionalism and sensitivity training. so I posted the situation on here to get some help.
i didnt want another HR meeting about professionalism and sensitivity training. so I posted the situation on here to get some help.
Posted by chemengin
if i was blunt with the woman and gone off on her, i would have gotten in trouble because of the other woman i made cry in the bathroom.
i didnt want another HR meeting about professionalism and sensitivity training. so I posted the situation on here to get some help.
you act like my sister.
is that a compliment 😢
Posted by chemengin
Umm..yea I was talking to one of my associates and she said that emotionally I act like a man sometimes.
I get told that all the time. I take it as a huge compliment.
You're the chick engaged/married to the Libra right?
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
Posted by chemengin
is that a compliment 😢
i love my sisters so if i say you act like one of them, then it's a compliment.
but they're not perfect. She also has problems at the workplace with other co-workers and she's not confrontational at times, and then bitches about them, and then the next she says she bitches at them and makes them cry. You're very similar. You waver in and out of confront and non-confrontational. especially in a workplace.
Posted by Damnata
You're the chick engaged/married to the Libra right?
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
+10000
my sister is married to one. She wears the pants. and they're happy like that.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Damnata
You're the chick engaged/married to the Libra right?
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
+10000
my sister is married to one. She wears the pants. and they're happy like that.click to expand
Yup, it works.
I've never seen a marriage with a Libra Man where he wore the pants.
They were both happy with the dynamic and that's all that matters.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by chemengin
is that a compliment 😢
i love my sisters so if i say you act like one of them, then it's a compliment.
but they're not perfect. She also has problems at the workplace with other co-workers and she's not confrontational at times, and then bitches about them, and then the next she says she bitches at them and makes them cry. You're very similar. You waver in and out of confront and non-confrontational. especially in a workplace.click to expand
Yes! that is me. I'm trying to do the right thing. I'm not trying to back stab or anything. But I dont want to jeopardize my job (that i absolutely LOOOOOVVVE) over these bitches on my back.
Posted by Damnata
You're the chick engaged/married to the Libra right?
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
Yea we are married. I do have to wear the pants sometimes. I wont deny it. 😉
Posted by DamnataPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Damnata
You're the chick engaged/married to the Libra right?
Ofc you have to be the man in that relationship. Don't even try to deny it.
+10000
my sister is married to one. She wears the pants. and they're happy like that.
Yup, it works.
I've never seen a marriage with a Libra Man where he wore the pants.
They were both happy with the dynamic and that's all that matters.click to expand
that's what i hear all the time too. Even if they have Mars moon. It's a great dynamic with Alpha Female/Beta Male.
clearly see it in my sister's marriage too.
Mariah Carey probably is the boss lady in her marriage. *nods*
Posted by chemenginPosted by lisabethur8Posted by chemengin
is that a compliment 😢
i love my sisters so if i say you act like one of them, then it's a compliment.
but they're not perfect. She also has problems at the workplace with other co-workers and she's not confrontational at times, and then bitches about them, and then the next she says she bitches at them and makes them cry. You're very similar. You waver in and out of confront and non-confrontational. especially in a workplace.
Yes! that is me. I'm trying to do the right thing. I'm not trying to back stab or anything. But I dont want to jeopardize my job (that i absolutely LOOOOOVVVE) over these bitches on my back.click to expand
My sister also wants to do the right thing. But, she's upper management. I have no idea what she does to solve the dilemma. She doesn't talk about it anymore....as if the problem disappears.
It doesnt disappear, once its solved or dies down it doesnt matter anymore. And I'm like that. Thats why I love being married to a libra, once the argument is resolved its over. Then i can go back to my happy place. 😄
But it has to be resolved or dismissed. We dont like dealing with the same ole shit everyday. its annoying. We pick our battles and move on. Well I do anyway.
I am an Aries and I have been called "aggressively feminine" aka Xena Warrior Princess. Women think that I act mannish but, men seem to be attracted to the strength. Do you...sans all of the swearing.lol.
Posted by aquarius78
Im an aqua. I dont have a swear jar because I dont see anything wrong with using swear words, if I did I would be rich 😛
-I wear jeans and just shirts, my best friend tried to get me dressed up for a party and I grabbed a shirt off the floor and threw it on, my friend told me to put more effort in, truth is I realy dont care how I look.
-I dont paint my nails or do anything fancy with my hair, I find it grose to try and look cute. Im fine the way I am.
I also noticed there is a gap in the way that guys and girls communicate, girls sound really needy and guys are blunt honest and straight forward, I admire that in men because thats how I communicate, just not about my feelings.
-There is no "code" in my language either, girls now days when they say things like "if I say Im ok it really means Im not. Fuck that noise. If I say Im ok it means I am OK!
Love it! 🙂
Posted by mindofaquarius
it's not about what we wear - I go clubbing in hoodies nd hot pans with converse - damn sure I'm hotter than those girls in their minnie skirts hahaha it's our attitude and charisma that makes us still more feminine even if we wear "manly" clothes. but men are def not attracted to girls who play like they are one of the dudes - not to be mistaking with having the pants on in the relationship.
yea even though I'm suppose to be 'manly'. I have never had a problem with dating. I almost always wear jeans! I have to have them.
Hey chem!! Been a while!!
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
The reason your associate called you "manly" is b/c they personally (or even ignorantly) might associate some of your personality traits with masculinity
Common Aquarius traits associated with society's version of masculinity:
1. The woman being more logical than emotional (They believe only men should be this way & are confused when a woman is this way)
2. Direct & blunt & the ability to communicate/think w/o emotions being at the center. (This is often considered a 'leadership' quality & some people still ignorantly believe that women aren't as effective in leadership like men)
3. Having tough skin (Some people continuously fall for the creed that if a woman is silent during controversy, holds herself together or doesn't seem to constantly fall apart when she's let down, something must be wrong with her. They associate tough skin with only something men normally have).
4. Our no-nonsense approach. Especially in relationships. (When an Aquarius woman is deeply hurt, she may pull the disappearing act or pretend like that person doesn't exist. Sounds like a problem most women complain about with men right?? vs. it being the other way around. The aspect that a woman wouldn't be on her knees crying, falling apart or being an emotional wreck during a breakup or hard time like her other female counterparts, makes some people associate this ability with masculinity)
5. Independence vs. co-dependency. (Some Aquas have been known to be fiercely independent & love to do things on their own & in their own way. For some the aspect of a woman not being somehow co-dependant on others or on a man seems "odd" or "unusual" when it fact this about some Aquas is fairly normal & natural).
Long story short: It's all about perception + the traits they associate with femininity vs. masculinity
Common Aquarius traits associated with society's version of masculinity:
1. The woman being more logical than emotional (They believe only men should be this way & are confused when a woman is this way)
2. Direct & blunt & the ability to communicate/think w/o emotions being at the center. (This is often considered a 'leadership' quality & some people still ignorantly believe that women aren't as effective in leadership like men)
3. Having tough skin (Some people continuously fall for the creed that if a woman is silent during controversy, holds herself together or doesn't seem to constantly fall apart when she's let down, something must be wrong with her. They associate tough skin with only something men normally have).
4. Our no-nonsense approach. Especially in relationships. (When an Aquarius woman is deeply hurt, she may pull the disappearing act or pretend like that person doesn't exist. Sounds like a problem most women complain about with men right?? vs. it being the other way around. The aspect that a woman wouldn't be on her knees crying, falling apart or being an emotional wreck during a breakup or hard time like her other female counterparts, makes some people associate this ability with masculinity)
5. Independence vs. co-dependency. (Some Aquas have been known to be fiercely independent & love to do things on their own & in their own way. For some the aspect of a woman not being somehow co-dependant on others or on a man seems "odd" or "unusual" when it fact this about some Aquas is fairly normal & natural).
Long story short: It's all about perception + the traits they associate with femininity vs. masculinity
Posted by truecap
Hey chem!! Been a while!!
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
Hey!! has been a while. what's going on with you? 🙂
Posted by krysrenee7
The reason your associate called you "manly" is b/c they personally (or even ignorantly) might associate some of your personality traits with masculinity
Common Aquarius traits associated with society's version of masculinity:
1. The woman being more logical than emotional (They believe only men should be this way & are confused when a woman is this way)
2. Direct & blunt & the ability to communicate/think w/o emotions being at the center. (This is often considered a 'leadership' quality & some people still ignorantly believe that women aren't as effective in leadership like men)
3. Having tough skin (Some people continuously fall for the creed that if a woman is silent during controversy, holds herself together or doesn't seem to constantly fall apart when she's let down, something must be wrong with her. They associate tough skin with only something men normally have).
4. Our no-nonsense approach. Especially in relationships. (When an Aquarius woman is deeply hurt, she may pull the disappearing act or pretend like that person doesn't exist. Sounds like a problem most women complain about with men right?? vs. it being the other way around. The aspect that a woman wouldn't be on her knees crying, falling apart or being an emotional wreck during a breakup or hard time like her other female counterparts, makes some people associate this ability with masculinity)
5. Independence vs. co-dependency. (Some Aquas have been known to be fiercely independent & love to do things on their own & in their own way. For some the aspect of a woman not being somehow co-dependant on others or on a man seems "odd" or "unusual" when it fact this about some Aquas is fairly normal & natural).
Long story short: It's all about perception + the traits they associate with femininity vs. masculinity
Thank you krysrenee7 such a wise aqua. 🙂
Posted by chemenginPosted by truecap
Hey chem!! Been a while!!
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
Hey!! has been a while. what's going on with you? 🙂click to expand
Good! Still with the Aqua - movingly along slowly and surely. 🙂
How are things with you?
Posted by chemenginPosted by mindofaquarius
it's not about what we wear - I go clubbing in hoodies nd hot pans with converse - damn sure I'm hotter than those girls in their minnie skirts hahaha it's our attitude and charisma that makes us still more feminine even if we wear "manly" clothes. but men are def not attracted to girls who play like they are one of the dudes - not to be mistaking with having the pants on in the relationship.
yea even though I'm suppose to be 'manly'. I have never had a problem with dating. I almost always wear jeans! I have to have them.click to expand
you attract Beta men. Lots of beta men love to have a strong woman.
Posted by krysrenee7
The reason your associate called you "manly" is b/c they personally (or even ignorantly) might associate some of your personality traits with masculinity
Common Aquarius traits associated with society's version of masculinity:
1. The woman being more logical than emotional (They believe only men should be this way & are confused when a woman is this way)
2. Direct & blunt & the ability to communicate/think w/o emotions being at the center. (This is often considered a 'leadership' quality & some people still ignorantly believe that women aren't as effective in leadership like men)
3. Having tough skin (Some people continuously fall for the creed that if a woman is silent during controversy, holds herself together or doesn't seem to constantly fall apart when she's let down, something must be wrong with her. They associate tough skin with only something men normally have).
4. Our no-nonsense approach. Especially in relationships. (When an Aquarius woman is deeply hurt, she may pull the disappearing act or pretend like that person doesn't exist. Sounds like a problem most women complain about with men right?? vs. it being the other way around. The aspect that a woman wouldn't be on her knees crying, falling apart or being an emotional wreck during a breakup or hard time like her other female counterparts, makes some people associate this ability with masculinity)
5. Independence vs. co-dependency. (Some Aquas have been known to be fiercely independent & love to do things on their own & in their own way. For some the aspect of a woman not being somehow co-dependant on others or on a man seems "odd" or "unusual" when it fact this about some Aquas is fairly normal & natural).
Long story short: It's all about perception + the traits they associate with femininity vs. masculinity
you always have something to say even if it's not accurate for everyone. We can't think for ourselves when you're around.
Posted by truecapPosted by chemenginPosted by truecap
Hey chem!! Been a while!!
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
Hey!! has been a while. what's going on with you? 🙂
Good! Still with the Aqua - movingly along slowly and surely. 🙂
How are things with you?click to expand
Pretty good 🙂 Buying a house really cut into my shopping budget. The lib has made the house his palace as he calls it (rolls eyes). oh and he impregnated me. the bastard. i thought i had a few more years of my mediocre workouts. now when I have a baby i will have to work out what 3 times a week or whatever so my ass wont droop to the ground. I have been saying prayers for my boobs. They will be down to my knees before I know it.
but otherwise i'm a happy girl.
so you still with your aquaman. nice 😉
Posted by chemenginPosted by truecapPosted by chemenginPosted by truecap
Hey chem!! Been a while!!
I say keep on keepin' on. I think it's a complement she said that. I can't stand these women with their emotions all over the place, crying, hurt feelings, etc. at work. There's a time and place for everything and at work they shouldn't take things personally. I just want to slap them and tell them to man up!
Ahhh well, that's just us unemotional winter signs. 🙂
Hey!! has been a while. what's going on with you? 🙂
Good! Still with the Aqua - movingly along slowly and surely. 🙂
How are things with you?
Pretty good 🙂 Buying a house really cut into my shopping budget. The lib has made the house his palace as he calls it (rolls eyes). oh and he impregnated me. the bastard. i thought i had a few more years of my mediocre workouts. now when I have a baby i will have to work out what 3 times a week or whatever so my ass wont droop to the ground. I have been saying prayers for my boobs. They will be down to my knees before I know it.
but otherwise i'm a happy girl.
so you still with your aquaman. nice 😉click to expand
Lol!!! Congratulations on the house AND the baby!!!
Thanks!!! 🙂
Posted by aquarius78
Im an aqua. I dont have a swear jar because I dont see anything wrong with using swear words, if I did I would be rich 😛
-I wear jeans and just shirts, my best friend tried to get me dressed up for a party and I grabbed a shirt off the floor and threw it on, my friend told me to put more effort in, truth is I realy dont care how I look.
-I dont paint my nails or do anything fancy with my hair, I find it grose to try and look cute. Im fine the way I am.
I also noticed there is a gap in the way that guys and girls communicate, girls sound really needy and guys are blunt honest and straight forward, I admire that in men because thats how I communicate, just not about my feelings.
-There is no "code" in my language either, girls now days when they say things like "if I say Im ok it really means Im not. Fuck that noise. If I say Im ok it means I am OK!
I absolutely loved it what you said. Really really wish girls are like you.
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