the perfect guy?

i was talking to a libra chick(yeah i know my situation is pretty bad these days)
just chatting about how many guys she dated,and could not find any one who was good for her at the end.so now she will wait for mr.right and all that jazz.
i asked what kind of guy she prefered,and she went on with a whole list of things,which i won't even bother about writing here.she said,if she could find all that in a guy,it would be the perfect guy.

i was thinking,well is there such guy at all?
or for that matter,even a perfect gal.

i personally think such a belief is silly,for i think everybody has some or the other flaw.what you rate as flaw might also be subjective.isn't it?

so many variables.

but did anyone of you ever came across any man/woman who came the nearest to this image of a perfect guy/gal?
what was your experience with them?

Obviously the perfect chic I dated was my first love. She took me on a crazy rollercoaster ride, she slowly rose me to the highest of highs, I was way to indulged in my luck in having her I never considered her hurting me. I treated her like an angel, and this probably fueled her ego to think that she could cheat on me. Once I found out, I was struck down from heaven to the deepest reaches of hell, and there I sworn to never treat a woman as a goddess because all women are human, and all humans can disappoint and deceive you.

DTN, there's no such thing as a perfect guy or gal. Even if it is all in your own opinion, you can NEVER know what your 'perfect other' is truly thinking, but this brings up another saying 'Ignorance is Bliss'.

Heh, and guess what? She was a libra lol!

perfect is an illusion, obviously.

but i think people can find something close to perfection in a mate. for instance, a couple who reads and understands each other very well, just highly compatible in communication and emotional aspects. that is a form of perfection i'd say, or maybe it's just really rare and that's why people appreciate it.

physically, i've yet to meet someone who i considered "perfect". i don't know if it's possible. but i think that with time they can become perfect in your eyes. even their imperfections can become perfect, because it's who they are, and anything else would just be wrong. haha...i think that makes sense.

absolute and total perfection is impossible; it doesn't exist. but someone can be perfect to you...it just depends on how you see them. if you set out looking for perfection, you'll never find it though. 😛

no one ive dated has come close to perfection...and im with BigD on this!!!

exactly,that is what i think people.gosh someone tell that libra check this thing.i just gave up after some time.haahaa

back to your original post..
Im reading this Sextrology and it says that we aquas tend to put our partners in a King or Queen status allowing them to take on or personify those traits as if they were better than the average. We almost create a monster.

I am currently doing this for my libra too. I know I am doing it but he really IS a genius, what am I to do? I can't say enough good about him.. he rocks and he is my bestfriend, who I adore.. im doomed to create godzilla.

Do we all do this?

So many people go on lust first, it's why I always say, sex after you know the person, don't let sex get in the way of things. Really know the person, after all, you can't even have sex the majority of the time, so why make that the main glue?

I'm so freaking glad I learned that lesson earlier then later 🙂 Sex cannot and should not be the main component to a relationship. If so, there's no way it will last. Thats why I never liked the whole "friends with benefits" kinda thing or "shacking up" with one without any indication of a future. Yep, I'm a traditional chick 😉

aguaaqi... "i think we do tend to put them on a pedestal. i think it's because we are so picky, so that when we do find what we are looking for, we pretty much adore the hell out of them. that's very rare though"

SO WELL PUT AND VERY TRUE!

sex is there to remind you which gender you are. how many here thought otherwise?

Thats not true. If so, explain yourself.

you mean to say you forget yur gender during sex? that must be an interesting sight.

Hmmm, you a bit of a wise guy. No, thats not what I meant. I understand what you mean, I don't agree, but I guess I'm not really suppose too.

toullon...france?

Oh don't worry collier, I'm not easily persuaded 😉 Sex is certainly an action between too people, but (in my opinion) this action is better served if there are emotions involved. For instance, I just can't open my legs up to some dude just because I have sexual needs. I'd have to know the guy first and there would have to be something stable established. Screwing around at first glance isn't my thing, no matter how hot I get 😛

Perfection is subjective to one's viewpoints. I would agree with everyone who says, "what is perfect really depends on the individual". A gal that is right for me won't be right for someone else.

For myself, I am starting to think I met my "perfect" girl already in the form of a gal that is currently a "friend". It's not the Aqua girl I've been yammering about. Read on, folks might find this interesting.

My so called "perfect girl" is nearly my astrological twin. We were born on the EXACT same birthdate (day/month/year) at the same hospital. We were born within 1 1/2 hours of each other.

To make a long story short, When I first saw my "twin" many years ago at my old job, I was intrigued. She was very pretty with a beautiful smile. I tried to get to know her but like the Aqua girl, I got rebuffed initially.

It took some time but we finally became acquaintances and later friends. When I discovered we were almost like "twins", I wondered if the stars had some special for us. Alas, my "twin" is a very conservative and she definitely had a big shell around her. It was tough to get through and in time, I thought that maybe I was wrong about her.

It has literally taken a lot of time and maybe a little bit of luck but a lot of her shell around her is gone. I used to think my twin was boring but she's actually an interesting person. It's just that not everyone sees it. I think we balance each other well and the last few days have given some small hints that there might be some opportunity to see what the future holds for us.

It's just we have to get past this "friends" stage......another challenge......😄

As for Miss Aqua at work - I decided to keep things "professional" and just keep discussions to work related. If opportunity comes up to talk, fine. Otherwise, I just keep things low. Makes life easier for the gal since she's obviously not 100% comfortable with me one on one.