lied to my man

hi all,

i lied to my aqua boyfriend and told him i went out of town when i didn't go anywhere. because im tired of him ignoring me. so i am taking this time to do self inventory and put things back in perspective. he is a good man he just never returns calls or never calls me. but he is caring loving affectionate and all the other thing i like his mars is in scorpio. and we both share moon in libra. with my asc in leo and his asc in libra. so its a workable combo. i just have to accept this distance thing. i hope he will miss me and show me more attention wen i "return". i know this is my own insecurity coming to haunt me and has little to nothing to do with him. its just i was beaten, emotionally abused, dogged out by my ex who was an aries. With all the space aqua needs it makes it hard to bridge that trust gap that has been wounded in me. my best friend a virgo told me i should just tell him i need some space to keep my emotions from getting ahead of the relationship. but he has mars in scorpio and can be jealous as well and i dont want him to cheat thinking im cheating. i wonder will he even miss me. i think this is a tactic aqua's use wen their feeling become too much as well. except you guys just vanish and refuse to communicate. my "vacation" ends on the 14th of March. i told him i also left my phone so we wont be talking for these 2 weeks. do you think im doing more damage than good—? i just want him to miss me the way i miss him. i want his attention but i dont want to beg for it. so this is a test to see if he responds to not having me around or knowing what im doing for 2 weeks and how it would be not to have me around. as crazy as it seems i feel empowered by this scheme.

Posted by MissFirewater
i told him i also left my phone so we wont be talking for these 2 weeks. do you think im doing more damage than good—? i just want him to miss me the way i miss him. i want his attention but i dont want to beg for it. so this is a test to see if he responds to not having me around or knowing what im doing for 2 weeks and how it would be not to have me around. as crazy as it seems i feel empowered by this scheme.

And he believed that you were voluntarily going without a phone for two weeks?

have you told him you feel ignored?
that you are worried and need to establish a better sense of communication?

I wouldn't risk losing a good man over the ghosts of the past... food for thought?

Posted by MissFirewater
hi all,

i lied to my aqua boyfriend and told him i went out of town when i didn't go anywhere. because im tired of him ignoring me. so i am taking this time to do self inventory and put things back in perspective. he is a good man he just never returns calls or never calls me. but he is caring loving affectionate and all the other thing i like his mars is in scorpio. and we both share moon in libra. with my asc in leo and his asc in libra. so its a workable combo. i just have to accept this distance thing. i hope he will miss me and show me more attention wen i "return". i know this is my own insecurity coming to haunt me and has little to nothing to do with him. its just i was beaten, emotionally abused, dogged out by my ex who was an aries. With all the space aqua needs it makes it hard to bridge that trust gap that has been wounded in me. my best friend a virgo told me i should just tell him i need some space to keep my emotions from getting ahead of the relationship. but he has mars in scorpio and can be jealous as well and i dont want him to cheat thinking im cheating. i wonder will he even miss me. i think this is a tactic aqua's use wen their feeling become too much as well. except you guys just vanish and refuse to communicate. my "vacation" ends on the 14th of March. i told him i also left my phone so we wont be talking for these 2 weeks. do you think im doing more damage than good—? i just want him to miss me the way i miss him. i want his attention but i dont want to beg for it. so this is a test to see if he responds to not having me around or knowing what im doing for 2 weeks and how it would be not to have me around. as crazy as it seems i feel empowered by this scheme.

with your past and need for a strong support, you so definitely need a man who will give you 100% , not go off on some high adventure to somewhere land w/out you. I dont know where some of you find these men who just vanish and run off and go the distance, but i'm sorry you had to find these guys. What's worse? the guy who vanishes and runs off w/out emotional support, or the guy who beats you up and abuses you terribly and keeps you lock and key like a prisoner. Both too much extreme. You'd want a man who is there for you, emotionally makes you feel safe and warm, loved and cherished, and you feel wonderful being there. And no it's not a tactic that these

it's not a tactic that these guys do in general, it's not a sun sign tactic, it's an overall commitment phobic man tactic who won't give you the full support that you so desperately need. You should let him go, because this will just end up in tears and the complete opposite of what happened with your ex aries. both bad.

I would need to know how much space he is giving you and how often he call. Does he ever initiate the calls? It is sounding to me that he is just not into you. And what is your expectation after 2 weeks? He misses you for a couple of days and then he is right back to his old self? I am not following where you are going with this.

i didnt want to leave him. i hate to give up. i thought it was my own insecurity getting the best of me. but your right. wen i try to break up he dont want o do that. he says no and that he loves me and if he just wanted sex then he would say so. he doesnt try to use me for anything like money or resources but i often feel very lonely and terribly ignored. i think our dispositions are just too different in the end. he is not a bad guy and im not a bad woman but i dont think i can give him what he needs and nor can he or he is unwilling to do it. but i've tryd let the relationship go but i always let him talk me into giving it another shot. its so confusing. how do i make him understand. i have told him how i feel as well. i guess it goes in one ear and out the other. but wen i break up with him its going to hurt so much. imma be honest and tell him i didnt leave and the reason why i lied. time to move on.

i didnt want to leave him. i hate to give up. i thought it was my own insecurity getting the best of me. but your right. wen i try to break up he dont want o do that. he says no and that he loves me and if he just wanted sex then he would say so. he doesnt try to use me for anything like money or resources but i often feel very lonely and terribly ignored. i think our dispositions are just too different in the end. he is not a bad guy and im not a bad woman but i dont think i can give him what he needs and nor can he or he is unwilling to do it. but i've tryd let the relationship go but i always let him talk me into giving it another shot. its so confusing. how do i make him understand. i have told him how i feel as well. i guess it goes in one ear and out the other. but wen i break up with him its going to hurt so much. imma be honest and tell him i didnt leave and the reason why i lied. time to move on.

He will eventually find out you lied to him.

Posted by truecap
He will eventually find out you lied to him.

she said she's gonna be honest with him and try and move on.

i dont think they'll be together anymore after that point. And honestly, he's not any better.

I remember when I was able to read bricks of text much, much larger than this now. But now...

Damn my laziness is getting ridiculous.

I think that aquas know when someone is trying to hey there attention and they dont like it. He may just want space..dont intentionally do this to him an think he will miss i because he wont.. That trick doesnt always work..i did this to a scorp an it made thing s worst..everyone needs space he could very ell like u but needs space..try to..figure if he really lokes you..how dare u lie to an aqua.. :-) hope it works out sorry for err ors im at work

Stop dragging your past into your present. If you can't talk to your significant other bc of past BS...maybe it's a sign that you don't need to be in a relationship. Tactics backfire more often than not. Especially when it comes to Aqua males. Get thee to therapy.

He won't miss you, he'll just get mad that you're doing exactly what he does. 'Cuz it's OK when he does it, lol.